AboutDanielle Expertise I can answer questions about coming out to friends, family, others in your life (students at school, other relatives), homophobic people around you, anything to do with one's sexuality, including all the many sexual orientations. I may not be able to give a perfect answer every time, but I'll definitely try my hardest to help.
Experience I have many friends who are gay or bisexual; I am myself, as well as a closeted family member.
Organizations N/A
Education/Credentials I'm still in high school, but I don't think that limits how much I can help someone.
Question I'm 13 years old guy and I need help. I know I am a bit too young to be thinking about this yet but I can't get the subject out of my head. I am not sure if I'm bisexual or not. I can imagine kissing both a man and a woman but when it comes to sex having it with a woman seems better than having sex a man. Please help me, I am so confused. If I am bisexual how do I tell my parents( they're pro gay but still)? How will I tell my friends? Will conversations with them be awkward once when I do admit to them I'm bi?
Thank you for taking the time to read and respond to this,
Andrew
Answer Hi Andrew :)
You're never too young.
What do you mean by "better"? That you're only sexually attracted to women, or that you could potentially have sex with a guy but it doesn't seem like it'd be good? Well, if you'd want to kiss someone of both sexes, than presumably you have some sort of attraction to both, and many people with those feelings would identify as bisexual. Don't rush yourself to figure it out, it will only stress you out, and there's no need for something as cool as sexuality to stress you out. You're finding out new things about yourself, and it's always good to have fun exploring that if you can.
Sit down with them, and just let them know. Come right out and say it. Saying something like how it's important for them as your parents for them to know, that you're confiding in them because you trust them, and even though you're still figuring it all out, you want them to know you're bisexual. Just keep it simple, and answer any questions they may have. Especially since it's easy for many people to misunderstand what bisexuality even means. Please let me know if you want more help.
With friends-you can tell a close friend first if you want, then tell the rest either all separately or together. You'll want to do it where you know you are unlikely to be interrupted. If they're cool with it, which hopefully they will be-some may react negatively, but you never really know. Things won't be awkward unless they make it awkward. It's just more about you that htey'll know, and that shouldn't change anything.
