AboutGraham Smith Expertise I know I can help and guide teenagers in all problems they might come across. I also have a degree in management of people from the university of liverpool (UK)
Experience I am a father to two children,boy and girl. My son is 26 and my daughter is 24. I have been married to my wife for 29 years. I have seen my children grow and fall in thier growing up. When problems came my way,that caused my children to be hurt in some way I felt I have done my best to guide them.
Organizations I am soccer Referee in the UK. (Youth and senior soccer)
Education/Credentials Bachelor of philosophy may 29th 1996
Awards and Honors soccer referee of year award for youth football 2001/202
Expert: Graham Smith Date: 4/16/2008 Subject: this girl
Question hey my friend has set me up with a date with this girl but this is my first date and i dont know what to do or what to say please can you give me a few ideas thanks
Answer hi Peter,
no problem, this its easy as ABC
You aren’t going to be compatible with everyone. In fact you’re likely to be truly compatible with less than 0.2% of people. So there’s no point dating a few times, feeling rejected because you haven’t found someone to have a relationship with and giving up.
You can put all the following dating tips into practice, you can have the flirting skills of Sean Connery, the conversational skills of Davina McCall, but if you aren’t making yourself available for a significant number of dates, you’re never going to win the dating game.Whether your potential date sees you first in a photograph, across a speed dating table or in a dingily lit bar, you’d better be looking your best if you’re out and about.
For those gifted few, style and taste come naturally. They know their body shapes, how best to disguise and emphasise. If you aren’t sure if you’ve got those skills naturally, I’d suggest getting a makeover. At least then you’ll have the principles nailed down of what you should and shouldn’t wear. And it makes a big difference.
The very first hurdle that everyone faces in the dating game is that of physical attraction. You can substantially increase or slash your physical attractiveness by what you wear and if what you’re wearing isn’t doing you any favours you are unwittingly shedding lots of potential dates.
Getting to meet your date
Ideally you’d always be in an environment where meeting your date is a natural situation. That’s why night classes or friends parties are great – the introductions happen more naturally.
However, if you’re out at a bar or see someone in the street that you would kill to meet, then you’re going to need to approach them and introduce yourself.
Again, like style, some people are able to do this naturally and without fear. If you’re not one of them, I’d suggest you learn what you need to do improve your ability to approach people. Let’s be honest, there’s only so many friends parties and night classes you can go to – and most of the opportunities to meet potential dates happen outside of them.
Dating conversation matters
Let’s assume you both fancy each other physically. The most important thing that decides whether the two of you will end up on a date together is your compatibility. However, it is possible for you to be compatible but still not hit it off. How?
Because your conversation fails you.
If you get tongue tied when you talk to gorgeous looking people or if the content of what you say is drier than a dog biscuit, you may be missing out on partners who you’d get on brilliantly with if only you could get past that first introduction.
Great dating conversation is a learnable skill – all it takes is following a few key principles and a bit of practice.
So you’ve met them, you’re having fun – but are they interested in you? What are you going to do? Ask them?!
No. But they’re already telling you everything you need to know with their body language. The flirting signals they’re giving out and the way they are using their body tells you everything you need to know about whether it’s a go or a no show for your first date. If flirting is like a foreign language to you – learn it.
Asking for the date
you need to do the asking. You don’t need to be too blatant – although if you have no problems with handling rejection it’s fine to say, ‘I’d like to see you again, what are you doing on Thursday night’.
However, if you don’t want to stick your neck on the block, one method is to offer her opportunities to join you in something you’re ‘already doing’. Of course, you needn’t already be doing something, but you can make out that you are. E.g. ‘Yeah, I’m going to the theatre this weekend and I’ve got a spare ticket, do you know anyone that would be interested in seeing Les Miserables?’ If she’s interested – she’ll jump at the chance, even if she detests Les Mis.Dating
Turning dates into relationships
Honestly, this will tend to happen naturally. But the advantage of and working out up front who your perfect partner is, is that you can very quickly decide whether the person you’re with will make you happy long term or whether they have some traits that will drive you nuts. You’ll be able to ask the questions and look for the signs of whether this person really is your ideal partner.
If they’re not, you’ve just saved yourself months, if not years of being stuck in a relationship that was doomed to fail from the start.
finally, remember be yourself,and do not pretend your someone or something your not
