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Expert: Danielle - 10/30/2009
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My name is Mitchell, I'm 16 years old, and I am bi sexual. I’m a junior in High school and I ride the bus home. One day I was standing outside waiting for our bus to arrive and I saw the guy of my dreams. David. I couldn’t take my eyes off of him. I asked some girls if they knew his name and they didn’t, so they decided to walk up to him and ask his name, leaving me there. It made it seem like I sent them to talk to him. As if that wasn’t bad enough, one of the girls turns and walks back to me and screams “His name is David!” And I was completely embarrassed… I usually get on the bus first and I choose to sit in the very back. David mostly ends up getting on the bus last and I would usually be one of the few people left with an open seat, as our bus is crammed. Part of me thinks that David likes me but then again it’s probably my imagination. I moderately talk to him but find myself being so nervous I cannot say what I want. A lot of times I’ll turn to David and he will be looking at me in the eyes and our eyes will connect for about 4 seconds then it breaks. Usually when we sit with each other his leg will “caress” mine and I’m unable to tell if he is doing it on purpose so I will rub back and it will continue like this. And he “accidently” grabbed my leg. The thing is I could see David being interested in guys. It’s not like its completely obvious but he is very open about things and I see all these signs. I’m some what open about my sexuality but it’s not like I run around telling everyone. I’m so confused and I don’t know if I should reveal my sexuality to him or if I should just make a move. I know he is very comfortable with gay and bi sexual people, so I am not worried about that. I’m just so scared he would sort of “freak” and not talk to me or just treat me differently. What do you think I should do?
Answer
Hi Mitchell :)
You're right-he could freak out. So making a move would be the thing that would most likely create a situation where a freakout could happen. Maybe saying what you are won't, and it'd be easier for him to react to. You could mention it casually, but you do take a risk of him reacting negatively. But you need to decide for yourself the pros and cons of telling him-maybe he'd react badly, but maybe he won't. Especially if he's comfortable with non heterosexual people, I would guess the worst would be he'd need a little time to adjust, but I don't see him cutting you off or the friendship being ruined.
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