AboutNafeesah Expertise I can answer just about any question about dating for teens, but I can't answer questions unless I know the age of the person asking so I can give appropriate answers.
Experience I've talked to teens about relationships and I keep it honest and real with them so they're not looking at dating and other areas with a closed mind, but to understand that elements of dating does have consequences and that it shouldnt be taken lightly.
Education/Credentials Associates degree, bachelor's degree, and Certified nursing assistant.
Expert: Nafeesah Date: 6/18/2008 Subject: Dating Question
Question hi my names joe, in grade 10, im 16. Theres this really cute girl i like since my 9th grade year. weve been on and off friends, and we talk sporadically. We have a few classes together and recently, she has been waiting to talk with me after class sometimes. im going to ask her on a date next week, the week after school ends, which i have never done b4. we will both get rides to the movies seperatley, so its not awkward.(the only real place to have a date in my town and nowhere near walking distance.) im going to pay. Should we get seperate rides home so its not awkward? Should i go for a kiss after before she gets into her car if it goes well? When i ask her to the movies, will she take it as us being boyfriend and girlfriend, or do i have to ask her that after the movie? what should i say? ok thanks for your help, im new to this lol
also, she talks to this graduated guy alot,and im worried she might not like him, but im no sure
Answer I would get into a consistent pattern of communication so you can see how she is on a long term basis. It wouldnt hurt to ask her out on a date if you've known her since last year that's given you some time to get to know her. If the movies are the only thing you can do in your town work with what you have, but maybe go out for a burger if there's a diner in your town. Make it nice yet working with what you have.
If she's talking to this former senior/college freshman she needs to maintain a friendship with him because if she's a sophomore he's not going to be too interested in having high schoolers in his social circle. Your social circle changes when you get to college and she might see later that he's not going to want to hang with 15 and 16 year olds and hang with other people in college.
If you feel better riding home separately it's up to you, but how is it awkward to have your parents drive you home from a date. It won't feel weird because everyone's had that in their lives to have a parent drive you home from a date. Once you start driving you can drive your date home alone and once your parents see you're able to handle yourself on a date. No ask her as a friend and let the serious dating level come on its own and in time.
As far as kissing I would take your time in that because some girls can get uncomfortable with guys trying to kiss them too quickly. I would wait and see how comfortable she is with you to allow you to kiss her. When you do kiss her on the cheek because kissing on the lips is considered intimate and most don't rush a kiss on the lips. So take your time and have fun it should be a nice experience.
