AboutGraham Smith Expertise I know I can help and guide teenagers in all problems they might come across. I also have a degree in management of people from the university of liverpool (UK)
Experience I am a father to two children,boy and girl. My son is 26 and my daughter is 24. I have been married to my wife for 29 years. I have seen my children grow and fall in thier growing up. When problems came my way,that caused my children to be hurt in some way I felt I have done my best to guide them.
Organizations I am soccer Referee in the UK. (Youth and senior soccer)
Education/Credentials Bachelor of philosophy may 29th 1996
Awards and Honors soccer referee of year award for youth football 2001/202
Expert: Graham Smith Date: 4/28/2008 Subject: First Date (Maybe!)
Question Hey Graham, I asked another Expert this question but they didn't reply and I'm hopin to get a good answer, quickly.
A girl has asked me out to her school formal, which is in 2 months. She actually only asked me because she doesn't know many guys (she is at an all-girl school and I am at and all-guy school) and her mother, who works with mine, mentioned me to her. We both know that she only asked me to it because of this - it's not a secret or anything.
We got in contact, and decided to meet up with four friends each one Friday night for dinner.
Now, the ten of us meet up often and we all know each other well. This girl and I have only met up alone once, for coffee. It went really well, and we spent 2 hours just chatting until it got dark and we had leave.
Now, the ten of us are meeting up again soon and the next day this girl and I are going to a movie.
The thing is, I don't know if she actually likes me in a romantic way. How would I find out? I was thinking of just placing my hand over hers in the movie and seeing what she did, but would it be better if just asked her?
Also, what can we talk about when all ten of us are together? We are both quite shy but she almost NEVER talks when there are all ten of us and it just seems awkward between us at those times.
Finally, should I pay for her? I'm one of those old-fashioned guys who pays, opens doors etc, but when I payed for her coffee she thought it was a big thing.
Please help me! I really like his girl and just want things to become more natural between us, especially around others.
Thanks, Thomas.
Answer HI Thomas , thanks so much for your comments and "marks" but perhaps you should look at the net/sites first, remember i took time in trying to find the answers you wanted.its my time i give up. If you knew the answer why bother writing in the first place,I try and help all i can in whatever way i can,and surfing the net for you and others is part of that help. Oh as for being impolite,well i know i was not rude to you or "sharp". I urge you to mark "properly in the future .I will record this reply and letter and hold it on file for the sites admin people. I am sorry you felt this way but i am human too please don't forget that. I always try my best , but sometimes i can't always help but if you check my " marks you will see,they are constantly high.
thanks
graham
hi Thomas,
Dating and Money--Who Pays
Dating does bring with it increased financial responsibilities. And boys should learn early to be frank with girls about what entertainment they can afford to offer.
Or rather the dat-ee should be frank with the dat-er. Girls can ask guys out too and should be prepared to pay if they do. Or she may wish to give her date a sum of money from which he can pay for thing's as they go along. For either person, pretending to have more money than one actually has is very foolish, and usually no one is fooled by the pretending.
Dating and Money--Running Short
Running short of money can be embarrassing but really it shouldn't be. A girl should always have some money with her on a date. If a boy finds he doesn't have quite enough money, he can always ask the girl, "Can you lend me some change?" The girl should be ready to chip in and forget about the repayment.
Before you go out : Sit down, and visualize how you would like the date to go. This should be a positive visualization and you should create the visualization in such a way that you enjoy the experience. Doing this helps your mind prepare for the date.Going out:When you go out on a date, be curious about the other person and use this curiosity to focus on whether or not you like the person. Ask questions and create conversation out of mutual interests even if you do not know much about the subject at hand. Since you have been sharing an activitity together you already have the basis for a conversation. Allow for some quiet awkward moments during this date, it always happens. The next date or dates: Once you find someone that you have connection and some chemistry with, follow up with phone calls or e-mails just to get to know the person. (At this point you need to be prepared for rejection, this is often the toughest part of dating. Remember you are building a connection with this person and regular communication is essential.
hope this is helpful
Graham
