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My Grandfather is buried in Florida in a memorial garden. My aunt would like to move his remains, urn, to RI. My Grandfather's wife, not my Grandmother, doesn't not want this done. I really don't either, who has say in what happens. My aunt seem to think that after my  step Grandmother passes she is the only one who has say in this matter.

The memorial garden believes they are upholding his wishes.

So my question is, who has standing in the decision? Thanks Larry


To the best of my knowledge, after your Grandfather's wife's death, your Aunt would be at least one of the legal legal next of kin (Depending on whether any of your Grandfather's other children are living at the time) and would have the legal right to make decisions concerning the placement of his cremated remains. But, the other question would be, who owns the grave where he is buried and who has the right to authorize the grave to be opened and his cremated remains removed ? If the grave belongs to his wife's family, your aunt would have to get their permission to open the grave.

I hope this helps,

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I can answer any questions about funerals,embalming, cremation, green burial, home funerals, burial on your own land, scattering of cremated remains and any other death related questions you may have.


I have worked in the death care industry since 1977, owning my own funeral home since 1990. I worked as an EMT at a funeral home based ambulance service for 6 years gain much experience there. When I opened my funeral home, my goal was to provide honest, straightforward, significant and affordable services to the families who called upon me for my services. Since Sept. 2008, I have served as a member of the Oregon State Mortuary & Cemetery Board, which regulates the operation of mortuarys and cemeteries in Oregon. I have been a regular attendee and speaker at various funeral related seminars over the years and am a frequent contributor to "Mortuary Management" magazine. I was one of the first funeral directors in Oregon to offer "Green" or "Natural" burial services and to offer assistance to families who wish to take care of their own family members at home. I also have vast experience in the repatriation of a deceased to their country of origin.

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