Funerals/Questions Answered by Expert Lisa Carlson

SubjectDate Asked
death certificate3/24/2017
  Q: I plan to act as funeral director for my mother's home burial. I am concerned about obtaining the ...
  A: Good for you for doing your research. First off, talk to your mother's doctor. If he's willing to ...
Disinterring and cremating to move to FL8/26/2016
  Q: My father was buried in New York City in 1977 and I want his remains cremated in order to move to FL ...
  A: Try Crestwood Memorial Chapel. But call at least two others as well. I'm guessing the total cost ...
His sister died6/28/2016
  Q: I am so uncomfortable asking because people shouldn't behave like this when someone dies. My ...
  A: Have him explain the problem to the funeral director and ask for some private time to say his ...
Funerals In Second Marriages6/7/2016
  Q: After my wife of 40 years passed away, It was her wish to be cremated and I still have her ashes. I ...
  A: It seems to me the first question should be about what to do with your last wife's ashes. Does she ...
lowest-cost exhumation5/1/2016
  Q: I want to exhume my mother's body, and have learned that I need a permit in order to do it. Once I ...
  A: Talk to the cemetery where your mother is buried. They may be willing to do the disinterment and ...
Digging Up Daddy4/6/2016
  Q: My mother and father have been divorced since I was a child and I am 50+ now. My father remarried ...
  A: Go to Probate Court in SC. You don't need a lawyer. Explain the situation. Typically, the spouse ...
my mother's ashes2/8/2016
  Q: My mother passed away in 1990 shortly before my 5th birthday. She and my father were in the process ...
  A: Because your uncle paid for the cremation, he is entitled to the ashes. You might consider asking ...
Fetal remains10/27/2015
  Q: I am assisting writing a new policy & procedure for disposition of fetal remains for our hospital. ...
  A: How wonderful of you. Check out the FEO newsletter where I did an article on post mortem policies ...
Moving cremains from OR to CA10/27/2015
  Q: My husband'b best friend passed away recently and we want to transport his cremains from OR to CA to ...
  A: Only if the cremation occurred in CA. And frankly the CA requirements are quite silly. You're ...
disinternment9/29/2015
  Q: I live in NJ. Our neighbor's 30-year old son committed suicide two years ago while living (married, ...
  A: Any idea why the widow is refusing? Typically a spouse gets to call the shots, but once she ...
Wife buried in someone else's plot9/28/2015
  Q: I live in Michigan, my wife passed on 9/19/2012, I bought two plots at the cemetary and she was ...
  A: Do you know who owns this cemetery? There have been some cemetery scandals in recent years, emptying ...
religious ritual9/22/2015
  Q: My friends have been arguing this for weeks. I am Norwegian. I can trace my family back to Farsund ...
  A: If you want to be consumed by fish, then you could pick burial at sea without the burning boat. Even ...
legal rights to the cremains9/18/2015
  Q: My husband passed away almost 2 years ago and I have not had his ashes buried yet but am in the ...
  A: What terrible bullies! You are ABSOLUTELY RIGHT that as the spouse you are the legal next of kin and ...
moving grandfathers ashes8/27/2015
  Q: My moms dad died in 1967. Cremated remains in niche in CA (in LA County). No other family at that ...
  A: The statute is silent about grandchildren. But I think in most states since all others are deceased ...
Transporting body from ohio to missouri8/13/2015
  Q: My Mother in law is currently living with us in Ohio. If she passes while here, what arrangements ...
  A: Go to the Bookstore at www.funerals.org and download the Ohio chapter for $5. It will walk you ...
Removing remains of parents to NC8/5/2015
  Q: Both of my parents are buried in Texas, where I once resided for a few years. I have since moved ...
  A: It will likely depend entirely on the cemetery where they are buried. If SCI owns the cemetery, ...
disintering cremated remains6/29/2015
  Q: i bought a grave plot in our local cemetary. i let my fathers ashes be interred there. i had a ...
  A: What did your father want? Are any of his wishes in writing? Why is your sister mad? What does she ...
exhume6/13/2015
  Q: I went into labor early at 6months and i delivered my first born son. He passed an hour after i ...
  A: I would simply go to the cemetery and tell them you've decided to keep the ashes at home. I suspect ...
moving a family member6/7/2015
  Q: The son of deceased wife wants to move his mother to another cemetery. The d.wife was married to her ...
  A: The fact that the husband's family is getting the plot back for the third wife should be sufficient. ...
moving buried bodies from one state to another5/22/2015
  Q: I have a friend who's mother had 2 children that passed away over 50 years ago. One lived about an ...
  A: You may be absolutely right, but it sounds as if she won't accept that. There is a casket/vault ...
charge5/8/2015
  Q: Lisa, you asked what I paid for my Death Midwife training in Chicago. It was $750.00 for 3 days. We ...
  A: I'm appalled! I think she should be reported to the AG's consumer protection division. ********** ...
Indiana funeral laws5/6/2015
  Q: I'm a new Death Midwife wanting to practice in Indianapolis, Indiana. I don't know where to start to ...
  A: You can get the Indiana chapter from the Bookstore at www.funerals.org for only $5. You say you're ...
cremation by guardian4/5/2015
  Q: My question is does an emergency guardian have the right to authorize the spouse of the wards ...
  A: Is your mother mentally alert? If so, she could indeed authorize the cremation without the ...
Transporting the Dead in Texas3/31/2015
  Q: I am interested in starting a transportation service for funeral transfers, transport to and from ...
  A: If you're doing this for a fee, you may need to be a licensed funeral director or working for one. ...
My dad's remains3/7/2015
  Q: My father passed away recently and he wanted to be cremated in the state of Kentucky that required ...
  A: Who paid for the cremation? Have you asked that person for the cremated remains? The funeral home ...
disinterment3/4/2015
  Q: Our 18 year old son was killed in an accident in several years ago. He is buried at our Catholic ...
  A: I am sorry for your loss. Yes, as next of kin you have a right to decide about cremation. I wouldn't ...
Funeral Home GPL2/10/2015
  Q: Can a funeral home list caskets on their GPL as merchandise and when they sell one to a person ...
  A: NO, a casket is NOT a cash advance item. Cash advance items are third-party items like obit and ...
exhumation of cremated remains2/9/2015
  Q: My husband passed away 18 years ago in an accident where I was severely injured. I was only 19 and ...
  A: Just out of curiosity, have you remarried? If so, that may have thinned your rights. But check with ...
starting family cemetary1/27/2015
  Q: I would like any information on starting a family cemetery on my land
  A: Check with the local zoning laws which are likely silent except in Bibb county. Then draw a map of ...
burial rights12/16/2014
  Q: I truly do not want a funeral. I could care less how I am buried. I don't want anyone to see me ...
  A: The first thing you need to do is talk about your wishes with those who are likely to survive you to ...
Person buried in wrong grave - cover up11/26/2014
  Q: My parents purchased 2 plots side by side #233 and 234. Dad was buried in 1994 and mom passed away ...
  A: Who owns the cemetery? If it's owned by a large funeral conglomerate with deep pockets, you should ...
Transport of human body from CA to OR11/22/2014
  Q: My question is two fold. A plot has already been purchased in Oregon at a mortuary next to my ...
  A: You can't force the receiving mortuary to use Inman. The $1,795 is probably listed on their price ...
Family stone11/16/2014
  Q: My wives Brother passed away and his wife had his name and her name carved into the stone.There were ...
  A: I'm sorry if I'm not clear on what has happened. Your wife's brother was buried in WHOSE plot? Who ...
My father passed insurance company is giving me problems11/9/2014
  Q: My father just passed away he has an insurance policy but because he died 3days before the policy ...
  A: I'm sorry for the problems you are having. Is there any way to use a credit card--maybe yours and ...
moveing My Husbands remains10/27/2014
  Q: I live in the Phoenix Arizona area. My husband died on 11-29-2012. When he died we were barely ...
  A: Talk to the cemetery. There should have been a limited amount of county money to help with costs, so ...
Occupied Funeral plot sale10/23/2014
  Q: My mother married an ex military man that had purchased a plot for himself. My mother died and he ...
  A: I feel certain you are right about the money-grubbing. No, she has NO right to the plot. Even if she ...
Transportation of a body10/18/2014
  Q: I read on one of your response was that there are 43 states which allow a family to transport the ...
  A: Yes, you may transport a loved one in CA. The book is "Final Rights: Reclaiming the American Way of ...
funeral holding body10/6/2014
  Q: In Fl can funeral home hold body if they embalmed my vet husband after they were told not to and ...
  A: Absolutely not unless it's required by state law. Embalming OR refrigeration is required after 24 ...
Sale of Parents Companion Burial Plot9/24/2014
  Q: I am Successor Trustee of my fathers Trust and only son. He passed Sept 5, 2014. My mother passed ...
  A: It is going to be extremely difficult to sell a cemetery plot, esp. with the growing cremation rate ...
Buddhist cremation9/16/2014
  Q: Is it possible to have a Buddhist cremation on private land in Oregon? Also are there laws about ...
  A: I think Colorado is the only state where outdoor cremations are being allowed. It is not an ...
COMMON LAW FUNERAL RIGHTS.8/16/2014
  Q: If this lady and I wish to live together as husband and wife, as in common law, do we have to have ...
  A: Section 32-11-10 of SC statutes allows you to name any person you like (it does not have to be your ...
Church cemetary8/12/2014
  Q: I have family buried in an old church cemetery that has fallen into disrepair. Myself and several ...
  A: The consumer Affairs dept. in the AG's office regulates cemeteries and is very consumer friendly. I ...
One spouse deceased, one incarcerated... who has legal right to make burial decisions?8/12/2014
  Q: I will try to narrow my question down as quickly as possible. Basically my cousin's husband passed ...
  A: Several questions: Were the couple at all estranged? Does the wife have the funds for a body burial ...
Really need advice please..7/9/2014
  Q: I just list my dad in Sunday morning;( and two of His sons were not involved in his life but they ...
  A: It's too bad your dad didn't fill out the part of the advance directive that gives you the right to ...
Home Burial in the state of Iowa7/8/2014
  Q: Can you tell me what you know about private (home) burials in the State of Iowa.
  A: There are no laws that specifically permit or prohibit burial on your own land, but check with local ...
Grave and body ownership6/22/2014
  Q: My brother is buried in a casket and our dad owned the grave. When dad died, he was cremated and ...
  A: If the grave wasn't mentioned in a will, then I think it is your dad's grave, with no particular ...
Home Burial in Georgia, Seminole County6/3/2014
  Q: Can I bury my mother on my private land and not deem it a cemetery but a Family Lot? I live on this ...
  A: There are no state laws in GA that specifically permit or prohibit home burial. But you should check ...
Private property for family burial5/29/2014
  Q: I would like to establish a private land family burial cemetery in Pickens County Alabama. They are ...
  A: There are no state regulations for a family cemetery. Sounds like the county has some requirements, ...
Moving a Body Against Wishes of Family5/27/2014
  Q: My late father's mother (my grandmother) recently passed away. Her daughter (my aunt) and family ...
  A: How long has your father been buried? If more than five years, it's likely the casket has rusted out ...
Burial on private land5/22/2014
  Q: I own land in rural Valencia County, New Mexico, about 6 miles from the city of Belen. Is it legal ...
  A: Prior to burial, you should draw a map of the land showing where the family cemetery will be and ...
Question about moving remains5/14/2014
  Q: Is it possible to move my parents' remains from New Albany, Indiana to a Veterans Cemetery in ...
  A: How long since your father was buried? If it's more than say five years, the casket may have started ...
Who has rights to place marker on my father's plot?5/8/2014
  Q: I paid the church cemetery for the plot when my dad passed, and I am the only next of kin. But his ...
  A: I can certainly understand why you are angry. Can you afford to get the marker you want without the ...
natural burial and funeral homes5/7/2014
  Q: My wife and I want to go the green burial route, but the closest one to our home is 2 hours from us. ...
  A: You can check around with local cemeteries to see if any are starting to set aside vaultless, ...
funeral with no money4/17/2014
  Q: Mom is in a nursing home. She receives ss benefits. The home allows her to keep 45/mom and allows ...
  A: There is $750 in state funds that can assist with funeral expenses. The funeral director will know ...
burial vaults4/15/2014
  Q: when did wisconsin state law start to require burial vaults?fw
  A: No state requires vaults. If a funeral director told you it was state law, you should file a ...
Family cemetary3/30/2014
  Q: Can I build a private cemetery for my family on private property in Odum Georgia? If so please list ...
  A: Bibb County has a regulation that forbids that, but elsewhere you should be able to. Check with ...
Moving Domestic Partner Remains3/29/2014
  Q: My domestic partner died in a tragic car accident in Quincy, IL. At the time I was overcome with ...
  A: I would start with a funeral director in Chicago and definitely price at least three. Try Rago ...
conservation burial3/28/2014
  Q: Do you know of any Idaho law that would not allow one of it's municipalities to establish a ...
  A: No reason at all. That said, check the cemetery laws. They might require a perpetual care fund and ...
NY requirement for funeral director involvement3/23/2014
  Q: Is there any group working to revoke the NY State law that mandates the involvement of a funeral ...
  A: Actually, NY permits a non-FD to *transport* the body. That said, it requires a funeral director to ...
sons finale wishes3/19/2014
  Q: my 34 yr old son passed away on the 9th of March and my ex-wife made all the arrangements without my ...
  A: I am sorry for your loss. Yes, both parents have equal rights, and your wife was at fault not to ...
Arranging for direct cremation without funeral director.3/19/2014
  Q: My 97 year old mother is living with us in rural Georgia. I want to work through the details of her ...
  A: You can download the GA chapter from the Bookstore at www.funerals.org for only $5. That will walk ...
I have a POA, HR and name certificate holder on a prepaid funeral and was denied the right to bury my uncle who was like a father to me.3/16/2014
  Q: My uncle passed away recently while in my home under hospice care. I was his Durable Power of ...
  A: Mr. Butler the other funeral director called me about this. File a written complaint with the state ...
Transporting deceased from Florida to Georgia for burial1/23/2014
  Q: What are the laws governing transporting the deceased from Florida to Georgia? Does it require ...
  A: In Florida, the body must be embalmed OR refrigerated within 24 hours. You can use dry ice for ...
unembalmed burial on private land in VT1/21/2014
  Q: can family members be buried without embalming, casket or funeral director, on private land in VT? ...
  A: YES! Go to www.funerals.org and download the VT chapter from the bookstore for only $5. If the ...
Direct to Crematorium in Northern Flordia1/20/2014
  Q: Lisa, My grandfather is very ill and expected to pass in the next couple of months. They live in ...
  A: There are two nonprofit consumer groups not too far away, about 50 miles, that may have discounted ...
time between passing and burial1/12/2014
  Q: See the obituary below. It is the only anouncement I received of the passing of my American ...
  A: Actually, I think it's only 5 days in the Netherlands. From the obit, the term "memorial service" ...
grave removal12/30/2013
  Q: Me and my husband own land that has our private graveyard on it.my husbands mother was buried ...
  A: There had to be a disinterment permit issued by the local registrar to a funeral director before the ...
Revised ed. of Your Book, or Copy of Chapter re: KY Private Cemeteryies12/6/2013
  Q: I noted in an earlier answer to another's question about a private cemetery you indicated that you ...
  A: The third edition was published in 2011 -- "Final Rights: Reclaiming the American Way of Death" -- ...
burial12/6/2013
  Q: can you be buried in a pine casket without embalming and avault in your family cemetery which is ...
  A: You do not need to use a funeral director or be embalmed in NC. You can download the NC chapter from ...
transport of deceased brother12/3/2013
  Q: We live in Lakeland Florida and wish to bury my brother on our property in Mayo Florida about 187 ...
  A: Go to www.funerals.org and download the Florida chapter from the Bookstore for only $5. That will ...
transporting deceased between states11/1/2013
  Q: My mother currently lives in Tulsa, Oklahoma but has a burial plot with my dad in Pennsylvania. She ...
  A: Yes, use the PA funeral home to make arrangements. Let them know that you know about shipping ...
Family Cemeteries10/22/2013
  Q: I have a family cemetery on my land (in NC). It was started 140 years ago. I now have non-relatives ...
  A: Unless there is a formal cemetery association, you the land-owner gets to decide. Is it recorded ...
Moving a gravesite from a property burial in Georgia to a cemetery in Alabama?ok10/14/2013
  Q: Ok when my mother died about ten years ago me and my sisters were so distraught that we agreed to ...
  A: You need a disinterment permit from the local registrar or county clerk in GA. The Alabama funeral ...
moving a grave9/28/2013
  Q: I live in western Ny. My mother died in 2002. My brother kept her ashes in his house for about 10 ...
  A: You'll have to check with the cemetery as each one can make up their own regulations. Is there a ...
book9/26/2013
  Q: Lisa I was wondering what the name of your book is and where can I get one. I really have some ...
  A: The book is "Final Rights: Reclaiming the American Way of Death." You can download the state chapter ...
Unauthorized cremation9/22/2013
  Q: My mother I law bought a prepaid funeral plan. She initially requested immediate cremation but a ...
  A: In Iowa, a person may name someone other than the next-of-kin to handle funeral arrangements, so ...
Desinterment9/17/2013
  Q: We own 6 plots in Cedar Grove,Williamsburg VA. My brother is buried there we want o move him, they ...
  A: No such law. But cemeteries are allowed to make up their own rules. How long ago was your brother ...
private family cemetery9/10/2013
  Q: I want to deed off 1 acre of land in a farm agriculture zoned area of jasper county Georgia. it is ...
  A: No state statutes specifically permit or prohibit family cemeteries. That said, Bibb County went a ...
Burial specifications8/31/2013
  Q: What are the burial specifications in the state of Oklahoma, McClain County. Specifically: are ...
  A: There are no state requirements about burial such as depth. No state requires a vault or casket, but ...
Help with Michigan township burial ordinance8/28/2013
  Q: After reading your book, I contacted my township about my intention to create a family cemetery on ...
  A: As far as I can tell, you simply need the permission of the local health official. Then have it ...
Ownership of cremated remains -filing with probate court8/22/2013
  Q: The probate court in Iowa says they can't give me any guidance as to what forms I need to file, and ...
  A: I am astonished! Most probate courts are very helpful and usually enjoy their power to work without ...
Ownership of cremated remains8/21/2013
  Q: I live in Iowa. My mother recently passed away. My sister and I are estranged. She has the cremated ...
  A: Were you estranged from your mother? If not, then you both have equal rights if your mother didn't ...
Church community cemeteries in WA state8/17/2013
  Q: I am a elder-maintenance man of a local church in WA state and have been burdened with the need of ...
  A: I hope you won't consider this a burden but a rich opportunity to serve your church community. ...
Transporting fathers body from Colo to WI8/15/2013
  Q: I expect my father (currently in a nursing home) to pass away in Colo within the next 4-8 weeks. He ...
  A: You don't have to use a funeral home at all. Go to www.funerals.org to download the CO chapter for ...
ACCESS TO MY FAMILY CEMETARY8/15/2013
  Q: LISA, MY BROTHER AND I ARE THINKING OF SELLING THE LAST FEW ACRES AND HOUSE THAT BELONGED TO OUR ...
  A: In what state? In most states, access to a family cemetery is protected. Go to the land records and ...
moving fathers interred cremated remains from FL to IL8/12/2013
  Q: My siblings and I would like to relocate my fathers cremains in Florida where he is alone to an ...
  A: If the cemetery doesn't think so, you can certainly go to Probate Court that is likely to give you ...
legalities of making/selling caskets8/7/2013
  Q: I live in Western North Carolina in a poor rural community. My question is what are the legalities ...
  A: Bless your heart. No license needed. Two feet wide, one foot deep, and six feet or so long. You ...
Prepaid vault8/1/2013
  Q: My elderly friend has prepaid for vaults in a private cemetery in Lawrenceville, Ga. He now has ...
  A: Probably not but certainly they should ask. If not, consider donating them to a church or victims ...
Grave sites in North Carolina7/31/2013
  Q: Lisa, I am trying to determine how many grave sites are still available in our church cemetary. I ...
  A: I apologize for not answering this in a more timely way. Four feet by eight feet is, I believe, ...
Forced Monument Purchases7/23/2013
  Q: The advertisement for our cemetery states "Welcome to Historic XXXXX Cemetery, a Not-For-Profit ...
  A: Ask them if they accept the veteran's markers and see what they say. I'm guessing that will ...
gestation and buriel7/22/2013
  Q: Lisa, I noticed that you made mention of the fact that in the state of Texas there is no law ...
  A: Kelly, In all but 8 states a family may handle a death without a funeral director. Yes, the ...
Burial7/20/2013
  Q: Based on my dad's request, he doesn't want a funeral, or any kind of body preparation (wants to be ...
  A: You may absolutely handle the death without hiring a funeral director. Download the TX chapter from ...
Michigan Home Burial Plots7/5/2013
  Q: I live in Clare County in Michigan in a small town called Lake. I was wondering if you could direct ...
  A: Michigan has one of the best home burial statutes in the U.S. Alas, you will be required to hire a ...
Right to Bury Contract / Cemetery7/3/2013
  Q: My parents purchased 2 plots and received a Right to Bury contract for the two plots. Shortly ...
  A: What a MESS! Did your parents buy six plots or two additional ones for a total of four? What is the ...
fetus laws in hospitals7/2/2013
  Q: I was told that when a miscarriage occurs after 20 weeks in a hospital that a funeral is required by ...
  A: There is NO law in any state requiring a funeral regardless of where the death occurs or how old or ...
oregon5/27/2013
  Q: where is the best place to get started in Oregon for a family cemetery on are land.
  A: You may be buried on your own land with the permission of the local planning commission or governing ...
CA law5/13/2013
  Q: I have a friend who was recently diagnosed with advanced cancer. She asked me to help her make plans ...
  A: That is absolutely allowed in CA. You can download the CA chapter from the Bookstore at ...
Burial of Ashes in Illinois5/13/2013
  Q: My brother passed away on 4/24/2013 and he was cremated at Acremation, Inc in Houston. His ashes ...
  A: A burial transit permit is not required for cremated remains except in California, unless this is ...
headstone question5/10/2013
  Q: my mother passed away last month and she was married but separated from her husband on her death ...
  A: Although he is legally next of kin, he's not the lot-owner if your mother paid for everything. So I ...
cases5/10/2013
  Q: 1.A daughter asked if they can assign the life insurance on their mother's life insurance to the ...
  A: 1. Irrevocable is to shelter assets for Medicaid eligibility. In some states, you can't assign ...
case study5/10/2013
  Q: 1.you handled a funeral in which an attendee in the procession had a car accident.although you put ...
  A: You're asking me to do your homework, aren't you. 1. No liability. Idiot should know how to drive. ...
mortuary law5/8/2013
  Q: A daughter of the deceased asks you to cremate her father. she explains that her mother has been ...
  A: I would ask the daughter to get a note from her mother, authorizing both the cremation and ...
Adding my brothers name to the Certificate of Interment Rights5/4/2013
  Q: In 1993, when our mother died, we purchased two interment spaces at the Memorial Park Cemetery in ...
  A: Ask to see a copy of their regulations AND a price list. If it's your intention to have your brother ...
disinterment process from WA State to Tn4/27/2013
  Q: In 2001 my Mother passed away at home<in WA State, after a brief battle with cancer. At the time she ...
  A: Yes, getting the cooperation from your ex-stepfather is the first thing. After 10 years, the casket ...
burial4/22/2013
  Q: My parents are divorced and both are remarried. My mom has a deeded 3 person plot in which my ...
  A: Just have your mother write a letter to the cemetery saying that her permission has been granted for ...
christian memorial cemetery policies4/17/2013
  Q: In 1971 my parents purchased two plots and two vaults from Christian memorial cemetery, after paying ...
  A: Without any paperwork in front of me, it's hard to be more specific about what to do about it. I ...
moving remains against kids wishes law4/13/2013
  Q: My grown grandchildren's father was cremated and buried in Kansas after being shot and killed by his ...
  A: You are right that the sister has no rights. Only the wife and then the kids. She would have to get ...
Exhuming daughter's cremated remains3/27/2013
  Q: I have been trying to figure out how I would go about having my daughters creamated remains in Ohio. ...
  A: Will your ex agree to your taking the cremated remains with you? If so, there should be no problem ...
Private land burials3/26/2013
  Q: My family wants to invest in some land to create a family burial grounds. We agreed that we would ...
  A: There are no laws that specifically permit burial on your own land in VA, although family graveyards ...
Natural burial3/25/2013
  Q: I own a cemetery plot in Ohio. I would like to be buried there but do not want a casket or vault. ...
  A: The cemetery is allowed to make up their own rules in every state. I'm guessing you may have ...
Using casket from Costco for Alabama burial3/24/2013
  Q: My brother died this morning. No insurance. I would like to order a casket from Costco. However, ...
  A: State law wouldn't stop you from doing that. But you might be honest with the funeral director about ...
Creating a family cemetery on our land3/21/2013
  Q: Wife and i wanna be buried on our own land in upstate SC. We are in our 40 s so hopefully this wont ...
  A: There are no laws that specifically permit or prohibit burial on your own land, but check local ...
Private burial3/21/2013
  Q: I had an inquirey about the requirements of a single burial on the pending decedent's family farm in ...
  A: That should be permissible. To bypass the funeral industry entirely, go to www.funerals.org and ...
Exhuming cremains in PA to take to England3/20/2013
  Q: We moved from England in 1967. My Mom passed away in 1980 and was cremated and buried outside ...
  A: It shouldn't be a problem at all. Simply talk to the cemetery and explain the situation. When flying ...
transport family remains across state lines3/12/2013
  Q: i read your post regarding transporting a family member's remains from TX to IL. along the same ...
  A: For transport, all that is needed is the Burial-transit Permit which the funeral director can ...
Existing headstone & cremation3/11/2013
  Q: We live in Virginia. We own our cemetery plot and several years ago added traditional headstone ...
  A: Yes, cremated remains can be buried in the plot. Obviously there's room for several other family ...
International transportation of my Dad's cremains3/10/2013
  Q: I have couple questions regarding how to bring my Dad's ashes back to U.S. I am a U.S. citizen, but ...
  A: Yes, they may be brought in a carry-on by you or your mom. Do NOT use a metal urn as it must be ...
Funeral Arrangements3/10/2013
  Q: I believe I received a reply from you awhile back but my hard drive crashed recently. I now have a ...
  A: Let's simplify things. In TN you can name an agent for body disposition. Here's the law -- TC ...
death certificates and prepaid expenses3/9/2013
  Q: My father past away 5 1/2 weeks ago at the VA in MO. and we have not received the death certificates ...
  A: What does the funeral home say about the delay for the death certificate. Ten days should be all it ...
Process to exhume brother3/7/2013
  Q: My Mom has always told me the story about when my brother was born in 1974 that he had a good strong ...
  A: The costs can vary from $100 to a couple of thousand -- ...
Colorado state laws2/28/2013
  Q: Is embalming required? Is a vault required? Can I be buried on my own property? (outside city ...
  A: Embalming OR refrigeration is required after 24 hours. No, a vault is not required by state law, ...
Me again on my daughters remains2/26/2013
  Q: So I got of the phone with them at the funeral home he said total is 1385.01 and this intrest is ...
  A: That's a pretty standard rate of interest. But I'm concerned if you weren't informed about that or ...
fee on how long to keep ashes2/26/2013
  Q: I am trying to get information. I had my daughter cremated 12 years ago and have been unable to get ...
  A: Twelve years is a VERY long time. I'm frankly surprised the funeral home still has the ashes. They ...
access to family plot in divorce2/19/2013
  Q: My grandfather purchased 4 grave sites where he, my grandmother and father are buried. It was ...
  A: Did your grandfather have any other children other than your father? I didn't give you time to ...
scattering cremation remains2/18/2013
  Q: My family wants to scatter cremation remains on a public beach on the east coast of Florida. One ...
  A: The EPA--a federal agency--says they must be scattered three miles out. BUT that's because the ...
my cremated father's cementary only services2/18/2013
  Q: My father was cremated in Alabama and his ashes will be brought to Indiana to have his ashes buried ...
  A: Ask him for the law. I don't think it exists. Here's what I found-- IC 23-14-31-44 Legal control ...
include son's ashes in casket with mother2/8/2013
  Q: My brother died a year ago and was cremated. I have his ashes and would now like to include them in ...
  A: Did you already tell the cemetery of your plans? Because, yes, they WILL charge for a second right ...
family dispute over relocating dad2/7/2013
  Q: My parents are currently buried in different states. My brother wishes to have my father ...
  A: Were your parents estranged? How did your dad end up in Mass. if your mother is buried in GA? If ...
Responsibility of funeral expenses2/4/2013
  Q: Who is responsible for burial expenses in Missouri when the deceased is a ward of the state? My ...
  A: I don't know how the state could enforce that. A couple of states do have laws with such a ...
sister objects to cremation over spouse1/11/2013
  Q: My question arises from my father-in-laws wishes to be cremated and his wife is in agreement. ...
  A: The sisters have no standing. Has the father-in-law already died? If not, he can put his wishes in ...
Family plot dispute1/11/2013
  Q: don't know if you can help me or not but I have a question about a family cemetery. My late father ...
  A: If it's not clear where the property line is -- such as a fence -- I think anyone can be buried ...
home burial1/6/2013
  Q: I would like to be buried on my own rural property in Texas.What are the requirements for ...
  A: You can download the Texas chapter from "Final Rights" from the Bookstore at www.funerals.org for ...
ownership of plot and right to bury1/3/2013
  Q: My dads family purchased a plot in Massachusetts in 1892. The owners were two women with a different ...
  A: Ask to see the law. I know of no such law. And the fact that you have the deed is clearly on your ...
headstone12/31/2012
  Q: My mother passed away in August. Over a year before her death we started looking into getting a ...
  A: NO, the oldest sibling does NOT have control. In fact, the wishes of the deceased should prevail. ...
embalming12/29/2012
  Q: In Colorado if someone is being cremated but want to have a family viewing only do they have to be ...
  A: Many funeral homes are not well practiced in preparing an unembalmed body for viewing even tho' it ...
coffin rental12/19/2012
  Q: For my father-in-law who his was waked in NYC we rented a coffin before his cremation, but for my ...
  A: That is total horse pitooey and you should tell the funeral director you'll file a complaint with ...
locating personal funds for funeral expense.12/13/2012
  Q: I live in Florida and I have a grand-aunt who lives in Brooklyn, NY. She is currently in the ...
  A: You need to be named as the administrator for her estate or get a power of attorney. Is she willing ...
green burial on private property12/10/2012
  Q: My mother wishes to be bury on her privately owned property. I am researching to see what the North ...
  A: You are certainly on the ball! To bypass the funeral industry entirely, download the NC chapter from ...
Connecticut disinterment12/9/2012
  Q: My grandparents purchased a family burial plot in a small town in central CT (Southington) during ...
  A: How unfortunate. Write a letter to the Probate Court requesting permission to move your grandfather. ...
Brother cremated remains12/5/2012
  Q: I really don't know where to turn, but I'm asking this question for my mother. My brother passed ...
  A: That's a very unique question, as typically a spouse has full control unless there are written ...
Vendictive Ex11/30/2012
  Q: I am in desperate need of some advice. My son recently passed away June 2012 the cemetery site was ...
  A: Typically the lot-owner gets to call the shots, so as long as your son stays buried in a plot your ...
vault Georgia law11/30/2012
  Q: My uncle was move from one location to a new location across town 5 days after internment. Health ...
  A: How strange! Who arranged for the move? A disinterment permit was required from the local registrar, ...
transporting deceased parents11/25/2012
  Q: Being realistic, I will be faced with the prospect of transporting my parents from San Luis Obispo ...
  A: You can download the CA chapter from the bookstore at www.funerals.org for only $5. Now that the ...
Funeral beginning to end11/23/2012
  Q: My husband wants to have a green burial. No embalming, put in a bag, buried underground. He wants ...
  A: If your property is rural, then there shouldn't be a problem. You must register a family graveyard ...
Request for cremation in the will11/22/2012
  Q: I live in New York City and I have a partner (not married). In my will he is named executor and ...
  A: Your will is not the place to put your wishes as it's often not read until after the funeral. But ...
Cremation in Maryland11/12/2012
  Q: Could you explain what is required to cremate someone in the state of Maryland? If the deceased has ...
  A: If the death has not yet occurred, the person wishing to be cremated may name a designated agent for ...
Question about Ohio law for moving a grave site.11/12/2012
  Q: I am writing to ask what the Ohio law is for wanting to have a persons grave moved from one county ...
  A: A disinterment permit must come from the Probate Court, but yours is a reasonable request that is ...
moving my daughter to be with me when i die or before11/11/2012
  Q: My daughter was stillborn almost 24 years ago. She is buried at the foot of my grandmothers grave. ...
  A: You may need to get permission from the person that controls the current plot, but ask the cemetery ...
moving my husband's remains.11/10/2012
  Q: My husband passed suddenly in May-2012. We were Tn Residents and I used a local funeral home for ...
  A: Absolutely. I have no idea who owns the cemetery, but if the cemetery gives you any trouble about ...
disinternment of mother11/10/2012
  Q: I wish to disintern my mothers ashes in Washington state. Yesterday I was told by the cemetary ...
  A: Sounds outrageous to me! Four screws hold the front plate of the niche on. Gimme a break. And the ...
out of state use of funeral home11/8/2012
  Q: Is it true that a funeral home in Idaho cannot pick up a body in Oregon and handle the funeral ...
  A: Oregon has reciprocal licensure, but the Idaho FD may not have applied for it. Yes, it is legal for ...
Cremation remains 2 wills11/8/2012
  Q: In Florida, my mother passed I understand that I am the on being next of kin to sign cremation ...
  A: I am not a lawyer, but I do know that a more recent will takes precedence over an earlier one. ...
Burial11/6/2012
  Q: Is there a cemetery where I can bury my brother's ashes that I have inheirted?
  A: Almost any cemetery will sell you interment rights for cremated remains. If your brother was a ...
Disinterring bodies from NY and FL11/3/2012
  Q: My Dad, who is 82 this month and not in the best of health, would like to bring his parents bodies ...
  A: It would be far less expensive to cremate the bodies near where they are buried now. The caskets ...
exhumation -- NM10/26/2012
  Q: What needs to be done to exhume a child's body and move it to another site where the father is going ...
  A: In New Mexico, a disinterment permit must be obtained from the state registrar or Medical Examiner ...
Memorial Marker without Burying Cremains?10/26/2012
  Q: My parents own their cemetery lots in Ohio, but wish to be cremated. The cost for vaults, ...
  A: It sounds to me as if they/you may be dealing with a for-profit cemetery if a vault is being ...
Protocol Transporting from Hospital to Funeral Home10/25/2012
  Q: My mother passed away in a hospital in Boise, Idaho on the 15th of September. Her entire illness was ...
  A: Absolutely stand your ground. And I'd be glad to help any way I can. You can tell the Hailey Funeral ...
Indiana-can humans be buried at a pet cemetary10/25/2012
  Q: Lisa, I do rescue work with small animals (cats). I end up adopting most of the pets I rescue and ...
  A: I am not aware of any statutes in Indiana that would affect your wishes. That said, each cemetery is ...
Cremation & Death Certificate10/21/2012
  Q: My aunt died last Thursday we are being told that FL will not cremate without a death certificate ...
  A: By law, the physician has 72 hours to sign the death certificate, so that should have been done ...
adding death info to tombstone10/14/2012
  Q: My husband is buried in a large cemetery in Florida. I purchased a double headstone,and my name and ...
  A: That cemetery is likely a for-profit cemetery that won't let your kids do the digging. In fact, the ...
HEADSTONE10/13/2012
  Q: Today I visited the private grave sites of my parents in OHIO to find that the ground has shifted ...
  A: That depends on a lot of issues. Who owns the cemetery--church, town, non-profit organization, ...
Disinterment of parents10/11/2012
  Q: Lisa, My father passed away in 2001 and my mother passed in 2002. They are presently buried ...
  A: Are there any written wishes of your parents that should be honored? Even though it's been only a ...
Removal of name from stone10/10/2012
  Q: My brother passed away at 16 & was buried in a 2 plot grave site owned by my parents. Two years ...
  A: I'm not quite clear what the judge has ruled so far, as an "improvement to the site." And does the ...
cemetary casket vaults10/8/2012
  Q: does connecticut state law mandate that i place a wooden casket into a concrete vault at time of ...
  A: No state law requires a vault in any state, and NY forbids cemeteries from requiring them, probably ...
Transporting a deceased body10/4/2012
  Q: We are driving to the Texas panhandle to attend the funeral of my husband's dad today. He passes ...
  A: You are right on the ball. Yes, get the death certificate and burial transit permit from the funeral ...
Burial time limits Maryland9/30/2012
  Q: My question is...a family member passed 9/10/12. Body embalmed and funeral was 9/14/12. We are ...
  A: I think it's the funeral director's personal time limit as I don't believe there's a statutory ...
Brother wants our parents' ashes9/28/2012
  Q: My brother just wrote to me claiming that he consulted a lawyer regarding custody of our parents' ...
  A: Most important question is, what do you think your parents wanted done with their ashes? Why do you ...
mccracken county ky laws concerning personnal grave yard9/28/2012
  Q: I am wanting to have my own grave yard on my property for my family. What are the laws in McCracken ...
  A: I tho't I answered this once, but here goes again. Check the local zoning law, but my guess is that ...
body to church building overnight9/28/2012
  Q: we were told we could not leave the body by itself overnight at our church by the funeral home
  A: What does the church say? Other churches have had overnight bodies, such as the Catholic church here ...
who owns a plot I paid for for my grandson9/24/2012
  Q: I purchased the plot my grandson was buried in. The plot was purchased in my name. After 5 years, ...
  A: Unless the cemetery has some strange regulations, you would own it. You should know that most ...
green burial on private owned land9/21/2012
  Q: We live in a township in Ohio. We own 150+ acres. I am interested in green burial on our property. ...
  A: The state statutes are silent on home burial, and I'm guessing the zoning laws are, too, but you ...
Ownership of cremated remains9/21/2012
  Q: I have a lot of people ask who owns cremation ashes. As I sure you know there can be some strong ...
  A: Case law gives a quasi-right to a body (or cremated remains) for the purpose of burial and mourning. ...
Purchasing new vault9/20/2012
  Q: My family and I are preparing to have my father that died 24 years ago disinterred from Michigan and ...
  A: Ooooh, I'm not sure I trust this funeral director. Does he know what kind of vault was used 24 years ...
Burial requirements for Cremated body in Virginia9/19/2012
  Q: If a person dies in Florida, the body is cremated there, the urn is sent to a cemetery plot in ...
  A: Unfortunately, many cemeteries in many states are now requiring a totally unnecessary "urn vault." ...
exhuming my brother after 6yrs9/18/2012
  Q: Carlson, my brother passed away April 2006 In Mew Mexico. Most of my family resides in California. ...
  A: Unfortunately, you have no legal rights. So I would approach the ex-wife and see if she will agree ...
Fetal Demise -- Parents unable to be contacted9/17/2012
  Q: My question concerns Texas law. The basic problem is that there was a fetal demise early enough that ...
  A: It depends on the age or weight of the fetus. At 20 weeks or 350 grams, a fetal death report is ...
Green Burial9/17/2012
  Q: I am on a committee that is caring for a rural, community, non-profit cemetery in SE North Carolina. ...
  A: GOOD for you!! I applaud your willingness to be forward-thinking. No legal reason not to set aside ...
Burial Marker9/17/2012
  Q: My mom and her sister(my aunt) purchased a double plot together. My mother recently died of cancer ...
  A: What hideous black-mail! Your aunt should be ashamed of herself. Check with the cemetery as each ...
my husbands burial9/16/2012
  Q: when my husband died I had to arrange his funeral he wished to be buried with his father the grave ...
  A: I'm guessing the real problem may be related to what your wishes are for when you die. What do you ...
Father-in-law Passed Away in 20089/6/2012
  Q: I have a question for you regarding my late father-in-laws passing. He died in 2008 and was buried ...
  A: Do you want to move the casket yourself in a van perhaps or pay a funeral director to move it? You ...
burial of my brother who is dying of cancer9/5/2012
  Q: I was told by a funeral director in Decatur, Al. that I had too have a funeral director too inter a ...
  A: Not true. But consider the source. The laws are silent about home burial--nothing says you can or ...
home burial8/31/2012
  Q: My husband & I want to be buried on the 5 acres we & our youngest son live on in Chouteau OK Mayes ...
  A: The state laws are silent on family cemeteries. Check your local zoning, but I'm guessing they are ...
family graveyard8/26/2012
  Q: what is the law regarding a private family graveyard in rural area of north Georgia?
  A: To my knowledge, Bibb County is the only county with laws about burial. The zoning is likely silent ...
burial of ashes with another in coffin8/23/2012
  Q: The father of a friend died and was cremated and the ashes retained. The mother has Alzheimers and ...
  A: By all means the ashes can be included in the coffin regardless of where. If you go to ...
rights on headstone8/21/2012
  Q: In June of 2011 my brother died of prostate cancer at age 41. He was married for about a year and a ...
  A: Does your sister-in-law own the plot where he was buried? Ask the cemetery what their policies are. ...
Future funeral/burial planning8/16/2012
  Q: My husband is 77 and I will be 66 in a couple months. We have been discussing the outrageous cost ...
  A: How fortunate that you have some rural land with children nearby! Go to the Bookstore at ...
transport of remains by family8/14/2012
  Q: Our family would like to transport the remains of our 94 year old mother from Texas to Georgia. We ...
  A: Download the TX chapter from the Bookstore at www.funerals.org for only $5. That will walk you ...
Never notified of mother's passing8/11/2012
  Q: To whom it may concern: My sister and I are desperately trying to obtain answers regarding a ...
  A: I am in Vermont, not Virginia. You refer to "mother" in one place but talk about "their" and loving ...
burial of cremains8/4/2012
  Q: My father passed away almost a year ago now. My older sister and I are his next of kin. We had to ...
  A: I wouldn't worry about the will since you have the power of attorney and are next-of-kin and a ...
gain custody of human body remains8/2/2012
  Q: I am in the state of Iowa. My brother passed away one year ago this past April. My sister-in-law ...
  A: The spouse gets to call the shots unless the deceased had something else in writing. Was the funeral ...
Daughter's baby is expected to miscarriage7/30/2012
  Q: We live in the state of Oklahoma. My 18 year old daughter is about 18 weeks pregnant, and we found ...
  A: A fetal death report is required for each fetal death. That said, the family is entitled to handle ...
Family cemetery in Michigan7/30/2012
  Q: We just bought a 72 acre farm in Michigan and many of the acres we aren't using for farming. We ...
  A: Michigan has one of the best home burial statutes. Go to the Bookstore at www.funerals.org and ...
Exhuming my mother's body7/21/2012
  Q: We live in Michigan and my mother passed away in January 2010 in the hospital, and there are still ...
  A: You can't force the hospital to do an autopsy, but you had then and still have the right to pay for ...
aboveground graveyard7/15/2012
  Q: we wont to have a family cemetery on one acre we wont to have aboveground tombs we live in ar.can we ...
  A: All burials must be in an established cemetery. Family graveyards are exempt from taxation and must ...
Decision powers over Plot7/11/2012
  Q: My mother passed 5 yrs ago. My uncle has cemetery plots for the family in a small Louisiana town. I ...
  A: What an ass your uncle is, sorry to say. Your only option, if he does as he wants and it offends ...
scattering cremation ashes7/7/2012
  Q: May I scatter cremation ashes on two gravesites in the cemetary located in Guthrie Center, Iowa?
  A: Don't ask, don't tell or they are likely to charge you for a "second right of interment." That ...
age of fetus for burial7/7/2012
  Q: what age does state law require a burial for a fetus?
  A: A fetal death certificate is required for a weight of 350 grams, about 12 ounces. If weight unknown, ...
Cremains7/3/2012
  Q: My sister died unexpectedly a year ago. Her daughter has never claimed the remains after she was ...
  A: You really have no choice but to deal with the ungrateful daughter if she is the legal next-of-kin. ...
Moving a grave6/25/2012
  Q: I have some family who is attempting to move my father's remains within the same cemetery so the ...
  A: No. Your mother gets to call the shots. Be sure to alert the cemetery of this mischief. There is ...
burial plots6/23/2012
  Q: My husband and I bought 1 cemetery lot with 2 spaces. We paid for 1 space and got the other space ...
  A: Who owns the cemetery? If it's owned by SCI (Service Corporation International) or another large ...
cremation6/20/2012
  Q: My father lived in another state for 12 years .he was told that he had a rare and aggressive type of ...
  A: In what state? The wishes of the deceased are to prevail in most states. Do you have anything in ...
ownership of tombstone6/20/2012
  Q: I don't know if you can help me but, hopefully, you will know someone who can! My husband recently ...
  A: You may have to check with the cemetery to see what their regulations are. Typically, as the current ...
Moving a decreased person from MD to MI6/19/2012
  Q: Yes, I am wondering what are the costs involved in moving my mother if she happens to die at my home ...
  A: If there are no services to be held in MD, then call the Michigan funeral director at the time of ...
stolen ashes6/5/2012
  Q: 4.16.2011, my daughter died in my home. She was 21 years old. I am divorced and her dad and brother ...
  A: Tell your son that the parents are the legal next-of-kin and that if he doesn't return the cremated ...
green burial law6/4/2012
  Q: Lisa, I read your answer to the man about burial in a private cemetery, but is legal to bury someone ...
  A: It's different for every state. The last questioner was in Michigan where it has one of the best ...
Family Cemeteries6/4/2012
  Q: I know we spoke about a year back when I first started to research a family burial plot I was ...
  A: How nice that local officials are being cooperative. Who said you need a deed? I think the map is ...
moving gravestones6/4/2012
  Q: There is an African American cemetery (Mississippi) on the river side of the Miss. River levee that ...
  A: That sounds like a wonderful idea. Are any family relations still alive in that area? I'm guessing ...
moving of body5/28/2012
  Q: My mother had no will, her boyfriend and her had plots that they were in the process of paying for ...
  A: By all means, go to Probate Court and ask to be named as administrator of her estate. You can start ...
Questioning Rights of Burial Spot Owner5/26/2012
  Q: Ten years ago my cousin passed away suddenly of cancer, unable to make proper arrangements for after ...
  A: In which state? Many states have laws that say the funeral bill must be paid first from estate ...
Transporting my father from Az to Fl5/23/2012
  Q: I was trying to get a general estimate of what the cost would be to get him back to Fl. vs. ...
  A: Depending on where in AZ, a cremation might cost less than $1,000. For shipping the body, it's least ...
embalming in California5/22/2012
  Q: Is there any regulation in how soon must a body be embalmed before body begins to decompose? ...
  A: Typically, if a body is to be embalmed it is embalmed the day of the death or the next day. ...
Exhuming fathers body to transport foreign country5/20/2012
  Q: My father passed away May 5, 2012. He was married but was not my mother. My father left no will so ...
  A: Unless your father left written instructions, his spouse gets to call the shots. Have you asked her ...
Brothers Ashes (I am runnung out of time)5/17/2012
  Q: My brother passed away 3 weeks ago and before he died I was sitting with him at the VA Hospital in ...
  A: You don't have any rights in this instance, and because I doubt your brother put anything in ...
private burial sites5/13/2012
  Q: I live in Louisiana and I would like to know, what is the process for taking private property and ...
  A: Check with local zoning first. If there are no restrictions there, you will need to register with ...
Unclaimed remains, Texas5/12/2012
  Q: I recently found out that my Mother who passed away in 1983 and was cremated never had her remains ...
  A: How do you know her remains were never claimed? Who would have authorized her cremation at that ...
Transporting anatomical gift across state lines, unembalmed5/10/2012
  Q: My father has cancer and has decided he would like to donate his body to the Anthropological ...
  A: What a nifty father you have! The family may transport the body. Go to www.funerals.org and download ...
Scattering ashes5/9/2012
  Q: A relative recently passed in Illinois and was cremated per her wishes; her ashes to be scattered in ...
  A: Not illegal at all. California and South Dakota are the only states with silly laws regarding ...
Family burial plots5/6/2012
  Q: My mother is the last sibling of 10, my grandfather purchased 8 cemetery plots prior to his death. ...
  A: You say your mother is the last of 10. Or did you mean your mother and sister are the last two out ...
Ethical Accordance4/26/2012
  Q: Should the wife be buried in her husbands family cemetery or does personal choice take precedence? ...
  A: Personal preference. And if there is a surviving spouse, the spouse--not the daughter--prevails ...
Cremains over burial plot4/26/2012
  Q: My Mother passed, she was cremated. I know she would love to rest with her Mother who is in cemetery ...
  A: Sandi, I'm guessing you don't visit Illinois that often, but my suggestion is that when you do, ...
Wrong grave4/26/2012
  Q: This past year, due to a terminal illness my husband had, I purchased 4 graves in a cemetery in ...
  A: For reburial in the same cemetery, a new permit is not usually required. I hope you didn't pay to ...
Probate and Burial Law4/25/2012
  Q: My father recently passed away in Alabama. He was diagnosed with terminal cancer in December 2011. ...
  A: Here is the law-- (2) The decedent's surviving children. If there is more than one child who ...
Family cemetery plots4/15/2012
  Q: Both of my parents are recently deceased, and I remember my dad talking about two grave plots in a ...
  A: The cemetery might be able to produce the paperwork if you have some documentation about your ...
dying in NC and moving body to PA3/29/2012
  Q: If my husband or I pass away in NC and want cremation, what is the best way to proceed with this ...
  A: You can download the state chapters from "Final Rights" from the Bookstore at www.funerals.org for ...
Transporation of Unembalmed Remains across State Lines3/27/2012
  Q: My family would like to pick up loved one's remains from a county morgue in Texas and transport to a ...
  A: No need to embalm to cross state lines. And yes, once the death certificate is filed, you can get ...
MRSA and Home Funeral3/27/2012
  Q: A friend is dying, and we plan (with her enthusiastic support) to take care of the body ...
  A: I would check with the medical examiner or some other medical person about MRSA for your own safety. ...
burial of an urn on an existing grave in Ohio3/24/2012
  Q: My mother wanted to be buried with her parents in Greenwood Cemetery, Hamilton, Ohio. They each ...
  A: You don't need a funeral director at all. Check with the cemetery regarding their regulations. Often ...
relocate my mothers grave from wv to il3/21/2012
  Q: I wanted to know if it is possible to have my mothers grave relocated from Bluefield WV to Chicago ...
  A: You may absolutely have her moved. A permit for disinterment is issued to a funeral director by the ...
Headstones and burial plots3/20/2012
  Q: My mother died 10 years ago this May. She was married at the time. Our family purchased a plot ...
  A: I don't know if there is a Probate Court in your state, but you might check there. Typically, you ...
moving our father's remains3/16/2012
  Q: MY FATHER PASSED AWAY MARCH 13TH, 2010. MY 2 BROTHERS AND MYSELF WOULD LIKE TO HAVE HIM MOVED TO A ...
  A: If he was not married at the time of his passing, then the adult children would have a right to ...
burying of crematory ashes in Missouri3/14/2012
  Q: My Mom lives in Cameron, Missouri (Clinton County) and wants to be cremated. She wants her ashes ...
  A: California (and South Dakota) has all kinds of silly regulations regarding cremated remains. Not so ...
Funeral Home Regulations on storing deceased3/7/2012
  Q: What are the regulations for funeral homes storing unembalmed bodies? After how long are funeral ...
  A: There is a 48 hour wait prior to cremation. There are no embalming requirements in Indiana. ...
Mo-fetal demise and home burial3/4/2012
  Q: I work as a L&D nurse and we know that MO, has statutes in place to protect mother's right to ...
  A: Less than 20 weeks, no fetal death certificate is issued and no other permits required. So home ...
Burial plot ownership2/28/2012
  Q: I purchased a burial plot for my father in 1990 in Michigan, after he died in an auto accident. I ...
  A: By all means, get a photo of the check and show the cemetery and demand that the cemetery put your ...
How soon Death certificate must be filed in PA?2/24/2012
  Q: The funeral director tells me that in Pennsylvaia the deceased must be buried within 10 days of ...
  A: The death certificate must be filed within 96 hours, four days. I would simply pick the most likely ...
transportation of deceased from Florida to Indiana or Wisconsin2/23/2012
  Q: If I want to transport decedent from Florida to Indiana or Wisconsin does the body have to be ...
  A: In Florida, a body must be embalmed or refrigerated after 24 hours. From a practical point of view, ...
fetal death at 16 weeks2/23/2012
  Q: What rights do the parents of a 16 week fetus, which has died in the womb and has to be removed by a ...
  A: In Texas, a fetal death certificate is required after 20 weeks gestation or 350 grams weight, ...
Private Cemetary2/18/2012
  Q: I am the Ranch Director at Potter's Ranch in Union Kentucky. We are a private Christian youth and ...
  A: There are no laws you have to follow. But a good practice is to draw a map of the land showing where ...
home burial2/9/2012
  Q: I have 11.5 acres outside of town near Weaverville CA, in trinity County. I read some of the ...
  A: I know you didn't ask about pets but tho't you'd find it interesting. These are from the Health and ...
Burial in Alabama2/9/2012
  Q: Is it legal to burial a person(family member on your private property or does the state require the ...
  A: No state laws either allow or prohibit home burial. Check with the local zoning. If you're in a ...
Private Cemetery Care2/6/2012
  Q: We would like to know how to insure that family cemetery is cared for and protected for future ...
  A: One must be buried in an "established" cemetery in Indiana. Is there already a cemetery on your ...
private burial missouri2/6/2012
  Q: When you bury a loved one on your private property in missouri, is a land survey showing the burial ...
  A: According to the statutes, land--not to exceed one acre--should be deeded in trust to the county ...
moving a grave2/4/2012
  Q: Is it legal in north carolina to only move the head stone to another location in grave site move. ...
  A: WOW! Am I hearing right that the cemetery moved only a headstone -- *without* the family's ...
Memorial Gardens2/2/2012
  Q: Our church has a small "memorial garden" with the cremains of approximately 35 members of our ...
  A: You could certainly use the members of your church, maybe on Memorial Day as a special activity. See ...
caskets1/31/2012
  Q: do you legally have to have a casket for burial in OH-if I were to die at home it would be easier to ...
  A: No, a casket isn't required for burial by law, but the cemetery might require one. To get ...
renting a casket1/31/2012
  Q: do they rent casket in Georgia
  A: There's no law saying they can't rent caskets in GA. Some probably do and some don't, hoping you'll ...
Missouri burial laws1/26/2012
  Q: Do we have to use a funeral home/director in the state of Missouri? I would like to bypass the ...
  A: Yes, that would be permissible. Go to www.funerals.org--you can download the MO chapter for only $5 ...
embalming for cremation1/25/2012
  Q: My mother is "in hospice" presently, but dying of gall bladder cancer. She is down to 90lbs. We live ...
  A: Most funeral homes require embalming for any public viewing. The state law is a little muddled on ...
private family cemetary1/11/2012
  Q: What are the requirements to start a family cemetary on one acre of land?
  A: Georgia has no laws specifically allowing or prohibiting home burial. If your acre is in a rural ...
fetal miscarage1/9/2012
  Q: My wife past 7 years ago and was buried in a cemetery. I was just informed that my brother in laws ...
  A: At five months the state typically requires a fetal death certificate. But because the baby was so ...
Right to install Grave marker1/9/2012
  Q: My wife passed away 3 years ago and is buried along with her father and mother in one of four ...
  A: How terribly sad for you and your family. I am not that conversant with Canadian law. That said, as ...
Family Cemetery1/6/2012
  Q: Lisa, We have a small family cemetery in rural KY. It is very small (1/2) acre. My question is how ...
  A: Write them a letter saying that you need to limit burials because of the small size and ask that ...
disinterment and reburial of father12/30/2011
  Q: My father dies in 1978 and now my step mother has died. My father was buried in the town he resided ...
  A: This is very much a gray area of the law, as the statutes aren't at all specific. A disinterment ...
cemetery plot ownership12/17/2011
  Q: I live in Ohio. My great-grandfather owned 6 plots - 4 of which are used. His son, my grandfather ...
  A: Who owns the cemetery--a religious group, a municipality, a nonprofit organization, or a for-profit ...
Cemetery installation fees and additional 'administration' fees12/17/2011
  Q: Carlson, I own and operate Midwest Monument Co. in Indianapolis, IN and have provided monument and ...
  A: Clearly that cemetery (Anderson? Maplewood? I'm guessing) is not only violating the state statute ...
Plot mix up12/16/2011
  Q: my father had purchased 3 plots years ago....2 are already used and the last remaining one is for ...
  A: Who owns the cemetery? Do you by any chance have a copy of the original purchase documents or deed? ...
How to stop a grave from being moved12/7/2011
  Q: My daughters father passed away two years ago, we visit his site often to pay our respects and tell ...
  A: Who paid for his funeral and the cemetery plot? I'm guessing if you weren't married that his family ...
dad with cancer12/4/2011
  Q: hi i live in va and my 87 yr dad is living with me when he pases away what is the least cost to ...
  A: Is there a possibility that cremation would be acceptable? That would be the least expensive. You ...
Refusal to bury11/30/2011
  Q: Carlson: My father passed away in May, 2011. His mother, sister, brother, and numerous other ...
  A: Alas, in all states, religious cemeteries are allowed to create their own rules and regulations. I ...
Burial??11/27/2011
  Q: My mother passed away in 1975, And since that time their isn't any room near her for me to be buried ...
  A: You could have cremated remains added to the same lot without a lot of digging. But for body burial, ...
moving a buried body to a different funeral plot in a different cemetary11/27/2011
  Q: Ms. Carlson, I have a dilemma. When we buried my father 20 years ago, we purchased only one plot to ...
  A: It's likely to cost around $7,000 as a new casket will probably be needed after all these years ...
Planning my final arrangements11/26/2011
  Q: I'm not ill, I'm apparently in excellent health, but I am going to be 65 in two months and have ...
  A: It sounds to me as if you need a new executor, your lawyer perhaps? Any best friend you could ask? ...
FAMILY FUNERAL11/26/2011
  Q: WE ARE HAVEING ALOT OF TROUBLE FINDING OUT ABOUT A FAMILY FUNERAL HERE IN PADUCAH KY THE CORNOR ...
  A: Show all of those involved the KY chapter and that it was reviewed by the Attorney General's office. ...
Can cremation ashes be divided?(Indiana)11/26/2011
  Q: Will the funeral home divide cremation ashes - larger part for burial and a smaller part given to ...
  A: Regarding the division of cremated remains, it really depends on who has control. That said, "who ...
Stepmother is planning to have my mothers grave moved11/24/2011
  Q: My mother died in 1975. My father purchased two plots together at the time of her death. He had a ...
  A: In TX, a disinterment may be done with the permission of the cemetery, of the lot owner (obviously ...
Refrigeration of body11/24/2011
  Q: In Florida, must the body always be buried or cremated within 24 hours to avoid embalming, or can it ...
  A: YES! Refrigeration is a legal alternative to embalming. Some hospitals will hold the body, also. ...
Open-Air Cremation11/15/2011
  Q: Carlson: I am a mortuary school student and I was wondering about the legality of what they are ...
  A: Many states have adopted the language suggested by CANA which says that "cremation must occur in a ...
Laws in Kansas11/10/2011
  Q: I am not sure where to find laws about dying at home as well as family home funerals. I was hoping ...
  A: Yes, home funerals are permitted in KS. Go to www.funerals.org to download the state chapter from ...
disinterment11/8/2011
  Q: My son is burried in Stuart, Fl. After the passing of my husband who preferred to be cremated, I ...
  A: You will have to use the cemetery for disinterment, but you can use any cremation service for the ...
funeral11/4/2011
  Q: this morning i recieved a call stating my grandmahad passed this am.im not sure where to start and ...
  A: If your grandmother was on Medicaid, she may be eligible for a tiny amount of state or county ...
Burying Cremains in 2 graves11/2/2011
  Q: I have the choice of being buried with a relative who passed on in childhood or with my one of my ...
  A: How very thoughtful of you. Yes, indeed, cremated remains can be divided and buried separately. New ...
Fetal death 17 1/2 weeks11/2/2011
  Q: My daughter is 17 weeks and 3 days as of today. Her water broke and she is in the hospital. The ...
  A: How very difficult for your daughter. You are in a very interesting situation as a fetal death ...
entitled to adult child's remains10/24/2011
  Q: My adult daughter was cremated less than 7 years ago. Also my 10 year old granddaughter was as ...
  A: Probably a court would favor the once-custodial parent. Since you don't want to see the ashes ...
Body Donation10/22/2011
  Q: Do you have any information on problems pertaining to willed body programs? Here's the stripped down ...
  A: How very, very unfortunate. And, alas, there is no way to know what their policies would ensure in ...
Can you reference exact Maryland Law?10/20/2011
  Q: You see, I work for a wonderful independent crematory in Maryland which does allow a family to ...
  A: Bless you for your efforts on behalf of families. Go to www.funerals.org and download the MD chapter ...
Oklahoma laws regarding creamains10/17/2011
  Q: Our mother recently died and is being cremated. It was her wish not to have a funeral but to be ...
  A: That will depend on the cemetery. Some will insist they have to dig the hole to make sure it's in ...
Indiana burial codes/laws10/12/2011
  Q: A friend is dying of cancer and has ordered a wood "casket kit". She does not want to be embalmed or ...
  A: Smart friend! In view of her prognosis, I'm guessing her involvement is very therapeutic for her at ...
Burial on private land10/10/2011
  Q: I am asking this on behalf of my best friends family... We recently lost my best friend. His ...
  A: In what state? Is the farm owner willing to draw a map and file it with the deed showing where a ...
grave on my property10/7/2011
  Q: I own some land in KY but live in another state. A neighbor to my land passed away and his children ...
  A: The *only* right they have is to visit the gravesite at reasonable times! You may by all means ...
Brother cremated9/30/2011
  Q: My 2 sisters had my brother cremated with out my permission in Alabama ,the funeral home was aware ...
  A: While you are right about the law--that all siblings would have to authorize cremation--what do you ...
Exhume9/29/2011
  Q: e died in 1971 was embalmed and buried in a state-of the art casket back then I am going to view ...
  A: In what state? The weather and humidity will have a lot to do with the conditions. But given the ...
Moving infant to be buried with Mother9/27/2011
  Q: My great aunt (my 2nd mom) who is in the ending stages of dementia disclosed that she had an infant ...
  A: Contact at least three different funeral homes to get a price, as it can vary wildly. They will know ...
Paupers funeral9/25/2011
  Q: My Brother in law we think is in Utah. when he passes away would his sisters be responsible for his ...
  A: If you don't have funds for a funeral, his next-of-kin can donate his body to either a medical ...
moving a grave9/19/2011
  Q: Who can have a grave moved? My cousins are wanting to move my uncle and other cousin due to a ...
  A: A disinterment permit must be obtained from the state registrar in the Vital Records office of the ...
recording a family plot on our land9/16/2011
  Q: why is our county giving us the run around about first getting a lawyer, surveyor to "mark" off our ...
  A: The laws are silent in Ohio about home burial. Don't say you can and don't say you can't. But have ...
Public Cemetary Burials in Oklahoma!9/16/2011
  Q: Is a Vault and a Casket required for an embalmed person in a public cemetery RE: Resthaven Cemetery ...
  A: Most cemeteries do require at least a vault to keep the grave from caving in. It's a maintenance ...
burying your on family member9/12/2011
  Q: i live in the state of indiana.can your family open and close your grave plot and also get you ...
  A: Indiana is one of only eight states where a dead body becomes a hostage of the funeral industry. You ...
relocating a deceased9/9/2011
  Q: I recently learned that my grand mother's brother was buried in an unmarked grave, in a family plot ...
  A: You say he's buried in a family plot. Who is he buried next to? Just to let you know, it's likely to ...
grave transfer9/8/2011
  Q: my uncle, 2 at the time of death, passed away in the early 1930's. he is buried in Perry, GA. My ...
  A: Cost will depend on a lot of issues but might run about $7,000. If he was buried in a vault and the ...
private transporting of a body9/6/2011
  Q: We saw and answer to the question of transporting a body from ca to Ia. Are the rules state specific ...
  A: You should get the Oklahoma chapter from the bookstore at www.funerals.org --it's just $5 to ...
Death in Washington/Transport to Texas9/3/2011
  Q: Can I take control of my father's body at death and transport him to his home in Texas to be buried ...
  A: Yes you may. You can download the WA chapter from the bookstore at www.funerals.org for $5. That ...
TRANSPORTATION OF A BODY8/16/2011
  Q: I HAVE BEEN IN TOUCH WITH THE UNIVERSITY OF FLORIDA ABOUT DONATING MY BODY FOR SCIENCE . THEY HAVE ...
  A: They also license transporters in FL. But it is going to be easier if you can find someone to do ...
burial on my land8/11/2011
  Q: When I die I want to be buried on my own land I have 5 acres in butler county,pa. How do I go about ...
  A: Check with the zoning laws. They are likely silent, but you should check. Then draw a map of your ...
Immediate cremation in Pennsylvania8/6/2011
  Q: I am interesting in reviewing the laws in PA regarding immediate cremation (no services). I ...
  A: You should go to www.funerals.org and "Find a Local FCA" to see if there is one of these nonprofit ...
Can we take the 5 and 3 y.o. great-grandchildren to the great-grandmomás funeral?8/4/2011
  Q: My Mom died 2 days ago and when my daughter-in-law said that to the kids great-grandma died and they ...
  A: My children were 3 and 5 when their father died. It never occured to me that they might need to see ...
disinterring cremains7/27/2011
  Q: We live in NY state. My father died and was cremated in 2001. The cremains were buried in his family ...
  A: In every state, the spouse *always* gets priority in funeral decisions unless there is some evidence ...
Graves on lot for sale7/26/2011
  Q: I am considering purchasing a 1 acre lot in a subdivision in Houston County, Alabama. There are 3 ...
  A: I would consider it a *wonderful* bit of history to have such on my property! And since it's already ...
exhume a grave site on private land7/26/2011
  Q: We are considering buying 10 acres in New Mexico and found a grave site from 2001. How can we get ...
  A: Please don't! Consider it a wonderful asset and the beginning of a family graveyard for you and ...
burial with relative7/25/2011
  Q: I had my brother cremated in one state but would like to take him back to WY. for his final stay. ...
  A: Yes, his urn can be buried with another, but the cemetery may want to charge you for a second right ...
donating bural plot in MO.7/24/2011
  Q: My family has a plot in Everygreen Cem. in New Madrid, MO where my grandmother who died during ...
  A: What a *very* nice idea! Talk with the cemetery and see what they suggest. Certainly with infants, ...
Who can put up the headstone?7/22/2011
  Q: My daughter passed away 4 mths at the age of 24. She was married and her husband received $100,000 ...
  A: Check with the cemetery to see if they will let you. Typically, they will require the permission ...
Burried together in same casket?7/21/2011
  Q: During a conversation with my fiancé about our wishes in the event of death, we concluded that ...
  A: I had to laugh at your question. Are you planning to die together? Sensing your desire for ...
Tansportation of remains to Knoxville Body Farm7/20/2011
  Q: My brother has terminal cancer of the esophagus and bowel,he has been given an estimate of a week to ...
  A: Contact a TN funeral home, the one that will meet the plane. The Body Farm may be able to recommend ...
unused pre-paid funeral, spaces7/18/2011
  Q: My dad passed away in 2009 and was cremated. He had dementia and had not told us of any wishes. We ...
  A: You'll be lucky to get 40% of the prepaid funeral back. Florida has *terrible* preneed laws. If you ...
Head stone7/17/2011
  Q: My mother and step dad bought graves and heard stones before my mothers death 17 years ago. I just ...
  A: A couple of questions: How did you find out he'd removed the head stone? How long ago was it ...
exhuming a body in Indiana7/14/2011
  Q: My father recently died and we buried him. He wanted to be buried in a mausoleum and we were unable ...
  A: There should be no problem. Check with the cemetery. If disinterment and re-interment is done in the ...
relocation of deceased7/14/2011
  Q: My husband passed away 14 years ago and his mother took over. We have a daughter together and we ...
  A: Yes, you probably do. Disinterment must be done with the permission of the cemetery, the lot owner, ...
Returning a loved one home7/12/2011
  Q: My mother is to be buried at a private cemetery in Louisiana. She currently lives in Texas. Given ...
  A: Typically, you need to use a funeral director in the state of Louisiana. Not so in Texas. So if you ...
headstone move edicate7/11/2011
  Q: There is a antique cemetery on our block (actually on the corner of my parcel). And since the Boys ...
  A: What is the matter with you?? A cemetery an eye-sore? It's part of local history that you should be ...
donating my mothers body7/7/2011
  Q: Ok, my mother has some mental issues and will take this the wrong way. How can I go about having ...
  A: There is a list of med schools, including Louisiana, here--www.finalrights.org--with a website and ...
Embalming7/6/2011
  Q: Is it against the law to embalm a person without consent of the family? My aunt recently passed and ...
  A: Kentucky has NO embalming requirements whatsoever, so the funeral director doesn't even have that ...
Indiana law re: burial of cremains7/6/2011
  Q: My mother died here in PA, but we will return to Indiana (state) to place her ashes with those of my ...
  A: It sure makes my blood boil when the people in the funeral industry prove to be their own worst ...
Iowa code on scattering human ashes7/5/2011
  Q: The family wants to scatter Mom's ashes this weekend over her parents graves in the Humeston ...
  A: You may do as you wish with cremated remains in Iowa as in most states. You should be aware that ...
Funeral homes in East Calif Bay area7/2/2011
  Q: Do you know of any low cost funeral homes in the easy calif bay area that would be the most ...
  A: Yes, do join one of these nonprofit groups. Go to http://www.funerals.org/ and click on "Find a ...
death certificate7/1/2011
  Q: We have been waiting over one month, for the funeral home to give us a copy of the death ...
  A: The mother can get one from the local county health department for $20 within two months of the ...
Moving Father's Remains / Authority6/27/2011
  Q: Lisa, My Father was KIA in Vietnam in 1969 and was returned home and buried in a family plot in ...
  A: Your mother has ALL rights. No need to notify the uncle/brother-in-law. Simply find the funeral home ...
Moving cemeteries6/26/2011
  Q: My husbands father died in 1977 in Indiana and was cremated. His wish was to have his ashes ...
  A: I don't believe the law was different in 1977 and that you were lied to. Here's what I wrote about ...
Unkept cemetery in Atlanta, Fulton County, Georgia6/25/2011
  Q: I have 52 relatives buried in this cemetery and have worked for 8 years trying to document all ...
  A: I don't know if Cathy Cox could be of any help. She used to be Sec. of State and enforced ...
embalming laws6/17/2011
  Q: I recently buried my sister in Il. My question is does a body have to be embalmed if it is to be ...
  A: Neither Illinois nor Wisconsin require embalming under any circumstance. Up until the law was ...
Cremation Of A Parent6/16/2011
  Q: My Mother just passed away at a Kentucky Hospital she is actually a resident of Indiana, my father ...
  A: If your mother has left instructions of any kind or named an agent to handle her funeral ...
Burial of cremains on private property in MI6/16/2011
  Q: My mother had requested her body be donated to "science", as she called it. When she passed in ...
  A: Yes, in all states cremated remains can be buried with the land-owner's permission. Or might you ...
Rights to Mothers ashes?6/15/2011
  Q: My mother passed away 08/2010 and it has now been 10 months. She had 7 kids over age 21. All 7 of us ...
  A: In most states you can go to Probate Court without a lawyer. Check here for the situation in your ...
who should own the cemetery plot?6/12/2011
  Q: We are going to buy a cemetery plot. Who should buy it, the younger generation or older generation? ...
  A: If it is just two plots for the parents, then the plots should probably be in the parents' names, ...
policies governing release of remains from hospital6/12/2011
  Q: My father recently passed away. We sat down with a nearby funeral home to make the arrangements. ...
  A: Yes, that is appalling. The hospital was at fault for not verifying with the family which funeral ...
Cemetery & Burial Requirements6/10/2011
  Q: Good Day Lisa, First of all thanks for providing such a noble service. As a Muslim I have a couple ...
  A: What towns are giving you a hard time about Muslim burials? Is it because they want to require ...
Disinterment & reinterment6/9/2011
  Q: My husband's stepfather recently passed away. My husband's mother is still alive and wants us to be ...
  A: It shouldn't be a problem, but does the mother have any positive contact with the paternal ...
BURIAL ON PRIVATE PROPERTY6/3/2011
  Q: WHAT MUST I DO TO BE ABLE TO HAVE A BURIAL GROUND ON MY PROPERTY IN SOUTH CAROLINA ANSWER: How much ...
  A: Here's what I wrote about burial in the SC chapter-- There are no state statutes that specifically ...
creamation6/3/2011
  Q: I have been told that in Indiana I would have to buy a expencive coffin to be creamated in. And that ...
  A: That is total hogwash, and if a funeral director told you that, you should file a complaint with the ...
Mother is intending on moving my dad's cremated buried remains when she passes5/31/2011
  Q: My dad passed away in October of 2008 and was cremated. He is buried at the Great Lakes National ...
  A: Do you have any brothers and sisters? Who else will be around to handle things when your mother ...
Loved one no where to be found5/31/2011
  Q: What could you do? I buried my loved one in a vault and when services was rendered I was told the ...
  A: Did the funeral home make arrangements with the cemetery, not you? If so, ask the funeral home for ...
Abandoned Cremated remains.5/26/2011
  Q: I have read the Texas Laws regarding abandoned cremated remains (716.302-304) but am unsure of the ...
  A: No legal requirements on storage of cremated remains. Since the crematory probably did not contract ...
moving my husband's remains5/25/2011
  Q: My husband purchased 2 burial plots 30+ years ago in he and his wife's name. They later divorced, ...
  A: Tell the cemetery that as legal next-of-kin you have a right to move him and that you will sue the ...
new Burial in abondoned cemetery5/23/2011
  Q: if the cemetery has been abondoned because of lack of someone to run it can a new burial still take ...
  A: I feel certain you could. Who do you think owns/owned it--town? church? set up by an organization? ...
MY FATHERS ASHES5/23/2011
  Q: My father passed March 17th 2011. in 1993 my mother had passed and my father re-married in 2001. The ...
  A: Unless your father had written wishes to the contrary, the witch gets to prevail. Sorry about that. ...
cremains transport by plane from Ca to Ok and then to Mo by car5/23/2011
  Q: I read on your website that to transport my deceased mother from Ca to Ok to her home town of ...
  A: CA has totally silly requirements regarding cremated remains. Yes, get the certificate of cremation ...
burial laws5/20/2011
  Q: Is there laws in Georgia for burial of ashes in a cemetery without permission. A wife's ashes on top ...
  A: No state laws. Cemeteries can make their own regulations in all states. Most cemeteries want to ...
Wife vs Mother-in law (who also holds the deeds to plots)5/18/2011
  Q: I live in Ohio. My husband passed away on Dec. 26,2010. My Mother-in law bought plots for my ...
  A: When my last husband passed away, I swore I'd never marry again. But I did. (I also swore I'd never ...
Holding ashes5/18/2011
  Q: My good friends sister is engaged to a gentleman who parents owned a funeral home some years back. ...
  A: You are undoubtedly right that these were unclaimed. So your friend's sister might have a little fun ...
My Fathers Passing5/17/2011
  Q: My Dad passed away in Jan. 2007 due to a gunshot wound to his head. There was a very poor ...
  A: There is a 48 hour wait prior to cremation in NH. Yes, your mother is the legal next-of-kin, and ...
Moving my Fathers remains to a Veterns Cemetary5/16/2011
  Q: My father passed away 28 years ago. He was buried at our local cemetery in plots he and my Mother ...
  A: I've guestimated such a disinterment to run about $7,000 as after all these years the casket will ...
Burying cremains in Iowa5/16/2011
  Q: We have the cremains of both of our parents in a beautiful rosewood box, built by my husband after ...
  A: The cemetery may require an urn vault, but it is totally optional, not a law, that is. Yes, you may ...
Personally transporting a deceased relative5/15/2011
  Q: Can a family personally transport a deceased family member from Texas to Illinois for burial and ...
  A: Yes, but there are some considerations. If there is no family member there to take care of filing ...
Alabama burial law5/11/2011
  Q: In Alabama do you have to use a funeral home when a family member dies? Can you take family member ...
  A: All crematories are owned or affiliated with a funeral home in Alabama. With careful shopping you ...
responsible for funeral bill5/9/2011
  Q: Mom is in a nursing home in Ohio. She has a son and wife living in Ohio. Before mom went into home ...
  A: Probably nothing. I'm not totally clear on all the relationships. Are you a sister of the woman in ...
Cremation requirements in Florida5/8/2011
  Q: Our mother has less than 6 months to live. We are trying to go by her wishes. We also don't have ...
  A: Have your sister get on the telephone and call all funeral homes in the Yellow Pages. They are ...
Evicted from Family Plot5/4/2011
  Q: We have a confsing situation...my husbands Grandfather bought a family mausoleum in Florida many ...
  A: What a gawdawful situation for your family. If the grandmother still has all her marbles, *she* ...
I have three daughters buried in one place4/27/2011
  Q: Two of them were stillborn and cremated. The other daughter was alive for 13days she passed in Sept. ...
  A: Talk to the cemetery. Is this a donated lot, as many cemeteries do for infants? Or is it a lot your ...
Best way to do cemetary property resale?4/22/2011
  Q: 50 years ago my father bought 4 burial plots. My Father and Mother have since both passed away - ...
  A: It is very difficult these days to sell unwanted burial plots given the increasing cremation rate. ...
Funeral services contract binding to both sides4/19/2011
  Q: In Hawaii I signed a contract for funeral services which involved direct cremation.funeral director ...
  A: The mortuary clearly screwed up, probably because they wanted more money than the direct cremation ...
Cremains4/19/2011
  Q: The question I have concerns laws / regulations for scattering of cremains in Wisconsin. Are there ...
  A: You may do as you wish. As for public lands, don't ask, don't tell. The Park Service is afraid that ...
Indiana Burial Laws4/17/2011
  Q: My question is very general. Where can I find Indiana Burial Regulations and Laws? Specifically, I ...
  A: It sounds as if you've already done most of your homework. There are a few nonprofit consumer groups ...
my 16 week gestation baby4/15/2011
  Q: I lost my son at 16 weeks gestation. I want to know should I have been able to bring him home to ...
  A: How terribly, terribly unfortunate for you. I don't know how long ago this was, but most hospitals ...
how to find owner/owners of an old cemetery4/14/2011
  Q: I want to find the owners of La Piedad #2 cemetery in Raymondville, Tex. My stepfather is buried ...
  A: Wow. This is a doozy of a question. You might do a title search on a neighboring property, as the ...
Burial on Private Property4/13/2011
  Q: Recently my grandmother died and was buried in a public cemetery but afterward was moved to private ...
  A: In what state? Generally, the rights of next-of-kin to visit are protected, either by statute or ...
cremation burial on own land4/10/2011
  Q: I have read most of your answers, but to be absolutely clear, I want to know if each family member ...
  A: In all states, cremated remains can be buried or scattered--rural or urban--with the land-owner's ...
planning for cremation4/9/2011
  Q: My husband and I are wanting to be cremated and we have no idea who to contact or how to start ...
  A: Sorry to be tardy in answering your question. I was at a funeral education conference on an Indian ...
Casket /funeral4/8/2011
  Q: I am caregiving for my mother with progressive dementia. I am considering building a casket for her ...
  A: NO state has regulations about casket dimensions. Home-made caskets tend to be too large. One foot ...
buried with creamains4/7/2011
  Q: Can you tell me in which states you can be buried with cremains? I heard that it was different in ...
  A: In all states you can do as you wish with cremated remains. Do you have someone else as next-of-kin ...
build a cemetery4/5/2011
  Q: I have approximately 3 acres that I want to sale so that they can be converted into a cemetery. What ...
  A: Sorry to be tardy in answering your question. I was at a funeral education conference on an Indian ...
Burial of cremains in LA4/4/2011
  Q: My mother and father bought side by side burial plots in LA, specifically in Gretna, LA (Jefferson ...
  A: Sorry to be tardy in answering your question. I was at a funeral education conference on an Indian ...
Burial Mounds and state law4/4/2011
  Q: I'm a soldier about to deploy for the first time and I'm making some plans for just in case. I would ...
  A: Here's what I wrote in the NC chapter regarding burial-- Burial There are no state statutes that ...
burial on my land in s.c.4/2/2011
  Q: could you please e-mail the old chapter for SC on a homestead cemetery?
  A: The new state chapters will be available via download, hopefully within a week or so, for a modest ...
Home Funerals3/31/2011
  Q: I heard there are some states that do not allow home funerals. Can you tell me which ones? Also if ...
  A: You can have a home funeral in all states, but eight require you to hire a funeral director to file ...
Funeral on hold3/30/2011
  Q: I have a friend who's brother passed away last week from complications due to dementia and ...
  A: One of his kids can go to Probate Court (without a lawyer) to ask to be assigned as the ...
Disinternment in Florida3/29/2011
  Q: I spoke with you earlier this morning regarding the removal of my grandfather's wife's remains from ...
  A: Here you go-- FUNERAL, CEMETERY, AND CONSUMER SERVICES 497.005 Definitions. (39) “Legally ...
Family cemetery3/22/2011
  Q: You ask me for copies of the family cemetery deeds. I will call the court house tomorrow and get ...
  A: Actually, I *love* this kind of detective work or research. You say no cemetery was mentioned in ...
cremation urns & vaults3/21/2011
  Q: My mother is in the last stages of cancer and wants us to figure out her cremation and funeral for ...
  A: No, you don't have to buy the urn and vault from the funeral home. In fact, you don't have to have ...
Not my Husbands wishes3/20/2011
  Q: Last year my husband passed away. All the 33yrs we were married he was not been that close to his ...
  A: What an unfortunate situation. As spouse, however, your rights are primary backed up by the written ...
body donation and transport3/20/2011
  Q: I wish to donate my body to "The Body Farm" in Knoxville, TN. I want to pre-arrange as much as ...
  A: What a generous idea, and how ironic. I am currently reading Bill Bass's great book "Death's Acre." ...
Family Cemetery Ownership3/19/2011
  Q: We have a family Cemetery that was established over 100 years ago by my Great Grandparents. This ...
  A: Have you looked at the deeds that would include the land that the cemetery is on? Is the cemetery ...
establishing a ?public or cemetery in Texas3/18/2011
  Q: What other kind besides family, church or perpetual care? Plus, on my 160 ac. farm in crop land, ...
  A: A good guideline for a cemetery is at least 150 feet from a water supply and 25 feet from a power ...
Custody of child remains3/16/2011
  Q: About 9 years ago, my daughter passed away at the age of two months, I was not married to her ...
  A: In other states, such matters would be handled by the Probate Court. I just glanced through the OK ...
Child remains3/13/2011
  Q: A small portion of my daughters remains was given to my sister-in-law, without our consent or ...
  A: Absolutely not legal. That funeral director should be hung by the you-know-what. That was breach of ...
Transportation of deceased from Florida3/12/2011
  Q: I was wondering if you could give me some help or advice. My grandfather is currently living in the ...
  A: Whoever told you the body can't be driven across state lines is full of horse pitooey. Who was it? ...
home burial in Seattle, WA3/12/2011
  Q: I'd love to be buried in my own backyard. I've looked online for answers but haven't found out ...
  A: You can bury cremated remains anywhere. Here's what I wrote in the WA chapter re body burial-- ...
Moving our son to a new cematary3/12/2011
  Q: We buried our infant son 29 years ago. Since then, we have moved 30 miles away. We would like to ...
  A: I am guessing that he was buried in a combo unit that serves as both a casket and a vault. In that ...
my moms funeral3/10/2011
  Q: My mom left her husband 5 weeks before she died. She even pressed rape charges and obtained a ...
  A: What a dreadful situation. You have my sympathies. If your mother succeeded in changing the ...
moving cemetaries3/9/2011
  Q: My nephew was killed in 2002 and was burried in Pennville Indiana, our family would like his grave ...
  A: I would call at least three funeral homes and ask for an estimate, as it could save you $1,000 or ...
r.e. theft of human remains3/8/2011
  Q: The decedent (my friend's brother) opened a joint account having funds to pay his own funeral costs. ...
  A: The funeral home should not have given the cremated remains to anyone but the person who contracted ...
burial laws in SC3/8/2011
  Q: In the state of SC,can a person be buried with or without being embalm and wrapped up in a sheet and ...
  A: You do not need to be embalmed in SC or use a casket. But you will have to check with the cemetery ...
Disinterment3/7/2011
  Q: My grandmother has been widowed for 42 years, her husband's body has been buried locally since. ...
  A: What a dreadful experience for your grandmother. How selfish of the others. And I can't believe a ...
r.e. theft of human remains3/3/2011
  Q: I have a friend whose brother recently died in Arizona and an ex-girlfriend of his talked the ...
  A: Are you saying that your friend arranged for and paid for his brother's cremation but then the ...
transporting body from GA to Arkansas3/1/2011
  Q: What would I need to have my husband transported from Georgia to Arkansas? Do he need to be ...
  A: No, he does not need to be embalmed. You will probably be most comfortable if you have some kind of ...
rights of the body2/27/2011
  Q: My mother was with a man for 14 years. They never married,but he had given her power of attorney ...
  A: Call me if you want--802-482-6021. The funeral director is WRONG in most states, especially if he ...
moving husband grave2/23/2011
  Q: what would I have to do to move my husbands grave from McDowell county to Davidson county NC?
  A: I am assuming you will be using a funeral director. A disinterment permit will be required from the ...
cremains buried on top of existing grave2/23/2011
  Q: my mom recently died and we would like to bury her cremains on top of my dad's grave in a Pa ...
  A: I don't know what part of PA you are in, but the Catholic cemeteries in the Pittsburgh area have ...
Transportation of Cremation ashes2/22/2011
  Q: My mother's ashes are with my brother in Florida. We wish to have them returned to UK. What is the ...
  A: I wouldn't put them in checked luggage for fear of getting lost. They can be carried on an airplane ...
burial plot2/21/2011
  Q: my family burial plot was bought in 1970 with the intention that it was for any of the family ie ...
  A: I don't know the laws in the UK, but I agree with you. Does the council know she's estranged? I ...
buring my fathers ashes2/21/2011
  Q: My father(who was poor and homeless) recently passed away. I am his middle child and the executor of ...
  A: I'm curious. If he was poor, why were you needed as an executor? Or were you designated as an ...
Muslim funerals in Louisiana2/20/2011
  Q: muslim community in shreveport bought cemetry and want to take care of the dead muslims according to ...
  A: You will have to change the statutes. Do you know a friendly legislator? In the public health ...
Burial2/17/2011
  Q: If my brother owns the deeds to my fathers plot,who pays for the funeral? also if the deeds state a ...
  A: I see that you are in the UK, so my answers may not fit your situation. Typically, the funeral is ...
NJ buiral on private farm2/16/2011
  Q: Is it legal in New Jersey to bury one's body on one's own 100 acre farm?
  A: NJ is one of only eight states where a body becomes a hostage of the funeral industry. In other ...
Having a Family Cemetery on private land2/15/2011
  Q: I would like to buy a piece of property to retire on, maybe build a cabin. And I am increasingly ...
  A: Indiana is one of eight states where a dead body becomes a hostage of the funeral industry, as you ...
Adult child, who has custody rights of the remains2/14/2011
  Q: Ms Carlson, thank you for your time. My 29 year old son was cremated in the state of Oregon after ...
  A: Both parents have equal rights, but the funeral home had no way of knowing the other woman was not ...
Plot question2/13/2011
  Q: My father passed in 10/10 in New York State. He is survived by my brother and I, as well as our step ...
  A: You will need to check with the cemetery to see what they will allow. If the cemetery says the wife ...
transporting bodies2/11/2011
  Q: Which 43 states allow a person, not a funeral home to delivery a dead body? I'm thinking about ...
  A: If you're doing that as a business, you would need to be licensed as a transporter (in VA) and in ...
New Funeral Trends and Existing Laws2/10/2011
  Q: I have been following the new funeral trends for about 4 years, green burial, funeral celebrants and ...
  A: You're stuck in TN, as you have to have the one year of mortuary school and two years ...
For Profit Cemetery Creation - Minnesota2/10/2011
  Q: Can you create a for profit cemetery in Minnesota? What information/books are available in an ...
  A: There are no state agencies regulating cemeteries. Your local zoning board would be the place to ...
Creating a Family Cemetery2/9/2011
  Q: Lisa, We live in Mississippi on a farm isolated from any town limits etc. We would like to form a ...
  A: Here's what I wrote in the MS chapter of my book-- Draw a map of your land showing where a family ...
Mother-in-Law's Cremains2/9/2011
  Q: My mother-in-law passed away in Tennessee where she lived for 21 years. Her caretaker has her ...
  A: Who was her caretaker and what was your mother-in-law's relationship to him/her? Did your ...
starting a cemetary in Alabama2/8/2011
  Q: Do you have to be a mortician to own a cemetary in Alabama? What are the requirements and who do I ...
  A: No, anyone can own a cemetery, and there is no state agency regulating cemeteries. Your local zoning ...
HOME BURIAL2/7/2011
  Q: Can you be buried on your own property in Pennsylvania?
  A: Here's what I wrote in the PA chapter of my book: There are no state statutes that specifically ...
Burial Expenses2/4/2011
  Q: I have a friend whose brother has been dead for two weeks in Louisiana. His brother is 46, ...
  A: I don't know of the possible contributions by the parish, but I'm guessing it's minimal. And if the ...
death in NC: burial in AL2/2/2011
  Q: My parents live in NC currently. They own their grave sites in AL, in fact the tombstone is already ...
  A: When you say they have "a contact" with the AL funeral home, what do you mean? I can't tell you what ...
home burial2/2/2011
  Q: My wife and I would each like to have a 'natural', home burial on our ~7-acre residential property ...
  A: I am guessing the reason you are having problems getting answers is because the laws are silent, ...
family cemetery1/30/2011
  Q: I have some land in N.C. that I recently decided to build on. The land has what is an old cemetery ...
  A: Now that it is your land, you can certainly limit any future interments. That said, you do need to ...
disinternment of indigent and reinternment1/30/2011
  Q: this is going to sound crazy, My mother passed away several years ago at the time she was buried as ...
  A: In what state? From your mention of Tarrant County, I'm guessing Texas. Yes, you may transport the ...
Indiana Burial Question1/28/2011
  Q: My brother, who was single, died in North Carolina. We had his body cremated and plan to bury him ...
  A: Indiana law is absolutely ridiculous! "Human remains" include cremated remains, for starters, ...
cremation transportation1/27/2011
  Q: My Monther-In-Law is passing shortly and she will be cremated in Florida where she lives. I will ...
  A: If you are driving or flying back, there is no problem at all. You can actually mail by registered ...
moving grave1/26/2011
  Q: My mother in law died recently, and already had a grave plot and a headstone with her name on it ...
  A: What a sticky wicket. The spouse always gets to call the shots if not estranged from the deceased. ...
Cremation ashes1/25/2011
  Q: How does one go about taking cremation ashes to another country? My parents were born in Santiago, ...
  A: Just make sure they aren't in a metal urn, as it won't scan, and the TSA won't open it. Avoid heavy ...
Personal Needs Account1/24/2011
  Q: My father passed away a few days ago. He was in a nursing home in Tennessee. He had medicare and was ...
  A: I'm astonished the nursing home didn't know. To the best of my knowledge, you may certainly use that ...
viewing deceased body1/22/2011
  Q: If you are having your deceased cremated in Florida, can they stop you from seeing the body to say ...
  A: That depends on a lot of things. Did the deceased have prepaid funeral plans? Some places charge ...
creamated remains1/20/2011
  Q: I am the person in my parents advance health care directives and post death directives designated to ...
  A: You don't need a lawyer to go to Probate Court. Let your sister know that that's what you're ...
AZ. laws1/19/2011
  Q: I have a friend in AZ.who recently was telling me his wishes to be buried on his own property.I ...
  A: Here's what I wrote in the AZ chapter-- There are no state statutes that specifically permit or ...
deplacement d'un corps1/15/2011
  Q: je voudrais savoir si les héritiers d'une personne ont le droit de demander après inhumation le ...
  A: I do not speak French very well at all. I am not sure in which country you live, and there may be ...
Burials and Exhuming1/11/2011
  Q: I'm a writer based in South Africa and one of my stories is based on an incident that happened in ...
  A: Actually, in addition to bones, the clothing is likely fragile but intact. And depending on the ...
deceased veteran brother1/11/2011
  Q: Am i responsible for my veteran brothers funeral. I was told he had nothing and that I would have to ...
  A: In what state? Only a few require relatives to foot the bill. Are you in the same state? They can't ...
Embalming in Missouri1/8/2011
  Q: Lisa, Thank you for being so committed to this work! You are making a huge contribution. Is ...
  A: Here's what I wrote in the MO chapter-- For families handling a “normal” death on their own, there ...
marker but no body1/8/2011
  Q: My son passed away and I buried him next to my grandparents in one cemetry in another county, His ...
  A: Undoubtedly, they're grieving the loss of your son, too. I think your son was lucky to have so much ...
Brothers ashes1/7/2011
  Q: My brother passed away on Christmas day. He was indigent. His son who is paranoid schizophrenic, ...
  A: It's a bit of a sticky wicket, but I believe he gave up his rights and that you are now entitled to ...
Moving remains1/6/2011
  Q: New construction project at a Church is commencing. There is a plot of ground which CHurch is ...
  A: The law says a disinterment permit is required from the local registrar along with a new burial ...
Transporting a body from Texas to MO1/6/2011
  Q: My mother-in-law will need to be moved to MO when the time comes, from Texas (my wife and I are in ...
  A: You will need to file the death certificate in TX and get a burial transit permit. E-mail me ...
transporting cremated ashes to the UK1/5/2011
  Q: I have the paperwork and my husband's ashes. I would like to take the ashes to the UK, where our ...
  A: Just make sure they're not in a metal container. The box must go thro' the scanner and be visible. ...
Miscarriage in PA1/5/2011
  Q: After 2 month of bleeding, cramping and multiple hospital visits, I had a miscarriage at 16 1/2 ...
  A: While it's the law to issue a fetal death certificate after 16 weeks, the hospital doctor may have ...
Remains of cremation1/5/2011
  Q: After cremation what is the law of scattering or burial of the ashes? Can you bury a loved one in ...
  A: Only a few states have stupid laws about cremated remains, So. Dakota being one of them. But there ...
transporting body from texas to louisiana12/26/2010
  Q: My parents have moved to S TX to be near me, but have their burial plots in S. LA. How do I go about ...
  A: Once you have a death certificate and burial transit permit, it would be legal for you to transport ...
no money for funeral12/22/2010
  Q: myfather suddenly died last night after christmas shopping.He was 56 and disabled,he literly left ...
  A: In what state did your father live? You might be able to donate his body to a med school at no cost. ...
home funeral and medicaid12/21/2010
  Q: How do I pay for a home funeral and not have it count as an asset with medicaid? I am in Colorado, ...
  A: What expenses to you expect to incur with a home funeral? Is cremation or burial the choice of the ...
florida cremation12/20/2010
  Q: MY SISTER JUST CALLED AND SAID MY AUNT HAS DIED IN FLORIDA. HER WILL STATES THAT SHE BE CREMATED. ...
  A: Florida law says that the written wishes of the deceased should prevail. It sounds as if your sister ...
Transporting humans remains within the state of AZ12/16/2010
  Q: I'm in the process of creating a handicap shuttle business to the border with Mexico. I want to be ...
  A: Talk to a local funeral home. The body will need to be embalmed with paperwork in Spanish, I ...
shipping body to indonesia12/11/2010
  Q: A close friend has just suffered her father's death in Casper, Wyoming while they were returning ...
  A: I would advise them to get prices from at least three funeral homes. The service they should be ...
funerals12/11/2010
  Q: In the state of Utah do you have to be imbalmed, or buy a vault? Are there any good reference books ...
  A: Cemeteries make their own rules about vaults. No state law requires one. Utah has no embalming ...
Procedures for burying ashes12/7/2010
  Q: What are the procedures for burying ashes in North Carolina (Wilkes County)? Can we bury them in an ...
  A: Cemeteries get to make their own rules. Many will tell you you have to pay for a second right of ...
Burial Charges12/6/2010
  Q: My Father passed last year and was cremated/buried in one of 12 plots purchased by my grandparents ...
  A: I'm wondering if these lots are in the Catholic section. The Catholics are pretty mercenary in their ...
Cremation questions…12/5/2010
  Q: I have two diagnoses that, according to the doctors, can end my life in as few as five years. I ...
  A: You can be cremated in a cardboard casket, often called an alternative container. Embalming is not ...
Declaration of Death Not Completed and filed11/28/2010
  Q: Can an Alabama funeral director refuse to complete the Declaration of Death form for a death ...
  A: Absolutely not! #1, a body may not be held for debt. (I can find the exact statute if/when you need ...
Memorial Service Requirements11/26/2010
  Q: We just had a relative pass in Indiana, Having them cremated and the services are to be at our ...
  A: No such law. Ask him to show you the law. Here's what I wrote in the Indiana chapter-- The ...
sisters death11/24/2010
  Q: my sister just passed away my mother and i want to bury her. but she was married 20 years ago but ...
  A: Here is a link to probate ...
At home cremation11/21/2010
  Q: My mother has given me instructions for her final rites as she calls it. She is 48 years old and has ...
  A: The home funeral part is easy to manage. E-mail me directly for the SC chapter from my book. ...
PRIVATE CEMETARY VISITATION LAW11/18/2010
  Q: IS THERE A LAW IN KY FOR A PRIVATE OR FAMILY OWNED CEMETARY STATING THAT AT ANYTIME SOMEONE CANNOT ...
  A: Sorry it took the state of KY a long time to get back to me but I do have the answer now. Yes, you ...
Reinterment11/17/2010
  Q: My grandmother's daughter (my aunt) died in 1915 when she was 5 months old. She is buried in ...
  A: In Wisconsin a disinterment must come from the medical examiner or coroner. It is possible that ...
Burial Service Contract - SCI-Corp.11/15/2010
  Q: My mother bought a pre-paid Guardian Plan funeral contract for $1775 in 1981 from I. J. Morris ...
  A: Because you did not label this "private" I will forward this complaint to the GAO that is now ...
Funeral / Burial laws in Louisiana11/12/2010
  Q: I would like to know more about the laws concerning burial, and funerals in Louisiana. Could you ...
  A: A dead body becomes a hostage of the funeral industry in Louisiana. You'll need a funeral director ...
disinterment11/10/2010
  Q: My Mother died 10 years ago, we have her remains cremated and with my Father’s authority interned ...
  A: They are all full of horse-pitooey. You only need a permit from the local health department, and you ...
burial on private land11/10/2010
  Q: I live in Wisconsin. Can my husband and I bury our bodies on our own 100 plus acre piece of land? Do ...
  A: There are no state statutes that specifically permit or prohibit home burial. It is also unlikely ...
Home Wake in New York11/6/2010
  Q: May one have a home wake in New York? We realize that we must use a funeral director, but perhaps ...
  A: Yes, you may have a home wake in NY. You need a funeral director to file the death certificate and ...
exhumation11/6/2010
  Q: My husband's 1st wife passed away 12 years ago. She is buried in the cemetery of the church they ...
  A: I am astounded that the cemetery committee refused your right to be buried next to your husband on ...
moving a grave11/4/2010
  Q: Well, my fathers sisters and mother and father are all from DR. He recently passed away and it was ...
  A: Is his wife still living? If so, she has the right to decide where burial is to be. If all or a ...
Burial on land in PA11/4/2010
  Q: I belong to a 501(c)7 that owns 40 acres in Crawford County PA - is it possible that we can start a ...
  A: Check with the local zoning about starting a cemetery for your members. Also, there are no state ...
Two Questions11/3/2010
  Q: 1. In Texas, does the law require that the casket be placed in a concrete vault? 2. In Texas, can ...
  A: No state requires a vault. E-mail me directly for the TX chapter of my book so you will have all ...
burial plot on deed11/2/2010
  Q: We have buried my father on family property. Public health has sign off. We are down to recording ...
  A: Yes, draw a map of the land showing where the "Norton Family Cemetery" is and pay to have it ...
natural burial on private land10/30/2010
  Q: I want to know all the specific laws on giving myself a natural burial on my private land in ...
  A: Is your land in a rural area? How much land do you have? E-mail me directly for the OH chapter. ...
Pre-paid cemetery10/29/2010
  Q: My sister in-law has been paying for her mothers cemetery plot for the past 7 years. She liked ...
  A: If the purchaser defaults on payments, the seller may cancel the contract and refund the 60% in ...
Rights to ashes10/29/2010
  Q: My father-in-law passed away a few months ago. He lived and passed in Holland, where he lived...as ...
  A: In this case, possession is 9/10ths of the law, since the cremated remains are coming from outside ...
Burial vault10/29/2010
  Q: Earlier this ear my mother passed away and we had her casket placed into a Wilbert Bronze vault. ...
  A: I bet the funeral director who served you was smiling all the way to the bank. By the way, I ...
re: Body as Hostage10/28/2010
  Q: I AM mad as hell about my rights taken away. How can I fight for this?
  A: In which state are you? There may be a Funeral Consumers Alliance group there to work with to get ...
Home Burial10/28/2010
  Q: I live in Arkansas and am interested in direct burial on my place. What is required to do this ...
  A: All burials must be in an established cemetery. Family graveyards are exempt from taxation and must ...
Provisions for minor children in burying a parent10/27/2010
  Q: My aunt just died, leaving behind a 12-year-old daughter. Are there any provisions in the state of ...
  A: I'm sorry I don't know the answer to that. If your aunt had any assets like a house or car, those ...
Body as hostage10/27/2010
  Q: I have read in one of your answers that LA is one of eight states that take the body as hostage. I ...
  A: In all of the following eight states, a family must hire a funeral director--whether they want one ...
florida regulation?10/27/2010
  Q: Lisa Carlson: In Florida how deep is the grave from the top of the outer burial container?. The ...
  A: The problem isn't Florida law. The problem is a cemetery trying to figure out how to get more money ...
burial laws okla10/27/2010
  Q: I have buried many relatives and have been told by the funeral home directors that vaults were a ...
  A: Yes, you were lied to. NO state law requires burial vaults in any state. That said, all states ...
Death by acute alcoholism10/25/2010
  Q: The coroner said cause of death was "acute alcoholism". My brother died outside, apparently on his ...
  A: You're absolutely right. I've heard from Vital Records folks all across the country that doctors ...
Missouri law on burial expenses10/24/2010
  Q: I am married but have not lived with spouse in more than 5yrs. if my spouse dies will I be held ...
  A: If your spouse has some assets, they would/could be used to pay funeral expenses. Are there adult ...
Burial Rights10/22/2010
  Q: The local township(operator of the township cemetery ) is looking to terminate previously owned ...
  A: A number of other states deem a burial plot abandoned after 50 years. 25 years seems a short time to ...
Iowa Laws on burial10/21/2010
  Q: My Mother wants a natural burial but to be buried in a cemetery next to Dad in a pine box, which I ...
  A: Yes, you may build the casket, but the cemetery may require a vault. Ask. One mid-west farmer used a ...
funeral director at a mass10/21/2010
  Q: My dad was cremated a few days ago. My mom is having a mass said for him but not having him buried. ...
  A: Total bullshit and a complaint should be filed with the state Funeral and Cemetery Board. You can ...
Disinter then Cremation10/20/2010
  Q: I will try to sum up a very long story into short. My parents were never married and no longer ...
  A: What a sad situation. You may want to contact the Vital Records office in Florida to correct the ...
moving my moms body10/16/2010
  Q: been gone just over 6 months l want her in the cemenrty by me lm aslo havin trouble off my uncle ...
  A: I don't know the laws there, but if it is typical of U.S. laws, the spouse--unless estranged--gets ...
natural burial10/15/2010
  Q: if you own your own property in North Carolina can you have a natural burial with out casket or any ...
  A: If you are in a rural area outside the village or city limits, you can likely set up a family ...
Church Cemetery for Infants10/13/2010
  Q: My wife's father remains are in a church cemetery. Recently our new born granddaughter pass away ...
  A: In years past, the purchase of a cemetery lot was considered a "deed" to the land. In fact, families ...
burial plot ownership10/12/2010
  Q: When our mom died all of her 4 children helped pay for the burial cost the majority was paid by ...
  A: Your father's wife gets to decide where he will be buried if she survives him. I'm guessing she ...
Child's right to ashes10/12/2010
  Q: My niece in Indiana has recently lost her father and is having some difficulty dealing with his ...
  A: Being a minor makes it difficult. If she is a mature 15, she might get the court to say she should ...
cremated remains10/11/2010
  Q: My family has cremated remains we wish to spread on top of the Sandia Mountains in Albuquerque, NM. ...
  A: Follow the don't ask, don't tell policy. If you ask, they're likely to say "no" because they don't ...
CREMATED REMAINS10/7/2010
  Q: I live in texas, mt mother was cremated over 11 years ago. She left no will or directive as to her ...
  A: You have no way of knowing whose remains you'd be getting if you paid the bill now. It doesn't pass ...
cemetery abuse10/7/2010
  Q: I live in Indiana and my parents and one sibling is buried in a Catholic cemetery. My siblings and ...
  A: How do you know who did it? What does the plaque say? One plaque or three? You certainly have ...
funeral10/5/2010
  Q: I'm a Missouri resident. Mine are probably pretty basic questions. But since I am concerned about ...
  A: No, you do not have to be embalmed. Regulations--not statutes--require embalming OR refrigeration ...
burial laws and the "pine box burial"10/4/2010
  Q: I am the responsible one of a "unwealthy" family tying to look ahead at two funerals possibly close ...
  A: You don't have to use a funeral director at all in Ohio or WV. E-mail me directly for those two ...
Relocating a Grave10/1/2010
  Q: I have a question about Disinterment and Reinterment - relocating the remains of someone from one ...
  A: How many children are there? Would a majority agree to the move? You can go to Probate Court without ...
CA Home burial9/27/2010
  Q: My father past away unexpectedly and has always said he wanted to be buried on his property. My ...
  A: Burial must be in an "established cemetery" in CA. The towns govern cemeteries, so go to some town ...
Moving dad's cremated remains in Ohio9/24/2010
  Q: My dad was recently cremated and his ashes buried in his father's grave in Ohio (my grandmother owns ...
  A: This is a sticky situation. You are legal next-of-kin, not your grandmother. But the cemetery may ...
Burial on privately owned land near Hiawassee, GA9/13/2010
  Q: I read your email to a questioner from MN asking about the same issue. You referred her to an ...
  A: E-mail me directly for the GA chapter for the next edition of my book-- lisa@funeralethics.org ...
florida guarantee9/12/2010
  Q: We are considering a prepaid burial.Is fl. one of the 9 states that protect(guarantee) our ...
  A: Florida is one of the WORST states in which to prepay for a funeral. If you are still healthy enough ...
Autopsy9/9/2010
  Q: My sister is treated by a specialist for Cystic Fibrosis and is nearing the end of her life. She ...
  A: Yes, get her under hospice care. In PA, there are coroners who want to be in charge of every death, ...
Mortuary transport9/8/2010
  Q: I am a Paramedic and live near Pittsburgh PA. I am interested in starting a Mortuary transport ...
  A: There isn't any need for a transport service in PA. There are three to four times too many funeral ...
my mother9/6/2010
  Q: My mother passed away two years ago she was cremated by her wishes. My father had a tree planted in ...
  A: All adult children have equal rights, and I can't imagine any Probate Court changing things from ...
Exhuming rights9/5/2010
  Q: My husbands father passed away when my husband was only 4 years old. His mom and dad were separated ...
  A: This is surely a complicated issue on the one hand but may not be too difficult to solve on the ...
private burial9/4/2010
  Q: My son is buried on my private property, it is recorded and surveyed as a cemetery I am in the state ...
  A: I'm not sure why he thinks he needs an "easement." Probably just to make your life miserable and ...
COST OF9/4/2010
  Q: My family lives in the State of Florida. My father and mother have purchased vaults for their ...
  A: I am stunned. I find it appalling that this is a city cemetery. Is it perhaps being managed by a ...
Who pays for a single fathers funeral9/3/2010
  Q: The father was 41, has 3 children, has parents, elderly are still alive. 1 child just turned 18. ...
  A: Unless the 18-year-old made the arrangements, she is NOT obligated to pay a penny. $10,000??? Yikes! ...
funerals transporting body....9/3/2010
  Q: .. dad,husband passed away no money for funeral..local f- home want $6,500 to bury him...or else ...
  A: Yes, you may do all those things. Title 20-18-601(b): The funeral director or person acting as the ...
embalmimg, vault, burial -Massachusetts9/2/2010
  Q: I own two burial spots in a family plot in Quincy,MA and would like to know if I can be buried ...
  A: There are no state laws that would interfere with your wishes, but all cemeteries are allowed to ...
moving a grave from ohio to pa9/2/2010
  Q: hi i am wondering what i can do to move my daughters grave from Hamilton Ohio to Elizabeth pa she ...
  A: Talk to the cemetery to see what they require for paperwork. Unless you are going to transport the ...
Crossing Illinois, Wisconsin, and Minnesota state lines with unembalmed body8/31/2010
  Q: Is it legal to cross Illinois, Wisconsin and Minnesota state lines with an unembalmed body? Can a ...
  A: No embalming is required to cross state lines in any state but Alabama. If the death were to occur ...
Missouri Info8/30/2010
  Q: Who do I contact to start the process of approval in Missouri, St.Charles county. Thanks ANSWER: ...
  A: E-mail me directly for the MO chapter from my book. lisa@funeralethics.org In the meantime, go to ...
Transporting my Aunt's body for burial from Pa. to Md.8/30/2010
  Q: I called a funeral parlor near me and asked if my Aunt needed to be embalmed to be taken to Md. for ...
  A: Crossing state lines has nothing to do with it. In PA, a body must be embalmed, refrigerated, or in ...
2 caskets in one plot8/25/2010
  Q: I work for a City in Texas that has a cemetery. I am trying to amend our cemetery ordinance to ...
  A: My guess is that in the case of the older burial, if the casket is not in a vault, the casket will ...
Gay Couples rights8/25/2010
  Q: My life partner of 15 years just passed away after 9 months battling cancer. We had our wills, ...
  A: In some states, the written wishes of the deceased are to prevail. So your rights will be or are ...
indigent burial/cremation8/22/2010
  Q: Does Florida (Specifically Taylor County) provide for indigent burial/cremation?
  A: I don't know the answer to that. That said, a body can be donated to a bio-tech company that will ...
Miscarriage8/20/2010
  Q: My daughter-in-law was 4 months pregnant when they discovered there was no heartbeat. They had to ...
  A: A fetal death certificate is required after 20 weeks of gestation or when the weight is 350 grams or ...
my brother passed, do I have any rights as a biological sister8/19/2010
  Q: My brother & I were born in Colombia, we were adopted at 6 1/2 and 3 1/2. The parents were horrible ...
  A: If your brother did not have a spouse, it is usually the parents who have all the rights, not the ...
Responsibility of Payment for Burial8/14/2010
  Q: My ex-husband died very recently (has not yet been buried). He disinherited our three adult children ...
  A: Title 20, Chapter 3, Subsection 305 gives the decedent the right to name someone other than the ...
Shipping my husbands ashes from UK to USA8/12/2010
  Q: I came back to the USA to get my 'settlement visa' to return to my husband and our flat in ...
  A: There is no problem here in the U.S. They aren't even likely to ask. It's just not an issue. From ...
legality of burial of ashes8/8/2010
  Q: We live in Martin County Florida. Is it legal to have a persons ashes buried in a Memorial Garden ...
  A: The state has NO interest in what one does with cremated remains. The cremation process itself is ...
Disinterment forms needed to file non atty8/8/2010
  Q: My name is P. King and I am requesting my father be disintered he was burried in fl against his ...
  A: Here's the law-- 497.384 Disinterment; transportation; authorization and notification.-- (1) The ...
moving cremated remains8/7/2010
  Q: My daughter recently passed away. We had her cremated and are considering having her cremated ...
  A: I'm sorry for your loss. It doesn't usually take a court order to move cremated remains. That said, ...
Green Buriel in Arkansas Rural8/4/2010
  Q: we own 7 acres in Marion Co./Yellville, Arkansas. I want to have a 'green buriel' either here on our ...
  A: Here's what I have in my AR chapter for the next edition of my book on funeral law-- All burials ...
disinter and reinter8/2/2010
  Q: Can a body be disintered and reintered in the same cemetery without going to probate? All of our ...
  A: Here's the law for municipal cemeteries, and it's written as if one is moving a body out of the ...
layout of church cemetery(plot designation)7/31/2010
  Q: Our church has a cemetery established with 7 people already interred. We now have a cemtery board ...
  A: You are pretty much free to design it any way you wish, depending on how you want your cemetery to ...
Dis-interring cremated remains7/30/2010
  Q: My mother and I are both very unhappy with the rampant neglect we see at the cemetary where we ...
  A: This should not be a problem at all. Your mother has all the rights to decide what to do. She simply ...
Michigan funeral director required?7/29/2010
  Q: I read your September 2008 comment that funeral directors are legally required in Michigan. Is that ...
  A: Yes a dead body is a hostage of the funeral industry in Michigan until consumers get angry enough to ...
Transporting deceased across the country7/27/2010
  Q: My grandmother recently moved to Los Angeles to live closer to me and my husband. However, when she ...
  A: Will there be services for here in CA where you would want the body present? If not, then the least ...
opening of grave7/26/2010
  Q: In the state of Pennsylvania my mother left 8 graves and her wishes were that the siblings and their ...
  A: When you say your mother "left" 8 graves, did she mention this in a will? Or did she simply tell you ...
Oklahoma Burial Regulations7/25/2010
  Q: I am attempting to locate state regulations on burials in Oklahoma. I am curious about laws ...
  A: There is no state cemetery board. Talk with your local zoning folks regarding starting a cemetery, ...
Requirements for multiple state crossings7/24/2010
  Q: In order to set up a 48 State hearse (acclimatized Van/Truck) service and be able to transport the ...
  A: If you live in one of the 8 states that require a funeral director, then you would have to become a ...
burial laws7/21/2010
  Q: what are the laws regarding burial on your own property in the state of Virginia?
  A: Here's what I wrote in the VA chapter-- Although family graveyards are mentioned in the laws, there ...
Funeral legal question7/21/2010
  Q: What states do not let you have your own do it yourself funerals and why?
  A: These states require the use of a funeral director to file the death certificate and oversee ...
ownership of cremains7/19/2010
  Q: I have been a lawyer in MA for 35 years. For the first time I had a client ask me, who own's my ...
  A: Sorry to have been so tardy answering you. The legal next-of-kin would have ownership rights, ...
Moving from one cemetery to another7/18/2010
  Q: My father passed away last month and was buried somewhere we have never heard of. There was a woman ...
  A: Then, depending on the state, you will likely need to go to the Probate Court to get a disinterment ...
Hearse service7/17/2010
  Q: I am in the developmental stages of establishing a motorcycle hearse service in Upstate New York. ...
  A: Find a funeral director or a few of them to work with. Any within the radius you're willing to work. ...
Burial Depth of Cremation Urn7/15/2010
  Q: I have a friend who recently became the sexton of his church cemetery. He has no idea if there is a ...
  A: There is no "proper" depth for cremated remains to be buried. In fact, they can be scattered. The ...
Transporting and storing the deceased7/13/2010
  Q: I work for a fire department in Summit County, Ohio. We have a growing problem with the disposal of ...
  A: Body donation to the med school in Rootstown would be a generous and worthwhile cause. They claim to ...
Home Funeral Law for Alabama7/10/2010
  Q: My brother-in-law is expected to die within the next week or 2. He is indigent and his wife is in a ...
  A: E-mail me directly for the Alabama chapter. You may certainly order or build a casket yourself. ...
transport remains to other state7/9/2010
  Q: I'm not dead yet...but I want to leave as few loose ends as possible. What is required by law to ...
  A: If there will be no services in California, then it will be MUCH less expensive to work through a ...
Funeral law7/8/2010
  Q: A recent story about a woman getting in trouble for keeping and apparently "abusing" the corpses of ...
  A: Next-of-kin have only quasi-rights to corpses, and that for the purpose of burial or cremation. ...
What is required for a fetal demise7/6/2010
  Q: I am working with a couple who just lost one of their twins at 21 weeks gestation. They are ...
  A: There is no requirement to have a funeral at any age. At 21 weeks gestation, there will be a fetal ...
Disinterment followed by cremation7/5/2010
  Q: My husband died 34 years ago and was buried in a cemetery in Miami. Since our family and I have been ...
  A: By all means, shop around among all the funeral homes in say a 30-mile radius of the cemetery. WATCH ...
Acquiring a cemetery via foreclosure7/4/2010
  Q: We are a mortgage company located outside of Pennsylvania. We made a loan on and are likely to ...
  A: Who owned or created the cemetery is important, as statutes or other regulations rarely cover ...
funeral, embalming, home funeral7/2/2010
  Q: My mother is dying and myself and my two sisters will be paying for her funeral as my mother has no ...
  A: I have no idea how to find out if she owns a burial plot. Where is your father buried if he has ...
NH self burial7/2/2010
  Q: Would you please address home burials in NH? Can someone be buried on their own property without a ...
  A: The answer is yes, no embalming or casket required. Here's what I wrote in my book in the NH ...
Idaho burial times7/1/2010
  Q: How long can you take from time of death before are required to put a non-embalmed body ...
  A: A regulation of the Board of Morticians requires embalming or refrigeration after 24 hours. That ...
Unpaid cremation7/1/2010
  Q: My cousin died 4 months ago. Her daughter asked that the remains go to the funeral home and she ...
  A: The cremation likely has taken place, with the funeral home holding the cremated remains. Then ...
home funeral and home burial6/29/2010
  Q: I live in Louisana and do not want to be embalmed or creamated or handled by strangers that I don't ...
  A: You'll have to change the law. Louisiana is one of eight states where a dead body becomes a hostage ...
Cremation & burial6/21/2010
  Q: There is only one space left in our family cemetery lot in Iowa. If my husband and I both choose ...
  A: That certainly makes sense. The cemetery may want to charge you for a "second right of interment." ...
Cremation6/18/2010
  Q: I have a friend of mine who lost their brother about 7 months ago in the state of new jersey. Since ...
  A: I am surprised the FH did anything without a proof of payment. No, state laws are mute on this ...
help for my mom6/17/2010
  Q: can u help me to find a way for my moms funeral she has nothing saved and she is 83 in very bad ...
  A: If she is on Medicaid, contact the local welfare people to see if there is any state or county help. ...
Movement of cremains6/16/2010
  Q: My sister passed away some months ago in Georgia. She was divorced (she was in an abusive ...
  A: Her parents would be the legal next-of-kin and would have a right to refuse. That said, if he is ...
my mother6/14/2010
  Q: My mother passed away from cancer two years ago. By her request she was cremated. My brother has her ...
  A: How did your brother end up with the ashes? Did your mother have any funeral wishes in writing? If ...
transferring remains from one syate to another6/13/2010
  Q: I have a relative that is gravely ill. The person resides in MN.; and also in a nursing home. I have ...
  A: The least expensive will be body donation to a med school Mayo Clinic in Rochester pays for ...
Arkansas home funerals6/10/2010
  Q: Can home funerals be performed in the state of Arkansas by private citizens, without the use of a ...
  A: Yes, families may care for their own dead in Arkansas. E-mail me directly for the AR chapter for the ...
Notification6/8/2010
  Q: When a parent dies,how soon should a child notify all the other siblings?How soon should pallbearers ...
  A: Unless the parent has expressed other wishes, preferably in writing, all siblings have equal rights ...
clothing for a deceased woman6/6/2010
  Q: Dressing a woman should include what clothing? Do you start with underwear including bra and ...
  A: It is totally a personal preference. The effect of a bra may be pretty much lost when lying down. ...
Single plot burial6/6/2010
  Q: I am burying both of my parents' cremated remains in Illinois. I live out of state and have had to ...
  A: There are new laws on the books in Illinois after the Burr Oak scandal, and probably no one is sure ...
fetal burial rights6/5/2010
  Q: I miscarried my baby at 12 weeks and I'm wondering if it is legal or not to bury my baby on property ...
  A: Yes, you may handle everything yourself. There is no paperwork required until after 20 weeks ...
Cremains6/4/2010
  Q: I was considering starting a non-profit company which would accept cremated remains which have been ...
  A: Different states have different laws about what a FH can do with abandoned cremains, and some states ...
Reputable Donor Organization?6/3/2010
  Q: How do I know if a donor organization is reputable, i.e., that they don't or won't give tissue to a ...
  A: I believe the Donor Network of AZ is affiliated with some of the for-profit companies. I have not ...
Private property burial6/2/2010
  Q: What are Oklahoma laws pertaining to burial on my farm. We have 42 acres. Also, what are rules on ...
  A: There are no state statutes that specifically permit or prohibit home burial. It is also unlikely ...
Home Funeral and Organ Donation Questions6/2/2010
  Q: How does organ donation work in conjunction with a home funeral? Is it possible to have a home ...
  A: There are two levels of organ donation. To donate a heart or kidney, one must be in a hospital on ...
Moving Siblings graves in Kentucky6/1/2010
  Q: My father (71) has been taking care of a small country cemetery back in the mountains of rural ...
  A: A disinterment permit must be obtained from the state registrar. It shouldn't be a problem to get ...
Burial in same plot5/27/2010
  Q: In Virginia, how many people can be buried in the same plot? If one is with a casket and vault, can ...
  A: The major issue is that most cemeteries will charge you for a second-right-of-interment that may be ...
Funeral decisions5/27/2010
  Q: I live in Ohio. If my father were to pass away I am wondering who would be in charge of his ...
  A: In Ohio, your father can designate you to make funeral arrangements, or anyone else, for that ...
cemetary plot ownership5/26/2010
  Q: What is MN law regarding succession of family plot ownership?
  A: 525.14 DESCENT OF CEMETERY LOT. Subject to the right of interment of the decedent therein, a ...
Funeral Director in TX5/24/2010
  Q: A Texas funeral home said that a funeral director is required in Texas. The TX Funeral Director ...
  A: Some hospitals may be reluctant to release a body to the family until they are educated by the ...
Burial of cremains5/24/2010
  Q: Is it legal in Kent County, Michigan to bury cremains which are in an urn with a person who will be ...
  A: The short answer is "Yes, that would be legal." Alas, some cemeteries will want to charge for a ...
Private land burial5/23/2010
  Q: I have 40 acres in Chelan County, Washington. What steps are required to have a family burial area ...
  A: State law says that burial must be in an "established" cemetery. Too bad it's so restrictive. Go ...
Book availability5/23/2010
  Q: What is the name of the book, where is it available and what does it cost? Is it in paperback? ...
  A: The last edition (1998) was "Caring for the Dead: Your Final Act of Love." 640 pages, $29.95. Now ...
Fetal burial rights5/21/2010
  Q: I had a miscarriage at 16 weeks. My Midwife is trying to petition the Depart of Health to obtain a ...
  A: Is the cemetery requiring a death certificate? Ask to see the cemetery regulations. I bet there is ...
Interment on our property5/21/2010
  Q: we live out of any township in Falls county Texas.Our land is just "in the county". We have three ...
  A: The 2006 Attorney General’s opinion (GA-0448) states that a family may bury on their own property ...
Memorials held by an ex-spouse and estranged family5/19/2010
  Q: My spouse of 30 years with failing health has told me that he wants to be cremated and no funeral or ...
  A: You'll have the cremated remains. Let the others do as they wish. You don't have to go. No way to ...
Moving Buried Ashes5/13/2010
  Q: My father served 20 years in the military, and then 18 years as a corrections guard in Michigan. ...
  A: That should be no problem at all. Alas, the cemetery may charge you an "opening and closing" fee. ...
Can I have my grandfather moved to another cemetery?5/11/2010
  Q: My (step) grandfather had a stroke. We hired caretakers (2-1/2 yrs)to care for him and my ...
  A: E-mail me directly. This sounds like a complex situation, but I have a lawyer friend in TX who may ...
Grandmother does not want embalmed5/10/2010
  Q: There are several other similar questions to this on your board but I am still unsure of the answer ...
  A: Talk to a funeral director in Indiana. (Where in Indiana does your mother live? I may have some ...
Indiana Cemetery Law5/7/2010
  Q: I have studied Indiana Cemetery laws for 10 years now and I am fed up with them. Every time I find ...
  A: I need to let you know that I am not a lawyer, but I've been reading funeral law for 20 years. I ...
Burial in same plot5/5/2010
  Q: My parents bought side by side burial plots in the 1970's in Stuart Florida. My father was buried ...
  A: Most cemeteries will not buy back a cemetery plot, so your mother might donate it to a church or ...
Move parent5/3/2010
  Q: My father died (2) years ago....his live in girlfriend insisted he be buried next to her....she won ...
  A: If there is no legal spouse and if your father did not have written wishes to the contrary, then the ...
Body Donation5/2/2010
  Q: My sister recently informed me that she has decided to donate her body to the Forensic Anthropology ...
  A: If you're willing, there is no reason you can't transport her body to the body farm. E-mail me ...
funeral planning with second wife5/1/2010
  Q: What are the rights of the adult children in planning the funeral of their father? Our family ...
  A: How very sad for all of you. Unfortunately, she has every legal right to make you miserable. Nice ...
Help with Louisiana laws5/1/2010
  Q: My mother has already prepaid a funeral in MS and is currently living in LA. What papers will be ...
  A: LA is one of the states that require a funeral director to be involved (at least for filing the ...
home funerals in VA4/30/2010
  Q: How do you convince a hospital that it's your right to take possession of a body if you are next of ...
  A: Here is the VA law. Show it to the hospital-- Title 32.1-263-B. The licensed funeral director, ...
cremains disposal on public land4/23/2010
  Q: My wife and I have a sentimental attachment to a local county park and would like to have our ...
  A: Here's what I wrote in the '98 edition of my book for Wisconsin. Am just about to update the "W" ...
grave desecration4/22/2010
  Q: jan of this year my husbands father passed away we had the service started going on with the ...
  A: Unfortunately, religious churches are not regulated by the state, but what they did was totally ...
Cemetery regulations4/22/2010
  Q: Illinois resident. In 2007, I became a board member and subsequently in charge of a rural cemetery ...
  A: Being a church-related cemetery, state laws likely do not apply. That said, Mary Formeller in the ...
Urn Burial in Grandmother's Plot4/22/2010
  Q: In January, my 34 year old step-daughter was killed in an auto wreck in Ohio. She left behind a 7 ...
  A: EXCELLENT letter. Now send a copy to the highest Catholic officials in Michigan. I'm not Catholic ...
Transporting a Relative's Body4/19/2010
  Q: my grandparents are snow birds who winter in Yuma Arizona but their home and burial plots are in ...
  A: You have every right to transport the bodies yourselves. You will need to make sure the death ...
Burial on Private Property4/18/2010
  Q: My home is on 13 acres in Becker Township, Sherburne County, MN. I am wondering if I can choose to ...
  A: If you e-mail me directly, I can send you the MN chapter. lisa@funeralethics.org Here's what I ...
Sister with holding brothers wife ashes4/18/2010
  Q: My aunt had my uncle (her brother) and his wife put in a nursing home. The wife has passed away, ...
  A: Unless there are written wishes of the deceased to the contrary or there is some kind of ...
Family burial costs4/16/2010
  Q: My mother-in-law is 86 and in failing health. She lives well below the poverty line in Indiana, and ...
  A: I'm guessing that with a house as an asset, your mother-in-law may not be eligible for state or ...
Cremation burial4/15/2010
  Q: We built a nice wooden box to hold our fathers ashes for burial. I was told that we must purchase a ...
  A: It is not a state law in any state! Sounds to me as if the cemetery involved is a for-profit ...
burial4/12/2010
  Q: I've had my pets that have passed away cremated and I would like to have their ashes buried with me. ...
  A: That shouldn't be a problem at all, although it's possible a few cemeteries have such a restriction. ...
My Dad4/11/2010
  Q: My Dad passed away on Nov 21,2009. My Dads remains are still at the funeral home and they will not ...
  A: Here's what I wrote and what I got back. Sounds as if you might need a lawyer, however. > Messy ...
transporting4/11/2010
  Q: My father has requested to be buried with in 24 hrs after his death and not to be embalmed. We live ...
  A: E-mail me directly and I can give you the KS chapter that has all the details. You'll need to get ...
Burial by funeral home without notice4/9/2010
  Q: This is a private family cemetery in MO, although many different families have been buried there ...
  A: I can't believe the gall of this funeral home! Do you have a lawyer in the family who can send a ...
spousal rights of deceased husband4/7/2010
  Q: Do I as a spouse have a right to decide when I would like my husband's life celebration service? I ...
  A: Yes, the spouse gets to call the shots, make the plans regarding the actual funeral arrangements. ...
Disinterment of Father-in-Law's Remains4/5/2010
  Q: My wife's father passed away in 2006 and was buried in Birmingham, Alabama in a plot owned by the ...
  A: Contact a funeral director in Birmingham. Jed Nagel at Abanks Funeral Home is a very decent guy. He ...
legal situation4/2/2010
  Q: My husband and I have been living apart for 3 years, I live in NC and he has been in FL with his ...
  A: I agree with you. Unless they can give a good reason, I'd hold on to them. Does he perhaps have a ...
cremain rights as surviving spouse3/31/2010
  Q: A public administrator has been appointed to an estate due to an intestate death, but only after the ...
  A: Not at all. Unless the deceased left written wishes for some other disposition or named an agent ...
ownership rights of cremated father3/30/2010
  Q: Son wishes knowledge of father's cremated remains; location of urn, or of burial location, from his ...
  A: Alas, the spouse gets to call all the shots. How very selfish of her. The son might ask the state ...
Cremation requirements3/27/2010
  Q: Is it required in Indiana to have a casket even if the body is going to be cremated?
  A: In no state may a funeral home require you to purchase a casket. The funeral home must offer a ...
tn burial requirements and transporting across state lines from Ark to Tn3/26/2010
  Q: what are the requirements to transport a body from arkansas to tn and if i have an acre that is ...
  A: E-mail me directly for the AR and TN chapters from my book which will answer those questions in ...
sercret funeral/secret burial site3/26/2010
  Q: Can a 2nd wife bury her husband without notifing his 4 adult sons? Can she also keep where there Dad ...
  A: I take it the sons didn't accept the second marriage very well, which surely must make you ...
cremated remains3/25/2010
  Q: My mother passed away in 2008. She was a German citizen and always wanted to go home. My sister was ...
  A: Unfortunately, Germany is the only country I know of that requires a funeral director to be ...
Official Documentation3/25/2010
  Q: You may not be the right expert....but I couldn't find a more closely matching topic. I wish to ...
  A: They may or may not be the same. A Medical Examiner is typically a pathologist who has been ...
transportation texas to arkansas3/24/2010
  Q: My father has a prepaid funeral and burial policy in Arkansas although he now lives in Texas with ...
  A: Do you know if the money is in a trust or insurance? Do you know if it's irrevocable, which may have ...
Disposition of Cremated Remains3/24/2010
  Q: My wife died in Dec. of 2008. It had been her wish to be cremated when she died and according to ...
  A: Absolutely. Get a lawyer. It's breach of contract and personal injury. In what state? I'm available ...
transporting unenbalmed body3/21/2010
  Q: MY MOTHER WANTS TO DIE AT HOME, AND WE AS HER FAMILY ARE WANT TO HONOR HER WISHES, I AM AN EMERGENCY ...
  A: You will have to hire a funeral director to file the paperwork in NYS. Where in NY are you? I may be ...
funeral expenses3/21/2010
  Q: I live in Wisconsin is there any state or federal help with paying for a funeral for low income ...
  A: I don't have that information, as it's sometimes by county. Your funeral director would know. Ask ...
cremation remains3/20/2010
  Q: Nancy and I want to pre arrange for cremation in private, ie no funeral service Ashes to be ...
  A: You will have to use a funeral home in Indiana, but the simplest, least expensive is called a ...
transporting the deceased3/18/2010
  Q: An ederly woman dies in Texas. She is at a funeral home and has been embomed. The funurel home in ...
  A: Yes indeed the family may transport the body themselves. If there is any difficulty in the funeral ...
Ashes across State lines3/16/2010
  Q: My brother-in-law has terminal cancer. He has asked my sister to cremate him and then take his ashes ...
  A: Once the body is cremated, you can pretty much do as you wish with the cremated remains. Nebraska ...
Transporting3/15/2010
  Q: What is the procedure to transport a deceased loved one from Missouri to Kansas?
  A: You will need to file the death certificate and get a burial transit permit. If the cemetery in KS ...
private cemeteries3/15/2010
  Q: Are there laws or requirements to put a private cemetery in the state of idaho. Thank you
  A: Private family burial grounds are mentioned in the laws, but not how to set one up. So if you have ...
Cremation expense help3/15/2010
  Q: My Mother died today at 95 yrs old. She was in a Care Home/Rehab Facility, using Medicare and Blue ...
  A: Go to www.funerals.org which is the website for Funeral Consumers Alliance. Then go to "Find a local ...
Advanced Directives3/12/2010
  Q: If a person has advanced directive done when that person passes do family members such as children ...
  A: It depends on the state. If state law allows a person to name an agent for body disposition (or ...
Exhuming3/11/2010
  Q: I want to know what rights i have they want to exhume my dad for paternity testing when they lived ...
  A: This is not an area of the law that I've studied. If there is some reasonable likelihood that your ...
Cremation Burials3/10/2010
  Q: We live in Iowa,how many cremation remains can be buried in one plot? It is the wishes of a loved ...
  A: The cemetery is likely to have regulations about how many can go in one plot. And if you want to put ...
Refund of Funeral Expenses3/9/2010
  Q: If an individual decides to go ahead and spend money on a burial and this spending was not approved ...
  A: In what state, as it varies a little. Did the deceased have written wishes regarding a funeral or a ...
brother's burial3/6/2010
  Q: My mother and her ex husband buried their son (3 years old)in Illinois. My mom remarried (to my dad) ...
  A: You have a *very* complex situation there. Since both were married at the time the young son was ...
family owned land3/5/2010
  Q: We own 412ac.of property in washington Ga. and would like to know if we can have a family plot on ...
  A: There is no state law that says you can or can't. It is unlikely that any local zoning laws mention ...
burial2/25/2010
  Q: My neighbor wants to be buried on his Indiana farm. He does not want to be embalmed. He wants to ...
  A: Alas, he needs to get some legislators riled up about this. Indiana is one of only six states where ...
information2/24/2010
  Q: Where can I find out about the requirements of a nj burial? How much can be contracted out yourself ...
  A: E-mail me directly for the NJ chapter from my book. Alas, we're having problems there with ...
Private burials in Hays County, Texas2/23/2010
  Q: Please send cy of information relating to private burials in TX.
  A: If your land is rural, there probably won't be any zoning laws against a family cemetery. In that ...
Prepaid Funeral2/22/2010
  Q: My parents bought a prepaid funeral plan in Iowa with the understanding the full amount of their ...
  A: This sounds like terrible mischief on the part of the funeral home to me. I have sent a copy of this ...
Moving remains & headstone2/22/2010
  Q: My husband passed away 6 months ago and I am thinking of moving away but I cannot leave him here, I ...
  A: As the surviving spouse, you don't really need "permission" from anyone, unless your husband had ...
pre-planning funeral arrangements2/20/2010
  Q: From your experience is it cost effective to use the services of one of the national companies? ...
  A: The national companies typically have the highest prices, according to consumer surveys. You might ...
private burial2/19/2010
  Q: I am in Missouri and I have buried my son on my property as my son had requested verbaly to myself ...
  A: How too bad they don't realize that if the county owns it, anyone can be buried there and crowd the ...
Legal rights to ashes of an adult child2/19/2010
  Q: My 45 year old never married daughter died recently, leaving no will or other instructions. Her ...
  A: Being in different states certainly makes it difficult. Which of you was the last custodial parent, ...
Burial in Family Cemetery2/19/2010
  Q: I'm a retired U.S. Army veteran, living in Spain. There is a "DAVIS FAMILY" cemetery, south of ...
  A: I am not at all familiar with cremation practices in Spain, so you'll have to figure out how to ...
crematory start up2/16/2010
  Q: In PA can I start a crematory w/o a funeral director involved? I have told I can and had a funeral ...
  A: Funeral directors are the biggest source of legal misinformation. Crematories are not regulated in ...
Family cemetery in Alabama2/16/2010
  Q: We live in Georgia but have purchased my husband's "old family home place" in Alabama consisting of ...
  A: How wonderful. Alabama laws don't say you can and don't say you can't. So assume that you can. With ...
keeping funeral info from drama loving relative2/14/2010
  Q: Can you require funeral home director and employees to sign secrecy oath for privacy, in an attempt ...
  A: The "secrecy oath" is a bit of drama on your part, as all funeral directors are required to maintain ...
Can remarried step-mother move my father's remains?2/14/2010
  Q: My father passed in 1996, was cremated, and his ashes were buried in his family cemetery in Alabama. ...
  A: The Department of Health must give a permit for disinterment, although you should check with the ...
burial of cremains2/13/2010
  Q: Is a person allowed to dig in a cemetery? Can a person bury cremains in a paid for plot with out ...
  A: Typically most cemeteries will want to oversee such a project--to make sure they go in the right ...
transportating body from IL to WI2/12/2010
  Q: What are the laws concerning transporting a body from IL to WI for burial? Can the family do this, ...
  A: At the moment you will need a funeral director to file the death certificate in IL. Check ahead of ...
OPENING OF GRAVE FEES2/12/2010
  Q: I LIVE IN PA. AND I WAS WONDERING IF THERE ARE ANY REGULATIONS THAT ADDRESS HOW MUCH CAN BE CHARGED ...
  A: Yes, it is highway robbery. Undoubtedly you're dealing with a for-profit cemetery. That or the ...
transportation of deceased in OREGON2/11/2010
  Q: Due to financial difficulties, I am going to have to cancel the life insurance policy that I have ...
  A: That's too bad about your insurance because the cash value is so diminutive compared to what you ...
Home cremation. Little Rock,AR2/10/2010
  Q: I live on 16 acres outside the city limits of Little Rock, Arkansas. Could you please tell me if I ...
  A: In most states--which are copying suggested cremation laws from the Cremation Assn. of No. ...
Burial on Private land in Texas2/7/2010
  Q: Can you be buried on your own property in Texas and what needs to be done to do so.
  A: If you are outside the city limits, most likely. If you have zoning there, read through the zoning ...
disinterment in PA and reinterment in MO2/5/2010
  Q: My father was buried in PA in 2006. My mother bought a dual plot at the time. She now wants to ...
  A: It could be about $7,000. It would be considerable less if she was willing to have the body cremated ...
transportation2/5/2010
  Q: If my mother passes in Florida? Can we the family transport her body to her final resting place in ...
  A: The short answer is yes. Florida requires embalming or refrigeration after 24 hours, and it's ...
embalming2/4/2010
  Q: We want to bury my brother as quickly as possible and have a memorial service at a later date. We ...
  A: Embalming OR refrigeration is required after 24 hours. Dry ice or frozen gel packs can be used, but ...
burial for my grandpa2/1/2010
  Q: What happens if we cant come up with all the money for funeral we only have some
  A: No funeral director should sell you a funeral for more than you can afford. There should also be ...
Scattering ashes in Long Island Sound1/29/2010
  Q: I want to scatter my uncle's ashes in Long Island Sound on a sailing charter boat. Is this possible ...
  A: I don't know of any such restriction. The EPA talks about "three miles out." But that's because the ...
Casket rental1/27/2010
  Q: I have a friend in PA who has a relative whose mother died in FL. She is having some sort of ...
  A: You're right. That's bullshit, plain and simple. Rental caskets ARE available IF the funeral home ...
cremation1/26/2010
  Q: Does Iowa law specify the depth that cremations must be buried? If so what is the depth?
  A: No, no state regulates the burial of cremated remains. It galls me that some cemeteries are now ...
Family cemetary establishment1/26/2010
  Q: Can I establish a family cemetery in Indiana? Where would I find the needed to be legal, etc? We ...
  A: Alas, a dead body becomes a hostage of the funeral industry in IN as you will have to hire a funeral ...
Transportation of deceased family1/26/2010
  Q: What are the necessary steps in order to transport a deceased loved one from Massachusetts to New ...
  A: E-mail me directly for the Mass. chapter from my book. You will need to file a death certificate and ...
Death on the highway while out-of-state1/25/2010
  Q: If my husband and/or I should die in a traffic accident while traveling in Florida (on a ...
  A: Yes, you can be cremated at the place of death, with cremated remains shipped back. Very ...
Outstate transport / Funeral Home1/24/2010
  Q: I would like information about how to have a burial funeral without breaking the bank. My mother is ...
  A: Even if you do a lot yourself, you will need to go through a funeral director to get the vault if ...
home burial1/24/2010
  Q: We have a little more than an acre of land in Fort Worth, Tx. It is within the city of Fort Worth. ...
  A: It is unlikely that being inside the city limits that zoning would allow body burial, but you can ...
Disintering My Father's Cremated Remains1/24/2010
  Q: My father passed away 2008 in Pueblo, Colorado. He was not married, I am his only child. I am 28 ...
  A: As the Personal Representative, you may certainly go ahead with your plans. Check with the cemetery ...
Obtaining ashes1/22/2010
  Q: My name is Marc I 28 years of age and i had a question pertaining to my Mothers ashes. She passed ...
  A: I just checked the MO laws. Not totally clear that Probate Court is the place to go with ...
burying cremated remains1/22/2010
  Q: my family owns 2 cemetery lots in Howard Co. MD and my Mom wants to give one of them to a cousin to ...
  A: Do you own a shovel and a flashlight? ;-) Typically, the cemetery will want to do the digging to ...
burial1/22/2010
  Q: I live in Missouri.. the mo law 214.090 says any person desirous of securing family burial grounds ...
  A: I'm not sure why you're having such a hard time understanding this. To keep control of the family ...
Gravemarkers1/21/2010
  Q: My brother was buried 3 months ago and his grave is still not marked with anything but a flag that ...
  A: First of all, you need to find out what the cemetery regulations are as to who can place markers on ...
Transporting the deceased1/21/2010
  Q: Lisa, I feel so fortunate to have found someone with your knowledge and background that is willing ...
  A: Only a few states--such as Florida and Vermont--license body transporters. So if you are thinking ...
burial1/20/2010
  Q: you have someone buried on your private property, if you donate the land to the county, what rights ...
  A: The county may not want to accept it because of maintenance costs. Why wouldn't you want to keep a ...
funeral planning- no money, family will not help.1/18/2010
  Q: How can a funeral for my mother be planned when there is no help? My step-sister and her husband ...
  A: Check to see what the county will pay. I think it's about $1,000 if your mother is on Medicaid. It ...
Plan mothers funeral.1/14/2010
  Q: I have a sister & two brothers,all living in the same area.The funeral home wants the four children ...
  A: There is almost never only one way to do things. Here are some questions: Is your mother still of ...
Church Wants to Build On...but there is a cemetary in the way1/13/2010
  Q: In our small town, the church wants to build on due to increase in member size...they want to move ...
  A: Here is the law-- *********** 68-3-508. Disinterment and reinterment. — (a) Authorization for ...
private burial ground1/13/2010
  Q: How is it that a person that has buried there love one on their property can make sure that the land ...
  A: Is the county asking for money? How much? Here are the relevant statutes I found-- Family burying ...
transporting deseased relative in texas1/10/2010
  Q: My Grandmother has a burial plot paid for in panhandle area but is currently in nursing ...
  A: Yes. With the warmer climate in the south, you may want to have her embalmed before leaving TX. If ...
intestate death1/8/2010
  Q: My mothers niece, I'll call her alice, was in an accident over 30 years ago that left her unable to ...
  A: Given the estrangement of the other next-of-kin, I would think the Probate Court will decide in your ...
Changes to preplanned arrangements in Missouri1/7/2010
  Q: My mother has made "pre-arrangements at a local Missouri funeral home. She has no money, but ...
  A: That shouldn't be a problem at all. If her insurance policy isn't enough, the funeral home certainly ...
Burial of Cremains1/7/2010
  Q: My mother shares 160 acres with her sister-in-law, my aunt. Last year my aunt buried the cremains of ...
  A: Since your aunt was co-owner, it's a pretty murky issue. In all states, it's legal with the ...
what can we legally do when mom dies1/5/2010
  Q: I have questions, as to just what I have to do when my mother passes. She is 84 and her worker ...
  A: Alas, you are required to use a funeral director in Louisiana to file the death certificate and ...
Alabama Cremation Authoriation Law1/4/2010
  Q: Lisa - I also emailed you as I didn't realize this Q&A option (sorry for the duplicate as I thought ...
  A: Unfortunately, legislators in AL are afraid to stand up for honoring what a person wants. The ...
Transportation of remains12/30/2009
  Q: My husband will so go to a hospice.When he passes I want to drive him myself to Chicago,IL in a ...
  A: In what state will your husband die? You need only to file the death certificate and get the burial ...
Who'd be responsible for my funeral?12/30/2009
  Q: What happens if I die? Who is financially responsible? I am a female 27yrs old and I don't have any ...
  A: Let's certainly hope you out-live all your unfriendly relatives! In what state do you live? In many ...
transporting from VT to RI follow-up12/29/2009
  Q: We have a family who are going to want to transport a body from VT to RI. I am thinking that they ...
  A: In what area? Some of the town clerks are already quite knowledgeable. You can download a PROD form ...
moving one parent to rest beside the other12/27/2009
  Q: One parent of 9 children died in 1958; the other in 1969. One child did not want the two buried ...
  A: Most courts will side with a majority unless there is an awfully good reason. That said, the courts ...
Burial on private land12/27/2009
  Q: My husband and I own land in the county of Delnorte, Ca. It is zoned FP-1 with @ 5-7 acres above the ...
  A: Here's what I wrote in the CA chapter about burial. E-mail me directly for the full chapter-- ...
messed ova badly...12/24/2009
  Q: ok, im 19 yrs of age my father had some problems in la i was staying in il at the time me and my ...
  A: Paige, Your aunt had no authority if there were adult children (and no spouse). Unless any were ...
Transporting from Nevada to California12/24/2009
  Q: My sister passed away this morning and she is in Las Vegas. Are we able to move her ourselves, after ...
  A: Yes you may. You will need a removal permit from the health department. Embalming is not required ...
disenterment12/24/2009
  Q: My former husband and I lost our son and my son was buried on my private property, now former ...
  A: It is very unlikely that your husband can succeed in having him moved. The siblings have no say. The ...
Long lost Sibling Death12/24/2009
  Q: I live in California and my family was recently informed my uncle died. We have not been in contact ...
  A: Although the statutes say next of kin are responsible, I do not know of any situation in which the ...
funeral expenses12/23/2009
  Q: My brother's wife passed away unexpectedly night before last. He has no financial resources and is ...
  A: How very tragic. I don't know if the ground is frozen yet there, but if your brother can find a ...
exhuming a body12/22/2009
  Q: I am the mother of twin boys born in July of 2006, one of them passed away at 17 days old and we had ...
  A: You certainly may. The funeral home you used can help you. I am wondering if the other twin will ...
disinturnmeny12/22/2009
  Q: My Dad is in NY with us and not well. My mother is in Cape Coral, FL at a cemetery with her urn ...
  A: I'm wondering if you can get a monument dealer to pick it up and perhaps purchase it for a song. ...
Burial of a trisomy fetus12/22/2009
  Q: In the state of Florida any baby over the gestational age of 20 weeks has to be buried. What are ...
  A: In almost every other state, a fetal death is counted over 20 weeks of gestation. In Georgia, ALL ...
Arizona, Home Care for the deceased12/20/2009
  Q: My mother is 90 yrs old and wants to be buried in CA with her husband. Can we take care of all the ...
  A: Yes. E-mail me directly and I'll send you the AZ chapter from my book. If the cemetery in CA ...
Rights to cemetery Plot12/15/2009
  Q: My mother died in an accident in June of this year. My father was in the hospital for the week ...
  A: I'm very sorry for the loss of your mother. Your dad should have a FIRM and candid talk with the ...
wrong plot12/14/2009
  Q: I purchased a plot with a number and it was on my check but the plot was used 1 week later so I ...
  A: Is there room for you next to where your husband is buried now? If so, does it make sense to leave ...
family rights12/14/2009
  Q: I do think the spouse is legally responsible for their deceased spouse here in Mississippi. My ...
  A: I don't find an *obligation* for anyone to pay. Here is the exact statute as to the right to control ...
burial regulations12/7/2009
  Q: In Dauphin County Pennsylvania is anyone permitted to bury pet remains in the same plot on top of an ...
  A: I'm quite certain there are no state laws that answer this, but even if there were they would not ...
Ohio's laws on home burial.12/7/2009
  Q: As a part of a research assignment I was asked to find information regarding Ohio's laws on burial. ...
  A: Ohio laws are silent, as are most states, re home burial. No statutes say you can and no statutes ...
Transporting Body to Mexico12/4/2009
  Q: Lisa, how do we go about finding a reputable place about taking care of the process to transport my ...
  A: Call all the funeral homes in the Yellow Pages of the city where your grandmother is and ask for an ...
Missouri state regulations12/4/2009
  Q: I was not able to find any cemetaries in the state of Missouri that offered the option of natural ...
  A: Check with some of the small-town cemeteries. That said, home burial is permissible in MO. Land not ...
Moving remains.12/3/2009
  Q: My father has been buried in an Illinois cemetery for over 40 years. I just discovered a private ...
  A: I've been asked such a question so many times that I'll simply jump to the guestimate of $7,000. The ...
least possible cost for death in Indiana12/2/2009
  Q: What are the rock bottom costs for funeral/burial in Indiana? What are the minimum ...
  A: The least expensive would be donating your body for medical study. The university would cremate the ...
RIghts over family member12/1/2009
  Q: My sister passed away 18 yrs ago. She left a husband and son. My family purchased the grave plot ...
  A: Someone should really come down hard on the cemetery for even allowing this to happen! The cemetery ...
Burial of ashes with another family member11/30/2009
  Q: My brother who was a veterab died several years and was cremated. The plan (verbally) was to place ...
  A: If you want a VA marker for your brother on the same plot, then the funeral director is correct ...
TN burial11/27/2009
  Q: We moved to TN & would like to be buried on our acreage. Can we be buried on our property without ...
  A: Family burial grounds are permitted in TN. I'm assuming you're in a rural area when you say ...
funeral transportation11/23/2009
  Q: I would like to know what it takes and how much it cost to have my body transferred from Tacoma,WA ...
  A: If you are planning to use a funeral home to oversee the event, then you should contact the funeral ...
Disinternment11/21/2009
  Q: My grandson's ashes are buried with his father in the Florida National Cemetery in Bushnell, ...
  A: Here is a link to the disinterment form you will need to file with Bushnell. I am guessing that with ...
Pre need Burial Contracts in Missouri11/20/2009
  Q: My Mother purchased a pre-need burial contract from a local funeral home for herself and me her ...
  A: In the state of MO, the funeral homes are allowed to take all interest and pocket 20% right off the ...
can cemetery legally charge an entrance fee11/19/2009
  Q: We purchased two plots in Stanly Garden Of Memory in Albemarle, NC. We purchased them from friends ...
  A: I don't know how effective the relatively new Cemetery Commission is in NC. Here is contact info ...
law requirements the11/18/2009
  Q: My husband is the executor of this fathers will. He passed away last May. My mother-in-law passed ...
  A: If the insurance policies were the only assets, then probate would not be needed. The only other ...
Burial Plots11/10/2009
  Q: In 1975 my husband & I purchased 2 burial plots in what was then known as Colonial Memorial Gardens, ...
  A: I know of no such law to forbid you from selling a plot. Ask the cemetery to show you the statute ...
home funeral11/8/2009
  Q: My dad is in critical condition following a car wreck. It is unlikely that he will survive the next ...
  A: See if the hospital will release him to the family. You'll need a death certificate and medical ...
cremation problems11/7/2009
  Q: I live in Southern Vermont and we used a well known local cremation service for my grandmother. It ...
  A: You can certainly file a complaint with the Office of Professional Regulation, but they have been ...
Natural Burial in Mississippi11/5/2009
  Q: I live in rural Mississippi and want to be buried on my own land, with no embalming and no casket. ...
  A: If you have a lot of land outside the village or city limits, then home burial is likely ...
QUESTION: I live in Wisconsin and want to know if you have to go through a funeral home when a person wants to be cremated and does not want to have any type of service. Can you contact a crematorium directly?11/5/2009
  Q: My sister told them which of the two funeral homes to take him to. The funeral home is Hemer ...
  A: Pretty funny. I called and said I didn't see any prices on their web site. I started to say "How ...
Transporting a body in Texas11/5/2009
  Q: My uncle broke is neck over the summer and now he is not doing well at all. We are trying to get ...
  A: Yes. E-mail me directly for the TX chapter from the '98 edition of my book. I don't think a lot has ...
Cremation11/5/2009
  Q: I live in Wisconsin and want to know if you have to go through a funeral home when a person wants to ...
  A: You don't have to use a funeral home to transport the body to the crematory, but many crematories ...
Spreading of cremains in new york state11/5/2009
  Q: What laws does new york state have in regards to the spreading of humain cremains?
  A: In any state, you may scatter cremated remains with the land-owner's permission. If you are talking ...
Moving the remains of a loved one to another county11/3/2009
  Q: My nephew was 8 years old when he passed away. He was buried in another county, same state. My ...
  A: In what state? You don't need a lawyer to go to probate court, and that may be necessary to get a ...
funeral law: the book11/2/2009
  Q: i would love to own this book on Funeral Law. i am in the process of trying to start a consulting ...
  A: There are already people in Maine starting this on a volunteer basis. Check with the state FCA ...
home funerals11/1/2009
  Q: Some time back I watched a film called a family undertaking. I had no idea that this could be done ...
  A: E-mail me directly for the PA chapter from the '98 edition of my book. I don't think a lot has ...
cremation in michigan10/31/2009
  Q: I am 70 years old. I live in the uppe peninsula of michigan. I have no family or anyone to take care ...
  A: Who will find your body if you die at home? Who will clean out your apartment or house? Do you ...
Transport of cremated remains to Germany from the U.S and final disposition10/30/2009
  Q: I was appointed the personal representative of my good friend's estate when he passed away this past ...
  A: I am not at all familiar with German laws in this regard. I do know that Germany will not ship ...
'green' burial10/30/2009
  Q: When I die I want a 'Green' Burial. No embalming, no vault, no conventional casket...I want either a ...
  A: Check with the cemetery directly. There are no state laws that would interfere with what you want, ...
burial laws in Utah10/30/2009
  Q: We are trying to find out the legal requirements for burial in state of Utah...about embalming, ...
  A: Joyce Mitchell in Orem is a wonderful resource for you, especially if you want to handle everything ...
new oregon law10/28/2009
  Q: I've been wading through the legal jargon of the new law passed in Oregon regarding death care and ...
  A: The new law is so badly worded it's no wonder you don't know what it means. I don't think anyone ...
burial on private land in new york state10/27/2009
  Q: Is it possible to have a burial on private land in New York state. If so how would a funeral ...
  A: Yes, you still need a funeral director to file the death certificate and to hide behind the apple ...
natural death at home--procedure10/27/2009
  Q: my mother is quite elderly and will most likely die at home one of these days of medical problems. ...
  A: If it is a relatively expected death, do NOT call the ambulance or 911. Call your mother's doctor, ...
Cemetery Deed10/26/2009
  Q: I live in a rural farm area in Michigan. I understand that I can establish a family cemetery in ...
  A: Family graveyards under one acre outside the village or city limits are permissible and exempt from ...
executor discretion10/25/2009
  Q: I am executor of my brother's estate. I am required to liquidate assets and distribute the net cash ...
  A: I am sure you have the discretion to make a responsible decision. The Probate Court in your state ...
Father's Cremation10/22/2009
  Q: I just learned that my biological father passed away this past weekend. I have not seen him since I ...
  A: Actually, this is pretty standard. All states are hard-up for funds, so if the family has money to ...
Cemetary Plots that were passed down10/22/2009
  Q: I have been divorced for over three years. In 1997, my former mother-in-law decided to opt for ...
  A: I think your interpretation is probably close, but--alas--I think it means whoever dies first. ;-) ...
international transport cremated remains10/22/2009
  Q: Hey Lisa, When my grandfather who lives in Germany passes he wants to be cremated and be sent to the ...
  A: The one thing I know about Germany is that they will not ship cremated remains to the family, only ...
Burials on private land in Ohio10/21/2009
  Q: Lisa, first I would like to ask what is the name of your book? My other question is, I would like to ...
  A: "Caring for the Dead: Your Final Act of Love." But it's out of print, while I work on a new edition. ...
Unknown Location of Deceased10/15/2009
  Q: Good Day Ms. Carlson, I lived in North Carolina from 1995-1997 when my stepfather passed towards ...
  A: From what you write, I'm guessing this is not a veterans cemetery. More likely a town cemetery? The ...
Help with understanding legal rights to remains10/15/2009
  Q: I live in the state of Maine. My husband died in an accident in Montana at age 22. His mother, whom ...
  A: YOU have the legal rights unless he left other instructions in writing. The funeral director was in ...
death midwifery10/15/2009
  Q: Carlson, Two questions really...1. I am quite interested in becoming a death midwife. Any ...
  A: In what state? If you are planning to charge for your services, you will be nailed by the industry ...
Funeral Pyre10/14/2009
  Q: My son has informed me that he wants to be cremated on a funeral pyre upon his death. Is this legal ...
  A: How too bad. Colorado has some Hindus doing outdoor cremations. But it's a terrible waste of ...
burial without permission10/14/2009
  Q: Is it legal to bury someone and have a funeral for them without the beneficiaries' knowledge? ...
  A: A few more details would be helpful. Who did arrange the funeral and why do you think the funeral ...
embalming10/13/2009
  Q: Are there any state or federal laws that says a body must be embalmed before crossing state lines?
  A: State laws only--Alabama and NJ. But it is often ignored, such as a GA funeral director going into ...
burying cremains10/13/2009
  Q: Do cremated remains need to be buried in a licensed cemetery by licensed people in California? Can ...
  A: CA laws are a little screwball. You may legally keep cremated remains at home on your mantel, and ...
funeral10/9/2009
  Q: i live in florida. but would like to be buried in new jersey with my family. i've received many ...
  A: Whoooooooa! Your original question was not at all clear about what your plans were or what you ...
Burial10/8/2009
  Q: I was wondering if a person can be buried on their own property in the State of Michigan.
  A: Michigan has one of the best home burial statutes, but until consumers get angry enough to get the ...
cemetery trust10/8/2009
  Q: My family cares for a family cemetery in Texas. It was established in the early 1800's. Until ...
  A: Basically any bank can help you set up a "trust." You will probably want to decide on an investment ...
Cremation Vaults10/7/2009
  Q: My parents want to be cremated but they would like their ashes to be buried in the ground. The two ...
  A: You are absolutely right that there is no state law, simply another way for the cemetery to make ...
death midwifery10/7/2009
  Q: Do you know what type of licenses or courses need to be taken in order to become a death midwife? ...
  A: At this time, no state regulates this field except Oregon which is trying to, as is CO. As for ...
burial expense within the law10/7/2009
  Q: I am concerned that when I die there won't be enough money left for my burial. I am looking to do ...
  A: No, you don't have to be embalmed prior to cremation. One low-cost option might be body donation to ...
opening a grave10/6/2009
  Q: I'm hoping that you can help. My mom died seven years ago. She was buried in her family's plot ...
  A: Who owns the cemetery--church, town or other municipality, a nonprofit association, or a for-profit ...
Estimate Home Funeral Costs10/1/2009
  Q: I'm from Massachusetts. I'm a young guy with no foreseeable plans for losing a loved one, but I ...
  A: E-mail me directly for the MA chapter from the '98 edition of my book. Not a lot has changed. ...
Ttransport of the dead9/29/2009
  Q: My 91 year old mother lives in TN with us. She wants to be buried in FL by her husband of fifty ...
  A: What kind of services will you want for your mother and where? Legally, you can transport the body ...
follow-up; identifying inurned remains9/29/2009
  Q: You accurately predicted that they would want to assess a very high fee to open the niche, identify ...
  A: 50 years ago they really weren't well organized. So don't blame yourself. I'm reasonably sure they ...
Who has the right to ashes, 18 yr old son, divorced parents or fake fiancee?9/29/2009
  Q: A very good friend of mine passed away recently under questionable circumstances. The person who ...
  A: Unless there were wishes of the deceased in writing, the adult son is the legal next-of-kin. It ...
Cemetery Ownership & Plot @ Cemetery9/27/2009
  Q: 1.How do I find information about who owns a cemetery? 2.My aunt purchased 6 spaces at the cemetery. ...
  A: The town should be able to tell you who owns the cemetery or if you give me the name of the cemetery ...
funeral procession9/25/2009
  Q: When driving, what is proper to do when you meet a large funeral procession? Pull over and stop out ...
  A: How courteous of you. When you say "met," was it coming toward you or did you catch up to it? In ...
who to call when a family member dies at home with DNR9/24/2009
  Q: My mother has a preplanned funeral in Ky but lives with me in Ga.This is an anticipated death with ...
  A: If you are not planning to transport her body to KY, then you should call the KY funeral director, ...
transport9/24/2009
  Q: what is the best way to transport my mom from washington to minnesota when she dies...she wants to ...
  A: If you wish to do the transport you may. You would need a casket or other box and the burial-transit ...
creamated remains burial?9/23/2009
  Q: My father-in-law was creamated in Claifornia in February. The family plans to take the ashes to him ...
  A: There is no practical reason to have any fancy urn-vault for burying cremated remains unless you ...
transporting remains9/23/2009
  Q: My father died 50 years ago and at the time was cremated and his remains (in an urn) were placed in ...
  A: Having a letter from your mother should do the trick. And yes you may transport the cremated remains ...
dying husband9/19/2009
  Q: My husband has about 2 months to live and he has left me and our home in FL and went to Iowa with ...
  A: Rather strange, to say the least. How old are each of you? How long have you been married? Children? ...
Transport of Human remains9/16/2009
  Q: I first want to commend you and your associates, I have not found the answer to my question browsing ...
  A: Yes, you may transport the body yourself without embalming. E-mail me directly and I'll send you the ...
general life insurance and funeral expense9/14/2009
  Q: A family member died leaving 4 people as beneficiaries on his life insurance policy. There is no ...
  A: I would NOT sign the insurance policy over to the funeral home. Funerals have a strange way of ...
cemetary plots9/13/2009
  Q: My parents are buried in a cemetary that is owned by a corporation. The family of the man that is ...
  A: Who owns the cemetery? Sometimes a complaint to the corporate headquarters from someone like me will ...
Legal resources for identifying pauper expense obligations in Texas9/13/2009
  Q: What are the resources for me to find out who is ultimately responsible for determining the method ...
  A: I believe in TX indigent burials are handled county by county. I am guessing most funeral homes know ...
funerals9/13/2009
  Q: In Connecticut, if I am an organ donor, and I die, and an organ is harvested, is there any cost to ...
  A: The short answer is "yes," usually. When most people check off on their license that they are an ...
legal next of kin9/13/2009
  Q: My Father had remarried about 30 yrs ago in PA. My Stepmother has two children by a previous ...
  A: A spouse, unless estranged, is always the legal next-of-kin. That said, a Durable Power of Attorney ...
disposal of stillborn in Massachusetts9/11/2009
  Q: What are the laws regarding disposal of fetus in MA? Can a hospital dispose of a stillborn 23 weeks ...
  A: At 23 weeks a fetal death certificate is required. Some hospitals may offer a service to have the ...
Transporting Remains9/10/2009
  Q: My father is in critical care in a Maryland hospital and expected to pass soon. We plan to have him ...
  A: You have every right to transport your father's body yourself. Just make sure the funeral director ...
Relocation of burial.9/9/2009
  Q: How would I move my husband from one location (city) to another location (city), same state. What ...
  A: The expense could vary widely depending on your particular area and how long your husband has been ...
Cremated remain ownership9/6/2009
  Q: My father and mother purchased a plot at Rose Hills for him and my Mom. This plot was purchased so ...
  A: The children have no rights, I'm sorry to say. And typical a current wife can call the shots for her ...
cremation9/3/2009
  Q: My estranged sister recently contacted me and told me I am the executer of her will and was ...
  A: The executor of a will gets to use the assets to pay for any reasonable funeral arrangements. You ...
headstone9/2/2009
  Q: My husband and I were married almost 7 yrs. He died unexpected from pneumonia. We have 2 small ...
  A: I gather that his parents are not particularly close to you. That's too bad. Is the plot next to him ...
Minnesota9/2/2009
  Q: I just found your site, and appreciate your willingness to share your expertise, thank you. We live ...
  A: E-mail me directly and I can send you the MN chapter from the '98 edition of my book, now out of ...
burial on my property9/1/2009
  Q: I would like to make a cemetry on my property for my family my father has cancer and isnt expected ...
  A: Burial in WA must be in an "established" cemetery. How much land do you have? Is it in a rural area? ...
Next of Kin Burial Rights9/1/2009
  Q: Both of my grandparents are over 100 yrs old and will be passing on soon. My grandmother's next of ...
  A: #1, be sure the nursing home knows that you are one of the next-of-kin and that there are competency ...
Question about burial in the wrong plot8/31/2009
  Q: When my mother passed in 2005 her cremated remains and those of my father (who died in 1988) were ...
  A: File a complaint with the Funeral and Cemetery Board asking that your parents urns be disinterred in ...
burial of ashes8/30/2009
  Q: My Mother and Father have purchased a plot. My mother has passed and my father is in his last ...
  A: If you ask the cemetery, they are likely to want to charge you for a "second right of interment" if ...
Wife left out of will8/29/2009
  Q: I live in Texas. I was not put in my husband's will as he had it drawn up before our marriage and I ...
  A: There are a lot of additional questions to be asked before you'll get the answers you need. A TX ...
Adult Death8/29/2009
  Q: Is there money available to an adult with no money or assets? A niece died in her mid 20's, the ...
  A: That will vary with the county and state. Was she eligible for Medicaid? That is usually the test. A ...
burial8/28/2009
  Q: Should a man be buried by his first deceased wife (died of natural causes) or his second wife (who ...
  A: There is no right answer in this situation. One might ask, "What would the kids want?" as they might ...
death midwife and funeral laws on Georgia8/28/2009
  Q: I am interested in becoming a Death Midwife. Are there laws in Georgia that regulate Death Midwives? ...
  A: Families in GA may care for their own dead without a funeral director. If you are planning to ...
cremation burial requirements for Illinois8/28/2009
  Q: My mom will be passing soon. As per her wishes she will be cremated here in New Mexico and her ...
  A: There are NO state laws on such containers--urns or vaults--in any state. Alas, some cemeteries, in ...
deed to cemetary plot8/27/2009
  Q: My brother died in Feb. 2009. My sis-in-law has been difficult through the whole ordeal. We (the ...
  A: Boy, you are in a pickle, as spouses are given all rights unless the deceased left instructions in ...
next of kin verses a child8/25/2009
  Q: My mother was left out of a will for a reason. I am the grandaughter who was raised and court ...
  A: Here are some pertinent laws-- CALIFORNIA CODES HEALTH AND SAFETY CODE SECTION 7500-7502 7500. ...
rights to place headstone8/23/2009
  Q: My father died in May. His wife of two years had him cremated and buried in his plot next to his ...
  A: The lot owner has the say. Did your father have any wishes in writing? You might have to worry that ...
home burial in Missouri8/22/2009
  Q: for a number of reasons (nature lovers, concerned that the future use of our property be limited, ...
  A: Home burial is permissible in MO. Land not to exceed one acre must be deeded in trust and the deed ...
cost to open/close a grave8/21/2009
  Q: What is the cost to open a grave in Montgomery County, Pennsylvania? I have buried both my parents ...
  A: A for-profit cemetery will likely charge a lot more than a town or religious cemetery, tho' not ...
transport body to Mexico8/20/2009
  Q: Where do I start when I am looking at transporting my parents body back to Mexico? What all is ...
  A: Mexico will require that he be embalmed prior to crossing into Mexico. A local funeral director can ...
Home funeral business8/20/2009
  Q: After reading an article in the NY Times re: Home Funerals, I was fasinated to learn this can be ...
  A: My book is currently out of print. I find it ASTONISHING that you would think of starting some kind ...
Home burial in another state8/20/2009
  Q: I read your reply that it's legal to do a home burial on a large parcel in Texas if you record the ...
  A: Recording the map of your land with the deed is not law but good practice to "establish" your ...
burial same day as death8/19/2009
  Q: A man in our community died while being flown to the hospital after his bush-hog supposedly flipped ...
  A: You are right about the autopsy or medical examiner. 406.11 Examinations, investigations, and ...
Ashes8/18/2009
  Q: My Father-in-law died in June. Before he dies he met with his children and wife and told them he ...
  A: Unless he had something in writing or a designated agent for body disposition (in only half the ...
home burial without a vault or embalming8/17/2009
  Q: Can a person be buried on their rural farm in Texas, without embalming, being put into a ground ...
  A: Draw a map of the land showing where the family graveyard will be and pay to have it recorded with ...
rights over the gravestone ..8/16/2009
  Q: My ex-fiance passed away and his family could not pay for his funeral. I paid for everything ...
  A: Alas, state laws do NOT apply to religious cemeteries. That said, you have every right to tell the ...
Do I quatify for military funaral8/15/2009
  Q: I spent 18 years in the Navy reserves.This is complete service. I retired E5.
  A: You are eligible for a limited number of benefits. I'm not sure why I can't get a direct link, but ...
Why so long before mom can be cremated?8/12/2009
  Q: My Mom died July 25 and had a viewing and sevice July 27 and 28. She is suppose to be cremated, but ...
  A: Contact the St. Petersburg Times. That is an EXCELLENT newspaper. They will surely do a story ...
Cremation in Michigan8/11/2009
  Q: I wish to be cremated and have my ashes scattered (or used as a starting fertilizer for a tree) and ...
  A: Do you think your next-of-kin are unlikely to honor your wishes? Michigan laws are a mess, as you ...
Wills Respected for Interment Arrangements?8/10/2009
  Q: Wife read an article today which upset both of us. We live in Alabama and want our remains to be ...
  A: Yes, that is true. There is no law that says the written wishes of the deceased should prevail nor ...
establish family cemetery in Georgia8/9/2009
  Q: How do I establish a family cemetery on my property? not in city, no zoning laws, not near waterway, ...
  A: Georgia laws don't say you can and don't say you can't. Draw a map of the land showing where the ...
Peaceful exit8/9/2009
  Q: In Boise Idaho do I have to use a funeral home,and get embalmed? Can I have a home wake? How quickly ...
  A: There are only six states that require the use of a funeral director--CT, IN, NY, MI, NE, LA. ...
Cremation8/8/2009
  Q: I live in Wisc and was told I have to have a casket to be buried in. It could be a wooden casket but ...
  A: Will you be buried or cremated? If cremated, the funeral home is required by federal law to offer ...
cremation8/6/2009
  Q: Can a husband cremate his wife if her child is the beneficiary? Is it true if you have an child the ...
  A: It depends on the state to some extent. If the wife has written wishes or has designated someone ...
Burying Ashes...8/6/2009
  Q: My Grandfather past away three weeks at which time he was cremated. We have his ashes in our house ...
  A: You said no one "owns" the cemetery, but I'm guessing that it's a town cemetery from what you wrote. ...
Disinterment disaster8/5/2009
  Q: my father in law was to be disinterred and relocated to another cemetery. he died and was layed to ...
  A: How awful. Indeed, get a lawyer. A lawyer can do a lot more than the state can anyway. I am ...
Moving Mother's Remains From Florida to North Carolina for Funeral Services8/4/2009
  Q: My mother is terminally ill and we are making plans for her funeral services. She currently lives ...
  A: Unless you are planning to drive the body yourself, the most economical way is to deal ONLY with a ...
probate court8/4/2009
  Q: He lives in Greenland, MI and that's also where the cemetary is located. Any idea how much probate ...
  A: Give me your direct e-mail, Aimee. Mine is lisa@funeralethics.org Looks like I was wrong about ...
Arizona Revised Statute 36-3268/4/2009
  Q: I want to collect a body from the hospital and take it home for 2 or 3 days before taking it to the ...
  A: Yes, you should request a transit permit. No big deal. It is sort of a travel record of where the ...
Grave Marker/monument8/3/2009
  Q: My brother is burried in a Texas cemetery. Before his children could come up with the money to buy ...
  A: Who owns the cemetery? Do you know the name of the monument dealer who erected the stone? If the ...
Home Burial in Tehama County, CA8/3/2009
  Q: Tehama County says that a home burial is not legal because of the California Health and Safety ...
  A: A local municipality--a city or county--has jurisdiction over local cemeteries. California law says ...
dis-interring buried ashes8/3/2009
  Q: The widow of a man whose ashes are buried in our church's memorial garden wants them back. I have ...
  A: There is no legal obstacle to disinterring cremated remains, as the cremation process itself is ...
burial vault7/31/2009
  Q: MY BROTHER WAS MURDERED 13 YEARS AGO AND WAS BURIED IN THE STATE OF OHIO A POLPERS GRAVE I LIVE IN ...
  A: Probably the casket has rusted out by now and a new casket will be required. It is not easy to lift ...
"opening" or digging the grave7/30/2009
  Q: I live in WI, and there is a cemetery near me that admits "green" burial. Plots are still available ...
  A: I see no reason a funeral home has to open the grave. I bet they farm that job out to someone with a ...
Cremation for a brother with no siblings7/29/2009
  Q: My single brother has no children, only 4 siblings, 2 sisters and 2 brothers. I have all General ...
  A: Unfortunately, funeral directors can be the biggest source of legal MISinformation! Probably hoping ...
Opening of a Grave and moving the remains to another state7/28/2009
  Q: My father was buried in Savannah, Georgia in July 1962. His wife, my mother is now deceased in Dec ...
  A: Under the circumstances you describe, I don't think it should be too difficult. And it turns out to ...
Remains of a fetus7/28/2009
  Q: My daughter in NC learned the 15-16 week fetus she is carrying has no heartbeat. She will go to the ...
  A: How difficult for your daughter. A fetal death certificate is issued for gestation of 20 weeks or ...
Selling pre need insurance7/28/2009
  Q: Lisa, I have been approached by a friend to join in a family connection to sell Pre Need Insurance ...
  A: GOOD for you for being suspicious. Preneed sales, as well as funeral homes and cemeteries, are ...
Burial laws/regulations in Wi.7/25/2009
  Q: I plan on building mine and my wife's casket. Could you point me in the right direction for ...
  A: E-mail me directly and I'll send you the WI chapter from the '98 edition of my book. I don't think ...
Casket removed from Oregon and brought to Calif7/25/2009
  Q: I want to move My Nana (buried in banks Oregon since 1976) to California as it is my desire to be ...
  A: You need to know that after all this time it will be expensive and smelly with excessive ...
Transporting from IL to WI VA spouse7/25/2009
  Q: My mother is 92 yrs old and buried my Dad in a VA plot in Greenwood Cemetery in Hayward WI, 25 years ...
  A: You obviously are being very thoughtful and thorough. If indeed your mother's body will need to be ...
Is it legal to spread ashes in a public park7/24/2009
  Q: I have recently decided that I would like to be cremated and have my ashes buried with a new tree on ...
  A: Generally speaking, the don't ask, don't tell policy works well for public parks. Those folks are ...
cremains removal authorization dispute7/24/2009
  Q: my mom was adamant to us kids and my step-dad, before she died, that she was to be cremated with ...
  A: Your step-dad had the legal right to decide what to do with the cremated remains UNLESS your mother ...
death certificates7/23/2009
  Q: Does one call the coroner, to obtain death certificates, and then make arrangements for cremation? ...
  A: My book is out of print while I work on the next edition. If it is an expected death, DO NOT call ...
Georgia Home Burials7/22/2009
  Q: What is the law regarding Georgia home burials? Thank you.
  A: Georgia state laws are silent in regard to home burial. Bibb County is a problem area. Otherwise, ...
home funeral and burial7/21/2009
  Q: What are the specific laws and procedures in New York state for a home burial? Can the casket be ...
  A: You may dedicate land to be used as a family cemetery if it is less than three acres and more than ...
embalming7/21/2009
  Q: Hopefully my demise is still a long way off, but it can happen at any time, and lately I've been ...
  A: The only time a body is required to be embalmed in Nebraska is when it is being shipped by common ...
Michigan home-private burials7/21/2009
  Q: What is the name of your book on how to handle a funeral without a funeral director? We are ...
  A: Michigan is one of six states where a dead body becomes a hostage of the funeral industry until the ...
FL rules for death7/21/2009
  Q: Does FL require a death certificate for someone who dies at home and is buried privately? If so, ...
  A: A death certificate is required in all deaths. If it is an unexpected death, then the medical ...
Memorial Services7/18/2009
  Q: My husband and I want to be cremated-A local funeral home can do that so we can have proper death ...
  A: Your family may absolutely arrange for any memorial services the family might want without the ...
i need help7/17/2009
  Q: our friend just recently passed away and my friend who was the closet one to him even closer than ...
  A: It depends on the state. And probably the deceased person didn't fill out the right paperwork to ...
burial on private land7/17/2009
  Q: My father owns and resides on 19 acres of land about 4 miles outside of Crivitz, Wisconsin. He has ...
  A: State laws are silent on home burial, so unless there is a local zoning problem (unlikely), home ...
father passed no money to bury him7/17/2009
  Q: My step dad died yesterday. My mother estranged herself from him about eight years ago. My step ...
  A: Did your step-dad have any assets (car or bank account or insurance) or was he eligible for ...
Moving my son's body from Ga. to TN7/16/2009
  Q: My son was buried in Georgia in 1992. I have since married and live in Tenn. Since it is over 150 ...
  A: I am guessing it might run about $7,000, as a new casket is likely to be needed after all this time. ...
Indigent cremations7/15/2009
  Q: My neighbor just told me of the death of a man that we kind of know that is indigent. I imagine that ...
  A: Someone will have to authorize the cremation. It would be that person's decision on what to do with ...
My Uncle's remains7/13/2009
  Q: My Uncle passed away on 7/4/09 in Sarasota Fl. He was being taking care of by another person in FL ...
  A: Florida laws honor the written wishes of the deceased. So if your uncle wanted cremation and ...
Planning ahead for Conservation Burial7/11/2009
  Q: What is the name of your book on how to handle a funeral without a funeral director? My family is ...
  A: The '98 edition of my book is out of print. The next edition, with any luck, will get finished and ...
Plot ownership7/11/2009
  Q: I live in Illinois. I want to know how long a grave is "owned". Can it be reused after some period ...
  A: Once a person is buried, the person should remain buried forever unless there is a court order to ...
Moving remains7/10/2009
  Q: My father died in 2005 and was buried on the farm in which we lived at the time. My parents were ...
  A: I wonder if she lied to the court. As an adult, you had the legal rights to make the funeral ...
Burial on private land in Texas7/10/2009
  Q: Is burial permitted on private land in Texas? If so is this arranged through a funeral home? Can ...
  A: If your land is in a rural area, then home burial is likely permissible, as most local zoning laws ...
Transporting Body out of Texas7/9/2009
  Q: I am a social worker at a hospital in Texas - We have had several instances lately where parents of ...
  A: How wonderful that you are so sensitive to this. E-mail me directly and I'll send you the TX chapter ...
PA law re time limit after death for burial, transport of body from MD to PA.7/9/2009
  Q: The funeral director nearest my farm in PA says there is a recent PA law that if a body is not ...
  A: NO. A body must be embalmed OR refrigerated after 24 hours. Nothing about burial in the law that I ...
Body relocated - Wisconsin7/7/2009
  Q: My twelve year old son passed away suddenly in May, 2009. A family member suggested to bury him in a ...
  A: I'm so sorry for your tragic loss. Ask the cemetery what information they will need before ...
Disinterment & Reinterment7/6/2009
  Q: My first baby was buried 13 years ago in San Mateo County, California, where we have lived for over ...
  A: Talk to the cemetery where she is buried. If she was very young, she is likely buried in a ...
Family member's body exumed and relocated7/6/2009
  Q: My entire family on my father's side has been quarrelling for years. This past week it was drawn to ...
  A: The spouse has all the rights, so the aunt doesn't have a leg to stand on unless there was something ...
Cost of Burial and Probate7/3/2009
  Q: My father passed in Feb 09. I have 5 sisters and none of them will contribute to the cost still ...
  A: If there are few or no assets, how does the lawyer think he'd going to get paid? How dumb of the ...
Direct cremation legal proceedure7/2/2009
  Q: What options do I have for transporting the body to the crematorium and recovery of the ashes? I ...
  A: The biggest problem will be finding a crematory that is willing to accept the body from a family ...
Help for my friend7/2/2009
  Q: I wondered if you could advise me on behalf of a friend who has just lost his son aged 37 in a ...
  A: It depends on how the deed was written-- tenants-in-common or joint tenants with right of ...
Dispersal of Ashes by Air Over Land7/2/2009
  Q: I wrote you several days ago but did not receive a confirming email, nor did I expect one. I sent ...
  A: You are correct. I never got your first question, so I'm glad you sent it again. I just answered the ...
burial laws6/30/2009
  Q: In the state of Colorado, do you have the right to be buried on your private property?
  A: No state laws that say yes or no. If you are in a rural are outside the village or city limits, it's ...
Grandparent6/30/2009
  Q: I recently learned that my great great great great grandparents are buried on what is apparently ...
  A: In what state are they buried now? Also in Iowa? Given how long ago they were buried, there won't be ...
transporting cremated remains to UK6/30/2009
  Q: My mother was born in Scotland but was a US Citizen at death. She has been cremated, no urn. What ...
  A: Just make sure there is no metal urn as it needs to go through the scanner. Wood, cardboard, or ...
Transporting an unembalmed body for burial in Utah6/30/2009
  Q: My father just passed away. He lived in Los Angeles county, CA, but wanted to be buried in northern ...
  A: If you are doing the transporting he does NOT need to be embalmed. Use frozen gel packs or dry ice ...
Cremated Remains6/30/2009
  Q: My grandmother passed away last year and we had her cremated. She had an insurance policy that paid ...
  A: Is your grandmother already buried in the family plot? Even tho' he was married to her, I don't ...
Deeds destroyed by sexton6/29/2009
  Q: For several years I have been trying to get our township cemetery folks to help me identify the ...
  A: With a town-owned cemetery you have no choice but to deal with the local officials. Is there an ...
1800's family graveyard on property of a house we would like to buy,6/26/2009
  Q: It is fairly close to the house and I would like to know how easy or hard it would be to have it ...
  A: I will do some further checking but I think NH laws are silent on this issue. Will post again when I ...
My daughter's funeral expenses6/24/2009
  Q: She died May 7, 2009, married 7 months I paid all costs - ins. gave $5,000. I came from out of state ...
  A: The spouse has all the rights to make funeral arrangements unless the deceased left other ...
Burials6/24/2009
  Q: What are the rules regarding burials on private property in VA?
  A: No state laws say you can or can't. If you have some acreage, say at least five acres, and are ...
Transporting across country6/24/2009
  Q: My mother-in-law is very ill. As the family discussed various issues, should she die, the discussion ...
  A: It should be legal to transport her body by a family member. You will need to file the death ...
Legal rights6/24/2009
  Q: My wife was crematated. I did not pay for the cremation.A non-family member did pay for it. Do i ...
  A: Yes, you absolutely as the spouse have all rights (if you were not estranged, in some states). How ...
body6/23/2009
  Q: Does Florida law require next-of-kin to claim a body or can the nearest relatives refuse to shoulder ...
  A: To my knowledge, Florida is not one of the states that requires next-of-kin to foot the funeral ...
Widow Rights to Plots purchased before marriage6/23/2009
  Q: My husband obtained 3 burial plots in Florida.. He mentioned it to me in our 11 years together and ...
  A: Contact the cemetery to make sure they are in your husband's name and not shared with anyone else. ...
Burial in Madison County, Ohio6/22/2009
  Q: Can you open an existing grave site to add ashes of a second person. If so, who has the rights to ...
  A: Next-of-kin would have the rights or give permission. The cemetery is likely to want to charge you ...
No burial insurance6/19/2009
  Q: My nephew died yesterday in an accident. He had no insurance. Is there any help in the State of ...
  A: None that I know of. If he was eligible for Medicaid, there may be a small amount of state or county ...
Fathers Ashes Taken From Me By Sheriff...6/18/2009
  Q: Parent passed last June without a will. Sibling and I agreed to cremate deceased and scatter ashes ...
  A: I don't think "tangible property" has anything to do with it. Unless there were written wishes of ...
the cost of digging hole for cremation remains6/16/2009
  Q: I will be burying my moms remains in a cemetery next to my dads BUT the cost is OUTRAGEOUS $675 for ...
  A: Even the small town cemetery here in VT wants $100 to dig that hole, which I think it too much, too. ...
burial rights6/16/2009
  Q: In California, is it legal to bury human remains on personal rural property?
  A: Towns are given the right to govern this in CA. No state laws say you can or can't. If you have land ...
remains across state lines6/14/2009
  Q: My parents have funeral arrangements already made in Oklahoma. But for now, they live with me in ...
  A: What a thoughtful daughter! What have your parents already paid for? It would be helpful for you ...
private family cemetery in Kentucky6/12/2009
  Q: What is the law on establishing a private family cemetery on private property in state of Kentucky? ...
  A: If your land is outside the village or city limits and if there is no local mention of family ...
Texas and Burial Laws6/11/2009
  Q: From what I have researched in Texas there is no law to buried on your own land as long as you ...
  A: If your land is outside the village or city limits and there are no zoning laws, you're right. Yes, ...
Private Property Burials6/10/2009
  Q: I would just like to know the stipulations on a burial on your own private property? I heard that ...
  A: The 24 hour business has nothing to do with home burial. There are no state laws that say you can ...
burial without major funeral expenses6/7/2009
  Q: I have terminal cancer and have been given 1 to 2 years. I hate the ridiculously high cost of ...
  A: You have every right to limit funeral costs as you see fit. That said, it is very important to talk ...
Moving an interred body from FL to LA6/7/2009
  Q: My husband's mother was buried in Florida, where she was staying with his younger sister. The sister ...
  A: If the mother left written wishes, those would prevail in FL according to FL law. But if she didn't, ...
My Moms remains6/6/2009
  Q: My mom died suddenly a few weeks ago (age 50) and due to financial reasons we had to have her ...
  A: It makes my blood boil when cemeteries do that kind of money-grubbing sales pitch. I've been known ...
SCI6/4/2009
  Q: I heard from a funeral director in our area that SCI offered to buy them out, but when he refused ...
  A: There is a Funeral Consumers Alliance in Chicago. I'm not sure if they do a regular price survey or ...
Moving a body6/2/2009
  Q: Does my sister in law have legal rights to move my brothers grave from Colorado to Kansas. They were ...
  A: Since the wife was in the hospital and unable to assert her rights at the time, any Probate Court ...
burial sites6/1/2009
  Q: Lisa-we own a large piece of land in Green Lake county Wisconsin, we have it legally added to a LLC ...
  A: No state laws regarding home burial, one way or the other, so you should have no problem. Draw a map ...
Engraving Headstone without Burial6/1/2009
  Q: My dad is buried in a cemetery in NY. My mom died recently and was cremated. The cemetery wanted ...
  A: You're a woman after my own heart! Don't ask the cemetery to fix the marker. Get another monument ...
Ohio Burial5/31/2009
  Q: I have a question about what the laws are pertaining to Greene county as far as being buried on the ...
  A: If your land is outside the village or city limits, then there should be no problem. (There are no ...
Death Certificates5/29/2009
  Q: My Wife works for a Cemetery / Funeral Home. She is constantly writing checks to one individual who ...
  A: Only the Department of Vital Records can issue death certificates, and those come with a raised ...
disinterment5/28/2009
  Q: My sister committed suicide 28 years ago to escape an abusive husband. He recently died and now the ...
  A: As siblings, you probably don't have any legal weight regarding funeral plans if there are other ...
Oklahoma interrment5/26/2009
  Q: Can private land, out in Pittsburg county, in Oklahoma, be earmarked for a family cemetery and what ...
  A: If your land is outside city or village limits and if you have a fair amount of land, say five acres ...
requirements for burial in sarasota fla.5/25/2009
  Q: what permit is needed,and is a vault required to have a person buried on his family home land in ...
  A: Unless you are in a rural area with a lot of land, say five acres or more, zoning is not likely to ...
Death Midwife training5/25/2009
  Q: I live in WY and wonder where I could get Death Midwife certification. I am interested in this. ...
  A: At the moment, there are no standards for "certification" as a death midwife. You would find a class ...
Should my dad have to pay for estranged brother's cremation?5/23/2009
  Q: My dad and his brother have not spoken in years. My dad's cousin contacted him this week to let him ...
  A: TX does have a law that requires the next-of-kin to arrange for and pay for disposition, as do one ...
cremains5/21/2009
  Q: I have two grave sites in a small cemetery in Indiana. My husbands cremains were interred this ...
  A: This sounds like a for-profit cemetery trying to raid your pocketbook! Either that or some ...
home wake in Alabama5/21/2009
  Q: Can I have my wake at home & bypass the funeral industry entirely? I want to be cared for by family ...
  A: You do not need to use a funeral director in Alabama at all, so, yes, you can have a home wake, home ...
home burial5/19/2009
  Q: I live in NW Florida I own 2.4 acres can I be buried on my property and have it be a home (green) ...
  A: If your land is in a really rural area, you could possibly set up a family graveyard. If you are ...
Exhumation and Reburial5/17/2009
  Q: I have a friend that has a child buried in one state and would like her moved to her home state. ...
  A: If the child was an infant, it was likely buried in a combination casket-vault that should still be ...
Relocated Remains...5/16/2009
  Q: My Grandma died in 2001. She was cremated. At the time, my Grandpa and I were in shock, it all ...
  A: Your grandfather has ALL RIGHTS to determine his wife's burial location and memorial marker. The ...
Cost Cutting funerals5/15/2009
  Q: My grandma ma let her ins policy lapse so now with her hanging on by a thread we are un sure how we ...
  A: If you e-mail me directly, I can send you the GA chapter from my book on how to handle a funeral ...
Disinterment-Reinterment/Family Plot/Affidavit5/15/2009
  Q: (Question from Michigan) I have visited my father's grave a few times a year, and always on the ...
  A: What a gawd-awful mess! How unkind! You don't need a lawyer to go to Probate Court. I would start ...
Rights over parents plots5/14/2009
  Q: My mother passed away in Feb 2008 and me and my father were the one's who went to the cemetery to ...
  A: First of all, no one OWNS a plot, simply the right of interment, and both plots have been used in ...
winter burials5/11/2009
  Q: I am our townships Planning Commission chairperson. We are working on our Cemetery Ordinance. I ...
  A: I believe NY is the only state requiring winter burials. Here in VT, most cemeteries have a "winter ...
Iowa law5/9/2009
  Q: Where can I go to find out if embalming is required, if I can make my own casket, and so forth in ...
  A: E-mail me directly and I can give you the Iowa chapter from my book, now out of print. It's 10 years ...
Idaho home burial5/9/2009
  Q: My mom wants to be buried on her property in North Idaho. I can't find laws against it and the ...
  A: If you e-mail me directly, I can send you the Idaho chapter from my book that will give you helpful ...
scattering field5/8/2009
  Q: Can I charge individuals for scattering cremains on my farm the way cemeteries do? What are the ...
  A: That is clearly a gray area if you aren't allowing burials. Charging folks makes it a commercial ...
embalming and cremation5/8/2009
  Q: I'd like to know about embalming and cremation in OH. I have been to several memorial services and ...
  A: You can certainly be embalmed prior to cremation, though you might not choose it if you knew what ...
Burial Vaults5/7/2009
  Q: I plan to start building all steel burial vaults but the problem I keep running into with funeral ...
  A: I'm not sure why you would even want to make steel vaults. Like steel septic tanks, they'll ...
law reguarding age of burial5/7/2009
  Q: How old does the fetus have to be before the law requires you to have a funeral. In the state of ...
  A: After 20 weeks, a fetal death is recorded on a fetal death certificate. You don't have to have a ...
home burials5/7/2009
  Q: My husband and I are looking for a place to retire, and are looking at property in CO, CA, WY, MT, ...
  A: California makes it difficult to "establish" a family cemetery. Local municipalities are given ...
Home Funerals in San Diego5/4/2009
  Q: I'm a journalist at a local station in San Diego CA, and would very much like to do a story about ...
  A: Abbie, thanks for your interest. You have some folks in that area who are active in assisting ...
Scattering Cremains in Gulf of Mexico5/1/2009
  Q: My husband passed away 16 yrs ago. His wish was to be scattered in the Gulf. Because I could never ...
  A: Go right ahead. If some funeral director says it has to be three miles out, ignore it. The EPA has ...
body relocating5/1/2009
  Q: My mother-in-law passed away in 1995, now my father-in-law would like to move here to another ...
  A: Did your mother-in-law have any wishes in writing? If so, that should prevail. Otherwise, alas, the ...
Bury me in a pine box4/30/2009
  Q: My parents live in Ohio and own sixty acres out in the country. When they die they would like a ...
  A: Starting a family graveyard in OH should be no problem. Draw a map of the land showing where the ...
moving burial plot4/29/2009
  Q: My husb died in rural VA-in our home and was buried on property. He was buried in biodegradable ...
  A: How very unfortunate, Nancy! I'd be happy to talk with someone at the bank as it may ADD value to ...
body transport4/28/2009
  Q: I am thinking of a body transportation system to serve folks who die out of state or many miles from ...
  A: There are already body shipping services such as Inman Nationwide as well as local ones that ...
Right to refuse body4/26/2009
  Q: I live in a small town with one funeral home and no others for 20 miles. I work in a nursing home ...
  A: I doubt very much that a funeral home is obligated to pick up a body. In what state? Usually, the ...
Private Property burial4/23/2009
  Q: Simple: I want to build a concrete mausoleum. My spouse chooses not to be buried or cremated. Can ...
  A: Before you decide on a mausoleum, you might want to find out more. It is a crock-pot for a smelly ...
to be buried on my property4/20/2009
  Q: I WANT TO BE BURIED ON MY PROPERTY. I live in southern Oregon. I live up on a mtn with acreage and ...
  A: Oregon laws are mute on home burial. That said, there is a DREADFUL bill in the Senate--SB 796--to ...
Wakes4/19/2009
  Q: can we have my mothers wake at home in pinellas county FL.34684
  A: Yes you may. If she dies at home, you could bathe and dress her yourselves and have visitors before ...
Concrete Burial Vault4/18/2009
  Q: Does PA require coffins or urns to be buried in a concrete vault? Do most states require this to be ...
  A: No state requires vaults for either caskets or urns. In fact, NY forbids cemeteries from requiring ...
Home burial4/17/2009
  Q: I went to the library and looked through your book concerning home burial for the state of Ohio. ...
  A: No marker is necessary, but I would strongly recommend that you draw a map of your property showing ...
who has the say so?4/16/2009
  Q: my father remarried and is the hospital not doing good.his now wife wants him burried by her and ...
  A: Unless your dad has written instructions for his final disposition, then his wife gets to call the ...
Beneficiary and Ownership of Insuarance Policy4/15/2009
  Q: I am employed at a Funeral Home where I frequently assist in making Pre-need arrangements. While ...
  A: Your funeral home MAY be named the beneficiary. Statutes: 30-2-13-12 (c) and 30-2-13-12.5 (b) ...
Cemetery Property4/15/2009
  Q: My grandparents bought 5 cemetery spaces in 1948 and both are now deceased and used 2 of the 5 ...
  A: Here's the law-- Sec. 711.039. RIGHTS OF INTERMENT IN PLOT. (a) A plot in which the exclusive ...
Columbarium4/13/2009
  Q: In Ohio, what are the laws, regulations regarding the building of a columbarium? We've searched and ...
  A: If this is strictly private and you are not selling space, go right ahead and build it. The state ...
Can you tell me if there is funding in the state of missouri that will help with a funeral4/9/2009
  Q: Her daughters and son doesnt have the money the funeral home is wanting up front to begin the ...
  A: If the aunt was on Medicaid, there may be some state assistance. The funeral director should know ...
Ohio Burial Laws for Cremated Remains4/7/2009
  Q: We no longer live in OH, but my aged mother asks to be cremated and returned to OH. Is there any ...
  A: If it is a for-profit cemetery, they're likely to want to charge you for a second right of ...
Michigan, 1 acre, Cremated remains. family Burial plot4/7/2009
  Q: MS Carlson, I wish to establish a family burial plot for cremated remains only. What are the rules ...
  A: Family graveyards are permissible in MI outside village or city limits. Such land is exempt from ...
Creamation Remains4/7/2009
  Q: My brother passed away a year and a half ago, he laft behind his parents, wife, 6 brothers and 1 ...
  A: The wife gave up some of her rights when she didn't pay for the funeral arrangements. How generous ...
moving cremains across state lines into an existing grave4/2/2009
  Q: The property on which my Dad's grave is located is being sold.(in MA) I want to move his cremains ...
  A: You don't need a funeral home at all. The U.S. Postal Service is the only way to ship them. FedEx ...
Transporting a body across state lines4/2/2009
  Q: What are the laws regarding transporting a body from Tennessee to Virginia? The current proposal is ...
  A: Yes, a family member may transport the body provided you have the burial transit permit. FYI, if ...
probate4/2/2009
  Q: I am being sued by a step brother for the ashes of our parents and I just received a subpoena duces ...
  A: The court procedures (subpoenas) are outside my area of expertise. That said, perhaps I can be ...
Transportation of deceased relative4/2/2009
  Q: What are the laws and regulations on transporting deceased relatives? My Dad wants to know if he ...
  A: E-mail me directly and I'll send you the CA chapter from my book that's now out of print. He will ...
legal resposibility for Father's funera;4/1/2009
  Q: My father has been diagnosed with a terminal illness. He has a girlfriend of 30 years and had taken ...
  A: In only a few states are you obligated to participate in planning or paying for a relative's ...
Casket requirements4/1/2009
  Q: Can you be buried in Carroll County Ga. in a home made wood casket and can you establish a burial ...
  A: Yes, you can be in a home-made casket anywhere, in any cemetery. Home-made caskets tend to be too ...
disposition of adult child remains4/1/2009
  Q: adult son died without a will, his adult children cannot agree on disposition of cremated remains, ...
  A: Splitting up the cremated remains is one way to resolve the issue. Otherwise, someone should go to ...
Cremation in Alabama3/30/2009
  Q: My sister just passed away in Anniston, AL. She was divorced and had three grown children. Her body ...
  A: The only good news I have is that you can probably get a copy of her death certificate from the ...
Disinternment of Grandparents3/30/2009
  Q: My grandparents died in 1986 and 1988 and are buried in Alabama. My uncle has some land in ...
  A: After all this time, the caskets have either rusted out if metal or fallen apart if wood. It will be ...
Cost of cremation for estranged father of grown children3/27/2009
  Q: He has no health insurance, no will, no living relatives,and no money. He left our 2 boys (now ...
  A: There are only a few states that require the next-of-kin to pay for funeral expenses. In what state ...
moving cremated remains3/27/2009
  Q: My infant daughters cremated remains are in Seattle WA. I would like to move her to Tucson AZ. What ...
  A: Simply call the cemetery and let them know you will arrive to pick them up on such-and-such a day. ...
Funeral expenses of an Aunt3/27/2009
  Q: My Aunt passed away in September, 2008. For the last year of her life I had Power of Attorney for ...
  A: Beverly, One of the reasons I asked so many questions is that the funeral home is REQUIRED by ...
insurance policy no good3/27/2009
  Q: my half sister died and left a $10,000 policy and $1,000 policy with her 15 year old daughter as ...
  A: What kind of evidence do you have that the funeral home checked on these policies? Do you have ...
Funeral expenses3/23/2009
  Q: Could you please tell me the best ways that we can cut the expenses of an upcoming terminal family ...
  A: You don't need to use a funeral home at all. The family can to the paperwork and transport the body ...
My Son's cremains3/23/2009
  Q: My Son was murdered almost two years ago. His remains were cremated. He had no wife, so his Father ...
  A: The laws in most states are not at all clear about this, with both parents typically having equal ...
Cremation Authoration3/23/2009
  Q: My brother who lives lives in Scottsboro Al.wants to be cremated, and was told by the local funeral ...
  A: Alas, Alabama is not one of the states that allows one to name a designated agent for body ...
Disinterring and moving a child3/22/2009
  Q: My daughter's first child was born premature 3years ago and died within hours while they were living ...
  A: Talk to the cemetery where the child is buried. Typically an infant is buried in a casket-vault ...
cemetray plots3/20/2009
  Q: My mom and dad divorced and my mother remarried. She and her husband are now both deceased but at ...
  A: Cemeteries love this kind of mess because after a given number of years they get to resell something ...
Caskets3/20/2009
  Q: Is there a law as to what a casket or coffin should be built? Can they be built out of wood and do ...
  A: No state has laws about how a casket is built. No seal needed. Home-made caskets tend to be too big. ...
Home Wake3/20/2009
  Q: I live in Pennsylvania. Is it possible/legal to have a funeral with a viewing or a home wake ...
  A: Yes. You don't even need to use a funeral home at all in PA. The family may file the paperwork, ...
Delayed Burial3/18/2009
  Q: The funeral director was to ship my nieces remains to Ohio from Texas for burial. She died on 3/5 ...
  A: By TX law, the death certificate should have been filed within 10 days. Sometimes doctors take a ...
Selling Land with Family Graves3/18/2009
  Q: If we sell a piece of land with a family cemetery: 1) Do graves negatively affect a land sale? 2) ...
  A: It may or may not affect a sale. Many people find a family graveyard a charming bit of history. ...
prepaid funeral and embalming3/16/2009
  Q: I prepaid my funeral 20 years afo and have changed my mind and they wont give all of my money back ...
  A: If you prepaid in KY, then 100% should have been put in trust, and 100% of what you paid and all ...
2nd rights3/13/2009
  Q: My mother passed in 1985 and after the shock of being drug through the burial system my father ...
  A: This sort of thing makes my blood boil!! They're getting paid twice for the same plot of land. ...
burial rights3/13/2009
  Q: if my friends mother wants him in charge of where shes buried does he have the right to carry out ...
  A: Written and witnessed wishes of the deceased must be honored in WA. The law says: Right to Control ...
Who can legally attend a funeral?3/13/2009
  Q: My father and I are bitterly estranged. My grandmother (his mother) most likely will pass away very ...
  A: If the funeral is announced in the newspaper, then it is a public event and you should be able to ...
Grave ownership3/12/2009
  Q: My Mothernlaw bought 3 graves in 2/1989 when her husband died. about 14 years later she dies and we ...
  A: The city made the error and needs to fix it. Once a body has been buried, it should be allowed to ...
Who can be buried in a family cemetery?3/10/2009
  Q: We live in Michigan and plan to have a (green) family cemetery on our farm. I've read your answers ...
  A: Yes, if you are not charging any money, then you'll be fine. GOOD LUCK! By the way, are you ...
start a family cemetary3/7/2009
  Q: Lisa, Can you tell me how find out if you can start a family cemetary in Muhlenberg County, ...
  A: There are no laws one way or the other. So if you have rural land outside the village or city ...
Cremation with minor children3/6/2009
  Q: Does Florida have a law stating a person cannot be cremated if there are minor children? A funeral ...
  A: That is total bullshit! No such law. The minor children can visit the grave for cremated remains. ...
Burial placement order3/6/2009
  Q: Is there a typical protocol for placement of husband and wife in burial plot? Is the wife to the ...
  A: It really depends on the cemetery. And which is the "right"--what you see lying down or standing up ...
Burial Plot Rights Parents vs. Widowed Wife3/5/2009
  Q: My mom recently attempted to order a vase to place at my brothers grave site,however she was told ...
  A: Are there children that the rest of the family will have or want to have contact with? Regardless, ...
Pre-arrangements for Mom - Complicated3/4/2009
  Q: Ms. Carlson, First, Thank you for this wonderful service - I'd never felt so victimized until trying ...
  A: John, Sign up your mother as a member of the Los Angeles Funeral Consumers Alliance -- ...
Moving My Fathers Body3/4/2009
  Q: My father is buried in a National Cemetery (He was in the army) in Nashville, TN (because his wife ...
  A: Would his wife object to the move? I think she still gets to call the shots even though she's ...
Maiden names on headstones3/4/2009
  Q: I live in Calgary, Alberta and my sister passed away almost two years ago in England. She was ...
  A: I certainly understand the genealogical desire to have all pertinent names on a head stone. If the ...
Cremains in Church Garden3/4/2009
  Q: Our church is thinking about adding a memorial garden in the back where people can scatter (not ...
  A: Yes, that would be legal. One is supposed to notify the state where the disposition of cremated ...
Rights to Ashes3/3/2009
  Q: I have two nephews ages 6 and 11 whose Mother just passed away. Her Mother who who disowned her and ...
  A: The minor children have no rights, I'm sorry to say. Was there a husband, even if estranged? How was ...
Opening of graves3/3/2009
  Q: I recently learned that to open our graves purchased 52 years ago will now cost $1050, 7 times the ...
  A: Yes, you can bury cremated remains anywhere with the landowner's permission. But there might be ...
Stillbirths3/3/2009
  Q: Are all stillbirths required to have a death certificate issued in the state of California? Are ...
  A: A fetal death certificate is required in CA after 20 weeks of gestation. That is typical of most ...
disposition of cremains3/2/2009
  Q: My parents have a cemetary plot in PA. I contacted the cemetary regarding putting my parents' ...
  A: This sounds like a for-profit cemetery that has made up its own rules to raid your pocketbook. ...
Family Burial Plot on Your Land in Oklahoma2/27/2009
  Q: What do you need to do to have a family burial plot on your own land in Oklahoma?
  A: I am assuming you have a lot of land in a rural area outside the village or city limits. If so, draw ...
casket transportaion2/27/2009
  Q: The nursing home where my mom resides in Philadelphia PA, has asked us to have funeral arrangements ...
  A: Will there be any services with the casket present other than perhaps a graveside service? If not, ...
who's responsible for funeral cost2/27/2009
  Q: My oldest son passed away October 2006, he left behind two children and an ex-wife,mom&stepdad& ...
  A: The son's estate should have paid the funeral costs. A car or house, for example, or any other ...
exhuming a body2/25/2009
  Q: Our step-dad has threatened to move our mom's body to another state. Mom has been gone almost a year ...
  A: Unfortunately, unless your mother had her wishes in writing, her spouse gets to call the shots. That ...
TX TO MO TRANSPORT2/25/2009
  Q: Our grandfather is near death and we will have services in Rosenberg, TX w/the actual burial in ...
  A: One of you could transport the body. That would be entirely legal, even if you had to rent a van. ...
body transport2/25/2009
  Q: I am trying to locate a body transport business to move a body and casket from Venice Fl. to Tampa ...
  A: Ask the Mass. funeral home to make arrangements, not the FL one. And tell them you expect them to ...
transporting body from alabama to another state2/24/2009
  Q: Can I transport the body of a deceased love one by myself from alabama to be buried in florida?
  A: Yes, but Alabama requires that the body be embalmed first. Also, the cemetery to which the body ...
my land2/22/2009
  Q: I live in Georgia and wanted to be buried on my land. What do I have to do? Who do I contact to ...
  A: If you are in a rural area outside city or village limits and have a fair amount of land, and are ...
Florida burial rules/fees2/21/2009
  Q: My mother lived in Fl for many years and will be buried beside my father in the Garden of Memories, ...
  A: You sound like a very well-educated and conscientious person. I see that this is a funeral home ...
Dead body transportation2/20/2009
  Q: I am trying to pre-arrange my final services. I wish to dontate my body to the Washington University ...
  A: What a generous offer. Ask the med school if they have any recommendations. I have no idea how close ...
cremated remains2/19/2009
  Q: My friend Lisa lost her Father and Mother a day apart in January, they lived in Tennessee. They were ...
  A: Boy, you certainly got my blood boiling!! Is it the funeral home or the cemetery -- or is it a combo ...
state laws in Alabama2/19/2009
  Q: Can you direct me? I am trying to find out about specific laws governing furnerals and burials in ...
  A: Yes, indeed. E-mail me directly and I'll send you the updated Alabama chapter from my book. ...
Wife killed by Husband - Who decides burial2/19/2009
  Q: In Texas Husband kills wife - Wife's family want her to be buried in A. Husband wants to decide ...
  A: Here is my direct e-mail if you need it-- lisa@funeralethics.org I'm not sure where in TX you are, ...
Burying Cremains/Separating Ashes2/17/2009
  Q: In Brief: My 9 yr. old stepdaughters mother died 3 years ago and the maternal grandmother had her ...
  A: There is absolutely no law or cemetery regulation that I know of that would forbid the burial of ...
Headstone2/14/2009
  Q: My sister passed away, and my parents paid for the funeral even though she was married and has 2 ...
  A: Genealogists appreciate having maiden names on headstones as it makes their work much easier, ...
cremation2/14/2009
  Q: What is the law in AR on disposition of cremation? Also what is the law in AR for not using funeral ...
  A: In all states, you can pretty much do as you wish with cremated remains. If you e-mail me directly, ...
burial ground2/12/2009
  Q: I live in Bakersfield CA my parents are buried at Hillcrest right next to eachother, my Dad died ...
  A: This cemetery is owned by Service Corporation International that has a reputation of manipulating ...
Body Transport2/12/2009
  Q: My parents currently reside in Florida, they have burial plots in upstate New York. As their health ...
  A: If there will be no services in Florida, work with the NY funeral director only. He/she will call a ...
PRIVATE TRANSPORT OF DECEASED BODY2/9/2009
  Q: We live in Oklahoma and I am trying to find out if we can transport our mothers body from one town ...
  A: You don't need to have the body embalmed at all. E-mail me directly and I'll send you the Oklahoma ...
cemetery photography rights2/9/2009
  Q: I'm an Ohio author who wants to do a book involving photographs of unusual and/or famous historical ...
  A: I don't know the answer to that but have forwarded your question to Clyde Chamberlain who writes a ...
Funeral Costs2/9/2009
  Q: I was married to my husband for 6 years. He died suddenly of a heartattack in 11/08. He left written ...
  A: How too bad that their shares weren't put on their credit cards at the time of the funeral. And how ...
funeral pyres2/7/2009
  Q: what are the laws in wis. concerning them and if it's part of my religion what do i need to know ...
  A: You will need a medical examiner's permit to cremate in WI. My guess is you'll have a hard time ...
very upset mom2/4/2009
  Q: Lisa, Received the rules: Fresh cut or silk-life flowers are permitted in a permanent vase, year ...
  A: I'm sure they'll say the bricks interfer with mowing, which they do. You should certainly ask for ...
Cremation2/4/2009
  Q: My fiance and father of my children ages 8,6,2 passed away seven months ago. His mother took urn ...
  A: Unfortunately, unless your fiance left written wishes to the contrary, I'm guessing that his parents ...
very upset mom2/3/2009
  Q: Lisa, My 17 yr old daughter is buried at Meadowridge Memorial Park in Elkridge, Maryland. I have ...
  A: You likely have absolutely no rights. Number 1, you don't own the site, just the interment rights. ...
rights of next of kin2/2/2009
  Q: My adult friend's biological father died;he divorced her mom and remarried;the wife is next of kin, ...
  A: I would think the wife has lost all rights. Your friend should go to the court in that county and ...
Disinterment & Reburial2/2/2009
  Q: Our father died in 1985 and is buried in FL. Our mother died Feb 2008 and is buried in MD. Four of ...
  A: I believe you will have to go to Probate Court in Florida. You don't need a lawyer in Probate. I ...
Multiple remains in one site2/1/2009
  Q: I will be buried in Florida. I have the cremains of my mother, father and fiance and would like to ...
  A: If the cemetery is a for-profit cemetery, which most in FL are, then they will surely want to charge ...
CREMATION CERTIFICAT1/31/2009
  Q: we did not receive cremation cert,or burn tag is the cremation cite non consumer friendly also.In ...
  A: Do you have a cemetery plot where you want to bury the cremated remains? Ask if the cemetery will ...
name on headstone1/31/2009
  Q: A friend of mine has been widowed twice, and wants to be buried next to her first husband. She has ...
  A: One of the advantages of cremation is that the cremated remains can be dispersed to various family ...
death in Canada, transport to US1/30/2009
  Q: My 84 year old mother is coming to visit me in Alberta, Canada for an extended time, perhaps three ...
  A: I am assuming you might choose not to have any services in Canada, as I'm guessing she knows few ...
CREMATION RIGHTS MO.1/30/2009
  Q: My brother pssed in missorie,the girl friend told funeral director to cemate him.I SHOULD ALSO SAY ...
  A: I'm sorry about your loss. Unfortunately, coroners are not always very consumer-friendly. You ...
transporting loved one from one cemetary to another1/28/2009
  Q: I want to remove my husband from one cemetary to another (their only a block or two from each other. ...
  A: You'll get the fastest answers from the town cemetery. I think you may need to go to Probate Court ...
Funeral Expences Laws1/26/2009
  Q: Could you please tell me the best ways that we can cut the expenses of an upcoming terminal family ...
  A: If all in the family are willing to consider the generous idea of donating the body for medical ...
next of kin rights1/25/2009
  Q: My question Is My (common-law spouse) was killed, His father took control of the burial had him ...
  A: It does sound like a pretty bad situation for you. I'm sorry for what you went through. You asked, ...
Exhuming my fathers remains for DNA test1/25/2009
  Q: First thank you for this service. My father passed away in 1953 in Oklahoma and 55 years later ...
  A: Go to the probate court in your county. You don't need a lawyer. Take whatever evidence you have ...
Disinterment in New Hampshire1/24/2009
  Q: A person (veteran) buried in a municipal cemetery because of indigence with no known relative, who ...
  A: Wow! That is a TOUGH one! Here is NH statute. I believe someone would have to go to probate court to ...
laws of cremated remains1/22/2009
  Q: I have a father whom passed away in Kingman AZ 2-17-08, my mom traveled here to my home to live in ...
  A: Your dad's ashes belonged to your mother, and unless your dad had written out his wishes as to what ...
Home Funeral Service and Burial1/22/2009
  Q: I live in KY and want to know if it's possible for the family and myself to do everything involved ...
  A: Yes, you may handle everything yourselves. E-mail me directly and I can send you the KY chapter from ...
Illinois Law1/18/2009
  Q: Can you please tell me if "Home Funerals" are allowed in the state of Illinois. And are there any ...
  A: Yes, but depending on where you are, you may run into problems with authorities who think it isn't. ...
who controls cemetary plots1/18/2009
  Q: My parents were both buried in the plots they purchased. My sister always stated to everyone in the ...
  A: Each cemetery has its own rules, so I would ask your question of the cemetery folks. You might go ...
Burial1/17/2009
  Q: I want to be buried in a pine box and buried on my on land. I live in North Carolina, Randolph ...
  A: The NC laws are mute on the topic of home burial. Draw a map of your land showing where the family ...
Cremation buriel1/14/2009
  Q: Can I buried my dad's cremated remains on our ranch in Calfornia?
  A: Yes. If your dad was cremated in CA or IN, the state may ask you to fill out where they are buried ...
transporting from state to state1/14/2009
  Q: I recently heard their might be opportunities to transport deceased loved ones from Florida. How do ...
  A: Check with the professional licensing department. They license body transport services. In-state ...
Grave Markers ?1/14/2009
  Q: My Father just passed last week, My parents had already bought a few plots when we were children, ...
  A: Jan, The cemetery may NOT require you to use them to place the marker. Tell them they are violating ...
death midwife certification1/13/2009
  Q: I live in Florida and recently saw an article about death midwives. I am interested in learning ...
  A: Check with either of these ladies. Both travel around the country to give workshops-- Jerrigrace ...
transporting the dead1/13/2009
  Q: we have a very close friend dying of brain cancer, and we have been caring for him in a different ...
  A: Yes, you can transport him yourself. E-mail me directly and I'll send you the CA chapter from my ...
Burial conditions1/9/2009
  Q: I strongly prefer burial without embalming and without any casket. I do not want a concrete vault. ...
  A: Burial in WA requires an "established" cemetery. That said, there is growing interest in ...
Family Cemetery Burials not being allowed1/6/2009
  Q: I live in NC. Current owners of the family cemetery are refusing to allow further burials of family ...
  A: I would have to do more research to be able to answer that with any authority. Is it measured out in ...
caskets1/6/2009
  Q: My family has used the same funeral home since I was 9, now I'm 51. They have taken care of everyone ...
  A: It sounds as if the funeral home manipulated you at a vulnerable time. The rental caskets are all ...
Unusual death situation1/4/2009
  Q: My sister and I haven't seen my father in 30 years. We were recently notified of his passing. My ...
  A: Why would a funeral director have contacted your sister or even known how to? The funeral director ...
death " midwife"1/3/2009
  Q: I have tried to find a death midlife in Oregon and so far have not been successful. Do you know of ...
  A: I don't know of any in your particular area. Contact Erin or Kathy Phelps at Omega in Portland. Good ...
Pre-need plot, cript and stone tranfer to family member1/2/2009
  Q: I own a pre-need plot, cript, headstone in Independence, Mo., and wish to transfer it to a family ...
  A: Tell them you will report them to the Office of Professional Regulation if they try to pull such ...
right to bury their own12/31/2008
  Q: Is there a right to bury one's own in the state of Alabama? Can the family transport the body in a ...
  A: Yes, a family may transport the body or handle everything without a funeral director in AL, provided ...
Cemetery practices12/30/2008
  Q: My mother was buried last week (12/23)at a Chicago cemetery. When my sister returned today, the ...
  A: If it is a religiously-owned cemetery, there won't be much you can do except to harrass the church ...
Laws for transporting cremation ashes from one state to another12/28/2008
  Q: My mother-in-law lives with us in AZ and has a prepaid casket and plot in PA. Someone told us that ...
  A: Was the casket prepaid at a funeral home or cemetery in PA? Was only the casket prepaid or the whole ...
NC law on dying, death and cremation12/25/2008
  Q: My family is Buddhist, and we have particular religious practices and rituals we would like to ...
  A: You may do that. When you think you might be facing a death fairly soon, it's important to walk ...
Private property burial12/25/2008
  Q: My father would like to buried on his property in Trinity county in northern California. Is that ...
  A: Towns have the authority to regulate cemeteries. Draw a map of the land showing where you would like ...
Transporting the recently deceased12/22/2008
  Q: My wife and I have a scheduled c-section for a baby that is not expected to live more than a few ...
  A: I'm so sorry. How very difficult for you. There will be a death certificate at the hospital. That is ...
burying your own in indiana12/20/2008
  Q: can a person bury their love ones in indiana without using a funeral home having to be embaulted ...
  A: The short answer is "no." Burial must be in an "established" cemetery. You could see if the town ...
Green Burial12/17/2008
  Q: We are interested in possibly using part of our farm in Montgomery County, Maryland, as a memorial ...
  A: You don't need any special permission to do this--for family, for example-- unless you are charging ...
Power of Attorney and Son12/14/2008
  Q: My mother recently passed away. My Mother gave POA to my Aunt who refused to list me on the ...
  A: In what state did your mother live? In most states the POA dies when the person dies. Did your ...
Responsible for burial12/12/2008
  Q: The Circuit Court of Maryland appointed an employee of the court the financial responsibility for an ...
  A: No, the finanical guardian should have borne all funeral expenses, especially with the house as an ...
Moving remains from one state to another12/10/2008
  Q: My husband's 5 yr old daughter died 11 yrs ago. She was buried in FL where he was living at the ...
  A: Contact a local funeral director there in SC. He/she can make arrangements with a Florida funeral ...
rights to ashes son and his x-fiance12/8/2008
  Q: my son and his fiance of 4 1/2 years had twin girls born dead. my son has the ashes right now and ...
  A: Most states consider cremation the "final disposition" and have few if any laws about what happens ...
North Carolina Burial Laws12/6/2008
  Q: Are there any laws governing where you can bury a person? We live in a rural, unincorporated area, ...
  A: Home burial in a rural area in NC is likely permissible in your area. There are no state laws that ...
Can parents be forced to allow brother to be moved?12/6/2008
  Q: My brother committed suicide this past July. He left no will or instructions. He was 40 years old. ...
  A: Bio mother will have to go to Probate Court to force the father to make any other changes. Since ...
mail cremated remains12/6/2008
  Q: my brother recently died in England. i am his only family can i have his cremated remains mailed to ...
  A: I am not sure about English law. If he didn't leave any instructions to the contrary and has no ...
Restricted burial plot - CA12/2/2008
  Q: Carlson - My grandparents purchased two plots in Santa Barbara in 1968. My grandfather is buried ...
  A: Have your father ask to be shown the law. I don't believe it exists in CA. NY requires that it be ...
funeral arrangements12/2/2008
  Q: funerals are pricey,anyway of buying casket,vault less expensive or even cremating,is it better to ...
  A: Alas, Indiana is one of seven states that require you to use a funeral director whether you want one ...
burial in SC12/1/2008
  Q: Is it lawful to be buried in my property in the state of SC? What do I need to do so I can be buried ...
  A: If you are in a rural area outside the village or city limits, then home burial is likely permitted. ...
Husband's rights in deceased wife's funeral arrangements11/29/2008
  Q: My brother's wife just passed and he says she wanted to be cremated but there is nothing in writing. ...
  A: No, the spouse is the legal next-of-kin, and without something in writing from the deceased, he/she ...
Personal property burial rights11/27/2008
  Q: Is it still legal in Texas to have yourself or family members buried on private property, such as ...
  A: Yes, if you're in a rural area. Draw a map of the land showing where the family graveyard will be ...
Moving My grandfather's grave in nj11/27/2008
  Q: two years ago yesterday my grandfather died and against mine and my mother's wishes my family buried ...
  A: It is likely to cost close to $7,000. Legal next-of-kin get to decide-- spouse or majority of adult ...
Helping a friend in Michigan11/27/2008
  Q: My close friends brother is close to death in a hospital in MI. I wish to assist my friend in anyway ...
  A: Where in Michigan? There are some funeral directors who will work with you for fairly affordable ...
help11/25/2008
  Q: My mother's wishes were to have her ashes buried along with her mother. My mother passed last year ...
  A: I think your mother's siblings--your grandmother's children--are the only ones with rights to that ...
disenterment11/24/2008
  Q: My dad's urn was buried in a family plot in a Catholic Cemetery in Illinois but my mother who is ...
  A: Your mother is the only one "involved" as she is legal next-of-kin with the right to do as she ...
Wisconsin cremation questions11/20/2008
  Q: Is it possible to have teeth (with amalgam fillings) removed after death and disposed of prior to ...
  A: The funeral industry is discussing this issue. A lot of funeral directors are hesitant. And rigor ...
Father died in Florida11/20/2008
  Q: My father died in Florida while I was out of town on a cruise. They called me on the ship to tell ...
  A: Do you have any objection to the cremation? Do you have any reason not to honor your father's ...
Florida Burial Laws11/19/2008
  Q: If one of us dies at home of old age or some kind of illness, can we just bury the person? Can that ...
  A: No, you do not need a funeral. You can bury or scatter cremated remains anywhere. If you are ...
embalming and home wake service11/19/2008
  Q: In the state of Kentucky is it legal to not embalm the body and keep them at home for a viewing/wake ...
  A: KY has no embalming requirements at all. And, yes, a home funeral is permitted. You don't need a ...
Cremation Laws in FL11/17/2008
  Q: Carlson, My grandmother recently passed in Tampa, FL. The funeral home that is supposed to be doing ...
  A: If your grandmother prepaid for her cremation or had in writing that that's what she wanted, Florida ...
Florida pre-paid refund11/16/2008
  Q: My elderly parents lived in Florida until five years ago. While there, they pre-paid their funerals ...
  A: Florida laws are DREADFUL. You would be lucky to get 40% of the funeral refunded and nothing for the ...
death certificate11/16/2008
  Q: My life partner(domestic partner)of 6 years passed away on August 11, 2008 in Missouri. He was not ...
  A: Unfortunately, the national death certificate standard treats separated as still married. In that ...
Cremated remains in Maryland11/14/2008
  Q: My mother is buried in one of the local cemetaries. My sister just died and is being cremated. Can ...
  A: The cemetery is likely to want to charge you for a "second right of interment." So my typical answer ...
Organ donation/science donation and funeral costs11/12/2008
  Q: I read another posting about organ donation and saw that you mentioned that if the body was donated ...
  A: Only about three percent of deaths are suitable for organ donation--heart, lung, etc.--as you have ...
home burial11/11/2008
  Q: I own 10 acres in Bucks County PA, Bedminster Twp. I'm a moderately healthy 56 year old male and ...
  A: If you're reasonably sure that you're not likely to move elsewhere before you die (or are willing to ...
Daughter's death certificate11/9/2008
  Q: My daughter died from diabetes November 6, 2008 in Oklahoma. I am told by the Medical Examiners ...
  A: They may be doing various tests to see if there could be other causes. And they may be backed up. ...
Disinterment & Transportation11/9/2008
  Q: My father's remains are buried in FL. Our mother passed away recently and is buried in MD. We ...
  A: Unless your father left specific written wishes, your mother's statement should be sufficient. Check ...
Transport accross state lines for research11/7/2008
  Q: I am coordinating a medical research project involving the donation of organs after death. For many ...
  A: Only two states require embalming when crossing state lines--when shipping from NJ and AL. The law ...
from grave to cremation11/5/2008
  Q: My father was buried in PA 34 years ago. My mother died 2 months ago and was cremated. Is it ...
  A: Check with the cemetery in PA to see if you need a disinterment order from the Probate Court. You ...
Mo burial11/4/2008
  Q: In Missouri is it legal to be buried on your own property without being embalmed or having to go to ...
  A: Yes, if you are in a rural area. My book, "Caring for the Dead," is now out of print, but if you ...
disinternment and transport11/3/2008
  Q: my mom is buried in florida, my dad just recently passed and was buried in pa, we want to have my ...
  A: The cemetery is likely to refuse an outside company to do the disinterment, for "liability" reasons ...
Transporting a deceased person from one state to another11/3/2008
  Q: My mother lives in Seattle Washington. She wants to be buried here in Missouri when she dies. What ...
  A: If you are doing the transporting, you will need to file the death certificate and get the burial ...
vaults, liners, cement vaults11/1/2008
  Q: Lisa, From Iowa, again. I've discovered out how to personally obtain many funerary items myself ...
  A: Most vault dealers will NOT sell directly to the public. One midwest farmer discovered that a ...
headstones10/31/2008
  Q: My mom passed away in March.The cemetery showed us in the paperwork of the plot owners (3 of our ...
  A: What a mess!I think most cemeteries let the lot-owners call the shots. How too bad the cousins are ...
Cremation laws in Alabama10/30/2008
  Q: My brother recently died and his wife had him cremated and was told that she could not have his ...
  A: I suggested one possibility, if the crematory is some distance away. If the funeral home doesn't ...
Home/Farm burial in Henry county KY10/28/2008
  Q: I am interested in knowing how to establish a family burial plot on my 15 acre farm in Henry Co., ...
  A: The laws are silent on family cemeteries, so you should have no problem. Draw a map of the land ...
natural burial10/28/2008
  Q: Is it legal in California? If yes, how do we find a local organization? Thanks for your attention.
  A: Yes. You can check the website of the Green Burial Council, but you should also check with a few ...
natural burial in PA10/26/2008
  Q: i don't want to be embalmed or cremated. the FD who handled my father's arrangements said that in ...
  A: If you own rural land in PA, you could be buried on your own land. Check with any of the local ...
logistics and cost of natural burial10/25/2008
  Q: I love the idea of going directly into the ground when I die. But I live in Salt Lake City and ...
  A: Check with any of the existing cemeteries to see if they are setting aside areas for green burials. ...
California Stillborn Laws10/22/2008
  Q: I was wondering what the laws are in California regarding a stillborn's remains. The children would ...
  A: I am guessing that there are various policies from one hospital to the next. You should also know ...
cemetery plot ownership10/21/2008
  Q: First, thanks so much for your service. My dad bought a cemetary plot in the 1930s in Pennsylvania. ...
  A: It sounds very tacky, indeed. Who owns the cemetery? Can they help you out with insisting the heart ...
Selling Burial Plots10/21/2008
  Q: Can you recommend an honest website that I could use to sell burial plots?
  A: No. If they want front money to list the plot, don't do it. It's VERY hard to sell unwanted plots. ...
Purchase of Headstone10/20/2008
  Q: My nephew died in Dec of 2007. His father purchased the burial plot without my sister (nephews ...
  A: A couple of questions-- How old was the nephew when he died? Who was the last custodial parent if ...
rate of decomposition10/20/2008
  Q: My cousin was a very bad diabetic and he passed away 4 months ago. He was buried without a vault ...
  A: It's very difficult to predict how fast or slow decomposition might take. Temperature will have ...
graveyard on your own land10/17/2008
  Q: I live in Louisiana and was also thinking about being buried on my land. Can you tell me the laws ...
  A: Burial in Louisiana must be in a duly authorized cemetery. Home burial would probably be permissible ...
sharing ashes10/17/2008
  Q: My ex-wife will not share our 22 year old daughter, Christina's ashes.I have been waiting for more ...
  A: You don't need a lawyer to go to Probate Court. That's one of the great advantages of cremation, ...
Green Cemeteries in Iowa10/17/2008
  Q: I am working to add a "green" section to our cemetery here in Grinnell, Iowa. The local funeral ...
  A: Byron, Are you the casket maker? Sent me your direct e-mail for the Iowa chapter. My e-mail is ...
Claiming the body10/17/2008
  Q: What procedure and documents, if any, are needed in order for a relative to claim the body of the ...
  A: In what state? There are 7 states where you must use a funeral director. In some states, a body may ...
natural burial in Iowa10/15/2008
  Q: Can you please direct me to the laws on natural burials on personal/private property in Iowa, US? ...
  A: The Iowa laws are silent on this issue. If you are in a rural area, draw a map of your land showing ...
Cemetery Plots10/13/2008
  Q: If someone buys and gives you a cemetery plot years ago with the intention that they want you to be ...
  A: Has someone else been buried in the plot yet? If so, it may be hard to get that person moved. The ...
green cemeteries10/12/2008
  Q: From Iowa...please advise re. the availability of any green cemeteries. How does one start a green ...
  A: Talk to Dennis Britson in the Dept. of Insurance which regulates some cemeteries. You can tell him ...
Funeral Requirements for Stillborn in Ohio10/10/2008
  Q: Are there any laws regarding the disposition of a stillborn in the state of Ohio? My girlfriend was ...
  A: There will be a stillbirth certificate of death for that triplet. It is possible the hospital might ...
burial at home10/9/2008
  Q: I saw an answer you gave to an Ohio women (dated Nov. 06) in which you said there were no laws ...
  A: In CA, one has to be buried in an "established" cemetery, but towns have jurisdiction over ...
legal requirements to care for dead10/8/2008
  Q: What are the legally required steps to care for our parents at home upon their death? (we reside in ...
  A: You should be able to get my book "Caring for the Dead: Your Final Act of Love" from the library ...
death of sister10/7/2008
  Q: My sister died in Florida last week. She left no will but expressed her desire to be cremated. Our ...
  A: Find another funeral home ASAP! It sounds like one owned by a major Wall St. corporation. Where in ...
Rights to cremains10/7/2008
  Q: Who has legal rights to my father's ashes - his(unregistered domestic partner) or his children? No ...
  A: Ask to see the law. Did the domestic partner pay for the cremation? That might have complicated ...
Death Certificate10/7/2008
  Q: I am having a problem getting my father's death certificate. He died in his sleep at a Des Moines, ...
  A: File a complaint with the state Dept. of Health, Vital Statistics division. The death certificate ...
home funeral helper10/6/2008
  Q: I am looking into the possibility of becoming a Home Funeral Helper in California. Ive read your ...
  A: You can sell caskets and urns with no problem, but you might not want to rush into business, as it's ...
Starting a Family Cemetery10/4/2008
  Q: We want to create a family cemetery on our property in Pennsylvania. We are having a hard time ...
  A: Hand-drawn should be fine. And certainly any identifying text will be helpful. P.S. Most people ...
disinterment and reburial10/2/2008
  Q: My mother wants to move the remains of her 2-year-old daughter from a cemetery in San Miguel ...
  A: I have NO ideas what the laws are in Mexico. If the area where the child was buried is very arid, ...
Burial on private land10/1/2008
  Q: We own and live on 80 acres in Oklahoma. Can we be buried on our own land?
  A: Yes, you should have no problem as there are no OK laws one way or the other. A good guideline is ...
body transport business10/1/2008
  Q: I work in the medical field full time and someone approached me last week about starting a local ...
  A: This is governed on the state level, not federal. A few states license body transporters--VA and FL ...
PRIVATE PROPERTY BURIAL9/26/2008
  Q: I LIVE IN MICHIGAN'S UPPER PENINSULA. MY HUSBAND AND I HAVE 40 ACRES. COULD WE BE BURRIED ON OUR OWN ...
  A: Yes, Michigan has an excellent home burial statute. A family graveyard under one acre and outside ...
Starting A Cemetery9/25/2008
  Q: very helpful! How much land do I need to have in Rual Clark CO.Mississippi to open a Cemetery for ...
  A: I would start with the local zoning administrator if there is one. Or the local Health Department. ...
Transporting body from Texas to Alabama9/25/2008
  Q: My dad is in the last stages of cancer and doesn't have long to live. He will have a funeral ...
  A: You can transport the body yourself. Alabama expects the body to have been embalmed. You may need a ...
Moving My Sister to NY from CO9/24/2008
  Q: My sister has been buried in Colorado since 1983. My entire family has been living in NY for the ...
  A: Cremation sounds like the most reasonable and affordable option all around. The casket has likely ...
transport body to another state9/24/2008
  Q: My mother lives in CA & wants to be buried in TX. I can't find any info on transportation options ...
  A: Will you want to transport the body yourself or hire a funeral director? If you are hiring a funeral ...
Funeral Arrangements9/24/2008
  Q: Recently our step-father passed away. He and my mother had purchased a $10,000.00 life insurance ...
  A: It would seem to me that the fairest solution would be to have your mother write a will--you can ...
Moving my brothers remains9/22/2008
  Q: Do you know how much it cost, or how do my family go about getting the remains of my older brother ...
  A: It will probably cost $7,000 or more. You'll likely need a new casket if it was a body burial not ...
Next of kin responsibility overseas.9/21/2008
  Q: The Father of a friend of mine--Maureen--died recently in the United States. He had moved here ...
  A: Tell Maureen not to worry. Regardless of whomever wrote her, she has no obligation whatsoever if she ...
Moving a body9/20/2008
  Q: Several years ago my wife and I had a baby that lived for only a few minutes. We do not like the ...
  A: Here are the laws. It's pretty straight-forward, and you shouldn't have any problem. The cemetery ...
burial lots9/18/2008
  Q: 39 years ago my mother died suddenly at 47 yrs old. A little over a year later my dad remarried to ...
  A: You might tell your dad that if he is unwilling to give or sell you the third lot now that you will ...
Starting A Cemetery9/17/2008
  Q: I need to know how to start a cemetery in rural Clark Co. Mississippi.I already have the land to do ...
  A: No state agency regulates cemeteries in MS. You'll have to see if there are any local zoning laws. ...
Ohio Laws on Open/Closed Casket Viewing9/16/2008
  Q: My 16 year old nephew was killed in a car accident 9/8/08, with the funeral home visitation on ...
  A: I know of NO state that gives any funeral director higher rights than the next-of-kin! Yes, a ...
private property burial in KY9/13/2008
  Q: I live in a rural area of KY.( Nicholas County community of Headquarters ) My neighbors are in the ...
  A: Most states have few laws on cemeteries, private or otherwise. You might contact the Health Dept. A ...
Friendly Funeral9/11/2008
  Q: I used to work with SCI here in Redding Ca. After working for them I am hoping to start my own ...
  A: Are you a licensed FD? If so, you shouldn't have any problem. You say you want to start your own ...
cremated remains to Ireland9/11/2008
  Q: I am the executor of an estate in which the deceased wished to have the ashes placed in Ireland. ...
  A: I would think carrying them to Ireland the surest way to get there safely. Just make sure they're in ...
do I need a funeral home9/9/2008
  Q: I am taking care of my cancer ridden mother and she has no money. She doesn't want a funeral. Do I ...
  A: You can file the death certificate and get the Final Report for Disposition and cremation permit and ...
Who pays for cremation or burial9/8/2008
  Q: My father was recently diagnosed with heart problems. He has no life insurance. If he dies who pays ...
  A: There are only a few states that require next of kin to pay for funeral expenses. I don't think NJ ...
home vigil9/8/2008
  Q: I heard that there was a law in Colorado that allowed for a home vigil of the body for three days ...
  A: If disposition has not occurred within 24 hours, the body must be embalmed or refrigerated. Dry ice ...
Green Burial in Michigan9/6/2008
  Q: I am interested in starting a Green Burial business in the state of Michigan. I do not know where ...
  A: The Cemetery Commission in the Dept. of Licensing governs for-profit cemeteries and crematories. ...
Ashes9/5/2008
  Q: In Texas can we bury the ashes of my parents on our own land? We want to place a marker (head stone. ...
  A: You may bury cremated remains anywhere in all states, with the land-owner's permission. Yes, you may ...
burial9/4/2008
  Q: Do we need to use a funeral home and can my Dad be buried on our land in Texas? If so what are the ...
  A: No you do not need a funeral home in TX. E-mail me directly and I'll send you a copy of the TX ...
Transporting body9/4/2008
  Q: It is legal to transport my Dad from Texas to New Mexico for burial? If so, what permits do I need? ...
  A: Yes. The death certificate needs to be filed in TX first with the local health department which will ...
Cremation Urns9/4/2008
  Q: My Mother asked to be cremated however, when we approached the funeral director for a display of the ...
  A: Obviously, your funeral director was trying to dissuade folks from that choice. Smart funeral ...
body-shipping service9/3/2008
  Q: Why do body-shipping services have ads they say "professional trade only" or equivalent. This is ...
  A: Body shipping services pay WAAAY below the retail rate for the services they need like embalming. ...
FInding out what burial is allowed9/2/2008
  Q: Lisa: We have plots in a cemetery that is very much in the country. It is somewhere around Eldred ...
  A: In all states, cemeteries are pretty much allowed to make up their own rules. Is your cemetery a ...
Burying Cremated Remains In MD9/1/2008
  Q: My Step-Dad just passed away and wanted to be buried on my land. I live on 5 acres in rural Carroll ...
  A: You can bury cremated remains anywhere in any state, with the land-owner's permission. No other ...
abandoned cemetary9/1/2008
  Q: We are thinking about buying a piece of property. It has an abandoned cemetery on it. (cemetery is ...
  A: Personally, I think it is a terrible idea to move old cemeteries. They are a wonderful and often ...
Funeral visitation8/28/2008
  Q: A friend of mine passed away on 8/24/08 and the sister of the deseased would not let the step ...
  A: If a visitation is announced to the public, in the newspaper, then anyone can attend. In some ...
bringing body back to Indiana from Texas8/26/2008
  Q: My Nephew passed away at MD Anderson Hospital of Cancer. He lived in Indiana prior to going into ...
  A: There are a LOT of variables. If there are no services planned in TX, then it will be cheaper to ...
Exhuming and Cremation8/25/2008
  Q: My sister was killed in 1976 and buried in Oregon. None of our family live down there anymore and ...
  A: Is there any reason why both parents wouldn't agree to the move? Will the cemetery buy the plots ...
transport cremated remains to Mexico8/24/2008
  Q: My friend had a visa from Veracruz, Mexico and was in the US working and had an accident. He was ...
  A: Make sure the cremated remains are NOT in a metal container, as the box has to go through x-ray. ...
Rights of ownership concerning Family Plot8/24/2008
  Q: My brother who was only 39 passed away suddenly 15 years ago and a 15 space family plot was ...
  A: You say that your father AND your mother purchased the 15 plots. Call or go to the cemetery and see ...
Georgia Cemeteries8/22/2008
  Q: If an individual person owns a private cemetery that is still an active cemetery (it is not a ...
  A: This sounds like such a specialized situation that I would go to the Secretary of State's office and ...
transporting a deceased relative8/21/2008
  Q: We have lost our mother recently and want to know the process of transporting her embalmed body from ...
  A: The funeral home in MO should have all the permits if they knew that burial in AR was planned. ...
Disinterment8/20/2008
  Q: I’m hoping you can help or point me in the right direction. In 2004 my brother passed away, was ...
  A: I'm guessing that once buried there is little inclination to see a person moved, even though it was ...
Cemetery Neglect8/20/2008
  Q: My Mother was buried 3/10/07. My Father & her stone was moved for the burial. In May of 08 I went to ...
  A: Alas, the Real Estate Board regulates for-profit cemeteries in PA, but they do diddley squat. If you ...
home burial in Florida8/19/2008
  Q: We are unable to find info regarding home burials (or burials on personal property) in Florida. Can ...
  A: A good guideline is 150 ft. from a water supply and 25 ft. from a power line or neighbor's boundary. ...
cemetery8/19/2008
  Q: Can you tell me how find out if you can start a family cemetary in Hill County Texas (on rural ...
  A: Draw a map of the land and pay to have it recorded with the deed. A good practice is 150 ft. from a ...
do I need a coffin at all?8/16/2008
  Q: I want to be natural worm food when I die, and I wonder why I need a coffin at all. (I know it's ...
  A: Then you must be interested in what's called "green" burial, a growing movement that I totally ...
Wisconsin Law8/16/2008
  Q: I am researching what it takes to open my own conservation cemetery in Wisconsin. Do you have any ...
  A: Cemeteries in WI are regulated by the Dept. of Regulation and Licensing. They may have a hard time ...
disinter a body8/15/2008
  Q: My mother passed away in 2001. She is buried in California. My brother lives in Oregon while I live ...
  A: In CA, the written wishes of the deceased will prevail. Did your mother have any such written ...
Private burial in SC8/15/2008
  Q: My father thinks he wants to be buried on his own land in SC. What hoops do we have to jump through ...
  A: The state laws are silent on this, so if the land is in a rural area, draw a map of the land showing ...
Planning for a mothers Passing8/14/2008
  Q: My mother is in China I am a US Citizen and she is Chinese Citizen. She is 97 and her health is ...
  A: Bringing cremated remains should not be at all difficult. I have no idea about shipping a body. I ...
Family Jewlery8/14/2008
  Q: My friends mother passed a couple of month ago. Her much younger sister has taken it upon herself ...
  A: If the daughters are both adults, they would have equal rights. Send them to the bathroom and tell ...
home burial8/14/2008
  Q: my friend is planning her estate she would like to be buried on her land in upstate NY do you know ...
  A: Yes, it's possible assuming her land is rural, but, alas, she will still need a funeral director to ...
church cemetery8/10/2008
  Q: ARE THER ANY LAWS IN THE STATE OF ALABAMA CONSERNING THE ESTABLISHMENT OF A CHURCH CEMETERY
  A: No. You should have no trouble setting up a church cemetery. You'll have to deal with local zoning ...
body transport8/8/2008
  Q: I'm interested in future transport of my relative's dead body (currently on hospice re: cancer)from ...
  A: Once you have the death certificate you can get an out-of-state-disposition permit from Vital ...
Visitation rights8/7/2008
  Q: In Georgia My GGGG Grand Uncle is buried on private property. His headstone was removed by persons ...
  A: From the search I just did, GA law does not seem to be a specific as other states about access. ...
Death Certificate8/6/2008
  Q: My live in boyfriend of 12 yrs died unexpectedly. His ex-wife, sister & two adult sons came out of ...
  A: You can get a death certificate from the Health Dept. and/or the city in which he died. There is ...
Florida authorization for cremation8/5/2008
  Q: My father is in final week of life. He and my mother (deceased) purchased preneed cremation ...
  A: I'll have to go looking for the exact statute, but according to Florida law, the written wishes of ...
Funeral Expenses8/5/2008
  Q: My mom passed away in March of this year. My dad had a small life insurance policy on her but it was ...
  A: If it was funeral insurance, not life insurance, I think that might be true. But it sounds as if it ...
Green Burials8/4/2008
  Q: I want all the info I can get on having a "green" burial in Alabama. If I have a place to be buried ...
  A: Green burials are really very simple--no embalming, no metal casket, no vault. One can be buried in ...
gravemarker requirements8/3/2008
  Q: I live in California. My Grandmother, who has been dead for 15 years, still does not have a grave ...
  A: Yes, the cemetery has to accept outside markers, and any setting or inspection fee must be ...
Wall built around grave site7/30/2008
  Q: My great grandfather was buried in Wilson, NC on a piece of plot that is now private property to ...
  A: Here is the law. Show it to them and see if something can be worked out. Otherwise, go ahead to ...
Caskets7/26/2008
  Q: I have just started a new company in Asheville NC- I am making 100% biodegradable nontoxic caskets ...
  A: Contact the local Funeral Consumers Alliance for one sympathetic group. Most are more interested in ...
Burial7/26/2008
  Q: In Ohio, can a person be buried on his own propert if there is not an established family cemetery?
  A: Yes, if you're in a rural area. Draw a map of the land showing where the family cemetery will be and ...
Double Interment7/26/2008
  Q: My dad passed away and was buried here in NC in 2000. My family and I often visited the grave at ...
  A: I'd get a lawyer to write the cemetery to remove the other person. You could try a letter on your ...
What do I go from here?7/24/2008
  Q: First and foremost I am so happy to have come across this site. I really need some help (aka ...
  A: As a veteran, I hope you know your father was entitled to a free burial plot in a VA cemetery along ...
burial costs responsibility7/21/2008
  Q: who is responsible for burial costs, family or spouse state of louisiana?
  A: The spouse has the right to determine funeral plans. If he/she fails to do so or can't afford to do ...
Green Burial7/21/2008
  Q: I'm really interested in 'green burial.' What would an individual have to do to get into that line ...
  A: Your first hurdle will be with the local zoning folks and the cost of land acquisition. There do not ...
Rights to ashes in Kansas7/20/2008
  Q: My sister inlaw has left the ashes at the funeral home. Does the father,brother or his kids have the ...
  A: A spouse has the legal right to decide the funeral disposition. I'm assuming she also was the one to ...
Embalming7/20/2008
  Q: In which states, if any, is embalming required by law? Is embalming required if the body is ...
  A: That is total BULL-HOCKEY! Is there some funeral director telling you this stuff? If so, he/she ...
Sister near death has questions about transporting body across state lines7/18/2008
  Q: My sister has terminal pancreatic cancer and lives in Ohio. She has made no funeral arrangements to ...
  A: It will be least cumbersome to have her cremated in Ohio. Then take her cremated remains to KY. Any ...
several problems with grandma funeral7/18/2008
  Q: i had a few questions. My grandmother passed away this week and we have had a ton of issues and ...
  A: The adult children are the legal next-of-kin, so the funeral home was at fault for doing anything ...
vault7/18/2008
  Q: is it a law in the state of maine to have to buy a vault? ty you judy
  A: No, it is not a law in ANY state. That said, many cemeteries require one to keep the earth from ...
Cemetary accidently sold plot and used it7/17/2008
  Q: A Cemetary here in NJ has buried and I am guessing also double dipped selling the plot next to my ...
  A: The cemetery certainly has to correct the situation, as it was their mistake. Is there another plot ...
cemetery spaces7/13/2008
  Q: i see on ebay, people selling spaces at a profit, i thought that was against the law. was told you ...
  A: I doubt if people are actually selling them, as fewer and fewer are wanted now that cremation and ...
Rights to cremated remains7/13/2008
  Q: My step-daughter (14 years old) would like to have 1/3 of her mother's remains (she has two ...
  A: As a minor, the children have no rights. How too bad if the grandmother won't cooperate. There is ...
Remains from Germany to U.S.7/13/2008
  Q: My grandfather was buried in Munich, Germany in 1955. We would like to transport his remains to be ...
  A: The body and the casket have likely disintegrated to a very large degree, so exhumation is likely to ...
Casket7/13/2008
  Q: I already own a plot but I do not want my children to spend money on a casket. I want to be view and ...
  A: Check with Crestwood Memorial Chapel. They used to be on Spring St. in Manhattan but they've moved ...
Cremation7/12/2008
  Q: I am considering being cremated and wonder what the state law requires. I specifically do not wanted ...
  A: In what state? Near what large city? What you're describing is called a "Direct Cremation with a ...
cremation7/10/2008
  Q: Dad died 94 Mom 08. I(daughter) have disposition rights of both.Dad is in memorial park and director ...
  A: I have quite a few questions: * Were both cremated? * If so, where are your mother's cremated ...
Setting up a private cemetery7/10/2008
  Q: My husband wants to be buried on our property deep in a cave in Minnesota. What is the best way to ...
  A: Families cemeteries are permitted in MN. The land must be surveyed and a plat recorded with the ...
Preparation and Transportation7/8/2008
  Q: Lisa, We tried to find your book at the local library, but no luck. In the not too distant future, ...
  A: Give me your e-mail and I'll send you the old GA chapter in a pdf file. My direct e-mail is ...
Moving a cemetery7/8/2008
  Q: I have purchased an 800 acre tract to develop and there is a small cemetery on one of the corners. ...
  A: In what state? Even if the laws permit it, please don't! You will rile the natives something fierce, ...
Multiple burials in California7/8/2008
  Q: Carlson, I read your answer that multiple cremations can be laid to rest in one plot in Alabama. ...
  A: The cemetery regulations, not state law, are the controlling factors in any cemetery in any state. ...
Establishing Family Cemetery in TN7/7/2008
  Q: My parents own 19 acres in Hardin County, Tennessee, and want to establish a family cemetery on part ...
  A: Family burial grounds are permitted in TN. Draw a map of the land showing where the graveyard will ...
questions about a "green burial"7/5/2008
  Q: I am soon to be making out my last will and testament so in case my family members need my last ...
  A: There are some folks in northern CA trying to set up a green burial ground, I believe. A for-profit ...
Burying cremated remains in an existing gravesite7/5/2008
  Q: My father is buried in a small cemetary in Miflin Alabama, Lay Cemetary in Baldwin County. My ...
  A: Yes, that is perfectly legal and often done. If it's a for-profit cemetery, they will likely want to ...
several questions7/2/2008
  Q: I have several questions, and if you can give me legal backing for them, I will be glad to pay for ...
  A: Here is the GA statute on disinterments-- *** Current through the 2007 Regular Session *** TITLE ...
changing Indiana law7/2/2008
  Q: How would one go about getting the burial law in Indiana changed, which as you mentioned, is one of ...
  A: Josh Slocum in the national office of the Funeral Consumers Alliance may have some contacts of ...
Burying a loved one without "assistance"6/30/2008
  Q: Lisa, My cousin left her husband because he wasn't caring well for her triplets and two other ...
  A: She is not obligated to pay for anything, especially as an estranged spouse. I'm not sure who would ...
creating a church burial plot in North Carolina6/30/2008
  Q: Lisa - I started to look up the answer in the list of questions and answers but WOW! there are so ...
  A: Sandy, My book is now out of print, and I'm working on a new edition. I can e-mail you the NC ...
rural burial6/29/2008
  Q: my daughter recently passed away and my wife and I woukld like to bury her on our property in rural ...
  A: Burial in CA must be in an "established" cemetery. Talk to your local zoning officials about ...
moving a gravesite6/29/2008
  Q: I have an infant son buried in a cemetary in FL. If I move to VA I want to have his body moved to a ...
  A: You can transport the body yourself. The FL cemetery may not know you have that right. They may make ...
Burial on private property in GA6/29/2008
  Q: Do the laws in GA (Carroll County) permit burial on private property? I have 22 acres, zoned ...
  A: The laws in GA don't address this. So . . . draw a map of the land showing where the family burial ...
burial laws Washington State6/26/2008
  Q: May I bury my husband on on 135 acre property-wash him myself and have our boys build a casket? ...
  A: Burial in WA must be in an established cemetery. Talk with your local town about setting up a family ...
who is the legal next of kin6/26/2008
  Q: Who would be the legal next of kin, my son's father is in the last stages of a neurological disease. ...
  A: The parents would be the legal next-of-kin. I presume your son has been visiting his father during ...
embalming viewing6/25/2008
  Q: I have noticed that you never see a body embalmed on TV or something else like youtube. Is there ...
  A: It's an invasion of privacy issue, for one. And it's a VERY unpleasant process, quite barbaric. If ...
strangers cremation remains in our plot by mistake6/24/2008
  Q: My immediate family (father, mother, brother & me) have marked plots in a very old (19th century) ...
  A: Since the funeral home made the mistake, it's up to the funeral home to correct it, at no cost to ...
cremation6/23/2008
  Q: My friend has given me power of attorney over his end-of-life decisions and has designated me as his ...
  A: Alas, MI law allows one to put one's wishes in a will but also allows next-of-kin to over-ride those ...
Burial verse wishes of cremation6/23/2008
  Q: My daughters friends who was 18 committed suicide. He left a note giving specific instructions that ...
  A: In what state? Some states have laws that the written wishes of the deceased must prevail, tho' at ...
private cemetery6/22/2008
  Q: We live in Michigan on a 60 acre farm and would like to establish a private cemetery. We are ...
  A: Michigan has excellent home burial statutes. Family graveyards under one acre and outside the city ...
interment rights6/19/2008
  Q: Eight years ago we purchased monument 15- 4, 5, 6. (I understood them to be plots) The contract ...
  A: This sounds like a for-profit cemetery. Makes my blood boil when they pull this stuff. My typical ...
Family Cemetery6/17/2008
  Q: I have about 4 acres in Ohio that I now live on, I would like to convert it to a family cemetery, ...
  A: I am assuming you'd like to dedicate a small portion of your 4 acres for a family cemetery, as four ...
exhuming my brother's body6/16/2008
  Q: My brother was killed in an accident eighteen years ago. He was married at the time of his death to ...
  A: I believe she is still the legal-next-of-kin. Is she unwilling for you to move his body? You could ...
green burial protocol for NH6/13/2008
  Q: I attended the Vt funeral alliance meeting last month. My mom is 89 and I am going to be caring for ...
  A: Robin, My direct e-mail is lisa@funeralethics.org or phone at 802-482-3437. Because the laws in NH ...
Cemetary Plot6/12/2008
  Q: If you have a family member (in this case a baby) buried at a small cemetery that originally let you ...
  A: Yes, cemeteries can make their own regulations. Many if not most will not permit anything other than ...
Ownership of Burial Site6/10/2008
  Q: My father purchased a plot in the early 70's and now does not want to use it. When we contacted the ...
  A: In what state? That's true in Arkansas and NY (plus 4% per year interest for the increased value). ...
Viking funerals6/10/2008
  Q: Do you know of how to go about getting a Viking funeral arranged. I live in the northwest and would ...
  A: In Washington state, all cremations must be done in a licensed crematory. You're not likely to get ...
Right to ashes6/10/2008
  Q: My brothe passed away in late March. In October 20007 he had a "commitment" ceremony with his ...
  A: Who gave the ashes to the fiance? If the funeral home did, then your mother should demand that they ...
exhuming my fathers body6/8/2008
  Q: What do I do to exhume my dads body. To have a autopsy performed on him. My dads death is ...
  A: Go to probate court. You do not need a lawyer. The more evidence you have to substantiate your ...
private family cemetary6/6/2008
  Q: can we start a family cemetary on our 25 acre farm in lamar co georgia
  A: The GA laws are mute on the subject and don't say one way or the other. My advice is to draw a map ...
Private property Burial Wyoming6/5/2008
  Q: I live in Laramie County, Wyoming. I have a property of about 6 acres and am not legally part of any ...
  A: I don't have time right now to get out the laws for WY, but what I wrote in my book 10 years ago was ...
legal right to authorize cremation6/5/2008
  Q: I reside in the state of Florida fist off. My question is my godfather who has been a father to me ...
  A: The state of Florida does not have a designated agent for body disposition law but it has laws that ...
Easement in gross for cemetery access on private property6/3/2008
  Q: A family cemetery where our ancestors are buried lies on private property. According to tax ...
  A: I would speak with the current land-owner or has the land-owner not been cooperative? Typically, a ...
Who has rights to moms remains6/2/2008
  Q: My fiancee and I recently got the call from family in MA that his mother had a heart attack and was ...
  A: Even though all siblings have equal rights (without written wishes of the deceased), the fact that ...
who owns rights to burial plot5/28/2008
  Q: My parents purchased their burial plot prior to their deaths. They were married 50 yrs when my ...
  A: I think you have every right to have it removed, UNLESS the cemetery can show you something in ...
Role of friend in deciding disposition when no next of kin available5/27/2008
  Q: What is considered a reasonable attempt to locate next of kin when someone dies without a will and ...
  A: Check on body donation to the state anatomy program. They would pay for cremation after study. Since ...
Exhumation and Relocation5/26/2008
  Q: My family is looking for information about exhuming and relocating a family member. She is currently ...
  A: You can expect the cost to range from about $5,000 to $7,000. After any period of time, for example, ...
headstone5/26/2008
  Q: My mother passed and my other sibling decided to put a different name on her headstone which is not ...
  A: Are there only the two of you? Were one of you estranged at all from your mother or were both of you ...
lowering of casket in ground at funeral service5/23/2008
  Q: Are there any state laws or individual funeral home/cemetery rules regarding allowing mourners at a ...
  A: No, this is not covered in any state laws I've read. I certainly think a family has a right, ...
moving cremated remains5/23/2008
  Q: My son died last Dec and was cremated. We left part of his remains in Virginia and took the rest ...
  A: I suspect you may need to go to probate court to get a disinterment order. You don't need a lawyer ...
disinterring a body5/21/2008
  Q: My father, a soldier, died when my mother was 8 months pregnant with me back in 1962. His brother ...
  A: Is your mother still alive? She has priority in this decision. If not, then a probabate court would ...
TRANSPORTING REMAINS STATE TO STATE5/19/2008
  Q: DOES A BODY HAVE TO BE EMBALMED IF BEING TRANSPORTED FROM ONE MORTUARY TO ANOTHER FROM RENO TO LOS ...
  A: Many airlines ask that a body be embalmed, although I believe Delta honors religious objections to ...
cremation5/19/2008
  Q: I have a brother in TX, I am his only left family member; he wants to send me his remains and I an ...
  A: If your brother is a veteran, he is eligible for a free burial plot and marker in a VA cemetery. ...
Dispute over Father's cremated remains5/16/2008
  Q: My father died 2 years ago in KY. He was living next to my sister at the time. We have an older ...
  A: If you can find the address of the probate court in the county where your sister is in KY, write to ...
Transporting Body5/15/2008
  Q: My father is close to dying and wondering what to do when the day comes. If he dies at home, is an ...
  A: It sounds as if your father's death is an expected one. In which case, an autopsy will not be ...
moving a headstone5/14/2008
  Q: I am trying to move my mother-in-law from KY to OK. Her remains are inside the headstone. What do we ...
  A: There is no reason you couldn't move her if you're physically able to do so. I wouldn't even mention ...
Urn to Italy5/14/2008
  Q: It was my grandmother's wish to have her ashes brought to Italy for burial. A family friend has ...
  A: The urn will need to go through xray, so make sure the cremated remains aren't in a metal container. ...
Wait time after death for cremation5/13/2008
  Q: What is the wait time after death for cremation in West Virginia? Is there a site I could research ...
  A: I have that information in each state chapter in my book, but not as a comparison of all states. ...
Reburial of Silent Film Star5/13/2008
  Q: Some of his fans would like to see his remains interred in a more honored section of the same ...
  A: I would think there might be some distant relative somewhere who would agree. Then the funds to pay ...
transporting a body from state to state5/12/2008
  Q: My cousin died last Saturday in SC. He weighs over 700lbs and the funeral home is telling the family ...
  A: Yes, this is allowed. But they could surely find someone to do the driving if the family didn't want ...
Transporting across state lines5/9/2008
  Q: My father was a trucker driver and died in an accident in Kansas. We are trying to bring his ...
  A: I'm very sorry about your loss. No, he doesn't need to be embalmed to cross state lines. It may be ...
exhumation5/8/2008
  Q: My brother-in-law, who was only married to my sister for 6 months, has said if we do not give him a ...
  A: Your brother-in-law certainly sounds like a controlling bastard. Yes, he has all the rights to do as ...
PA laws in regard to burials5/6/2008
  Q: My husband and I are caretakers for a small country cemetery in Pennsylvania. Many of the local ...
  A: If you will e-mail me directly, I'll attach a copy of the PA chapter from my book with helpful ...
cremation in Wisconsin5/5/2008
  Q: My friends mother who recently passed away wanted to be cremated.The funeral director told them that ...
  A: No such law. To misrepresent the law is a violation of the FTC Funeral Rule. This funeral home ...
Cemetary wants to change plot5/2/2008
  Q: The day after my dad was buried the cemetary rep stopped by and said they made a mistake and they ...
  A: Since the cemetery made the mistake, they might have to deal with it. You should find out if someone ...
Funeral Plot Right Dilemma5/1/2008
  Q: I am asking if I have a way to go about claiming burial plots and if I am entitled to them. Here is ...
  A: What are the chances cremation is an acceptable option for you and/or your kids? You can bury quite ...
Transportation of cremated remains overseas5/1/2008
  Q: My Mother passed away 11/17/07 (in Fort Worth Texas)and was cremated. Her final wishes were that ...
  A: You shouldn't need any paperwork. If you are taking the cremated remains on a plane, make sure ...
Moving my son's body from GA to NC4/30/2008
  Q: My son was married and died four years ago and is buried in Georgia in a private cemetery. His wife ...
  A: even if re-married, has the say-so. Will she cooperate? You may need to go to the probate court for ...
learning the trade4/24/2008
  Q: I would like to be in the Green Burial casket and advisory trade. Where do I begin? I don't want to ...
  A: What on earth do you have in mind? Are you planning to sell "green" caskets? If so, you need to ...
Private Cemetery4/22/2008
  Q: Can I build a private cemetery on my 10 acre estate in Illinois? I don't want to bury underground. ...
  A: Check with the local zoning re a private cemetery. No state law would forbid it. You may want to ...
selling cemetery plots4/21/2008
  Q: Lisa. Thanks for being available for questions; I appreciate any help you can give. My mother ...
  A: Not sure about TX, but forbidding profiteering is typical in some states. Any idea why someone who ...
SCI: Full cost recognition4/21/2008
  Q: I'm researching corporate accounting systems that encourage environmental pollution. I've tried ...
  A: Sara, nice to hear from you. My direct e-mail, by the way, is lisa@fuenralethics.org I'm guessing ...
IL Law (case and statutory) regarding cemetery disinterment4/19/2008
  Q: Can you direct me to case law as well as statutory law that governs cemeteries in Illinois and the ...
  A: Here is the statutory citation: 410 ILCS 535/21 It really isn't hard at all to do the on-line ...
legal cremation4/17/2008
  Q: Our father passed away in texas i month ago. We were notified 19 days after hid death and after he ...
  A: No, the step-son had NO legal right to authorize the cremation unless your dad had put him in charge ...
home funeral and transportation of deceased4/15/2008
  Q: We are a family from Iowa seeking information on having a home funeral for our Mother. Our family ...
  A: I couldn't agree more with what Cynthia wrote. Go to the library and get my book, "Caring for the ...
private/family cemetery4/15/2008
  Q: Can you tell me what the laws are in Texas to being buried on your own property or setup of a family ...
  A: There are no specific laws regarding this. Draw a map of your land and have it recorded with the ...
Private arrangements for Mom's funeral4/11/2008
  Q: I'm so happy to have found you through a google search! I've never seen this website before. My ...
  A: Sue, Here is my direct e-mail-- lisa@funeralethics.org and my phone-- 802-482-3437 . . . if either ...
burial on rural home property4/10/2008
  Q: I was wondering what the law is in Oklahoma regarding burial on a home property. We own 350 acres ...
  A: There are no laws to say you can or can't, so go right ahead. Draw a map of the land showing where ...
PA laws re: filing death certificate4/8/2008
  Q: Is PA one of the seven states that require a funeral director or designee to file the death ...
  A: No, PA is not a restrictive state. They are CT, IN, LA, MI, NY, NE, UT. And, of course, folks run ...
Moving ashes out of state or Country4/7/2008
  Q: On behalf of a friend: My friend's husband passed a month ago.He died in California. Now she's ...
  A: It makes my blood boil when FDs pull this kind of illegal manipulation!! In CA, one *does* have to ...
Transporting a Body4/4/2008
  Q: When my mother passes away at the care facility will I be able to transport her body to the ...
  A: Alas, no. Michigan is one of seven restrictive states that requires a funeral director to file all ...
Scattering Father's Ashes On Land4/1/2008
  Q: My father died in 1999. He was cremated (as he requested). I still have his ashes in the box they ...
  A: Sorry to be tardy answering. I'm on vacation and checking e-mail from away. Yes, his ashes can be ...
Texas Law about moving headstones or gravesites3/29/2008
  Q: I am considering buying a parcel of land that contains a headstone and gravesite of a family member ...
  A: The Dept. of Health would determine your right or anyone's right to move a grave, and certainly the ...
Questions to ask before you buy a family plot3/28/2008
  Q: My dad recently passed away and he's buried in a National Cemetery (Military Cemetery)my mom when ...
  A: You've certainly asked a VERY complicated question to which there is NO easy answer. First off, how ...
Transporting a body...3/28/2008
  Q: My brother-in-law may pass in the near future. He lives in NC and his pre-arrangements are in FL. ...
  A: Embalming is not required by NC for any circumstance, and that is the only state that would dictate ...
No money for cremation3/23/2008
  Q: My uncle recently died in a hospital in New York. His childred have no money, he was recently in a ...
  A: There is modest state assistance, I believe. The hospital social worker should know. His body could ...
private burial3/22/2008
  Q: In California, is it legal to be buried on private rural property without the involvement of the ...
  A: Burial must be in an "established" cemetery in CA. That said, check with your local county or town ...
Idaho's "Prearranged funeral plan"3/21/2008
  Q: An Idaho friend wants to be cremated in her home state (not embalmed), and wants to have the ...
  A: You shouldn't have a problem in Idaho to plan a home funeral. If death occurs in a hospital, you ...
Indiana burial laws3/20/2008
  Q: I have my husband's ashes which we were originally going to scatter. However, I'm rethinking it and ...
  A: Indiana is a very frustrating state, if you want to know the truth. I wrote in the Indiana chapter ...
Burial of pets with owners3/19/2008
  Q: My father has a terminal degenerative brain disease. He has requested that I have his pet dog buried ...
  A: No such statutes which is why you couldn't find them. Check with the funeral director you expect to ...
private or family cemetaries3/18/2008
  Q: Are private or family cemetaries legal in Ohio? If so, are any permits needed or specific land ...
  A: Ohio has no laws regarding this, but I'm sure private family cemeteries can be found all over, ...
private service3/17/2008
  Q: My sister recently passed away leaving no spouse or children, during her lengthy illness I was her ...
  A: I think what you've planned honors your sister's wishes, and I would find it astonishing that anyone ...
Missouri Pre Funeral Arrangement3/15/2008
  Q: 30 years ago when my teenage daughter died I bought a pre arranged funeral service for myself. Now ...
  A: Missouri laws on prepaid funerals are TERRIBLE, and I would have advised against prepaying if you'd ...
Donation3/13/2008
  Q: I've read several articles about the donation, more specifically tissue donation, and the money that ...
  A: I am very troubled by the body parts industry because it is not being regulated by the feds or ...
How long can we wait to call the mortician?3/11/2008
  Q: My grandpa is expected to die soon (at home)and my grandma has expressed her desire to be with him ...
  A: Temperature has more to do with decomposition than the time elapsed after death. At 70 degrees or ...
Transporting body3/11/2008
  Q: My mother lives with me in Washington state. She plans to be buried in Texas next to my dad. She ...
  A: Yes. You will need to get the burial transit permit from the funeral home before you depart to give ...
Burial expenses3/6/2008
  Q: I am helping a friend. her mom is dying and she has no money to bury her. What can she do?
  A: There may be more choices than you or your friend realize. In what state? In all but 7 states, a ...
Transportation of my mother's body3/6/2008
  Q: I was wondering if it is legal for my brother to fly his plane from Meridian, MS to Nashville, TN ...
  A: Yes, and you don't even need a hearse to meet the plane. A family member can transport the body. You ...
Exhuming and moving a urn3/5/2008
  Q: My sister died 11 Sep 06 in Annapolis, MD. She was cremated and buried in Carbondale, PA. My ...
  A: Your sister's husband has the legal right to determine her funeral plans, although he may have given ...
consumer rights to plot3/4/2008
  Q: My son passed away one year ago and our family has always placed pictures, balloons, memorabilia, ...
  A: Many cemeteries have such regulations, as the items get knocked off and in the way of mowers. Some ...
Florida Burial3/4/2008
  Q: I have a question that expands on an earlier one that you answered about burying two sets of ...
  A: Does your father have any information about this? Unless your parents were divorced, I don't think ...
burial requirements3/1/2008
  Q: I live in Texas what can you purchase to be buried in that is considered not made of impermeable ...
  A: I don't believe the six inches of gravel are required by law, only two feet of soil on top. A good ...
burial in Mo.2/28/2008
  Q: My father is in hospice care at my sisters house. We have already reserved a free plot for him at ...
  A: See if the hospice or family doctor will supply the death certificate. Otherwise, you'll have to get ...
moving cremated remains2/27/2008
  Q: Since my brother's death in CA, his wife had kept his cremains in an urn. Recently she died. Her ...
  A: There are no "cremains police" to see if his wife still has the urn. Therefore, anyone may ship them ...
exuming a body to be creamated2/26/2008
  Q: MY 21 YEAR OLD NEPHEW PASSED AWAY ABOUT SEVEN MONTHS AGO. HIS MOTHER WANTS TO EXHUME HIM TO BE ...
  A: If the nephew has no spouse, then BOTH of his parents are legal next-of-kin and get to call the ...
Texas law on building in a cemetary / moving graves2/22/2008
  Q: I am considering purchasing a 33 acre parcel of land that contains an old (abandoned)community ...
  A: I want to let you know that I have a personal bias against moving old grave sites and would hope ...
outdoor funeral pyre in WA2/19/2008
  Q: I live in WA state. My mother is dying. Her express wishes are for a pagan ceremony and an outdoor ...
  A: WA requires that all cremations occur in a licensed crematory. So no outdoor pyre in WA. Some ...
Spouse's right to final buriel plot (Texas)2/17/2008
  Q: My husband died on Dec.21, 2007. At the time of his death, he did not have a burial plot nor did he ...
  A: As spouse, you have rights as to the disposition of your husband's remains, regardless of where he ...
2nd rights2/17/2008
  Q: I live in AZ and my Father past away in 1980 and he is burried in a local cemetery. My Mother past ...
  A: Yes, this sounds like a for-profit cemetery that will make up their own rules any way they want to ...
cemeteries2/16/2008
  Q: What is the proper course of action when a person is buried in the wrong plot?
  A: There are several choices: If the plot where the burial took place has not been sold to someone else ...
Legal Right to Refuse to Bury Next of Kin ?2/15/2008
  Q: I live in Massachusetts. I have a brother who lives in New York state. We haven't been on good terms ...
  A: There are only a few states that require the family to pay the funeral bill, and NY is not one of ...
Backyard burials in Texas2/14/2008
  Q: Lisa, I too live in Tarrant Co.,Texas in the Arlington area and was wandering what would have to be ...
  A: I don't think your church will have any problem at all setting up a cemetery for its members on its ...
Cremation legal authorization2/14/2008
  Q: I am in Springfield Illinois.I have come to know that while cremating a body the funeral homes ...
  A: A person may now authorize his or her cremation prior to death, and that should be binding. Here is ...
correct to ship ashes from Oregon to LA,CA2/14/2008
  Q: Is it ok for a Mortuary in Oregon to cremate a person and put the loose ashes in an urn placed a wad ...
  A: My book, "Caring for the Dead: Your Final Act of Love," is available through www.funerals.org but it ...
Ashes and property dipute next of kin son or sister?2/12/2008
  Q: Lisa My Mother in-law passed away 1-9-08 and her 1/2 sister claims that she was entitled to all of ...
  A: One or both sons are the legal next-of-kin, NOT the aunt/sister. You do NOT have to relinquish any ...
organ donation and home wakes2/6/2008
  Q: The question was raised at a workshop we gave recently about whether you could still hold a home ...
  A: Organ and tissue donation have changed drastically in the last few years. Here's the scoop: Organ ...
embalming2/4/2008
  Q: Is it the law to be embalmed>
  A: It depends on the state and the circumstances. Half the states have no embalming requirements at ...
My Brothers Wishes2/4/2008
  Q: My brother passed away after a long illness. He gave me (his sister) our mother and his wife ...
  A: The wife gave up her right as next-of-kin when she let someone else pay for the cremation. However, ...
funeral expenses2/1/2008
  Q: I have been helping a friend who has pancreatic cancer. diagnosed in oct 06, given 3-6 months to ...
  A: The funeral director should know what state or county benefits are available to low-income people. ...
does my husband have to pay for his fathers funeral1/30/2008
  Q: when we ask to be part of the funeral arrangments he refused we didnt get ask to go in the second ...
  A: The brother/uncle is NOT next-of-kin. In almost every state, it goes-- * spouse * adult children * ...
St. Louis1/30/2008
  Q: I asked the medical examiner's office about getting a blank death certificate for the MD to fill out ...
  A: No, the M.E. is NOT correct. Here is the law: Title 193.145 . . . 4. The funeral director or person ...
Outer burial container requirements in Illinois?1/29/2008
  Q: "The Southern" in Illinois just ran a story on natural burial. ...
  A: You certainly are on the ball and up-to-date on green burials, Cynthia. You're right about the ...
RE: Burial of Family Member in same plot1/28/2008
  Q: My brother just passed away and he wanted to be buried on top of our father. My father is in a ...
  A: Yes, especially if it's a for-profit cemetery. Actually, those cemeteries usually want to charge you ...
Embalming without being asked1/27/2008
  Q: This past September my grandfather came to my house for home hospice. Knowing that he was going to ...
  A: Situations like this make my blood boil. According to the Federal Trade Commission, they cannot ...
Private cemetery1/22/2008
  Q: Can you tell me what the laws are in Florida to be buried on your own property or setup s family ...
  A: Cemeteries less than five acres do not need to be registered with the state. If you are in a rural ...
can not pay for fathers funeral1/21/2008
  Q: My soon to be daughter in law father past away 1-19-08. No one including her can get pay or have ...
  A: If the deceased person was on welfare or Medicaid, there may be some state or county help. The ...
Cremation remains1/18/2008
  Q: In Missouri, when a person dies, are there laws that require their cremated remains to be buried? ...
  A: No, re burial. In ALL states, the family may take the cremated remains home. There are no "cremains ...
rights of next-of-kin1/18/2008
  Q: I am not sure where to begin. My sister allegedly passed away in Texas on March 22, 1997. A Death ...
  A: Actually, you would not typically be required to sign a death certificate unless you were acting as ...
Death record/cause of death1/18/2008
  Q: My fiance died Christmas Day. We were long distance, so I was not there. Prior to his death, I had ...
  A: I am so sorry for the death of your fiance. And how cruel for the family to leave you out of the ...
Moving ashes from Oregon to Missouri1/17/2008
  Q: My mother died 2 and a half years ago. She was cremated and put in an urn/vault combo and buried in ...
  A: Actually, all adult children have equal rights as next-of-kin. How many of you are there? Where do ...
natural burial1/16/2008
  Q: When I die I would like to be taken to a remote place in the mountains of Utah and be buried. How ...
  A: That would be easy with cremated remains, but if you are talking body burial, you will need the ...
"Green Funeral"1/15/2008
  Q: I'm a fairly young person and don't plan on passing on anytime soon, however i am still concerned ...
  A: Your best bet is to look for a small-town cemetery that would happily cooperate with your wishes to ...
refunds from prepayment deals1/15/2008
  Q: I recently had someone ask me a question that I thought I'd refer to you, Lisa. Someone has made ...
  A: It depends on the state, among other things. And was the original contract set up as irrevocable for ...
Cremains Burial1/15/2008
  Q: Is there any law in Florida that prohibits burying two sets of cremains in the same cemetery plot?
  A: No laws at all on that. What these cemetery rascals often want to do is to charge you for a "second ...
Private Land Burial1/13/2008
  Q: My husband and I are purchasing 80 acres in Wilson County, Texas. The area is very rural, near the ...
  A: I suspect you won't have any problems. Check Texas Health and Safety code 711.008 which sets limits ...
Can anything be done? Please help.1/13/2008
  Q: My mother was buried in Alabama (which is @ least a 6 hr drive from where I currently reside) in ...
  A: What a problem!! The cemetery is clearly at fault here. Who owns the cemetery? I'm wondering if the ...
A&P students witness embalming1/11/2008
  Q: We are opening a new FH in a small town in Oregon and working w/local Jr. College. The professors ...
  A: I'm of mixed feelings on this. Yes, I think you may be asking for problems if these aren't mortuary ...
Burials...1/11/2008
  Q: I work at a cemetery so my friends were asking me about burials but they were things I don't know ...
  A: Alas, Washington is one of the few states that requires body burial in an established cemetery ...
exuming a body from texas1/10/2008
  Q: I lost my son 24 years ago. He is buried near Dallas, TX. Nobody in the family lives in Texas, ...
  A: It sounds as if she's on some kind of power trip to annoy you. Did your son have a wife? If not, his ...
Maine Private Cemetaries1/6/2008
  Q: We own 40 acres in rural northern maine. We would like to create a private family cemertary. Are ...
  A: You've got exactly the right idea, and, yes, that is legal. Family burial grounds of not more than a ...
Need Permit for Burying Ashes in PA?1/6/2008
  Q: We want to bury our oldest brother's ashes at the same grave site of our brother who was stillborn ...
  A: No permit is needed. Check with the cemetery to see what their policy is. They may want to charge ...
Cemetery plot owner's rights1/4/2008
  Q: My parents are buried in a cemetery in a tiny northern Wisconsin town. The cemetery belongs to the ...
  A: Probably not since the church owns the cemetery. Your concerns certainly sound valid, however. In ...
Disinternment of ashes1/3/2008
  Q: What do we legally need to do to dig up our daughters urn. The cemetery in which she was buried cut ...
  A: Check with the cemetery to see what their policy is. Generally speaking, the disinterment of ...
Miscarriage/Texas1/2/2008
  Q: My friend just lost her baby. She was approximately 16 weeks along & already knew it was a girl. In ...
  A: I think your friend just wrote to me, and I answered. There will need to be a fetal death report, ...
Spreading Ashes in NYS1/2/2008
  Q: What is the law with regards to the disposition of cremated human remains in New York State - both ...
  A: No laws, one way or the other. Generally accepted practice is with the permission of the landowner. ...
Green Buteal1/2/2008
  Q: Green Burial I live in Washington state. What would I need to do if I can’t find a Green Cemetery ...
  A: I believe there are lots of small county cemeteries in WA that would permit green burials. Have you ...
Cremation1/1/2008
  Q: A friend recently passed away and it was his choice to be cremated. His wife/children were told ...
  A: That is a blatant lie, and the family should file a complaint with the state funeral board. EVERY ...
Ohio Law & Burial on Private Property1/1/2008
  Q: I am in Stark County Ohio, Paris Township, basically in the country. Due to cancer at 37 years old ...
  A: Certainly the home funeral and wake should be easily managed. Go to the library and get my book, ...
Casket rental in New York City12/29/2007
  Q: My mother wishes to be cremated. Is it legal and can you rent a casket in New York (New York City). ...
  A: Yes, cremation is legal, and renting a casket is legal. The funeral home I recommend in NYC is ...
WHO HAS THE LEGAL RIGHTS TO ASHES12/27/2007
  Q: MY FATHERS ASHES ARE IN MY POSSESION AND I AM HIS OLDEST SON,BUT HIS THIRD WIFE SAYS SHE HAS THE ...
  A: I checked with one lawyer the last time you wrote, and he said he tho't my previous answer was ...
pine box12/26/2007
  Q: Are pine box caskets allowed in Michigan?
  A: Yes, in all and every state. In fact, NO state has any laws dictating the kind of casket one must ...
Any Benefit of Having Husband's Urn at Where You LIve12/24/2007
  Q: Make a long story short, my aunt(by marriage) now wants to have my uncle's urn(locates oversea in a ...
  A: Good for you for being creative about alternatives! That's exactly the kind of alternative I've ...
Cremation12/23/2007
  Q: In my earlier quiestion i forgot to also ask , can afuneral home refuse to cremate me without it ...
  A: If you are low-income and eligible for Medicaid, there may be state or county assistance. A hospital ...
moving my sister from NJ to GA12/22/2007
  Q: My parents are thinking about relocating to a warmer less costly area, but would not dream of it ...
  A: There will be an opening/closing charge on each end--$400-$800 x 2??--a new casket most likely, if ...
Home death and burial12/20/2007
  Q: Is home burial allowed anywhere in California? If not, are "green" burials allowed anywhere near ...
  A: Alas, burial in CA must be in an "established" cemetery, and I suspect starting one would be quite ...
Home burial Marion County Florida12/13/2007
  Q: I own 5 acres in the Ocala National Forest, Marion County Florida. My son is buried in South ...
  A: You are having trouble because there are no laws in Florida that address this, although cemeteries ...
prepaid funerals12/10/2007
  Q: How much money is spent in the U.S. annually on prepaid funerals? Could you break it down by state?
  A: About one-third of all funerals are prepaid. If a current report that the funeral industry is ...
Permit for ashes12/7/2007
  Q: My mom was recently cremated in Miami and we would like to take her ashes home to England. Can you ...
  A: You should have no problem carrying them on the plane. Just make sure they're in a container that ...
Transporting an Urn to Mexico and back to USA11/27/2007
  Q: My father passed away last week and we had his remains cremated. He was born in Mexico City and a ...
  A: There shouldn't be any U.S. problems, but you might check with the Mexican consulate. But I don't ...
creation and maintenance of family cemetary in Shelby Co. Alabama11/26/2007
  Q: Can you give me a little guidance on how to create a family cemetary in shelby Co, alabama. Who do ...
  A: If this is truly to be a family cemetery where relatives will be buried without charge, it should be ...
home burial on acreage in California11/25/2007
  Q: We live on 20 acres in Nevada County California. How do we find out if a home burial is legal and ...
  A: Burial in CA must be in an "established" cemetery. Also, there's a statute that says that six or ...
embalming11/22/2007
  Q: Is it required to embalm in Florida? If it is not a requirement, can there be a closed casket ...
  A: Refrigeration OR embalming is required after 24 hours, a reasonable requirement given the climate ...
Funeral Home selling lots that flood11/15/2007
  Q: A funeral home in Sunnyvale, Texas, who started their own cemetery is selling lots to unknowing ...
  A: The Dept. of Banking regulates perpetual care cemeteries in Texas. My guess is that they are more ...
home burial for my father11/12/2007
  Q: My father has expressed a desire to be burried "traditionally" in a simple pine box and burried on ...
  A: Home burial is permissible in MO. Land not to exceed one acre must be deeded in trust and the deed ...
burial of ashes11/11/2007
  Q: Can an urn of ashes be buried on a plot with a casket in it? If so how many urns could be buried on ...
  A: Cemeteries have different policies on this. No state laws anywhere address this. It makes me pissed ...
Pet Burial11/11/2007
  Q: Lisa. I see that you have answered many questions on exhumation and while my question has nothing to ...
  A: Alas, I know of no state laws that protect pet cemeteries for perpetuity in any state. If your wife ...
exhumation11/9/2007
  Q: I wanted to exhume my brothers cremains that were buried by his friends in a local cemetery the ...
  A: How and why did his friends arrange for the burial of his cremated remains without family ...
unclaimed cremains11/6/2007
  Q: What can a funeral home do when cremains remain unclaimed, in Texas?
  A: Here is the law-- Sec. 716.302. DISPOSITION OF CREMATED REMAINS. (a) An authorizing agent shall ...
funerals11/5/2007
  Q: What do I do if my significate other passess on. We are both on fixed disability income with no ...
  A: Would you consider donating your body to a medical school to be used for study? If you let me know ...
Embalming11/5/2007
  Q: I've read that embalming isn't a requirement in the state of Ohio...but is it required if there is ...
  A: Ohio has NO laws requiring embalming at any time, for any reason. That said, many funeral homes will ...
home wake11/3/2007
  Q: MY HUSBAND IS A VIET NAM VET, SERVICE RELATED 20 IN CONTACT WITH AGENT ORANGE, NOW HAS PANCREAS ...
  A: Even though family funerals are legal in Illinois, you'll run into some problems with officials who ...
moving from one location to another10/30/2007
  Q: i am an only child and about 10 years ago my father died. he is buried in a private cementary in ...
  A: It could cost about $7,000 as you are likely to need a new casket and grave liner, as well as a ...
burial10/29/2007
  Q: I live in an area that is zoned rural residential on 1.55 acres in Michigan. Can I bury a body on my ...
  A: If you are outside the city or village limits, it should be fine. The family graveyard itself must ...
Burial on private property10/23/2007
  Q: I live in KY. IS it possible to be buried on my private land or must I be buried in a public ...
  A: If your property is in a rural area, there should be no problem. Draw a map of your land indicating ...
Selection of grave or tomb10/21/2007
  Q: While arranging for the burial of my brother in our family tomb in New Orleans, my siblings and I ...
  A: The practice you ran into in New Orleans is probably influenced by the high water table which limits ...
moving a priest's Mom and Sister...10/21/2007
  Q: I recently visited my childhood priest who is now retired and living on his family farm just east ...
  A: There should be NO problem setting up a "family burial ground" on the priest's property. Ideally ...
private owners cemetery10/18/2007
  Q: A man in Radford, Va purchased a land there were burials. Two happen to be my husband's ...
  A: Do you know if the family burial ground is documented in the deed to the land? That would be helpful ...
cremated remains10/16/2007
  Q: My grandmother was cremated about 12 years ago and I just found out that her remains were never ...
  A: I'll try to do some research on Texas, but I know of no state that requires the funeral home to keep ...
MOVING MY KIDS10/15/2007
  Q: I had twins in 1994 which they both passed away they are buried in north Bergen NJ. the mother and ...
  A: You would need to contact the cemetery to see what they require for removal. You may need to go to ...
Moving my dad from one VA cemetary to another10/14/2007
  Q: My dad is buried on Long Island in a vet cemetary. My husband and I live in Lake George and my mom ...
  A: I'm sure this is probably possible, esp. as there may be more space in the Lake George area, and the ...
Funeral Protocol10/9/2007
  Q: I work at a diverse company with different nationalities and ethnic groups. We are trying to create ...
  A: I don't have any particular books to recommend, but here is a link to some quick on-line ...
Funeral Pyres10/6/2007
  Q: Greetings, I saw your previous answer regarding funeral pyres, recommending a green burial as an ...
  A: In 43 states, including Wisconsin, a family may handle a death entirely without using a funeral ...
green burial10/5/2007
  Q: I live in Alabama. I am having difficulty finding info on laws or requirements of a green burial ...
  A: The reason you're having a hard time getting info is because there aren't any laws on the subject in ...
Funeral Expenses10/4/2007
  Q: My brother passed away on Monday in his home and was a Vet (not active). Because he did not receive ...
  A: If you are being quoted $2,100 for a simple cremation then you called the wrong funeral home. It is ...
CREMATION9/28/2007
  Q: I am the executor of an estate. In the will I was to have my dear friend cremated and receive the ...
  A: I am assuming you made all the arrangements for the cremation and signed a contract to that effect. ...
Family dies at home9/20/2007
  Q: If a family member dies at home, who has to pronounce them dead? If you call EMS will they try to ...
  A: I'm assuming this is an anticipated death. Talk with the person's doctor to let him/her know that ...
moving our mother9/20/2007
  Q: If my mother is buried in a place by her current husband (not my father) contrary to our and her ...
  A: You probably will have the right to move her body, but the process will depend on what state she's ...
cremation Q.9/10/2007
  Q: When I go, can my friends build a private funeral pyre to cremate me? That's what I want to detail ...
  A: There are no state laws in OH that say one way or another. I suspect the open-burning laws would ...
i want to move my moms body9/5/2007
  Q: she was buried in June of this year. i want to move her from denver colorado to sterling colorado ...
  A: How or why did she get buried in Denver in the first place? If that was her preference or the ...
Exhumation and Reburial8/31/2007
  Q: My mother died in 2001 and was buried in Ohio. She was born and raised in Ohio and our family lived ...
  A: Your father would have to get a disinterment order (from the probate court or health dept., I ...
I may have to move my son's grave8/23/2007
  Q: my son was buried at a local cemetery and it seems that the plot was a double headstone plot. we ...
  A: That was certainly unethical of the cemetery. Do you know who owns that cemetery? I am not sure ...
Home Burial in Ca8/22/2007
  Q: Is it possible in California to bury a family member on their own private property? This family has ...
  A: I hope you'll get the same chuckle out of CA laws that I did. Burial must be in an extablished ...
Disputed Disinternment8/21/2007
  Q: I am 1 of 8 siblings. My mother/father were legally divorced in Michigan in 1975. My father was ...
  A: Although I sometimes get paranoid about these things, the Health Dept. form (and rules) require the ...
Home burial in Pa8/20/2007
  Q: Where can I get more information on burying someone on your home land in the state of Pa. My cousin ...
  A: Disinterment and home burial should be possible. I believe your cousin will need a disinterment ...
Home Funeral8/19/2007
  Q: My husband & I just saw a documentary on home funerals on PBS this afternoon. That fell into just ...
  A: Here is a wonderful Michigan story written by Wendy Lyons from the Detroit ...
transporting "urn" on plane from Texas to Missouri8/19/2007
  Q: My Mother was cremated by a funeral home which subsequently delivered her ashes to me. I have ...
  A: The box sounds absolutely lovely. Go ahead and seal whatever you wish, as the security will NOT open ...
follow up on pre-paid casket from 4-14-078/17/2007
  Q: I questioned whether a Michigan funeral home could charge more when a casket was pre purchased ...
  A: I agree that is sleezy tactics and is being touted by the National Funeral Directors Assn. as a way ...
can u help8/11/2007
  Q: i would like to start a family cemetery. i cant find any info on it. i live in kentucky. is there ...
  A: There aren't any laws about that which is why you may be having trouble finding info. If you are in ...
disinternment / reinternment8/9/2007
  Q: In California can we have a family member disinterned from one cemetery and reinterned in another ...
  A: Did your father have a spouse that picked the current burial site? If so, the spouse's wishes will ...
Missouri Law8/9/2007
  Q: Is it law in the state of Missouri that a deceased person must be embalmed...Also Is the use of ...
  A: A Missouri Funeral Board *regulation* requires a body to be embalmed OR refrigerated after 24 hours. ...
Starting a Memorial Garden8/9/2007
  Q: I live in Birmingham Al and was interested in starting a Memorial Garden. Can you tell me how to go ...
  A: Are you thinking of a place just for cremated remains, such as what many churches are now offering? ...
private cemetry8/8/2007
  Q: This may be more of a legal question. Here goes. We are on a large farm in Western Pa. with a small ...
  A: The fact that the family cemetery is identified on the deed is important and valuable. In a few ...
ashes on site8/7/2007
  Q: With cremation becoming more popular, I have come up with the idea of an on site cistern type ...
  A: Absolutely you may do that. Nice idea. The state of OH (and most states) consider the cremation ...
funeral costs8/7/2007
  Q: does california medi-care or medi-cade cover any costs for funeral costs and what is the cheapest ...
  A: If the death occurs in Utah, check to see what social welfare in Utah will pay, if any, toward ...
Jewish / Reborn Baptist dating7/30/2007
  Q: How does a reborn Baptist woman proceed with dating a Jewish man with possibly different views on ...
  A: I am a funeral expert, not a dating expert, but I can tell you from the experience of friends that ...
Moving remains7/28/2007
  Q: My boyfriend's father died 20 years ago, his last wish was to be buried next to his father which he ...
  A: Unless the spouse has re-married, probably not. The spouse is the legal next-of-kin who gets to make ...
funeral leave pay in south carolina7/22/2007
  Q: I have searched and searched and cannot find an answer to my question that is , is it a law in ...
  A: I don't know of any state where bereavement pay is a law. But many employees' unions have negotiated ...
funeral procedures7/19/2007
  Q: what are the burial and embalming procedures and limitations for various states in the United ...
  A: Check the library for my book, "Caring for the Dead: Your Final Act of Love." There are chapters for ...
getting body to cemetery7/18/2007
  Q: i am looking at direct burial for my father in kentucky. he has purchased everything at the cemetary ...
  A: Yes, you may handle everything yourself. The only problem may be if the cemetery requires a ...
Florida family cemetary7/14/2007
  Q: I live on 1.25 acres, zoned agriculture, in the county(Marion), in Florida. Can I create my own ...
  A: Even tho' your area is zoned agriculture, a 1.25 lot is fairly small for starting a family cemetery. ...
Cemetary rights7/14/2007
  Q: My Great Grandfather, Grandfather , and now father left quite a few plots left in a local cemetary. ...
  A: If you are one of the seven grandchildren to whom the lots were willed, you have every right to be ...
Legal or not??7/13/2007
  Q: This might seem like a really stupid question, everyone else thinks it is. I am a Christian woman ...
  A: I believe some outdoor cremations are being done by Buddhists in Colorado. We had one in VT in 1988 ...
funeral expense7/12/2007
  Q: When I buried my wife I paid the entire cost( excess of $10,000.)out of pocket. What small life ...
  A: Alas, unless your wife changed the beneficiary to you, the money goes directly to her sons. That ...
moving a buried body, and additional headstones7/9/2007
  Q: When my husband retires in 2010, we want to relocate to Kentucky. Our daughter is buried in ...
  A: It is really hard to predict what shape the body and casket will be in. Funereal type embalming is ...
funeral expenses7/4/2007
  Q: what are reasonable funeral and burial expenses. I am a co administrator of an estate and I need ...
  A: Only the legal next-of-kin should have a say on what the funeral should be . . . UNLESS the deceased ...
family cemeteries7/4/2007
  Q: Our small unincorporated town in Washington state has no cemetery and we are now wondering about a ...
  A: I am wondering why the county won't allow a cemetery. You will need to talk with the state cemetery ...
cemetery7/1/2007
  Q: I would like to start a public cemetery. Is it as easy as buying land and start advertising? ...
  A: Check with the Secretary of State's office, as that is the agency regulating cemeteries in GA. I ...
How and where to buy land for green buriel and conservation6/30/2007
  Q: Please respond asap. I've ask our real estate lawyers and they are scratching their heads. This is a ...
  A: There is already one green burial ground in up-state NY. There is certainly interest in CA, and ...
Best way to sell burial plots?6/28/2007
  Q: I have inherited two empty burial plots located in Alabama. Since I live in Tennessee, I'd like to ...
  A: It is VERY difficult to sell burial plots. When I was at FCA, I ran a free listing on the internet ...
starting a family cemetery in Texas6/28/2007
  Q: I live in rural East Texas, and would like to start a small family cemetery on my land. Can you ...
  A: The laws on this are pretty vague or non-existent in most states including Texas. Sometimes it's ...
Home Wake In PA?6/24/2007
  Q: I'm not planning on going anytime soon, God willing, but it's always been my desire for visitation ...
  A: It is possible to handle everything at home without a funeral director. Embalming OR refrigeration ...
private funeral6/23/2007
  Q: I would like to have a private funeral, no funeral home involved. And be buried on our property in ...
  A: What a lot of questions! Let me start with the most troublesome one first. Alabama requires ...
Moving buried bodies in South Carolina6/18/2007
  Q: My fiancee's ex-girlfriend just found out about our engagement and is now threatening to have the ...
  A: I'm not sure what it would take to change the names on the fetal death certificates legally, tho' ...
casket rentals6/17/2007
  Q: Do you know the average rental costs in the NY metro area and how soon can one be gotten? someone ...
  A: Prices can be all over the place from one funeral home to the next. No "average," but it might be in ...
Cemeteries6/16/2007
  Q: My maternal grandmother is buried where her husband (my step-grandfather) will be buried and where ...
  A: In what state is the cemetery? Disinterment procedures will vary from state to state. Generally, ...
family gravesite - Louisiana6/15/2007
  Q: My family owns land in rural north LA. My father insists that he will be buried on our land. He has ...
  A: That act was probably passed after I'd researched LA laws for the last edition of my book ten years ...
starting a green cemetary in Ohio6/13/2007
  Q: does your book cover the laws of starting a cemetary in Ohio? Do you know those laws? I like your ...
  A: No, my book doesn't have that information. You will have to do your own research on the ...
transporting human remains across state lines6/9/2007
  Q: My mother lives in Iowa and would like to be buried in Missouri. My brother is helping her make ...
  A: Absolutely, your brother may transport your mother's body. In fact, it would be legal for him to do ...
Home burials Arkansas6/9/2007
  Q: Can home burials be done in Arkansas? If not, what is the least expensive route to go?
  A: Yes, if you are outside village or city limits. Furthermore, family graveyards are exempt from ...
Help6/7/2007
  Q: I am sorry, this is very complicated to explain. My family owns a lot of 5 plots, running from the ...
  A: In what state is this? Who owns the cemetery? How can the cemetery say the baby is by the road if ...
attending funeral services6/6/2007
  Q: my husbands 1st wife just passed today. Should he attend the grave service? The deceased's husband ...
  A: That is certainly an awkward situation, I'm sure. Is your husband comfortable enough to call the ...
burial without money to pay6/5/2007
  Q: My father is elderly and my mother's health is not good. Recently they have been making comments ...
  A: Are your parents on Medicaid? If so, there may be state or county money for a minimal funeral. If ...
burial rights6/4/2007
  Q: I am researching an issue about burial rights in Utah and was hoping you could put me in the right ...
  A: Check to see if the cemetery has any related regulations that have to do with passing ownership or ...
family cemetary in va6/3/2007
  Q: I own property in VA 10 acres, I have two horses and would like to be buried here with them. How ...
  A: Draw a map of the land showing where the burial ground will be. No specific laws in VA, but a good ...
Licensed funeral directors selling preneed6/1/2007
  Q: In Connecticut, is it required by law that only a licensed funeral director can sell a prefunded ...
  A: Ever since I started researching funeral law 20 years ago, I've been struck by how poorly some ...
Moving a buried body5/31/2007
  Q: My husband's father passed away 17 years ago. My husband's father and mother were not on good terms ...
  A: Your husband's mother, unfortunately, is the legal next-of-kin to her spouse and might have the ...
DIY Burial5/29/2007
  Q: What are the laws concerning private burials in NC? If you can point me in the right direction on ...
  A: You do not need to use a funeral director in NC. In fact there's a wonderful story in LIFE magazine ...
STARTING A CASKET RENTAL BUSINESS IN MICHIGAN5/28/2007
  Q: I WOULD LIKE TO KNOW IF THERE ARE ANY LAWS IN MICHIGAN THAT PREVENT A PERSON FROM RENTING CASKETS?
  A: Reuse of any part of a casket was against the law when I researched my book 10 years ago. At that ...
Family Cemetaries5/27/2007
  Q: Are there any green burial sites in Ohio? If not, how does one go about establishing a family ...
  A: I am not aware of any green burial grounds in Ohio. Zoning would be the primary factor in ...
Ownership of plots/burial5/24/2007
  Q: This question came up at a family gathering recently. When you own a cemetery plot and are buried, ...
  A: State laws vary. Some states make a cemetery plot a permanent easement on the land. Other states ...
Moving from a public cemetary to the family cemetary5/23/2007
  Q: My Mother was buried according to her wishes in the cemetery in her retirement town(Ohio), with a ...
  A: Her husband would have the legal right to decided, and I suspect any probate court would also want ...
Home Burial Michigan5/18/2007
  Q: We live in Oscoda County, Mercer Township, Michigan. We live on 20+ acres of land. We wish to be ...
  A: Michigan has one of the better set of laws on home burial. Family graveyards under one acre outside ...
Fee's5/17/2007
  Q: I have a question, my father inlaw just passed, We live in Pennsylvania. We had a nice memorial ...
  A: That funeral director should be reported to the state funeral board for mis-representing the law. ...
who pays5/7/2007
  Q: Our father died this morning. We have seen him about 10 times in the last 20 years. Our names were ...
  A: If your father was on Medicaid, then the state probably has funds to pay for his cremation. The ...
natural burial on my property5/6/2007
  Q: My husband and I own about 2 acres in Englewood, Florida, most of it left as untouched Florida ...
  A: Unless you can interest someone with land to start another green burial ground closer to you, I ...
embalming5/2/2007
  Q: my grandmother who lives in England passed away two days ago.My mother and her family were told she ...
  A: I am assuming the body will be refrigerated for the two-week period. You might want to check on ...
Home Burials in Vermont5/1/2007
  Q: I would like to know if you could direct me to a source that would explain the process and the laws ...
  A: The Health Dept. is in the process of re-drafting its brochure (with my suggestions) on home ...
Cremation Ashes5/1/2007
  Q: Is it legal to scatter the cremated ashers in all 50 states, and if so are there any limitations in ...
  A: California law limits scattering, but in all states one can take them home and put them on the ...
Burial in Family Cemetary, Ohio4/30/2007
  Q: In Ohio, does one need embalming? And can a pine box be used as casket for burial without the ...
  A: There are no requirements in Ohio to be embalmed under ANY circumstances. At 70 degrees or less, a ...
stillborn burial in cemetary4/26/2007
  Q: Our daughter recently had a stillborn birth due to a sudden placenta abruption at 5 to 5-1/2 months ...
  A: How loving that your family was involved with this burial. Regarding the vault, are you distressed ...
private burial4/25/2007
  Q: Lisa what laws pertqain to private burials in KY? I understand we have a gorundwater problem ...
  A: There are no laws I'm aware of that deal with groundwater. Unless the casket is impervious, you need ...
Burial private property4/24/2007
  Q: I live in Polk Co Florida, Can I be buried on my property? It is app. 50 acres outside of town.
  A: Most likely you can. Do you have strict zoning enforcement in your area? That might be one issue ...
BURYING ASHES ON PERSONAL PROPERTY4/24/2007
  Q: My sister wants to leave ashes of my father and mother buried at my father's house in Penn Hills, ...
  A: Yes, you can leave them behind. There are no state laws applicable. Do the new owners know? What ...
funeral payment4/21/2007
  Q: Does Indiana have a statute requiring the beneficiary of life insurance policies to pay for the ...
  A: Without more details, I may not be able to answer this question very well. Was your son-in-law the ...
Cremated remains4/21/2007
  Q: I live in Texas, Can my cremated remains be spread on my land? ANSWER: Yes, cremated remains can be ...
  A: You're right that the law says no scattering in CA. That was passed after a commercial scattering ...
Casket rental4/17/2007
  Q: Is it legal in Ohio to rent a casket merely for the viewing when the body is to be cremated? We were ...
  A: I forgot to add that lying about state laws is a violation of the Federal Trade Commission's Funeral ...
Usual protocol - entry into a Christian church4/15/2007
  Q: What is the usual order of entry into a Christian church for a funeral. Is it coffin with bearers, ...
  A: That is likely to vary from church to church, clergy to clergy, or from one community to another. ...
pre-paid rental casket4/14/2007
  Q: We live in Michigan, my father bought a "rental casket" from a cemetary. My mother went to make his ...
  A: It depends on how they are managing to charge $500 more. If they are adding $500 to their itemized ...
Ability to Sell Unused Spaces in a Lot in Oklahoma4/13/2007
  Q: My wife's grandfather and grandmother are buried in a lot in Oklahoma City, OK in 1927 and 1945 ...
  A: I didn't note in my book that there was any state law in regard to this as I had for other states, ...
burial4/9/2007
  Q: can u be buried on your own property in Pennsylvania
  A: Yes if you are out in the country, at least one mile from a municipal water supply. Draw a map of ...
Private Cremation on Family Land4/3/2007
  Q: I live in a rural town in Texas. My father's wish is to be cremated in a Viking style funeral. ...
  A: There are very few states w. laws that would apply. A few states (Washington comes to mind) that ...
How to get an old cemetery set aside as a cemetery3/30/2007
  Q: I have located a cemetery established in 1859, that was excepted from all land sales until 1968. In ...
  A: Are you saying that the original deed set aside the cemetery until 1968 or that in 1968 a sale took ...
How to start a Green cemetery in KS3/30/2007
  Q: I would like to start a green cemetery in my county in KS - it is an urban area. Can you tell me how ...
  A: I just realized you're likely the same person who asked about the unconveyed cemetery. As for a ...
Proper burial site3/30/2007
  Q: I am widowed and recently dating. If I were to remarry, where should I be buried? I already have a ...
  A: There is no "proper" answer for this situation. Do you have children? Do they have some feelings on ...
what to do about a disasterous funeral service3/28/2007
  Q: I am interested in finding out how to help they family of a 3 month old baby recently buried at DW ...
  A: I am working on finding a top-notch lawyer, and have one reviewing the case right now. The lawyer ...
Paying the speaker3/26/2007
  Q: Do I pay the minister (in our case - two ministers) who spoke at my father's memorial service. One ...
  A: It is always courteous to pay an honorarium to the clergy. The funeral director will know what is ...
private home burial3/13/2007
  Q: I live in Arkansas is there any laws stoping me from having a family burial on my property.
  A: I am assuming you live out in the country. Family graveyards are exempt from taxation in AR and must ...
Rent A Casket1/15/2007
  Q: In California, can you rent a Casket? Please send me a list of who to contact.
  A: Yes, you may rent a casket. Typically this is done through the funeral home in which you are ...
Burying a Miscarriage in Pennsylvania1/8/2007
  Q: In 1997, while at home, my wife had a miscarriage. Afterward, I gave the child what I considered a ...
  A: You're fine, I believe, and perfectly legal. PA requires a fetal death certificate after 16 weeks ...
home burial12/6/2006
  Q: Could you please direct me to a source for the laws in Indiana as far as establishing a family ...
  A: Alas, the laws in IN require that burial be in an "established cemetery," a totally preposterous ...
Starting a cemetery11/30/2006
  Q: 1. Georgia (advice on other states is welcome) 2. For Profit 3. Open to general public 4. Will ...
  A: In Georgia, cemeteries are regulated by the Secretary of State. Have you been in touch with that ...
burial vaults in Florida11/29/2006
  Q: Please tell me if state law in Florida require burial vaults. I'm in Brevard County
  A: I apologize for my tardiness, but AllExperts had me accidently locked out for this past week. NO ...
Florida Law, Scattering Cremated Remains11/23/2006
  Q: Does the State of Florida have laws,statutes or restrictions on Scattering Cremated Remains in or ...
  A: I apologize for my tardiness, but AllExperts had me accidently locked out for this past week. No ...
Transporting of body11/22/2006
  Q: I live in Michigan. My husbands family has a family cemetery in Kentucky. When his father passed ...
  A: I apologize for my tardiness, but AllExperts had me accidently locked out for this past week. Alas, ...
strange urn11/13/2006
  Q: I’ve decided I want a sealed stainless steel orb for an urn when my time comes. (I’ve always been a ...
  A: What an interesting idea! If you're big-boned, probably basketball size would do. Generally, adult ...
green burial/home burial11/9/2006
  Q: ~~~I live in Ohio and I would like to know if there is any way to arrange for a green burial (not ...
  A: There's probably no reason you couldn't start a family burial ground on your own property. Simply ...
Statistics11/8/2006
  Q: Lisa, I have been a Funeral Director/Embalmer for a little over 20 yrs. I am currently enrolled in ...
  A: I have several answers. I believe AARP did a study that showed that very few people knew about the ...
am i crazy?11/4/2006
  Q: Is it wrong to want to own and operate a cemetery for profit and how would start. Can you lead me in ...
  A: I can answer only with regard to my personal opinion, but, yes, I think a cemetery should be a ...
Private funeral service11/3/2006
  Q: A good friend on mine recently passed away out of state. I was the contact person and had to make ...
  A: Did the deceased leave any written instructions on funeral plans? If so, in what state did he live? ...
expense and burial if spouse is not able10/31/2006
  Q: Does the blood related family of a person have the right to pay for the funeral and change burial ...
  A: In a few states, if the spouse is estranged, that spouse loses the right to decide funeral options. ...
DEATH CERTIFICATE10/26/2006
  Q: It was a coroner's case and so he went to the hospital to check on the body. He told me later it ...
  A: I agree with you about the terminology and that you can probably get it changed with regard to the ...
Starting a Cemetery10/24/2006
  Q: How would one go about starting a cemetery? Does each state regulate these things? Where would I ...
  A: The Real Estate Board regulates cemeteries, but they don't know what they're doing re cemeteries! ...
cremated remains scattering10/16/2006
  Q: My brother, a resident of the state of Georgia, is requesting that his cremated remains be scattered ...
  A: Yes. Only California has some mild limitations. Not Georgia. If you haven't opened the box yet, ...
family cemetery in Louisiana10/16/2006
  Q: We live on 50 acres in rural Louisiana(East Feliciana Parish) and would like to start our own family ...
  A: Burial in Louisiana must be in a duly authorized cemetery. Check first with your local zoning laws, ...
burial vaults10/15/2006
  Q: i am thinking of opening a a concrete burial vault buisness in missouri. in my research i have ...
  A: Are you in the concrete business with other business to feed your family? Or will you be buying ...
right to cremains of blood family member10/12/2006
  Q: My sister and niece were cremated, brother-in-law, not the father of my niece, had possession of ...
  A: I'm not sure if I understand everything correctly, so let me reword it to see if I got it right and ...
Rural Cemetery10/5/2006
  Q: My family is burial in a rural cemetery since 1871 in Texas. Burial been free. The ground were kept ...
  A: The family is responsible for the upkeep of a family burial ground. If it is overgrown, perhaps some ...
Cemetary in rural Texas10/5/2006
  Q: What are the requirement to open a cemetary in rural Texas?
  A: Someone else just asked the same question. Cemeteries are regulated by the Dept. of Banking in TX. ...
burials/funerals10/5/2006
  Q: We live in Texas. Do we have to be embalmed? Can we have a in home wake instead of a funeral home?
  A: Texas law requires embalming OR refrigeration after 24 hours. You can find a source for dry ice in ...
family cemetery in michigan10/5/2006
  Q: I live in a rural area in mid-michigan. I am interested in starting our own family cemetery and ...
  A: Ironically, Michigan has one of the best home burial statutes for starting a family cemetery. ...
funeral9/30/2006
  Q: we live in arkansas and want to have home burials for both my self and my wife is it legal in ar? ...
  A: Yes, that would be legal in Arkansas. If you're in a relatively rural area, there should be no ...
No funds for a funeral9/29/2006
  Q: My sister is dying of lung cancer. They moved her to a hospice yesterday. It's just a matter of time ...
  A: I am very sorry about your sister. I know of no one who pays for funerals. If your sister is on ...
Starting a Cemetary9/24/2006
  Q: I'm concidering starting a cemetary in NW. rural Pa., 'Jefferson County'. I'm unable to find the ...
  A: The Real Estate Commission is supposed to regulate cemeteries in PA, but, in practice, they do ...
Funeral Expense9/23/2006
  Q: My father yet just died about three days ago and to the best of my knowledge he has no insur.. or ...
  A: Unless your father was on Medicaid, it is unlikely there is any financial assistance from the city, ...
cemetery question9/17/2006
  Q: How do I figure out how to draw up a plan and how much space is needed for each plot? I can not ...
  A: There are a number of variables as to size of plot. Will you require vaults? Some think it's nice to ...
what is protocol from death to the ground?9/17/2006
  Q: What is protocol from death to the ground?
  A: There is no one funeral protocol in the U.S. Religious and ethnic affiliation may dictate certain ...
Funeral Business8/8/2006
  Q: I am living in Florida and I would like to start the cemetery business. What do I need for this? ...
  A: You need to check with local zoning officials for their reaction to a cemetery designation for the ...
what is shiva7/26/2006
  Q: A memorial service is being held today for an elderly Jewis man that was not a relation, but a board ...
  A: I apologize for being so tardy in responding. Normally I answer the same day (if I'm not away). But ...
I want open a commercial cemetary7/16/2006
  Q: I have 10 rural acres in Brooksville Florida. What do I have to do to be licensed as a cemetary? ...
  A: Denise, Send me an e-mail and I'll forward to you some "criteria" that others are promoting for ...
Costs7/12/2006
  Q: What is the wholesale cost of your book? Did you provide it at cost to the public libraries? How ...
  A: The wholesale cost varies with the distributor. Different libraries buy from different distributors, ...
How to have a simple nofrills burial7/11/2006
  Q: My husband has Alzheimers, as well other serious health problems, and I have been thinking about ...
  A: Susan, Go to the library and get my book "Caring for the Dead: Your Final Act of Love." There's a ...
bearer at funeral6/23/2006
  Q: I HAVE BEEN ASKED BY MY WIFE TO BE A BEARER AT HER FATHERS FUNERAL,HONOURED THAT I AM TO BE ASKED, I ...
  A: I'm not sure if things are done differently in your area of the country or not, but I think you ...
funerals and what is appropriate to wear6/22/2006
  Q: What is the suggested mode of dress to wear to a funeral? I know what I feel is proper, but I need ...
  A: In the past, black was the norm for funeral dress. In this day and age, color is much less ...
Cemetery6/14/2006
  Q: I Live In Killen, ALabama. I am wanting to start a family cemetery. How do I go about it to get ...
  A: Unless you have a lot of land within the city limits, it is unrealistic to think of starting a ...
Starting a cemetary6/5/2006
  Q: I am considering starting a cemetary in a rural area in the panhandle of Florida. Is there any ...
  A: Unless you are starting a family cemetery less than five acres, you'll need to be registered with ...
vault in the state of Arkansas5/8/2006
  Q: Is a vault required in the State of Arkansas? also, does a body HAVE to be embalmed in the State of ...
  A: No state requires a vault by law. That said, many cemeteries do require a vault. It's a safety and ...
Missouri Home Burials: Specific Law4/12/2006
  Q: according to an answer you gave someone, you say that you do not need a licensed funeral director to ...
  A: This was recently re-defined in Funeral Board regulations that I can't find on-line at the moment. I ...
green burials in PA3/13/2006
  Q: :) i want to write a paper about green burials. when it comes to pennslyvania law, is the family ...
  A: Go to the library and get my book, "Caring for the Dead: Your Final Act of Love." In addition to the ...
Starting a private cemetery3/13/2006
  Q: Lisa, Can you tell me how find out if you can start a family cemetary in Butler County Alabama (on ...
  A: No state laws forbidding it, so local zoning might be in effect. On the other hand, in a rural area, ...
Body donation12/12/2005
  Q: I am taking a death and dying class in college and one of my fellow students said that he has signed ...
  A: You're absolutely right that it's illegal to sell bodies. Many med schools will pay for the ...
Disposition of Found Remains10/21/2005
  Q: Lisa: I own a self-storage company in N.Y. State. Our company foreclosed on the contents of a ...
  A: An interesting situation for you, no doubt. There are no state laws governing what to do with ...
backyard burial allowed?10/8/2005
  Q: Lisa, I have your book, Caring For The Dead. Very Informative! I live in the city-near Dallas/Ft ...
  A: Kathy, You would need to own rural land for home body burial, I'm quite sure. Zoning would consider ...
a memorial service10/4/2005
  Q: I just asked about my mother who wants to be cremated. I would like to know if we can maybe have a ...
  A: Connie, The dinner sounds like a lovely idea. If you want to invite the public--by announcing it in ...
cremation10/3/2005
  Q: My mother is 82 and for the past year or so has had some health problems. She told my brother and I ...
  A: Connie, It actually sounds as if your mother has made a thoughtful choice. If people knew what was ...
Home Burials in Missouri7/21/2005
  Q: I'm interested in setting up a family cemetery in Missouri and have two questions. First, do you ...
  A: I'll answer your second question first: NO, you do NOT need to use a funeral director in Missouri ...
Funeral7/20/2005
  Q: Lisa, I do not want a funeral or service of any kind. My wife says she is going to have one ...
  A: It depends on the state in which you live (or die). Some states have a provision for honoring the ...
getting out..7/19/2005
  Q: from the ghetto I'd like to apologize if this question appears improper.. can a man buried according ...
  A: It is VERY unlikely that once a person has been declared dead by a doctor that the person would come ...
State to State6/14/2005
  Q: Lisa, thank you for taking the time to answer my question. My dear husband has terminal cancer. He ...
  A: You are planning services that sound as if at least two funeral homes will be involved, and possibly ...
Home cremation5/9/2005
  Q: Lisa, I just looked at pictures of a friend that was cremated in India. What a beautiful service. I ...
  A: There seem to be more and more folks asking about home cremation. The Buddhists in Colorado are ...
Finding out where a person was cremated11/13/2004
  Q: Recently a person in our city passed away shortly after moving to a different state.In the obit it ...
  A: Death certificates are public information. It may cost you $15 or so to get a copy, but the death ...
starting a family cemetery11/11/2004
  Q: Can you tell me where I can find out if you can have a family cemetery in Ohio and what the ...
  A: There are no statutes that would forbid you from having a family cemetery in Ohio. If you own rural ...
Previous question11/4/2004
  Q: I recently asked a question about laws regarding opening a funeral home and your reply was that you ...
  A: I can't find my last answer which must be lost in cyberspace somewhere, so here goes again. I ...
Most recent information by state10/23/2004
  Q: Greetings, I have read your excellent book Caring for the Dead. Realizing that books are snapshots ...
  A: Not a lot has changed since 1998, but you can check the Funeral Consumers Alliance web page for any ...
Followup/cremation9/2/2004
  Q: First, thank you for your answer to my previous question (I'm the one who asked about cremation laws ...
  A: At least half the state's have no waiting period. The others have a waiting period of 24 or 48 or 72 ...
General question8/31/2004
  Q: My daughter is currently writing a short story for her creative writing class. Her story is about ...
  A: I'm fairly sure that the standard practice would be for the US funeral director to contact a British ...
transport of cremated remains8/31/2004
  Q: i was just curious what happens if someone from another country dies and is cremated here in the ...
  A: There are no state laws in any state (or federal laws either) regarding the transportation of ...
Green Burials, Florida8/30/2004
  Q: I am researching how a person can have a green burial in the state of Florida. I live in Orlando, ...
  A: Cemeteries with a Jewish section might allow burial without a vault. Perhaps in a shroud only. And ...
cremation8/14/2004
  Q: What is your personal opinion on cremation vs a casket in ground burial. I have heard that according ...
  A: The choice of burial or cremation is a personal matter. Some of us object strongly to the embalming ...
home burial8/10/2004
  Q: Is there a concise source of information on the web concerning state laws and permit requirements ...
  A: Only cursory information. You'll find a Virginia chapter in my book, "Caring for the Dead: Your ...
funerals7/8/2004
  Q: My grandmother is 101.5 and does not have sufficient funds to pay for a funeral. At this time she ...
  A: I know of no one giving money to pay for funerals, a question we get all the time, I'm sorry to say. ...
A neighbor's memorial5/11/2004
  Q: Our neighbor was recently taken off life support and as our contribution to her (she LOVED to cook ...
  A: Alas, this sort of personal agreement is hard to collect on. How too bad the son wasn't more ...
I'm lesbian and Wiccan, my parents are Straight and Christian. Do They have power of attorney over my remains, or does my life partner?4/25/2004
  Q: I'm 25, lesbian and a Wiccan. My parents are both straight, and devout Southern Baptists. Some time ...
  A: There is no personal preference law or a designated agent law in Alabama at this time. Case law ...
home funerals3/16/2004
  Q: I just looked at "finalpassages.org" and like the idea of home care for the dead, returning to the ...
  A: No, no one is keeping any statistics that I know of, but interest does seem to be growing. A story ...
funeral payments from an insurance policy.2/18/2004
  Q: If the beneficiary signs the funeral bill for payment from the insurance co., but refuses to sign ...
  A: Whoa! I need a LOT more information. Is the insurance regular insurance or funeral insurance that ...
Are Funerals Required?1/2/2004
  Q: If a person does not want any sort of service at all, what are the bare minimum requirements for ...
  A: No, a funeral is never required. One can have an immediate burial or direct cremation without any ...
exhuming5/20/2003
  Q: I was told by a Georgia funeral director that I had to use a licensed director to obtain a court ...
  A: No, you may go to the probate court yourself. In fact, you can move the body yourself as well, ...
death and funerals3/30/2003
  Q: I dont know if you got my question, so am resending. Please let me know the titel of your book. I ...
  A: I guess I didn't get your question the first time. Sorry. The title of my book is "Caring for the ...
Remains11/26/2002
  Q: My friend passed away and his parents live in a Skilled nursing facility in Los Angeles. There is a ...
  A: I think you may have a simple vocabulary problem here. "Remains" are often interpreted to mean a ...
family cemetery8/15/2002
  Q: Could you tell me anything about the regulations of having or starting a family cemetery on your own ...
  A: If you are in a rural area, it should be no problem--with zoning or anyone else. I'd draw a map of ...
funeral/ pre planned1/10/2002
  Q: I was thinking and wondered if there was any such thing. Could a pre arranged be bought with a first ...
  A: Unless you need to set aside assets in order to qualify for Medicaid, we recommend that you NOT ...
Casket Rentals7/24/2001
  Q: Lisa, thank you again for your quick answer yesterday regarding casket rentals. I have another ...
  A: It's not a big deal. Casket rental units come with a removeable insert. They are *supposed* to be ...
Pre-Arranging Funerals5/4/2001
  Q: How can I pre-arrange a funeral?
  A: It is wonderful that you are planning ahead for the inevitable. Having said that, it is usually a ...
Burial Vaults1/31/2001
  Q: When did states begin to require the use of burial vaults? What states do require them and why ...
  A: NO state requires burial vaults, and anyone who says they do is misrepresenting the facts. Many ...
where to get help10/23/2000
  Q: Lisa Carlson, My friend has two children with C.F. Her oldest who just turned 23 is in his ...
  A: In most states, including Calif., it is legal for a family to handle a death without a funeral ...
autopsy reports7/8/2000
  Q: Miss Carlson, I`m not sure if you would know this but I`m trying to find out how long the coroner`s ...
  A: I'm sure it varies with the office--city, county, or state. I've never read of state laws that ...
2nd spouse`s wife buried under 1st spouse name6/20/2000
  Q: Three dtrs did not approve of my marriage to their mother.2 months into marriage,wife lost kidney ...
  A: I am very sorry for your loss. The funeral home appears to have been negligent in not being clear ...

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Funeral Law. Having written a 512-page book on funeral law for consumers with state-by-state information, I am very conversant with consumer rights in this regard: What are the laws on disposition of cremated remains? Is embalming required? Do I have to use a funeral home? Can I have a home wake? Is it a state law to buy a vault? I prepaid for a funeral but changed my mind. They won`t give me all my money back. What can I do? . . . If you have an immediate need for information because a death has just occurred or is about to occur, you may call me at 802-482-6021.

Experience

I have monitored the funeral industry on behalf of consumers for over 20 years. I have been a guest speaker to funeral trade organizations, consumer workshops, and social service professionals. I am regularly consulted by lawyers and legislators as well as journalists.

Organizations
Funeral Ethics Organization (www.funeralethics.org) Funeral Consumers Alliance (www.funerals.org)

Publications
Caring for Your Own Dead (1987) Caring for the Dead: Your Final Act of Love (1998) I Died Laughing: Funeral Education with a Light Touch (2001) Final Rights: Reclaiming the American Way of Death (2011) with co-author Joshua Slocum

Education/Credentials
Masters degree in Administration and Special Education

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Available as an expert witness for funeral-related court cases.

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