AboutHaffiez Michael Lithman Expertise I can answer almost all kinds of questions about Gay and Bi. I will try my best to help, give advice, answer all your questions and doubts.
Experience I can help teens with their problems as I used to be a student-counsellor when I was in high school.
Question I have a 15 year old son that does great in school has very
nice friends and does nothing but bring me joy. I've raised
him by myself from the start and he appears to be
absolutely normal. Until a few nights ago. He asked if his
friend could sleep over. (This is a normal thing) And as
always I said yes, as long as they kept quiet after 11
since I had work in the morning. Well I woke up at around
1am and went to the restroom and heard noises from his
room. I walked up to the door to try and listen and see
what was going on. To my surprise I hear my son softly say
"I'm cuming". I know masterbation is an ordinary thing for
teen boys but the fact his friend was sleeping over and the
fact that he spoke that he was ejaculating has been filling
my mind with questions! That's not all, When I woke up to
get ready for work I went to his room opened the door to
say goodbye and well there he was, with his friend snuggled
up together asleep on his bed. So thats what I saw and
heard. Obviously he's either gay/bi or just experimenting
sexually. I'm not going to love him any less if he is
gay/bi but I just want to ask if I should bring this up
with him? I want to know if I should tell him of what I
heard just so I could make sure he's educated about
everything involving sexual intercourse. I'm very close to
him and I may not be an expert in homosexuality but I don't
want him to ever feel alone. I want him to know i'm there
for any questions or help he may need. So, do I tell him or
let him come out to me when he feels ready?
Answer Hi there,
The best way is to talk to him and educate him about safe sex just in case he got involved in heavier sexual intercourse. He might be denying about anything since he might be afraid but trust me, once you start the first move to talk about this and even if he denies it the first time, he would definitely go to you firstly to talk about anything he has got on his mind. That ensures him that you as a father do love him and care about him :)
