AboutJoyce Schwarz Expertise How to change careers, how to apply the law of attraction to your career, creating multiple streams of income, successful recareering, creating your life path, changing careers, when just another job is not enough, creating abundance, attitude of gratitude, volunteering, mentoring, how to use a vision board, dream board, wisdom or life collage to manifest your destiny
Experience Joyce Schwarz is an author and internationally known career strategist. She created AOL's WORKPLACE OF THE FUTURE forum and her book "SUCCESSFUL RECAREERING" When Just Another Job Is Not Enough is a best seller. She has been interviewed by Wall Street Journal, NBC News, PBS TV, NPR radio, and more than 75 magazines and newspapers and hundreds of other radio stations. She is the author of the upcoming book "The Vision Board" Unlock the Secret to An Extraordinary Life, Harper Collins Publishing, Collins Design, fall, 2008, www.ihaveavision.org
Organizations Interactive Television Alliance, Women in Film, Pacific Rim Chamber of Commerce Board member, ABWA Boss of the Year,
Publications LA TIMES, CHRISTIAN SCIENCE MONITOR, PREVENTION MAGAZINE, WOMEN'S OWN, AMERICAN GIRL, STARS & STRIPES
Education/Credentials BSJ -- undergraduate degree in Journalism, Ohio University, Masters Degree, USC School of Cinema and TV, MBA studies, University of San Francisco, APR (certified PRSA), MPW degree, CBC (certified business counselor)
Awards and Honors ABWA Boss of the Year, AAAA awards and citations, ACPRA award, Time-Life Citation for direct response, Who's Who in the World, Who's Who in Entertainment, President's Council Business Woman of the Year, 2007, NEA Grant (co-recipient), California Arts Council grant (recipient) Colorado Women's Foundation (recipient).
Past/Present Clients More than 10,000 workshop students in cities such as New York, SFO, San Diego and Los Angeles. Corporate clients range from Sheraton Hotels to AT&T and such major brands as Revlon and Philips Electronics. Seemore at www.joycecom.com
Question I'm Ian, I'm 42, live in Plymouth UK I have a university education and earn about $50k (£25k). I am self employed, work mostly on my own and am bored with my work.
It seems if I set myself a work goal (this applies to intimate relationships as well) as soon as it looks like things are going well, I find a way of sabotaging it. I even know what I'm doing is going to sabotage my work, but I do it anyway. I can't believe how rediculous it is, but it happens all the time and it is becoming very frustraiting. The sabotage is noramlly in the form of becoming very lazy, or un-motivated, or just sitting back slpping myself on the back telling me how well I've done. (In relationships as soon as it looks like I have found a partner I could be truely happy with, I end up getting insecure and needy and frightening them off. The worst thing is, I know I'm doing it, I know what I'm doing but still do it anyway, and expect different results.
Anyway, I could really do with some help!
Answer You CAN change. In reality (your reality) you are sabotaging yourself or have been until now. From my perspective -- you are just looking at yourself differently than I am and judging yourself VERY HARSHLY. Try my GRABS formula and look at my new book -- here's a free chapter http://tinyurl.com/seeinsidebook and begin to vision a new "Ian". G= Gratitude be grateful for this knowledge or awareness of how you are looking at your life and that you found me as a resource R -- release this past (see it's already in the past) habit -- that's all it is of a) judging yourself harshly and b) saying, thinking and believing you are sabotaging yourself! Be ready to receive the ability to be free from this bad habit starting NOW A--acknowledge that you do some things well-- a) have a job in this down economy b) find someone who is a potential partner. Now just release the sabotage habit which may indeed just be a lack of confidence. So try an affirmation I AM CONFIDENT, I AM A GOOD PARTNER, I AM A GOOD EMPLOYEE, I ENJOY MY WORK, I ENJOY MY PARTNER kind of sentences that you say over and over for yourself and even post on your Telly or on your mirror in your bathroom etc. B -- believe in yourself-- why go around telling people you sabotage yourself-- is that to get sympathy or is it to relieve you from the responsibility of living the life you were meant to live....congratulate yourself when you change your thinking congratulate yourself for every GOOD thought -- not the bad ones! Share-- go out and do community work. You seem too wrapped up in your thoughts -- too left-brained. Help out some kids -- coach a soccer group, Help read to old people. Do something that you know you are good at -- and help other people with that. Maybe you are a good handyman in your spare time-- help some people with putting up their curtains or painting their houses or whatever. GET OUT OF YOUR OWN WAY....try saying my path is clear and open. Or one of my favorites. I AM OPEN TO MORE GOOD THAN I'VE EVER EXPERIENCED BEFORE. Take the word sabotage OUT OF YOUR VOCABULARY. My book is available at UK amazon and at at bookstores in the UK -- www.ihaveavision.org and sign up for the free newsletter at www.visionboard.info YOU CAN LIVE A LIFE YOU LOVE -- you're in the driver's seat.
