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Expert: Aidan Date: 7/19/2008 Subject: Help me please!
Question QUESTION: Well my name is Orian... I live in Valencia, Venezuela (mmm.. located in South America xD) im 15 years old, bi/gay still not sure but im out to my friends and everybody at school...
The thing is that i really like this guy he's also 15 and goes to my school. He used to call my name everytime we met on the hallway but i thought it was so annoying (you know people like to make fun of us)
We became friends 5 months ago and now i can tell he's kinda curious about men cuz he likes to watch some hot pics i got on my cellphone (guys kissing, really hot guys and stuff) and he's always sooo sweet to me and like tells me to seat next to him when we're together...
He askes me A LOT i mean A LOT about bisexuality like how did u became bi and how does it feels but there's always people around so we never get to talk about it... and when people makes fun of me and says FUCKIN GAY he's like "dont bother him! He's not gay he's bisexual"
He's held my hand like twice and we've walk handed =D but when people realizes whats going on he stops and says aloud "Oh Gross"
i think he likes me back cuz hes acts soo weird like he once was running toward me jumped, pulled his shirt and landed over me so i got inside his shirt (which was sooo good xD)
everyone at school thinks hes gay cuz there have been these rumors like they caught him with one of his buddies touching each other and stuff... And he often kisses his boy friends and they're like R U GAY?! and he just never answer...
And some bisexual friends of mine heard him telling the psycologist of school "i got a friend thats bisexual and he's really cute so i wouldn't mind to turn gay/bi someday because i mean his really cute..." soo the psycologist asked "Who's that?" And he said it was me!
so i dont know what to do...! T.T
please help me!
ANSWER: Hey Orian:
I just read your message, and I think he may be gay. If I were you
I'd invite him over to your house just to hang out... and then I'd
pitch the first move (you) and kiss him on the cheek. See what his
reaction is. Do this in the own privacy of your room. Just play some
video games, talk whatever for about thirty minutes. Then, kiss him.
See what he does... Then I'd take it from there. I never heard of
a straight guy "kissing his buddies" before... so he seems to be
extremely gay to me. I wish you all the luck in the world! And if you
both go passed "base two" I suggest wear protection. Oh, regarding
the name calling- if you know the persons name just report them to your
school officials right away, usually there is a complaint form in the
office, if not go to the school district. But if they are getting
physical I'd think
about taking a self defense class, or carry a pen with you in your
pocket and if they try to hurt you or something just use the pen for
self defense purposes only.
I hope I answered your question regarding your "crush" and the stupid
name
calling (don't they have anything better to do?). Like I said before,
I wish you all the luck. If you need
anymore advice just message me. I should be checking my e-mail
Saturday.
Good Luck,
Aidan
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QUESTION: Oh thats perfect! xD i know him i mean we're friends but... How should i ask him to come to my house?
Well thank you sooo much Aidan! Loved ur answer
Answer Hi,
Just tell him you want to make brunch/lunch or dinner for him... or if your not a cook like me... then just ask if he'd like to hang out with you at your place.You can call him and ask what his plans are.. and if he says he doesn't have any then there you go!
