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My dads family purchased a plot in Massachusetts in 1892. The owners were two women with a different last name than my dad's family, but we suspect they are all related because they are buried there along with my dad's family. Since this was 100 years ago, I don't know what the relationship of the owners were to our family. I have the deed but the cemetery  still won't let me bury my dad there unless I can tell them what the relationship was between him and the original owners.

Should I just make something up? Is this a legal request since I have the deed? They say its state law that I tell them or they can't open the plot.

There is nobody left in the family, alive, that knows who these original purchasers were. We suspect they were cousins on my dad's side of the family.

Ask to see the law. I know of no such law. And the fact that you have the deed is clearly on your side. You could make up something like cousins which might actually be true or tell them they were your grandfather's mistresses. LOL

Did you try searching on the Internet? I wonder if the death certificates or birth certificates of either would help?

You could also threaten to report the cemetery to the Probate Court for interferring with a deed-owner's burial. How did you get the deed, by the way?


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