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My brother passed away and arrangements were made by his ex wife before we were even informed of his death, we do not want to change anything but the location of his burial, she has arranged for him to be laid to rest in the county cemetery, we would like him to be in cemetery were our parents are, both are in the same county do i have a say so in this? I am his next of kin. We live in Indiana.


May I first offer my condolences at the death of your brother.

Since both your parents preceded him in death, assuming that he and his wife were legally divorced and your brother has no children over the age of 18, you are his legal next of kin. You should be able to request that he buried in the same cemetery as your parents. Has your ex-sister in law paid for the services of the funeral home and the charges at the cemetery ?
If she has paid for everything, she may ask that you pay for the cemetery fees or she may ask that you pay for everything.

The best advise would be to call the funeral home that is taking care of your brother and discuss this with them.

I hope this helps,
Erin Phelps


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I can answer any questions about funerals,embalming, cremation, green burial, home funerals, burial on your own land, scattering of cremated remains and any other death related questions you may have.


I have worked in the death care industry since 1977, owning my own funeral home since 1990. I worked as an EMT at a funeral home based ambulance service for 6 years gain much experience there. When I opened my funeral home, my goal was to provide honest, straightforward, significant and affordable services to the families who called upon me for my services. Since Sept. 2008, I have served as a member of the Oregon State Mortuary & Cemetery Board, which regulates the operation of mortuarys and cemeteries in Oregon. I have been a regular attendee and speaker at various funeral related seminars over the years and am a frequent contributor to "Mortuary Management" magazine. I was one of the first funeral directors in Oregon to offer "Green" or "Natural" burial services and to offer assistance to families who wish to take care of their own family members at home. I also have vast experience in the repatriation of a deceased to their country of origin.

Oregon Funeral Directors Association, International Cemetery, Cremation & Funeral Association, Cremation Association of America, Funeral Ethics Association Natural End Funeral Services - Charter Member.

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Attended the University of Oregon Associates of Science Degree - Mt. Hood Community College, Gresham, Oregon

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Top 10 Eye Enucleators in Oregon. Nationally Board Certified Funeral Director/Embalmer Honored in "Funeral Monitor", Aug. 2007 for my business practices.

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Since 1990, I have served over 10,000 families, requesting the gamute of services ranging from the simplest to the most elaborate. Servicing christian, jewish, muslim, buddhist, hindu and humanists, along with families from every continent in the world.

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