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My Mom has always told me the story about when my brother was born in 1974 that he had a good strong cry and looked healthy but the doctors whisked him away only to return later to say that he had passed due to medical problems.  There were some other families in there having kids and she reports one was from a prevalent well to do family.  She has wondered for almost 40 years if there is a chance something sneaky happened.  

I talked to her about the chances of using DNA just to give her peace and she thought that was a good idea.  Can you give me guidance on the process, estimated ball park costs, any other helpful information.



The costs can vary from $100 to a couple of thousand --

The other costs would be the opening and closing of the grave--check with the cemetery--and the cost of a funeral director to oversee the process. After all this time, the body may be very decomposed. Call several funeral homes to get an estimate. I'm thinking it might be $1,000 or more. Let me know what you find out. This sounds interesting!!


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