Dear Answer Seekers- My name is Aidan, and I am your expert in “GLBT Teens.” Being Gay myself, I know how hard it is to deal with anti-gay slurs at school on a daily basis, how your “best friend” suddenly turns his/her back on you, how your family betrays you and disowns you. I went through all of this when I first came out as being a gay teen. I still remember the harsh comments I took in everyday when I was in the public school system from prejudice, anti-gay students. Some got physical, some made threats, and some even tried to hit me with their car. That’s when I decided to volunteer my time in helping teens overcome their fears, and issues. I can answer questions about family issues, school issues, relationship issues, how to come out to your family, how to tell your friends your gay, how to report prejudice conduct to your school officials, how to deal with religious family members, etc. Let me tell you something, I can’t always answer everyone’s questions but I will give you as much advice as I possibly can.
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Experience in the area I am an expert in Gay Teens Advice, being gay myself I understand how every teen feels when they just can't be themselves. I try to envision myself in the persons shoes and give them advice on how I'd resolve this issue. I am a gay activists, and volunteer at many gay organizations.
Organizations Stanislaus Pride Center; Human Rights Campaign.
Publications I have written about gay rights in past research, narrative, and biographical essays in my home schooling program.
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Question QUESTION: So I have a friend who is kinda sexy yeah hes a boy and sometimes he acts kinda gay. He always calls me gay and gets me hard. For example when when wrestle he all ways puts his butt against my crotch. Once we fell off the couch after we played around and when we fell off my legs were around him and he looked into my eyes like he wanted something.I got up and as well as he kept running towards me and setting on my lap. And taking the blanket that I had away from me and sittting close to me when there was plenty off room on the chair aND WHEN HIS LITTLE BROTHER (sorry caps lock)was trin to pull off the chair he held on to me and forgot he wuz only wearing briefs. When we went to the movies we set ide by side and he kept throwing popcorn at me I think he wuz flirting and he always passes love licks. When Im on the fone wit my sister like friend he always gets jealous of her talkin bout that I like her when I don't and he gets jealous and his friend comes over
and he want talk to me at all. UYntill his friend leaves then says u mad at me cuz u anit said anything to me all day. And once he squeezed in between me and his brother whn there was much room on the other side of me and kept missen wit me. I wrote a note to him and is afriad to give it to him becuz he did have a girlfriend and only talks to her when Im on the fone wit my sister like friend.He claims he straight but when I call him gay bck he always just smiles and thinks of somthin to say bck.He all ways gets me in his room on his bed and wrestles me. Once agaimng when I had him on my back upside down he used his thighs to grip around my neck so I took him to his room so I wouldnt hurt him and he still would''nt let go I think he wuz trin to get me to give him a bj. I never seen to fell this way about another boy and he the only boy Im attracted to How do I figure him out, instead of just asking him?
ANSWER: Dear Answer Seeker-
Seems like you both are in love. :p
Well, there are many things that can "tell you" he's gay. As what you said about him, he seems pretty gay to me. Some guys hide it because they fear what others may think or do to them. If I were you I'd sit down and talk with him... but as you said earlier you didn't want to do that. So, when I analyze a guy, lets say a store or food court I answer many questions in my head.
They are:
1. What's the style of this guy? (Ex: preppy, punk, thug, etc.)
2. How does he style his hair? (Ex: Faux Hawk, Down, Highlighted, etc.)
3. How does this guy walk? (Ex: Walks like a girl, or man.)
With question number 3 try to see if he moves his hips like a woman.
4. Does he sound girlish or manly when he speaks?
So, the next time you see him... or if you can remember off the bat... try to answer those questions about him. You can message me back with your answers and I can judge him on those. If he has a Myspace with a visible picture of him as the main picture then give me the link and I can see if he looks gay. Let me tell you something, I have a pretty strong up-to-date "gaydar."
Thanks,
Aidan
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QUESTION: I just saw him a coulpe minutes ago and I feel as if I messed up. Why bcuz 4 some strange reason I ignored him the whole time when he fist saw me h did his usually lobve lick slap me on my neck I ignored him and sent out a bad vibe. When we were living his house then we started talkin I had to go. He talked to his friend the whole time though at his house u think I should have went into his room as well and talked to him.I feel som dum what should I do I written a letter to him but am afriad of giving it to him I think Im losing him. HELP ME I didnt 4get bout ur questions.
ANSWER: Ricky,
You didn't mess up!
This is what I would do:
1. Calm Down
2. Breath...
3. Pick up your phone
4. Call him
5. Tell him how you feel about him
6. You'll feel a lot better
Aidan
PS: When your done, please message me an update!
***Feedback is always welcomed.
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QUESTION: I can't do that bcuz the boys fone got cut off should I wait and givem the note when he comes ova to my house. and I have the note hidden cuz everytime he comes to my room he always searches in my room for somethin. So how do I give him the note cuz it questions his sexuailty, do I just let him find it or what HELP PLEAS WORKING ON UR QUESDTIONS WHEN I SEE HIM.
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QUESTION: I can't do that bcuz the boys fone got cut off should I wait and givem the note when he comes ova to my house. and I have the note hidden cuz everytime he comes to my room he always searches in my room for somethin. So how do I give him the note cuz it questions his sexuailty, do I just let him find it or what HELP PLEAS WORKING ON UR QUESDTIONS WHEN I SEE HIM.
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FOLLOW-UP ANSWER:
Hm… sounds like me, my phone is always disconnected! Thankfully its Virgin Mobile! Your best bet is to give him the letter, and wait for a response. More than likely he’s gay, and he probably does like you. I never heard of a “straight” guy coming up to another guy and licking his neck… so that sounds pretty gay.
Give him the letter you wrote him, and take it from there.
I hope I answered all your questions. You are MORE than WELCOMED to message me again. Also, I will be sending you a “Feedback Back” message to your e-mail. I’d appreciate you filling that out for me.
Regards,
Aidan
GLBT Expert
