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My husband passed suddenly in May-2012.  We were Tn Residents and I used a local funeral home for arrangements.  He was transported a short distance to Ky for burial.  My husband's parents provided a plot for his burial in their local cemetery. Now they have told me the other plot they own there will be used for his unmarried brother and I cant be buried there.  Can I have his body exhumed and cremated so that I can have his ashes buried elsewhere so we can rest beside each other when I die?

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Absolutely. I have no idea who owns the cemetery, but if the cemetery gives you any trouble about doing a disinterment, the AG's office in KY regulates cemeteries and can usually be of help. You should, of course, let the parents know what your plans are. Sometimes a cemetery will say the permission of the lot-owner is required, so better to get their cooperation ahead of time if you can. If they don't cooperate, I think the AG's office can help, as a spouse always has primary rights if there is nothing contrary in writing from the deceased.

A permit for disinterment must come from the state registrar, but whichever funeral home you call to do the cremation can obtain that. It would be prudent to get prices from at least three.

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Funeral Law. Having written a 512-page book on funeral law for consumers with state-by-state information, I am very conversant with consumer rights in this regard: What are the laws on disposition of cremated remains? Is embalming required? Do I have to use a funeral home? Can I have a home wake? Is it a state law to buy a vault? I prepaid for a funeral but changed my mind. They won`t give me all my money back. What can I do? . . . If you have an immediate need for information because a death has just occurred or is about to occur, you may call me at 802-482-6021.

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I have monitored the funeral industry on behalf of consumers for over 20 years. I have been a guest speaker to funeral trade organizations, consumer workshops, and social service professionals. I am regularly consulted by lawyers and legislators as well as journalists.

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Funeral Ethics Organization (www.funeralethics.org) Funeral Consumers Alliance (www.funerals.org)

Publications
Caring for Your Own Dead (1987) Caring for the Dead: Your Final Act of Love (1998) I Died Laughing: Funeral Education with a Light Touch (2001) Final Rights: Reclaiming the American Way of Death (2011) with co-author Joshua Slocum

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Masters degree in Administration and Special Education

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Available as an expert witness for funeral-related court cases.

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