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About Jay R. Roberts, C.F.S.P.
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Expertise
I am a certified funeral service practioner, a crematory manager, serve on both the Cremation Association of North Carolina and the Crematory Authority of the North Carolina Board of Funeral service. I can share information on all phases of the funeral service including embalming, viewing, cremations, memorial services or other rites and rituals. I can also discuss preneed or atneed planning.

Experience
I have been in the funeral business for 30 years dealing with all aspects of the funeral industry. I am a certified funeral service practioner, a crematory manager, serve on both the Cremation Association of North Carolina and the Crematory Authority of the North Carolina Board of Funeral service.

   

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Questions Answered By Expert  Jay R. Roberts, C.F.S.P. 
In Category  Funerals

SubjectDate Asked

Death Certificates8/27/2008
  Q: Is there a time frame for which death certificates must be issued by funeral homes in Missouri?
  A: I do not know about MO. However in NC death certificates are a four step process. The funeral home ...
funeral an illinois restaurant8/23/2008
  Q: Is it legal in illinois to wake a dead body in a public restaurant? ANSWER: I don't know ...
  A: Why are you appalled? Is it you are uncomfortable with death or because it was a restaurant? If ...
casket rentals8/13/2008
  Q: Is there a place that I can rent a casket for 2 days, because my loved one is going to be cremated, ...
  A: 1200.00 does not sound to out of place to me. Remember it will cost them 4-500.00 to have the new ...
repast8/8/2008
  Q: My father-in-law is very near death. We are set with funeral preparations and burial. My wife and I ...
  A: Is is a tradition to have one? If not do not worry about it. If it is then would it be possible to ...
A still born funeral7/29/2008
  Q: My friend just lost her son whom was born a still born. This happen on Saturday July 26th. ...
  A: Just pick a local funeral home and call them if no help then call the next one. Has your family ...
A still born funeral7/29/2008
  Q: My friend just lost her son whom was born a still born. This happen on Saturday July 26th. ...
  A: I am sorry for her loss. In our area the funeral homes will donate their services if the family ...
intended burial plot7/25/2008
  Q: My paternal grandmother purchased four plots together. They were intended for herself and her three ...
  A: Who owns the cemetery is very important to establish. Then start asking them for paperwork. ...
intended burial plot7/25/2008
  Q: My paternal grandmother purchased four plots together. They were intended for herself and her three ...
  A: Why did your mother bury your father in her family's plot instead of his to start with unless it was ...
starting a cemetary7/9/2008
  Q: what are the procedures for starting a cemetary in florida, texas, or maybe south carolina? How ...
  A: Being state specific I do not know what the requirements are for those three states. In NC it has ...
move6/20/2008
  Q: I have my mother who is buried in nz and want to move her to australia where I am brisbane,as her ...
  A: I am sorry but this is a little of my expertise. I believe it might could be done, however it would ...
Can a Sheriff keep a disinterment from happening?6/18/2008
  Q: Now the Warren County Sheriff`s Deptartment Sherrif Johnny William`s is saying that I will need to ...
  A: I don't think he can without legal justification. I suggest you contact a local tv station consumer ...
ex being burried in a vetrans cemetary6/16/2008
  Q: I AM THE EX WIFE OF A MAN THAT SERVED 8 YEARS IN THE NAVY.MY QUESTION IS CAN I BE BURIED IN THE ...
  A: Are you a veteran as well? If not I would say most likely you would not be eligible. As a general ...
embalming charge6/15/2008
  Q: My Mother passed away 3 weeks ago. We understood she would be embalmed, it was listed on the ...
  A: If the funeral home had a cooler than it is possible she might look okay but not as good as if she ...
embalming charge6/14/2008
  Q: My Mother passed away 3 weeks ago. We understood she would be embalmed, it was listed on the ...
  A: I am sorry for your loss. My first instinct says this is a typing error. Did you view her and was ...
caskets6/14/2008
  Q: i lived in new york city where can a person buy a casket in new york city or new york state instead ...
  A: A wood casket will not seal unless you have a glass and copper/bronze innersealer put in the casket ...
caskets6/13/2008
  Q: i lived in new york city where can a person buy a casket in new york city or new york state instead ...
  A: Batesville, Aurora, York and Millso are probably the big companies but there are smaller ones that ...
caskets6/12/2008
  Q: i lived in new york city where can a person buy a casket in new york city or new york state instead ...
  A: Itreally does not matter. Just be sure if you buy from a store it is a quality brand not a cheap ...
sympathy gifts6/4/2008
  Q: I have an acquaintance that her husband recently passed away. I know that she and her family could ...
  A: This is a very delicate situation to say the least. Did the obituary mention anything about ...
Halfway Open Casket Vs. All the Way Open6/1/2008
  Q: Why is it that at nearly all viewings the casket is only open to the waist? Is is something funeral ...
  A: In some parts of the country full couch caskets all open are the tradition and other parts a half ...
disinternment /reinternment5/29/2008
  Q: . Do I need to even go to court regarding an order to get this done? I already have a Vault ...
  A: Call the state board of funeral service at the 800 number I gave you. Talk to Steve Dierkson he is ...
disinternment/reinternment (my husband)5/28/2008
  Q: I would like to have my husband relocated to a near by cemetery , however the church that he is at ...
  A: In NC you as the spouse have all the rights. A question please, have you contacted the funeral home ...
cremation5/20/2008
  Q: In Michigan, if I have power of atorney for my uncle, can I prepay for his cremation? There is some ...
  A: In NC, if you have a medical POA and it is new less than a year old there is a clause that gives ...
out of state death5/18/2008
  Q: I was wondering if you could tell me how quickly a family can arrange for a deceased person to be ...
  A: I am basing the answer on his death will not be handled by a medical examiner but by his regular ...
Pre-paid funeral expense RE: Interest Rate5/6/2008
  Q: When are currently working with a local cemetery in an effort to pay several expenses ahead of time; ...
  A: I would not think it would be legal for the contract to say one thing and they charge another. Find ...
body decay in coffin5/5/2008
  Q: As a screenwriter, I've been hired to rewrite a foreign film project which deals with the dead ...
  A: I apologize for taking so long to answer, as you said there are many variables. The "quality" of ...
Move mothers casket that was placed in a pre-paid plot5/3/2008
  Q: I buried my mother in Texas, and was told by " people of the community" that someone had bought ...
  A: Did you purchase the cemetery plot from the funeral home or the cemetery? I would make sure I had ...
i hope you can help4/15/2008
  Q: My father passed away when i was 11...because of my age i had no say so in anything..now that i am ...
  A: Yes, it could be possible to move your father to another cemetery. The disinterment will have to be ...
State Law rquirements3/30/2008
  Q: My Mother in Law is dying of cancer in a hospital in Dallas, Texas, with less than six months to ...
  A: I am sorry for the trials your family is going through at this time. If there is not going to be ...
Is it possible to move my son to a different burial site?3/29/2008
  Q: Almost two years ago my infant son was stillborn. At the time my husband and I decided to bury him ...
  A: That is good, The casket/vault will need to be washed off and cleaned up from being in the ground. ...
Is it possible to move my son to a different burial site?3/29/2008
  Q: Almost two years ago my infant son was stillborn. At the time my husband and I decided to bury him ...
  A: I am sorry for your loss. Yes it might be possible to move your son. Was he buried in a casket and ...
protocol regarding ex-wife in family plot3/24/2008
  Q: My husband and I are making our arrangements for burial together in the Lyons family plot. we are ...
  A: I do not mean to be ugly or anything especially at time like this, but once you are out of the ...
Casket Rentals3/15/2008
  Q: I would like to know more information on Casket rentals, are there any companies that offer this ...
  A: I don't know where you are located but it may not be lawful to use a rental casket for burial ...
Exuming and moving a body3/10/2008
  Q: My mother died in 1982 and was buried in a single plot in Michigan. My father was cremated upon his ...
  A: Okay let's answer this in parts. Yes it can be done and yes it will be very expensive more on ...
renting a casket for viewing3/8/2008
  Q: My husband died suddenly, and the plan was to have a 2 day viewing with cremation. I was told by ...
  A: I do not know about Michigan Laws, however I do know they have some some different laws than other ...
Embalming2/19/2008
  Q: My mother died on a Saturday night in Michigan. It was her intention to be cremated. Monday was a ...
  A: In MY opinion based upon the information I have I do not believe embalming was required by this ...
Embalming2/19/2008
  Q: My mother died on a Saturday night in Michigan. It was her intention to be cremated. Monday was a ...
  A: As embarrassed as I am to say this I believe you may be right. Under the FTC Law a family must give ...
viewing protocol2/7/2008
  Q: will you be able to tell us how long the family should stay at a viewing.does a member stay until ...
  A: Usually the family will stay for the length of time stated in the obituary published in the paper. ...
US Flag use for funeral1/31/2008
  Q: I am the Sheriff of my county. I have a detention officer who is probably going to die due to ...
  A: If you are talking of one furnished by the V.A. for veterans the answer is not one of those. ...
Family Cemetery1/24/2008
  Q: My father in law is near death and he owns twenty acres in Tomball (Houston Area)Texas. the family ...
  A: Find out if Texas has a cemetery board, you could call the Texas Board of Funeral Service and they ...
legal rights to ashes1/15/2008
  Q: my stepson died at the young age of 23. His mother's rich brother-in-law paid for the services. he ...
  A: The father would have equal rights to say what happened to the human cremains, if all else fails ...
Moving a loved one from a millitary cemetry12/19/2007
  Q: My father was a Vietnam Vet and passed away January 29 2007 and was bared at Phoenix AZ Military ...
  A: I am assuming there is a vault in the ground as well. You will need to talk to the cemetery and ...
Owning a cemetery12/3/2007
  Q: 1. I want to open my own cemetery and I want to know how do I go by doing that? 2. What are some ...
  A: Sorry it took so long to answer. Contact the state board of mortuary science and see what ...
Embalming Law12/2/2007
  Q: My mother recently attended a funeral for an old friend of hers at where someone mentioned that the ...
  A: Firstly if you think back embalming has never been a law however funeral homes can make it a policy. ...
clothing11/7/2007
  Q: My sister died suddenly after just bathing and dressing. Some time after the funeral it occurred ...
  A: I am sorry for your loss, I do not know, it could be a couple of reasons though. 1. They could have ...
Funeral Expenses10/11/2007
  Q: My aunt has never been married and has no children. She gets a small amount from Social Security ...
  A: I am sorry for your aunts health problems. What is even worse is the financial dilemma you ...
Funeral Protocol10/9/2007
  Q: I work at a diverse company with different nationalities and ethnic groups. We are trying to create ...
  A: You want to talk about having to be very careful not to offend anyone. The best way to do a broad ...
arrangements9/29/2007
  Q: I am making arrangements for my father in law who will be leaving us soon due to cancer. He has no ...
  A: If he dies in the VA Hospital the VA would pay up to 650.00 towards funeral and burial expenses ...
Military Funeral9/12/2007
  Q: Is it proper to have a U.S.flag draped casket and taps played at a civilian funeral?
  A: It is unusual but who is to say if proper or not. Was it a military issued flag for someone else ...
Funeral Interest8/21/2007
  Q: My father was killed at work this year, he was not married and I am the next of kin. I am left with ...
  A: I am sorry for your loss. You mentioned your father was killed at work. Workmans Compensation ...
Home burials8/18/2007
  Q: I own 15 acres in a rural part of SC and would like to know how I would go about setting up a family ...
  A: You would need to contact the state board of funeral service in SC and see if there is a cemetery ...
home burial in nc8/6/2007
  Q: I wish to be buried on our land, in burke county nc. who do i contact to find out if this is legal, ...
  A: My first response is are you sure? Think through this down 3-4 generations will someone care enough ...
general information7/24/2007
  Q: Please discus what Preneed and Atneed are. Also, are there any green cemetaries in NC now and ...
  A: Preneed is planning the funeral before a death occurs and at need is planning the funeral after ...
public cemetary7/23/2007
  Q: we have land, that we want to open as a cemetery to the public. please advice.
  A: It depends on where you live. You would have to contact the cemetery commission or whoever oversees ...
clothes for the deceased7/23/2007
  Q: Was just wondering if there were any rules about what kind of clothes the deceased will wear. My ...
  A: Does she not have a gown and robe she would like to use? You can purchase clothes from any ...
Jewish Funeral7/18/2007
  Q: If the obituary says "Freinds may call on the family following the interment" does this mean they ...
  A: No it is asking for people to come by after the funeral. If they are Orthodox Jews they do not have ...
Tipping7/13/2007
  Q: My husband passed away this last week and he had requested cremation/ no viewing/ no service/no ...
  A: Generally speaking tipping is not necessary or expected for a funeral director. We work on salary, ...
Stepfather passed away6/19/2007
  Q: My stepfather recently passed away and has no next of kin. He requested that I have his remains, but ...
  A: It would depend on where you live. Did your stepfather have a will stating what he wanted done with ...
changing the deceased funeral clothes4/30/2007
  Q: I know this is a very strange question, but here it goes. Is there any significance to changing the ...
  A: It could be any number of reasons like donation of organs including long bones or skin. If the ...
changing the deceased funeral clothes4/28/2007
  Q: I know this is a very strange question, but here it goes. Is there any significance to changing the ...
  A: None that I am aware, of who suggested the changing of the clothes? It might have been a problem of ...
embalming4/22/2007
  Q: Does a person who wishes to be cremated need to be embalmed in order to have a wake for two days in ...
  A: There is not a law that requires a person be embalmed however a funeral home can make it a policy. ...
no funds for funeral2/18/2007
  Q: I am very poor and have no money set aside for my funeral do I therefore have to be cremated or is ...
  A: Depending on where you live, the county or state may have funds set aside for this purpose. If you ...
dispute with cemetary2/10/2007
  Q: My brother passed away 15 years ago. The cemetery picked up the body and placed his body in a ...
  A: Yes, I agree with you it would be unusual for them to hold 3 spots without payment. However, ...
fathers funeral12/7/2006
  Q: i am not a social person ,my fathers fneral is tomorrow.ami supposed to speak.my sister has cut me ...
  A: That would be a matter of your choice. Not every funeral does a family speak to give a eulogy or ...
Coroner certificates8/25/2006
  Q: You asked for more infromation so this is the setting. My character is hit on the head, accidentally ...
  A: The immediate cause of death would be 1. Cardiac arrest or you could use cardiac arrythmia (the ...
Coroner certificates8/25/2006
  Q: i am righting a book and a character of mine has just died i want to make an official sounding ...
  A: The time would be immaterial. Was it a homicide, suicide or natural causes? Gunshot wound would be ...
sympathy cards7/28/2006
  Q: When you go to a wake or memorial servica and you bring a card, is it ok to put money in it? Is that ...
  A: It would depend on the financial situation of the family. If the funeral caused a burden on the ...
loss of a loved one5/17/2006
  Q: My Italian sister-in-law lost her sister in Italy, and is unable to attend the funeral. What could ...
  A: Anything is fine, just being there and recognizing the loss she feels is a gift beyond measure. ...
THANK YOU NOTES????5/12/2006
  Q: My brother in law died suddenly. Over 200 people came to his funeral. Are thank you notes expected? ...
  A: Generally speaking, thank you notes are only sent to people who have done something special like ...

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