AboutDiane W. Expertise I will be out of town for a few days and won't be able to answer questions. If you want to email me, you may do so at DWooley97@yahoo.com and
I will answer on my return.
What are some ideas for my first date? I can help you figure out what to do on your first date and other dates. Please give me your age and what kind of location you live in (suburbs, city, country, etc). I have lots of ideas and will be glad to help.
Experience I have counseled and advised young women for almost 20 years.
Education/Credentials almost 20 years counseling experience.
Expert: Diane W. Date: 6/24/2008 Subject: not sure???!?!
Question QUESTION: So there is this girl that i used to work with she recently quit 1 week ago. But
all through work i kindof thought that she liked me, so today I called her and
told her about another job because she was looking for one, and then i asked
her if i could take her out sometimes this weekend. She said she was kindof
busy because she has dance, but was asking what i was thinking about. Then
I told her that maybe we could go to improv. She told me that it sounded
good, but she would have to get back to me when she finds out when she is
free. Then she said thanks for thinking of me.
So what i want to know is, Is this a date, or just hanging out. I am not sure
anymore, and if it is just hanging out, should i hang out with her and then
ask her out on a date later?
thanks,
Matt
ANSWER: Hi Matt,
I found this question in the question pool so not sure who you wanted to ask it of. But I will give it a try. Has anything happened since you posted? I need to know your age and her age but it does sound like you are maybe late teens. I don't really know what improv is but it sounds like she kind of wanted to know what you wanted to do before she said ok. She will probably get back to you like she said if she does want to go with you. If she doesn't get back with you, then that will tell you if she likes you or not. To me, I don't see if it matters whether it is a date or hanging out. I think either one would be fine and you can get to know her better. It's very important to be friends first anyway, in my opinion. So let us know what happens.
Diane W.
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QUESTION: well first of all improv is like a non scripted play, (very much comedic). Also,
she phoned me back the next day to tell me that she has a very busy schedule, she is going on a dance tour soon so they are practicing and
performing, so she said she couldn't in the next few weeks. But then at the
end she said that she will definitely see me on Canada day. (we are having a
party at work) and then she said maybe we could go from there. So is this just
a polite way of saying no? I do know for a fact that she really is busy this
month.
Thanks
P.S. She is almost 19 and i will turn 18 in 2 weeks.
ANSWER: It's hard to tell at this point if she is politely saying no or if she is just busy. When is Canada day? I would wait and see what happens. Please keep me updated by emailing me at DWooley97@yahoo.com
I would love to know what happens.
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QUESTION: Canada day is july 1st. It is basically like your independance day. (if you are from
the US). So if she does not talk to me on Canada day should i go and talk to her
again and ask her out again?
Answer If you're at a party at work, she should just talk to you, I would think. Here's an idea. Why don't you do some kind of activity with some friends and invite her too. That way it wouldn't be so awkward and you could kind of see how she acts and stuff. Maybe improv isn't her thing but I don't know. Why don't you say, hey some friends and I are going _________ or doing________. Would you like to join us?
Please let me know what happens. Sometimes I've heard that you can only ask a few followup questions here on allexperts.com so if you can't ask anymore, just email me at DWooley97@yahoo.com
