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QUESTION: My brother passed in 1967.  He was the first to be interred in the Long Island National Cemetery here in NY.

My Mom was buried in the same plot in 1993, and my Dad in 1995.  He was a WWII veteran.

When I pass, will I be eligible for burial in the same plot?

Thanks for your help.

ANSWER: Douglas

The short answer to your question is no.

The explanation is that your brother was eligible to be buried in a the VA cemetery because he died before he was 18 or he was determined to have been disabled before the age of 18 and was a dependent of your parents.

Otherwise to be buried in a VA cemetery, you must be either an honorably discharged veteran or the spouse of an honorably discharged veteran.

I hope this helps,

Erin Phelps

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QUESTION: Actually my Brother died a few months short of his 21st birthday, and while he was ill for a number of years, up to 1966, after he was 19, he was up and about and commuting to college in NYC each day, which he did for the 1964-1965, and 1965-1966 school years. He got really ill in early 1967 after he turned 20 (12/27/66).  But finished the school year in June of 67 and did really well at home.   

While I was a about a year and half younger,  I remember he was sick, but not considered disabled.  To be more accurate, I am not aware that he was considered disabled due to his sickness.  My parents did not at any time use the words "disabled" or "disability", and neither did any  relatives, doctors, family friends, funeral home people, etc., as far as I can remember. I guess that the VA rules would call him "disabled" by virtue of his illness? And if so, they also must have considered the onset of his illness as being before he turned 18.  Which would be technically correct I suppose since he was initially diagnosed in the summer of 1964 shortly before he turned 18 in December of 1964.
Could this be correct?

Thanks for your very prompt reply!


Sorry for the delay in answering your email.

The best I can tell you is that the V.A. must have either considered your Brother disabled before the age of 18 and/or the rules on eligibility have changed since he was buried.

Erin Phelps


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I can answer any questions about funerals,embalming, cremation, green burial, home funerals, burial on your own land, scattering of cremated remains and any other death related questions you may have.


I have worked in the death care industry since 1977, owning my own funeral home since 1990. I worked as an EMT at a funeral home based ambulance service for 6 years gain much experience there. When I opened my funeral home, my goal was to provide honest, straightforward, significant and affordable services to the families who called upon me for my services. Since Sept. 2008, I have served as a member of the Oregon State Mortuary & Cemetery Board, which regulates the operation of mortuarys and cemeteries in Oregon. I have been a regular attendee and speaker at various funeral related seminars over the years and am a frequent contributor to "Mortuary Management" magazine. I was one of the first funeral directors in Oregon to offer "Green" or "Natural" burial services and to offer assistance to families who wish to take care of their own family members at home. I also have vast experience in the repatriation of a deceased to their country of origin.

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