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My Dad has Alzheimer, still moving around in nursing home, but doesn't know us anymore :(  I'm grieving, my experts say.  I'm also having floods of wonderful and funny memories!  My dad use to walk around the house belting out a funny folk song...I am a gay Cabelero"!  He also fancied himself to be a cowboy  lol   I wanted to write on parchment paper "To My Favorite Cowboy: (and then all the lyrics to Gay Cabelero) and put them with him in his casket.   I have my mom still and my 4 other siblings.  Is this tacky?  Should I get their permission?  I've thought a lot about it, and of course it's mostly for me and my feelings.  Didn't know if I should go through with it and how I should go about doing it on that dreaded day.
Thanks For Your Time,
Holly  :)

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Hello Holly-

I think it is a wonderful idea!  Do it!  I would ask or even suggest to your family members to join you, they may have some mementos too!  This is part of the healthy path of grieving.  It's a great idea and I have seen it done before.  If you are not comfortable,  ask the funeral director to assist you.  

With care,  

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Kellie Gillespie

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I can answer any questions regarding funeral planning, grief, alternatives to burial, embalming, natural burial, products and ideas how to make a funeral service or memorial service more meaningful and personal. I can't answer questions regarding legal issues, financial planning and what happens after we die.

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I am a licensed Funeral Director in the state of California with 10 years experience.

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B.A. from the University of Colorado AA from the San Francisco College of Mortuary Science, now part of the Sacramento Community College program

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