AboutJessica Expertise Hello, I can answer questions on coming out to your friends or family, relationship problems, questioning your sexuality, why a person is gay, signs as to finding out whether someone is homophobic, whether he or she likes you and religious parents. I will try my best to help you out but there is nothing I can't help or support you with. Although this is off topic, I believe that I am able to answer questions outside the circle of gay, lesbian and bisexual. Like school, family, and psychological issues. I am no expert but just a volunteer. If I am on vacation, here is a link to my answers on different problems you are having: http://en.allexperts.com/q/Gay-Lesbian-Bi-3185/2008/7/ANSWERS.htm
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Experience
Experience in the area I'm a bisexual teen myself and have gone through tough situations involving my sexuality. I have been volunteering here for more than a year now and would definitely be of help to you. Homosexuality alone is a topic but it is linked to many different areas too (environment, family, school life, etc). So, I am able to give you a wider scope of the situation.
Education/Credentials I do not have any Education or Credentials in this field. But having the interest and with large amount of time spent on research, reading valid resources, I believe that I am able to answer your question to your need.
Expert: Jessica Date: 6/21/2008 Subject: help me please
Question Hi...
ok i am a bisexual 14 year old and i realized that i was bi about the age of 9...my family is always makingjokes about gays/lesbains/and bisexuals...it really hurts but see they don't know about me yet.should i come out to them and risk loosing them(becasue i will get kicked out for it..my older sister did also) or should i just bare it for the next 3 years?
Answer Hello Amanda,
I am not the volunteer whom you chose to submit your question to. However, the volunteer you picked was unable to reply to you and hence, your question was sent to the Question Pool where I happened to pick it up.
First off, I am sorry to hear about your family.
Are they really homophobic? Have you ever heard them say that gays are quite pitiful too?
How are your parents like? Are they always supportive of you? Being there for you in times of trouble?
Do you mean that your sister got kicked out of the house because she came out of the closet?
I want you to know that a person doesn't make a conscious choice to be gay. Homosexuality stems from either a learnt behavior or hurts, wounds, issues. Having said that, have you ever been abused (physical, verbal, sexual, emotional)? How about raped or molested? Are your parents divorced? There is no solid scientific proof that gay is a result of chemical imbalance or due to hormones. I believe that homosexuality builds up depending on the environmental factors.
An example: Jim didn't have many friends in school and hang around with the girls only. So, he got picked on and bullied by the boys. However, he found ways that could please his boy classmates and lead them to accepting him. How did Jim please the boys? By maybe doing anything he was asked of. Simple situation of neglect affects psychologically. I know, high level of complexity.
I am telling you this because if you could identify why you might be who you are today, your parents might understand.
Are they Christians?
If the situation gets nasty, I would suggest that you talk to a trusted adult, be it a teacher, school counselor or a relative. What you share with them would be strictly confidential unless it is a threat to your safety and the safety of others.
I hope that you will receive my answer and please feel free to write back anytime. I am available here unless I am maxed out. Don't hesitate to share anything you want with me.
