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Expert: Lisa
Date: 5/9/2008
Subject: Oral
Question
Hi Lisa! Im an 18 yr old girl. I like to receive oral sex alot. When I was wih my ex I wanted it atleast once a day, is that too much? And also there's this girl that I really like and I don't know if she'll want to give it to me every day, how can you tell if someone has oral fixation?Because im a really sexual person and I guess I want to find someone that is too, so that we can be compatible in that department. How can I tell before getting intimate if that person is sexual? Im just wondering about alot of things right now I guess, any advice or anything that you can write to me will be very greatly appreciated.
Thank You!
Answer
Hey Madie,
It sounds like your looking for someone who is willing to have sex daily. Once a day can be a hard thing to do especially if you are in school and have class requirements. If the person you want to be with is stressed or has had a bad day they might not want to have sex. Even if you want it, you have to be respectful of who you're dating. Too much of anything good can be bad. If you're putting too much pressure on the person your dating they might just decide that it's too much and break up with you. If I were you I wouldn't expect it every day. Even if you want it a lot, having sex every day is a little much for any lover to deal with.
If you are somehow able to find someone who will be willing give you oral daily, they are probably going to want something in return. Be ready to reciprocate. Don't just go into the bedroom saying "Give me, give me". The person your dating will probably be more willing to give you head if you do something in return.
I don't think there is anyway to find out if someone has an "oral fixation". I don't think there is any sort of personality projection you can detect to determine if some wants to give you head daily. Unless they are walking around saying "I want some of that!", the best way to find out is to just ask the person. If your looking for someone who is very sexual to be with, look for someone who is very open with their sexuality, talks about sex a lot, or who is very physical in their relationships (lots of hugs, lots of touching...etc). I've found it very hard to really know if someone is very sexual before being intimate unless you get on with it and ask. Depending on the person, sexual habits aren't likely to come up in polite conversation, so you might want to make sure you and this girl are alone before asking. A lot of the time it's hard to find out if someone is sexual until you get to the bedroom. My advice to you is to just be patient. Even if this girl isn't such a sexual person, I'd try to have a relationship with her. Sex, no matter how good, can not be the soul thing you must build a relationship on.
I hope I could help and write back if you need anymore advice. Good luck with this girl you're after. ;)
-Lisa
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