my husband died from cancer age 31 we have a 5 year old son now his mother has took charge of the funeral and refuses me any rights he had a will but it never stated that his family should be in charge of the funeral have i got rights

Hi Rose,

This is a very grey area as no one has any rights over a deceased person.

If his mother is proposing a cremation you could object directly to the crematorium or you could speak to the registrars office. If there is a priest or minister involved they may be willing to mediate. Otherwise you need to speak to a solicitor.

Of course if you are executor of the will you could refuse to pay out of the estate.

Sorry it's not more clear cut but this is really one for the lawyers.  


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