AboutDanielle Expertise I can answer questions about coming out to friends, family, others in your life (students at school, other relatives), homophobic people around you, anything to do with one's sexuality, including all the many sexual orientations. I may not be able to give a perfect answer every time, but I'll definitely try my hardest to help.
Experience I have many friends who are gay or bisexual; I am myself, as well as a closeted family member.
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Education/Credentials I'm still in high school, but I don't think that limits how much I can help someone.
Question Hi. I've been really confused lately about my relationship with a friend and everything concerning it. I'm bisexual and in the closet and I haven't had strong feelings for other guys until now. I've been in only 1 relationship before and I was rejected really badly and I still haven't totally gotten over it. Anyway, my friend and I hang out in a group of 4, usually us and 2 other girls. Ever since we met we kind of had a connection and I've talked to him personally many times and we are exactly alike, just in completely different situations. I've told him I'm bisexual and he's the only one who knows (he is also bisexual too#. We talk about sex a lot in our group and he always mentions me somewhere jokingly and we have touched and held hands some times, but he is currently kind of in a budding relationship with a girl in our group. I can't stop thinking about him though and I can't wait to see him most of the time. I'm not sure if he likes me or not. Another issue is that I'm catholic (but not hardcore or anything) and my values are getting in the way. He is promiscuous and is really physical (I'm not sure how to explain it any better) I don't know what to do anymore and I'm really upset. Is there anything I can do? What is the best route to take here? Any advice would be helpful. I'm sorry I can't explain it better.
Answer Hi Don :)
You explained it just fine!
Do you want to tell him you have feelings for him? MAybe he already knows. Or you could just flat out ask him if he likes you-but not in front of the whole group since that can be really uncomfortable.
What is it about your beliefs that are getting in the way? There are a lot of Catholics-some hardcore-that are fully supportive of their non heterosexual brethren. It all depends.
Maybe letting him know how you feel would help get things off your chest. You shouldn't have to feel upset among a friend. Talk with him, be honest, and work things through together-you'll do it. Tell him how you feel, and from there you'll both be able to get to the bottom of the situation and then move to the next step, whether that's getting more involved, putting a stop to the phyical affection, or whatever it is based on how the conversation goes.
