AboutNafeesah Expertise I can answer just about any question about dating for teens, but I can't answer questions unless I know the age of the person asking so I can give appropriate answers.
Experience I've talked to teens about relationships and I keep it honest and real with them so they're not looking at dating and other areas with a closed mind, but to understand that elements of dating does have consequences and that it shouldnt be taken lightly.
Education/Credentials Associates degree, bachelor's degree, and Certified nursing assistant.
Expert: Nafeesah Date: 6/11/2008 Subject: The Girl Next Door
Question Hi, my name is Jordan. I am 14 years old. I recently moved from Tennessee out to Las Vegas with my dad. I'm usually on top of the dating scene where I'm from, but I'd been here two weeks before finally meeting some kids. I met a boy named Wade while I was skateboarding. I'm into skateboarding, football, and playing guitar by the way. I tought him how to do a few simple tricks and then he told me he had a 15 year old sister and a 14 year old cousin. =] Well I met them 2 days ago, we skated a while and they tried skating too. Wade's sistes, Mirana, told her sister, Vanessa, that she liked me. Vanessa told my sister, Alison, and Alison told me. Mirana heard her tell me and she didn't say anything about it. Well, I texted Mirana and asked her if that was true. (By the way, these people live about 2 streets away from me.) She said that she kinda liked me. I told her that i liked her too. She said that her cousin, Lexy, liked me too. Lexy has a really bad attitude, so I don't like her.
I told Alison that I don't ask girls out normally, and that she should get Mirana to ask me out. Mirana said she wanted to but she was nervous and wasn't ready for a boyfriend.
I asked her about it this morning and she said that she wasn't ready for a boyfriend. She broke up with her ex about 3 months ago after a year and 3 month relationship, and she was still hurting a little.
I told her I'd help her, but then she said that she'd rather just mess around this Summer and not get too serious.
I really, really, really want to date Mirana. What should I do?
I have really good people skills I think. I can make her laugh pretty easily, and she thinks I'm verrrry hott.
What should I do?
Answer I would be wary of girls who only look to fool around after a long term relationship. It sounds like Mirana is wanting to experience single life for a bit before she looks at the possibility dating again. I am 32 and I was in a relationship for 5 years with someone and the moment I broke up with him, I was single for 2 years(as of June 16th) and now I am ready to go back into dating.
You're 14 years old you got a lot of time to date and find a girlfriend. Continue being Mirana's friend because time can actually help build a relationship. If she's been broke up with her ex 3 months ago that's a little soon to be dating after having been with someone for nearly 2 years.
I would build the positive traits about yourself that she likes such as you making her laugh and how she finds you cute. Don't rush into dating take your time because the best relationships come from friendships built over time.
If you do decide to start dating I strongly advise you to abstain from sex because the worst thing that happens to teens between the ages of 13 and 19 is sexually transmitted diseases and unplanned pregnancies. You sound like a smart guy who wants to do this right and I applaud you for at least looking around and not just fooling around with some girl to see if she's worth dating you look at her character and personality to make your decision.
There should be more guys like you in the world who look at character and personality to determine if a girl is worth dating instead of sleeping with her to find that out. Sounds like you and Mirana have a good start as friends continue building on that who knows what could change this summer or even after the summer's over.
