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| Subject | Date Asked |
| Natural Burial and New Funeral Options | 2/6/2012 |
| Q: I am a certified celebrant specializing in funerals in Memphis Tennessee. I would very much like to ... A: Nice to meet you!! Thank you for your inquiry! I can be found in multiple networks; first check ... | |
| Natural burial | 1/30/2012 |
| Q: I'm wanting to know more about natural burial, and if Kentucky offers a natural burial site. If ... A: it's an old concept newly embraced! It's basically a natural burial; no embalming, no chemicals, ... | |
| Burial of ashes | 1/28/2012 |
| Q: My uncle recently pasted away and my aunt will be bring his ashes back to Illinois (St. Mary's ... A: I am not sure why you would need a full size vault for an urn burial. I assume Full size means a ... | |
| Funeral expenses | 12/26/2011 |
| Q: My husband was one of 7 children, unfortunately we have had to pay for two of his siblings funerals ... A: Funerals are an expense, unfortunately many of us are not prepared. Someone else usually ends up ... | |
| Spreading A Veterans Ashes | 12/21/2011 |
| Q: I am Fubar with the Viet Nam Veterans Motorcycle Club. The Catholic church in Merrill,Wisconsin ... A: Cremation in the catholic church has been challenging, in 1997 the church made some accepting ... | |
| burial of body | 12/17/2011 |
| Q: if your are barried in a casket with a steel vault aroung it would worm get in to eat the body ? A: The purpose of the vault is to protect the casket, however there are no guarantees for the ... | |
| Casket placement | 9/23/2011 |
| Q: Viewing is done with the head of the deceased to the left (as approaching the casket). For military ... A: I commend you for double checking the protocol, a good service needs to follow the guidelines for ... | |
| Casket placement | 9/21/2011 |
| Q: Viewing is done with the head of the deceased to the left (as approaching the casket). For military ... A: Casket placement has always been a confusing topic and often discussed in lengthy riddles, lol. My ... | |
| how to move my dad to the grave in va | 9/21/2011 |
| Q: my father passed in nov 2009 and we had lost contact he was married and his wife burried him in ... A: I am not saying there is a right or wrong about this, disinterment has been done many times for many ... | |
| how to move my dad to the grave in va | 9/21/2011 |
| Q: my father passed in nov 2009 and we had lost contact he was married and his wife burried him in ... A: First step is to ask yourself if you really want to do this, moving a grave is called disinterment ... | |
| ashes of family member | 9/8/2011 |
| Q: i would like to know what rights as a family member are there to ashes. my fathers father died in ... A: A death and funeral planning will bring out the best and worst in families, sounds like there is ... | |
| death expenses | 9/2/2011 |
| Q: An ex-wife took everything in divorce. I have no assets. Own nothing nothing in my name. When I die ... A: The order of persons authorized to make arrangements is as follows; Spouse Parents Children If ... | |
| my son's death | 7/16/2011 |
| Q: My 38 year old son passed away unexpectedly, although very ill. He married 11 years ago and ... A: I am really sorry your son has passed on and this is happening. Does your son have funeral ... | |
| green burial | 7/13/2011 |
| Q: i found your website and am thrilled to see it. i was looking at one of the questions where someone ... A: You are doing the right thing, search the internet for valuable resources and get connected. Use ... | |
| Michigan Burial Plot | 6/30/2011 |
| Q: A Michigan resident purchased a family burial plot and headstones in Michigan when his wife of 48+ ... A: I don't see why not. It would be best to discuss with the cemetery your wishes and then you will ... | |
| who has legal right over my sisters ashes | 6/24/2011 |
| Q: I have a simple question but cant get the answer anywhere . My little sister and i lost both our ... A: My guess is there is a next of kin that is legally responsible, the boyfriend probably wasn't the ... | |
| decompositio | 6/15/2011 |
| Q: how long does it take a body to decompose. When it has not been prepared for 2 weeks or more A: There are many variables involved in the decomposition process. A body will decompose 8 times ... | |
| Burying parents ashes in family cemetary in Missouri | 5/26/2011 |
| Q: My family has a small cemetery in Maries County, Missouri (evidently held in perpetuity by the ... A: The rules and regulations vary for each cemetery and the director in charge should be able to tell ... | |
| casket protocol | 5/22/2011 |
| Q: In the Episcopal church how should a casket enter and leave the church, feet first or head first? A: I am not an expert in religious rituals for funerals, however in my experience there were rules ... | |
| Moving our daughter | 5/20/2011 |
| Q: Our daughter died during birth and was buried September 2010. I was in shock and dealing with the ... A: Syawn- Please accept my condolences, losing a child is difficult. I'm truly sorry. There are ... | |
| Changing arrangements | 4/20/2011 |
| Q: Can a funeral change arrangements made and paid in full by me and signing documents in front of ... A: You are asking if a funeral home can change arrangements? I don't see why a funeral home would want ... | |
| Ashes over the Gulf | 3/24/2011 |
| Q: I would love to have information on scattering services. My stepfather has brain cancer and he would ... A: let me ask some colleagues from that area and get back to you. With care, Here are a few ... | |
| MOVING CREMATION | 3/22/2011 |
| Q: In an explanation regarding movement of cremation from state to state, you advised it is perfectly ... A: I am not sure what the regulations are for the border of Canada, it depends on your method of ... | |
| Moving a body for burial from Hamilton On. Canada to Ventura county Los Angeles, USA | 3/17/2011 |
| Q: I am planning my Will and have seen now hard it can be when someone suddenly dies and the family is ... A: I am sorry you are frustrated with the process, imagine how a a grieving family would feel. I ... | |
| moving a grave to another | 3/3/2011 |
| Q: I live in syracuse ny,and I want to know how much it will cost to move my sister from loomis ... A: I am assuming this is a full body burial that you would Iike to disinter and move to another ... | |
| rights to cremation remains | 2/28/2011 |
| Q: I am executor of my mother's will and had power of attorney both financial and medical when she was ... A: I commend you for wanting to respect your mothers wishes. Instead of looking at this as a legal ... | |
| Who has the controling right to bury ! | 2/7/2011 |
| Q: My oldest Brother just passed away and we live in the state of ca, my was in Texas and we now want ... A: Your question is difficult to understand. The order of authority for making funeral arrangements is ... | |
| belongings in the casket | 1/30/2011 |
| Q: i was wondering if i could be buried with 2 m 16's across my chest and a ka bar in my hand. is that ... A: To my knowledge I don't think there are any laws against this. However, you may have issues with ... | |
| direct burial | 1/5/2011 |
| Q: what is direct burial? What is the time frame. The death was in the state of Washington A: A direct burial is usually defined as a burial without services. There will be no viewing or ... | |
| Buryin ashes | 12/30/2010 |
| Q: I'm in Alabama. Is there a law/regulation that says you have to bury ashes in a vault in the ground? ... A: I am not familiar with each state laws regarding cemeteries. Private family cemeteries are ... | |
| coffin | 12/28/2010 |
| Q: it is illegal to own a coffin at home i live in va. A: I don't see any reason why it would be illegal to own a coffin in your home. I have seen furniture ... | |
| How to tell the kids? | 12/2/2010 |
| Q: I am jumping the gun here a little but I feel like I have to ask so I can prepare myself for when ... A: It a difficult situation and I commend you for seeking out answers. There is often debate about how ... | |
| signing to have someone cremated | 11/30/2010 |
| Q: My biological father passed away on Sunday leaving behind 7 adult kids. only 1 whom he had contact ... A: Death and funerals bring out the worst and best in families. I'm sorry this is a tough time for ... | |
| My father passed away | 11/27/2010 |
| Q: Who has say to where we lay my dad to rest? A: I am sorry your father has passed, it sounds like there may be some confusion for the funeral ... | |
| placement | 10/29/2010 |
| Q: Is there any rule of thumb regarding casket placement in the church? Some are sideways in line with ... A: That is a good question, the rule of thumb depends on the church and the religion. For example, in ... | |
| Memorial Service - Identifying Family Members | 9/16/2010 |
| Q: We are looking for a way to identify the family members at my grandmother's memorial service. We ... A: You've got the right idea! Wearing the same type clothing for family members is a fun idea, I've ... | |
| burial laws in wisconsin | 9/4/2010 |
| Q: It is legal to bury a body or ashes on you land in Wisconsin. Can I spread the ashes where ever I ... A: Your question is a few questions, not sure what your disposition goal is. A vault is for a burial ... | |
| excluding in-laws at private funeral | 8/27/2010 |
| Q: Can the surviving spouse exclude step daughter-in-law from attending private funeral of deceased ... A: The funeral is an event for the grieving, I suggest that you put aside any family issues and move ... | |
| Parents ashes | 8/26/2010 |
| Q: I am writing from Ontario Canada.I am trying to find out if I can bring my parents ashes to Florida ... A: You should be able to do the burial in Florida without any problems. Did the ashes come with ... | |
| Natural burial in S.C. | 7/9/2010 |
| Q: I am wondering if it is legal to have a natural burial in a church cemetery in South Carolina? A: Natural burial has been around since the beginning of time, it's natural and safe. A church ... | |
| who pays for funeral | 7/8/2010 |
| Q: My mother recently died and my sister took it upon herself to have my mother buried yet, she told me ... A: I'm sorry your mother has passed, a death will bring out the best and worst of families. Normally, ... | |
| home burial | 7/2/2010 |
| Q: I am common-law married to this man and he wants to be buried on his land outside city limits. I ... A: This isn't illegal... however, there are some considerations to think about. I think it is a ... | |
| transporting decease from state to state | 7/1/2010 |
| Q: What are the options to transport a deceased family member from one state to another the cost and ... A: It all depends on the state and the county department of health, they will most likely require a ... | |
| Funds For Funerals | 6/18/2010 |
| Q: I'm 20. My mom recently passed and she had no life insurance. it is up to my siblings and i to pay ... A: Funerals are a financial burden that is usually unexpected, unfortunately it is the family ... | |
| Seating at a funeral | 6/16/2010 |
| Q: in what order should the family be seated?For example, if the wife is deceased, should the husband ... A: I may be the wrong person to ask, I like to go against the grain. Wherever the husband feels most ... | |
| Notification | 6/8/2010 |
| Q: When a parent dies,how soon should a child notify all the other siblings?When should pallbearers be ... A: I think it all depends on the family dynamic and how family members communicate. It is best to ... | |
| burial | 5/30/2010 |
| Q: Do I have to be buried in a container, essentially a casket ? Can I not be buried in a cardboard box ... A: Greetings Paul - Thank you for a unique question! Do you have to buried in a container? Well, yes ... | |
| Monument inscription | 5/28/2010 |
| Q: My mother recently passed away. My dad passed away several years ago. My mom remarried but was ... A: Yes this is confusing! I had to read your question several times to visualize the headstone. I can ... | |
| where do i get paperwork | 5/27/2010 |
| Q: i need to know where to get paperwork to send my uncles body to mexico!? as soon as possible A: The local funeral home is your best resource for sending a body internationally. The paperwork that ... | |
| making a headstone | 5/21/2010 |
| Q: I'm in California - headstones are quite expensive ...and my family and i are very crafty. I was ... A: Jennifer- Wow, what an interesting idea! If you've got the skills and materials, I say do it! ... | |
| brother buried with parents | 5/14/2010 |
| Q: My brother was cremated and we would like him to be buried with our Mother and Father in their plot. ... A: I am not sure what this letter is for, is the cemetery requesting it? If so, it can be a simple ... | |
| Need for embalming | 4/30/2010 |
| Q: I am HIV+ , do I need to be embalmed if I only have 1 night of viewing and buried the very next day? ... A: Embalming is not required by law for any reason. You do not need to choose embalming for your ... | |
| body tranport | 4/19/2010 |
| Q: How much would it cost to transport a body from Yuma AZ to Havre MT and how would that be done? A: I am unable to provide accurate quotes for shipping a body. I can tell you the services you will ... | |
| transportation of cremated ashes to mexico | 4/17/2010 |
| Q: I want to transport cremated ashes to Mexico, what paper work do I need? ANSWER: Hello - Thank you ... A: Normally the death certificate is obtained from the county of death. Wherever the person passed away ... | |
| Mortuary Transport | 4/13/2010 |
| Q: I have been doing removals for a company that services several funeral homes in southern California ... A: The biggest challenge about going out on your own is gaining customers, marketing to funeral homes ... | |
| transportation of cremated ashes to mexico | 4/11/2010 |
| Q: I want to transport cremated ashes to Mexico, what paper work do I need? A: there is protocol when it comes to transporting ashes. I suggest you contact the local embassy for ... | |
| my dads funeral | 4/8/2010 |
| Q: I do not want my dads ex girlfriend attending his funeral. How could i prevent this from happening? A: I'm sorry you are feeling this way. I would rather give you ideas on how to create a funeral ... | |
| cemetery & funerel homes policys | 3/29/2010 |
| Q: SENT A QUESTION EARLIER. THEN READ SOME OF YOUR ANSWERS. GOT THE NOTION THAT THERE IS NO REGULATION ... A: There is regulation on funeral homes and cemeteries, each state has it's laws and regulations. ... | |
| 2nd right of interment | 3/29/2010 |
| Q: IN FLORIDA TRYINGTO SET UP FINAL ARRANGEMENTS FOR MYSELF AND MY WIFE..AS YOU PROBABLY HAVE HEARD ... A: I commend you for making arrangements ahead of time, this will lesson the burden for survivors. I ... | |
| Father's ashes. | 3/23/2010 |
| Q: My sister and I have been trying to find out who has the legal rights to our father's ashes. He was ... A: Greetings - Is it possible to obtain the ashes? sure. You didn't state if you had asked her ... | |
| Is it legal to bury ashes in 2 different places? | 2/23/2010 |
| Q: My sister passed away one year ago. Her husband and daughters have split up her ashes. We want to ... A: Sounds like a confusing scenario... and without all the details, Yes you can do a dual burial. It ... | |
| scattering ashes in Gulf of Mexico off Florida or Alabama beach or waters | 2/16/2010 |
| Q: My brother passed away and wants his ashes scattered in the Gulf of Mexico. I live 70 miles inland ... A: It is a little difficult to find laws and regulations against scattering ashes, having said that I ... | |
| Funeral | 2/16/2010 |
| Q: If a person dies and is not married, has no children, and no insurance, who is responsible for their ... A: When a death occurs the next of kin or durable power of attorney is responsible for making funeral ... | |
| Funeral rights of Spouse | 2/12/2010 |
| Q: My niece recently lost her husband (last week). Her mother-in-law was the policy holder and povided ... A: Sounds like there may have been some misunderstandings. There is no legal or financial reason that ... | |
| Low cost services for a babys funeral in Petaluma CALIFORNIA | 2/4/2010 |
| Q: My friends baby boy died yesterday in Petaluma and she isn't married or working and has little or no ... A: I am really sorry to hear about the baby boy, it is the most heartbreaking ordeal to go through. ... | |
| burial law | 1/30/2010 |
| Q: I buried my 5 day old daughter 23 years ago. I was 21 at the time, newly married, and couldn't ... A: The death of a loved one never leaves us, I'm glad you still have your daughter in your heart. I ... | |
| Midwest body transport companies | 1/29/2010 |
| Q: I would like to know of any body transport companies in the mid-west: Iowa, Missouri,Kansas and ... A: Here is a partial list of possible companies that may offer transport services. Please call them to ... | |
| alternatives to embalming | 1/25/2010 |
| Q: Are there laws requiring embalming, or can you utilize alternatives? I was specifically wondering if ... A: There are no laws that require embalming. Some states my impose a time deadline for burial or other ... | |
| ?! | 1/22/2010 |
| Q: my dad has just died and his wife has said i'm not allowed to attend the funeral. can she stop me? A: Gemma - I'm sorry your dad has just passed away. It can be tough on everyone; when a death ... | |
| Obtaining ashes | 1/22/2010 |
| Q: I am 28 years of age and my mother passed away in 2001 and her ashes were given to her husband at ... A: It sounds likes a challenging situation, I do not have enough experience with this scenario. I am ... | |
| my brothers death | 1/11/2010 |
| Q: my brothers girlfriend signed all papers my mother and i have no idea where his body is does she ... A: Linda- I'm sorry you are going through a challenging time. The only way the girlfriend could have ... | |
| Cremation Authorization | 12/29/2009 |
| Q: My aunt stopped speaking with her brother and sisters about 5 years ago, she is not married and has ... A: When a death occurs the next of kin or durable power of attorney is authorized to make funeral ... | |
| cremation caskets | 12/22/2009 |
| Q: My sister and I requested that our Mother have a viewing, service then a cremation upon after ... A: I am sorry your mother has passed, please accept my condolences. This situation sounds bizarre to ... | |
| is it fair | 12/20/2009 |
| Q: as im older and iv had time to think about it, am i bein nasty not to let her go with her, as i dont ... A: I am not sure I understand your question. Are you concerned about your grandmother being buried in ... | |
| How to prepare the body | 12/4/2009 |
| Q: My husband and I are making plans to take care of all his Mother's needs when she passes. We have a ... A: The body doesn't NEED to be rubbed, it's usually done for aromatic or religious purposes. It's your ... | |
| How to prepare the body | 12/4/2009 |
| Q: My husband and I are making plans to take care of all his Mother's needs when she passes. We have a ... A: This is an excellent question. Many people are researching how to take care of their loved one's ... | |
| Burial | 11/12/2009 |
| Q: MyMy grandfather just passed we have him buried in a military cemetery cause he was in the navy. The ... A: I give my condolences to you and grandfathers family. What is your objection to his burial at the ... | |
| Burial - depth | 10/26/2009 |
| Q: My spouse was cremated and buried in one of the larger cement vaults used for cremains. The ... A: Your concerns make sense and I don't think you are too worried. You have every right to think and ... | |
| Disposition of Ashes | 10/26/2009 |
| Q: Our mother just passed, dedicated her body to science, and we (her four children) have just received ... A: Absolutely! You can do whatever you want with the ashes. It looks like everyone has a different ... | |
| Asking casketbearers. | 10/26/2009 |
| Q: In planning a funeral,when is it proper to ask the casketbearers?Should they be asked 3 days before ... A: This is a good question and in my experience I've seen it all ways. Some families believe the ... | |
| Burial - depth | 10/24/2009 |
| Q: My spouse was cremated and buried in one of the larger cement vaults used for cremains. The ... A: I do not think it is a sin or disrespect to move the urn with ashes. You really need to ask ... | |
| Can they do this? | 10/23/2009 |
| Q: I've already chosen the blouse and skirt I want to be laid out and buried in, as well as a ... A: I love weird questions! YES, you can request your embalmer/funeral director to paint your toenails. ... | |
| Death Midwife | 10/5/2009 |
| Q: I am very interested in finding out How to become a Death Midwife. Is this practice is legal in New ... A: Death midwifery is a new concept but age old tradition. It takes a special personality to assist ... | |
| Education for Funeral Directors about not embalming and viewing | 10/2/2009 |
| Q: My father died recently in Dover, DE and was buried and cared for in MD. The funeral director ... A: This is becoming a new conversation in the "industry". Embalming is not required by law and there ... | |
| WEARING A TIE | 9/27/2009 |
| Q: I WAS DISCUSSING THIS ITEM WITH MY WIFE. IF I SHOULD PASS FIRST IS IT MANDATORY TO WEAR A TIE IN THE ... A: Greetings- It is not mandatory to wear a tie. I am a believer that funerals should represent the ... | |
| ashes | 9/24/2009 |
| Q: Can I have family members disburse my ashes in Lake Michigan? A: When it comes to scattering ashes a lot of people wonder about the laws and restrictions. Don’t ... | |
| Question about above ground tombs | 9/19/2009 |
| Q: I would like for my wife and I to be buried in a above ground tomb very similar to a small ... A: Allow me to express my thoughts on this. Have you thought about the natural process of ... | |
| Under garment on the deceased. | 9/7/2009 |
| Q: Why do we put under garment on the deceased? A: Greetings - It is not unusual for this question to come up when making funeral arrangements. :) ... | |
| Decomposition in a Casket | 9/7/2009 |
| Q: What is the time process for decomposition of a human body in a casket (the body has been embalmed). ... A: There isn't a precise amount of time for decomposition of the human body. It depends on many ... | |
| Help For a funeral | 9/4/2009 |
| Q: I'm trying to find help to burying my uncle who past away on Sept. 1 2009. My family doesnt have any ... A: I just mentioned online as a resource for just about anything. You need to get creative, you may ... | |
| Help For a funeral | 9/4/2009 |
| Q: I'm trying to find help to burying my uncle who past away on Sept. 1 2009. My family doesnt have any ... A: I am sorry your uncle has passed away. Unfortunately, there isn't much out there in the way of ... | |
| Cremation | 9/3/2009 |
| Q: My sister is terminally ill. She has made me the executer of her will. She has not made any ... A: I am sorry I am unable to answer your question further, I am not expert on Wills and executorship. ... | |
| Cremation | 9/2/2009 |
| Q: My sister is terminally ill. She has made me the executer of her will. She has not made any ... A: I am sorry your sister is terminally ill, I imagine it's a tough time for you. I commend you for ... | |
| what to do with ashes? | 9/1/2009 |
| Q: Can you tell me if there is some kind of pendant necklace or small decortive decanter to place a ... A: Absolutely! There are many options for memorial keepsakes. I suggest you check out my crystal ... | |
| my mother's ashes | 9/1/2009 |
| Q: My mother died 1993. My dad had her cremated. He buried her ashes on the property he is on now. ... A: This is very interesting. Your mother has been resting since 1993 and you want to move her ashes? ... | |
| Disposal of Ashes | 8/31/2009 |
| Q: My daughter lost her husband two years ago. She had his body cremated. She is a fulltime student ... A: Unbelievable, the cemetery wants to charge $900 to scatter the ashes!? That is absolutely ... | |
| Disposal of Ashes | 8/28/2009 |
| Q: My daughter lost her husband two years ago. She had his body cremated. She is a fulltime student ... A: I am confused by this question. The cremation took place 2 years ago? and the funeral home is ... | |
| Buried in cave | 8/21/2009 |
| Q: Kellie, I own a number of caves, and after my death I would like my body to be placed in one of ... A: here is a quote from a colleague. I was wrong about the decomposition, this should be addressed by ... | |
| Spouse legal rights | 8/21/2009 |
| Q: My aunts husband died . They were married for 12 years in the US he was a legal resident. She made ... A: That is true, a will will help. :) Any documentation of funeral arrangements or funeral requests ... | |
| death | 8/20/2009 |
| Q: my grandfather just passed away,my mom was taking care of him for the last few months of his life ... A: Mike - I am puzzled as to why your grandmother won't sign the papers. Where is your grandfather ... | |
| caskets for burial | 8/12/2009 |
| Q: does ky law require a casket for burial or can a person be buried in their favorite clothing wrapped ... A: Your idea of a natural green burial is wonderful! It may take some activism to get it off the ... | |
| Burying Cremated Remains | 8/10/2009 |
| Q: In a conversation with my sister a few days ago, she has made it clear that her wish is that she be ... A: I commend you and your sister for talking about funeral plans. Not many people can talk about it. ... | |
| Body Position and Family Placement | 8/4/2009 |
| Q: Is there any traditional placement for the casket/body or direction of the head during the funeral ... A: Greetings - Is there a traditional placement? Well, most caskets are made with the head panel ... | |
| Delaying a funeral | 8/3/2009 |
| Q: We are writing a screenplay about a man recovering from a transplant who cannot appear at a funeral ... A: I am glad to be of help for a screenplay, sounds like an interesting plot! In my experience, the ... | |
| rights of next of kin(father) or spouse | 8/1/2009 |
| Q: Husband died in a fall injury down a steep hill. Father of deceased has filed for all rights to be ... A: The persons with the power to arrange a funeral in order are : spouse parents children Having said ... | |
| Spouse legal rights | 7/28/2009 |
| Q: My aunts husband died . They were married for 12 years in the US he was a legal resident. She made ... A: I am little confused at what the scenario is. First and most important, there should be one person ... | |
| barial | 7/26/2009 |
| Q: Can you be baried on your own personal property? And if it is possible, what do you have to do in ... A: Burial on personal private property is an option, that is the way it has been done historically. ... | |
| home funerals | 7/22/2009 |
| Q: can I buy a video or book regarding laws-home funerals in california A: There are several resources on the internet for your interest. http://www.homefuneralmanual.org/ ... | |
| Cremains in family plot | 7/17/2009 |
| Q: My mother is planning for her burial, and she currently has my father's cremated remains. Both ... A: The process for burial of cremated remains is easy. There are a few options for disposition of ... | |
| Pauper status | 7/6/2009 |
| Q: My sister's husband died and she has no money or income to cremate or bury him. What is the ... A: I am sorry your sister's husband has passed on and I am also sorry to tell you that there is not a ... | |
| buring ashes | 7/4/2009 |
| Q: I am looking for information regarding laws,restrictions or permits needed to bury ashes in a public ... A: Burial of ashes in a public park may be difficult. For a private property it is required to obtain ... | |
| burial wouthout embalming | 7/3/2009 |
| Q: I know you have repeatedly stated that there is no law (in any state?) that requires embalming. I ... A: you brought up a good point that needs to be heard. Embalming is not required by law. I have ... | |
| Transporting an unembalmed body across state boundaries | 6/29/2009 |
| Q: My father recently passed away. He did not want to be embalmed, and we would like to bury him ... A: I am going to tell you Yes it is possible however you will experience obstacles. First you need to ... | |
| funeral costs | 6/25/2009 |
| Q: My mother is in hospice care and does not want to her funeral costs to be a financial burden on her ... A: You've got me thinking, this is a great question. In light of the economic times, your idea is ... | |
| My beloved Grans funeral | 6/24/2009 |
| Q: My gran passed away yesterday. She is having a Jewish burial tomorrow. While her son and his family ... A: I am sorry to hear that your gran has passed on. Absolutely, you can have your own service if you ... | |
| ashes | 6/21/2009 |
| Q: my dad died 4 years ago and my grandma has the ashes how much will it cost approximatly to burry ... A: I am sorry I cannot provide accurate quotes for funeral and burial costs. You will need to contact ... | |
| burial of ashes in an urn | 6/19/2009 |
| Q: Can i have my ashes in an urn buried in a gravesite. What is the procedure for doing this. I live in ... A: Yes you may bury ashes in an urn. If the burial is to take place at a cemetery you should check ... | |
| Memorial Service | 6/10/2009 |
| Q: We are planning a memorial service for a relative and there will likely be many, many attendees. ... A: Many people have questions about how to show appreciation for services. It would too cumbersome to ... | |
| Power of attorney | 6/8/2009 |
| Q: We are handling my wife's uncle's estate. Per his wishes we had him cremated. However, the ... A: This is strange, usually the funeral home will put strict rules on who makes and authorizes ... | |
| funerals/cremations? | 6/7/2009 |
| Q: What exactly do I have to have for a cremation? Both of my parents want this and I know of a lady ... A: I commend you for seeking out answers to your frustration. You are not unfeeling; you need to ... | |
| burial sites | 6/1/2009 |
| Q: We own a large portion of land in Green Lake county, Wisconsin. Our family would like to be buried ... A: I commend you for wanting to keep family burial on the land. Do you have a long term/extended plan ... | |
| Baby's Funeral | 5/23/2009 |
| Q: This year will mark the 20th anniversary of our baby daughter's death. She was very premature, but ... A: everyone has a image/experience in life that haunts them. It's hard to find places and people to ... | |
| casket rental | 5/19/2009 |
| Q: if the mortuary does not rent caskets where can i rent one from? i am in hayward calif A: Funeral homes are apprehensive about offering the rental casket service because it is very labor ... | |
| Disposition of ashes | 5/13/2009 |
| Q: You say that the primary authority to make funeral arrangements rests with he who holds the ... A: You are absolutely correct. I am not sure what article you are quoting me on, please let me know. I ... | |
| parents burial arrangements preference | 5/11/2009 |
| Q: My family lives in California. My parents are in their 80s. Their request is that my mother's ashes, ... A: Your requests are allowable, both scenarios a and b will work. Be sure to explain your requests to ... | |
| travel expenses | 5/10/2009 |
| Q: is it customary for the estate to reimburse imedeiate family members for their travel expenses to ... A: Unfortunately, there is no custom when it comes to finances. It would be considerate of the estate ... | |
| Mother's ashes | 5/9/2009 |
| Q: My mother donated her body to science. When her ashes were returned to me my mother's wish was to ... A: Greetings - This is an interesting request to have ashes spread at a Casino. It is an indoor place ... | |
| pauper funeral | 5/3/2009 |
| Q: I have a person that has no money for funeral services, is there such a thing like pauper field or ... A: Finances for a funeral are probably the most difficult to manage when a death occurs. Unfortunately, ... | |
| Cremation dig fee | 4/28/2009 |
| Q: We have 3 separate family members in cremation urns to be buried together at the same time. They ... A: The state should not have regulations against this. I would check with the cemetery policy. Common ... | |
| CREMATION COSTS AND ORGAN DONOR | 4/16/2009 |
| Q: ..my parents and I are still prepaying for our cremation in Florida. My mother heard something ... A: Some organ donations facilities do offer cremation. Do you have organ donation plan in place? If a ... | |
| exhume | 4/16/2009 |
| Q: My mother passed away in 1998.Thankfully before she passed her and my father bought a 2 person ... A: This is a interesting scenario and I should only assume with the variety of family units this would ... | |
| shipping | 4/6/2009 |
| Q: My parents live in south Florida, they're in their 80's. They paid for plots in the Philadelphia ... A: Unfortunately, this scenario does happen. Because of the transport, this is probably the most labor ... | |
| placement in graves | 3/26/2009 |
| Q: Is it a true tradition that the head of a casket is always buried facing East? I have heard this is ... A: This is an interesting question and I could have researched this topic for hours! It's dizzying ... | |
| do it yourself funerals | 3/25/2009 |
| Q: I have heard that Do it yourself funerals are legal in other states. I was wondering what Florida ... A: Do it yourself funerals are permissible and need to be navigated carefully. You will run across ... | |
| Correction for inscription and finalize date on headstone plaque | 3/22/2009 |
| Q: My grandmother and grandfather bought gravestones in the 80s. My grandpa was in the Navy and both ... A: Well this is just baffling, I am looking at the picture and it seems like it would be easy to ... | |
| Funeral Expenses | 3/22/2009 |
| Q: A Handicap wife of a handicap husband, ( 39 ) lost his wife of 15 years, the parents of the wife,( ... A: Greetings - It sounds like we have family issues here. As for the funeral, the husband has legal ... | |
| Funeral etiquete | 3/18/2009 |
| Q: I need some advice!!! My parents have been divorced for @ 15 yrs. It was a bad divorce. When they ... A: Death and funerals bring out the best and worst in people. I'm sorry it's a tough decision to ... | |
| funeral travel from state to state by self | 3/15/2009 |
| Q: We live in Baytown Texas and want to have a service for our daughter in Baytown,Tx and then want to ... A: I think offering the "last ride" is a beautiful tribute for your daughter, it will facilitate ... | |
| wakes | 2/27/2009 |
| Q: after somebody dies.how long does the family have before the body cant have a open casket wake? A: This is a unique question. There are many variables that affect the amount of time when a body is ... | |
| Ashes on private property | 2/23/2009 |
| Q: My mother has been cremated and wished to be buried on the family land. Is that "permitted" in ... A: Burial of ashes on private land is "permitted". The county and city would probably like to see this ... | |
| transport of body | 2/23/2009 |
| Q: My father just passed away last night. He was in Palm Springs on vacation and lives in Sacramento. ... A: I am sorry to hear your father has passed, I imagine it is difficult time especially being so far ... | |
| Natural burial laws | 2/23/2009 |
| Q: I live in North Carolina and I would like to know if I have the right to have my body composted ... A: The answer is yes! you can do a natural burial. Unfortunately, I have not been able to locate a ... | |
| ??????? | 2/22/2009 |
| Q: Ok I have a question for you. My Wife has pasted and I had her cremated. Now my question is can I ... A: The answer is yes, you can have your wife's ashes buried with you. If you intend to have a casket ... | |
| babies death | 2/16/2009 |
| Q: If child on ssi dies in the state of georgia and mother is on welfare is there a fund to pay for ... A: I am sorry that this situation is happening...you are not alone, there are many people who struggle ... | |
| Lack of funds | 1/31/2009 |
| Q: I would like to start out by saying thank you. It is good to have a place to turn to ask questions ... A: It is a common struggle when a death occurs to come up with the funds. Did you know historically ... | |
| transportation arrangements | 1/19/2009 |
| Q: I have decided to donate my body to the Texas State University's forensic anthropology research ... A: I am curious what you mean you have not found a company that transports on ice over state lines, are ... | |
| transportation arrangements | 1/18/2009 |
| Q: I have decided to donate my body to the Texas State University's forensic anthropology research ... A: You are very thoughtful to donate your body to science, it is noble. First place I would start ... | |
| setting headstones | 1/15/2009 |
| Q: My mother went to visit her brothers gravesite,he died in 2005 and is buried at Memorial Park in ... A: I don't see why not. Your mother only wants to purchase a headstone and place it on the gravesite. ... | |
| headstone | 1/11/2009 |
| Q: can i make my own headstone and casket,in a cemetery that has headstones in texas A: So you want to make a headstone and casket? good news, yes you can....BUT you should ask the ... | |
| Obituary in local paper | 1/9/2009 |
| Q: I have a problem. My stepmother and I do not get alone. My father died and when she put his obituary ... A: I am so sorry of this situation. Funerals can bring out the worst and best of people. Families that ... | |
| wording thanks-you note for Mass cards | 1/8/2009 |
| Q: I would like to send Thank-you note to People who sent Mass cards for my Dad, But I don't know how ... A: The wording for Thank you cards should be simple, no need to go over board. Sometimes the funeral ... | |
| transporting burial permit to Canada | 1/6/2009 |
| Q: What is necessary to transport a body to Canada for burial? Person has dual citizenship. Thank you. A: Transporting a body to foreign countries can be done and it involves patience and paperwork. The ... | |
| florida funeral | 12/22/2008 |
| Q: can i build the casket? what is the casket placed in before it is cover with dirt? what is the law ... A: Greetings - Yes, you can build a casket. There are many resources online explaining how to do ... | |
| Funerals | 12/18/2008 |
| Q: What are the disposition options with regard to stillborn feti in the state of Virginia. A: The disposition options for a stillborn fetus are not limited. If you wish to do cremation or ... | |
| creamation/burial question | 11/24/2008 |
| Q: My mother has a plot next to my Dad, she is at end of life and wanted to be creamated. Me and my ... A: I am not able to provide accurate costs, as it depends on your location. I suggest you call around ... | |
| Michigan Burial Law | 11/17/2008 |
| Q: I manage a cemetery in Michigan. Are "Green Burials" permitted in Michigan and does a special ... A: Greetings - Thank you for this question. I assume you have a family who has requested this or you ... | |
| stillborn | 11/1/2008 |
| Q: i have a few questions about funerals for a stillborn baby. if you have the baby in kentucky and was ... A: I am sorry about the baby's passing. It is a difficult and tragic situation. I commend you on ... | |
| Independent Mortuary Transport Service | 10/30/2008 |
| Q: My mom passed away in Southern CA, we are having her memorial service there and will fly her body ... A: I have a few companies for you to call, it has been a few years since I worked with the mortuary ... | |
| co guardianship and end of life issues | 10/20/2008 |
| Q: With an Alzheimer late stage ward with an Indiana guardianship where the judge allowed the wife to ... A: I'm sorry you are going through a difficult time. I do not have the expertise to guide you on this ... | |
| Burying ashes in a cemetery | 10/19/2008 |
| Q: My 93 year old uncle died. Can we legally bury his ashes alongside his wife, in a Michigan ... A: Yes, you can bury your uncles ashes with his wife. It may take some navigating in the paperwork ... | |
| embalming | 10/16/2008 |
| Q: just wondering if you die in Florida and are buried in Florida are you required to have the ... A: Embalming is not required by law. Simply said. The only scenario that would require embalming is ... | |
| OWNERSHIP OF ASHES | 10/13/2008 |
| Q: IF IT IS NOT STATED IN WILL WHAT IS TO BE DONE WITH ASHES WHO HAS THE ULIMATE AUTHORITY TO MAKE A ... A: This is a tough situation. Death often brings out the best in people and that includes greed. I am ... | |
| OWNERSHIP OF ASHES | 10/8/2008 |
| Q: IF IT IS NOT STATED IN WILL WHAT IS TO BE DONE WITH ASHES WHO HAS THE ULIMATE AUTHORITY TO MAKE A ... A: The power of authority to make funeral arrangements are 1- durable power of attorney 2- spouse 3- ... | |
| Step-mother's funeral | 10/4/2008 |
| Q: I was recently kicked out of my father's house because I make his new wife upset. I have a history ... A: Your concern seems to be about taking care of the funeral for your future step-mother... The ... | |
| transporting a body | 9/22/2008 |
| Q: My husband is in the end stages of lung cancer and wants a green burial. We have located a place in ... A: with my little book of mortuary resources, here is what I found in that area. Florida Associated ... | |
| transporting a body | 9/18/2008 |
| Q: My husband is in the end stages of lung cancer and wants a green burial. We have located a place in ... A: well it seems you are set on the distance for the green burial. If your husband prefers it that is ... | |
| pauper funeral | 9/17/2008 |
| Q: Does the state of MISSOURI provide funeral/burial for destitute or indigent persons? A: The disposition of indigent persons is usually handled by the county or state program. I am not ... | |
| transporting a body | 9/15/2008 |
| Q: My husband is in the end stages of lung cancer and wants a green burial. We have located a place in ... A: there is a new need for transporting the unembalmed to far distances of green burial locations. ... | |
| EXHUMING | 9/4/2008 |
| Q: My question is once a wife has buried her husband can his family have is body exhumed and moved ... A: Legally, only the next of kin can make decisions regarding disposition and disinternment. I am ... | |
| decay after embalming | 9/3/2008 |
| Q: I wanted to know if you could tell me the decay process of a body that has been embalmed. Does it ... A: A body that has been embalmed does take longer to decompose, think of it as a preservative. ... | |
| rights to ashes | 8/23/2008 |
| Q: my mom died 7 years ago my grandma (her mom) has the ashes in South Dakota. I live in AZ and would ... A: I am assuming that your grandma was the one that made the arrangements for your mom 7 years ago. If ... | |
| cremate | 8/23/2008 |
| Q: My boyfriend wants to bury his cremated father which he has in a box at home...but hes not sure ... A: Asking questions is a good place to start. where does he want to bury his father? if in a ... | |
| Flowers | 8/21/2008 |
| Q: My fiancé passed unexpectedly on Monday, we are having the funeral this Saturday. I plan on uniting ... A: Please accept my condolences, we all grieve in our own ways and yet you are not alone. It is a ... | |
| casket rental | 8/14/2008 |
| Q: Just recently my brother enlaw had pasted away and we were told that in the state of IL. that casket ... A: I don't have much experience with the use of a rental casket and I cannot tell you the laws ... | |
| burial on private property | 8/8/2008 |
| Q: My mother in law wants to be buried on the family tract (20+ acres)in Riegelwood NC. What do we have ... A: My biggest concern when it comes to burial on private property, is the future of the land. Who will ... | |
| private property burial | 8/8/2008 |
| Q: Live way out in country, Arkansas, what is the law for burying family members on private property. ... A: I am sorry you are going through a rough time. Remember to stay in touch with yourself and your ... | |
| repast | 8/7/2008 |
| Q: If you don"t know who will be at the funeral,or going to the gravesite, how do you plan a repast? A: This is probably the most difficult aspect of funeral planning, coordinating an event in short ... | |
| cremation | 7/29/2008 |
| Q: After a cremation,can the family keep urn at home?State of Louisiana. A: Absolutely, I don't see why not. When making funeral arrangements and procuring a death ... | |
| Burried at home | 7/28/2008 |
| Q: I live in IL , and own 10 acres of property. Is it legal to be buried on my own property. Both my ... A: Most likely it is legal to be buried on your own private property. You will need to check with local ... | |
| changing of a funeral headstone | 7/26/2008 |
| Q: Good Afternoon, I am wondering what my rights are on changing my father's headstone. Well first my ... A: I do see why you should not be able to make changes on the headstone. If the lots belong to your ... | |
| taxidermy | 7/24/2008 |
| Q: I WOULD LIKE TO BE STUFFED AND SET ON MY BACK DECK OVER LOOKING THE RIVER, IS THERE ANY LAW SAYING ... A: I would be glad to discuss this with you. While considering this option, there are a few things you ... | |
| embalming | 7/23/2008 |
| Q: I was told that because I live in vernon co. missouri and if I die in that county I have to be ... A: I have not experienced much about the requirements about where to be embalmed only if to be embalmed ... | |
| Moving remains | 7/2/2008 |
| Q: My nephew was killed in a car accident almost 19 years ago. The mother, who lives in Kansas, has ... A: In most states, the mother has more "power" on paper when it comes to death care. However if the ... | |
| dad | 6/23/2008 |
| Q: my dad died june 8th. He went in for Triple By pass March 13th.. and in/out of hospital since then. ... A: I am sorry your dad has passed away. It sounds like you and your family went through a trying time ... | |
| no money for unclaimed corpse | 6/12/2008 |
| Q: I was contacted by my grandmother who has been contacted by the police to claim her nephew as he had ... A: I'm not knowledgeable of the laws in different areas for this situation. It is a good idea to check ... | |
| Funeral Director asking questions | 6/6/2008 |
| Q: Do you think it is appropriate for a funeral director to ask a person about their health during ... A: This is an interesting question and I do see a possible ethical debate about this. My experience ... | |
| Wait time for memorial after crfenatuib | 6/3/2008 |
| Q: How long can one wait to have a memorial after a loved one is cremated. What is the protocol. Thank ... A: The answer depends and varies depending on the occurances. One thing to remember the purpose of a ... | |
| Burial Plot want to sell | 5/16/2008 |
| Q: My husband and I have the deed to a very old family burial plot in Massachusetts. There are two of ... A: I do know that it is possible to re-sell graves, cemeteries do frown upon it but they also ... | |
| embalming | 5/1/2008 |
| Q: is it a state law in michigan that the deceased be embalmed before being put in the ground A: EMBALMING IS NOT REQUIRED BY LAW! I type this in caps because it has been a misconception for too ... | |
| Funeral expense donations | 4/28/2008 |
| Q: I have a family whose son just died in jail and they cannot afford his funeral expenses. Would you ... A: I offer my condolences to you and the son's family. It's a tough time and the concern of finances ... | |
| flowers to funeral | 4/3/2008 |
| Q: my daughters step-father passed away recently, although he and I were never friends should I feel ... A: A tough decision that I hear often, should I send flowers and to whom? It is really a personal ... | |
| sons ashes | 3/22/2008 |
| Q: my question is this me and my long time girlfriend just split we had a son that was born and past on ... A: Cameron - I am sorry for your pain, it is a terrible experience you are going through. You are not ... | |
| Family Protocol at Funerals | 2/23/2008 |
| Q: Do you know what defines the family at a funeral? When funeral attendants ask are you family, are ... A: The family tree is a big deal.. funerals are one of those times that families comes together. How ... | |
| When to light yarzheit candle | 2/19/2008 |
| Q: In a recent move I have lost the calendar on when to light a yarzheit candle for my father. He ... A: This site may be helpful in converting the date. http://www.hebcal.com/converter/ However, for ... | |
| Transporting a body | 2/9/2008 |
| Q: Is it legal for someone /anybody to transport a dead body within Michigan. From say an ME office, ... A: I do not have experience in transporting bodies in this kind of situation, I did some research and ... | |
| Quirky Alternatives to Traditional Burial | 1/16/2008 |
| Q: I am a grad student at Columbia's Journalism School and am currently working on an article on the ... A: My answer to your question as to 'why' people may be opting for wacky alternatives is simple, ... | |
| carrying cremated remains to cemetary service | 1/15/2008 |
| Q: I will be transporting my father's ashes to a military service at the veteran's cemetery where his ... A: Greetings Vicki - Well this is an interesting question, thank you for the out of the ordinary ... | |
| Funeral Time Period | 1/2/2008 |
| Q: After a death is there a specific time that the funeral must be conducted? A: this is a common concern when planning funerals. Different customs and religions have specific ... | |
| transporting remains | 12/8/2007 |
| Q: My husband's grandmother unfortunately will have life support removed today and will be making her ... A: Greetings ! I am sorry your grandmother-in-law is transitioning on from this life. Removing life ... | |
| Clothes for the deceased | 12/8/2007 |
| Q: My 84-year old father just passed away. I never really remember him wearing suits, just polo shirts ... A: Greetings - I am sorry your father has passed away. I suggest you dress your father in clothes that ... | |
| Thank yous for Mass cards? | 10/23/2007 |
| Q: I am trying to find out if thank you notes are required for people who sent Mass cards. I will be ... A: Dawn - You know, I have heard this question countless number of times. There are no requirements. ... | |
| Burial questions | 10/13/2007 |
| Q: My mother has moved away and owns two burial plots here where I still live. She wants to give them ... A: I commend you for finding answers to your concerns ahead of time. It will make things much easier ... | |
| Funeral Protocol | 10/9/2007 |
| Q: I work at a diverse company with different nationalities and ethnic groups. We are trying to create ... A: Unfortunately, I do not support funeral planning with protocol. Each family is going to have their ... | |
| resending legal rights as next of kin | 9/27/2007 |
| Q: My stepfather is dying of cancer. Hospic knows he doesn't have final arrangements. He has a natural ... A: Greetings Joann - I am surprised that hospice does not have the final arrangements, at the least ... | |
| hi | 9/11/2007 |
| Q: what is pROMESSION? A: A green method of body disposal is called promession, a hygienic form of body decomposition ... | |
Funerals
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Kellie Gillespie
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I can answer any questions regarding funeral planning, grief, alternatives to burial, embalming, natural burial, products and ideas how to make a funeral service or memorial service more meaningful and personal. I can't answer questions regarding legal issues, financial planning and what happens after we die.
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I am a licensed Funeral Director in the state of California with 10 years experience.
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http://www.funeralideas.com
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B.A. from the University of Colorado
AA from the San Francisco College of Mortuary Science, now part of the Sacramento Community College program
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