AboutMatt Expertise I can answer questions on coming out, sexuality confusion and reactions from friends and family - I have been through all of this myself. Feelings, thoughts and does the "he/she like me" stages too. I may be younger than some of the experts but I am talking from 1st hand experience and I know what it is like. Having problems at school or don't know how to tell people? I can help with that too. Don't hestitate to ask me your questions, I am here to help.
Experience I am a bisexual teen who has come out to family and friends. I have been through the stages of "Am I gay or am I bi?", the reactions and opinions of students at school and also had trouble from people because of my sexuality. It is something I feel strongly about and want to help others, like AllExperts helped me.
Education/Credentials I am still in full-time education and have taken my GCSE's. I have got 10 A-C at GCSE and am now at Sixth Form studying for my AS & A Levels in ICT, RE & Psychology.
Question Hi, i am 15 years old, and a sophomore, i like a freshman that i know by playing baseball with him over the summer, and i last year a a freshman found out i am bi. my friends are bi also but i really like this freshman John. i asked him if he was gay and he said no but i still believe he is bi. my friend is convinced that he isn't but i am totally obsessed over him. i dream and daydream about 24/7. what can i do and could i make him bi?
Answer Hi Mitch,
If someone says to you they are not gay or bisexual then you should respect what they say and believe that. Whether they are or not is a different story as they may not be ready to come out, may not want to come out to you, may not even be gay at all. There could be many reasons, but if you keep poking at it and not leaving it alone, it could make this guy John very unhappy - and also, if he is gay you will totally end up putting him off if you don't respect his wishes like this.
I know you are obsessed over him, and this is maybe where you should start leaving him alone and trying to move on to someone else as it will only cause you further upset in the future if your infatuation with him gets stronger. You can't make him bisexual, he is what he is and if he is straight then there's nothing you can do to change that. Respect him, and yourself, and move on and away as this guy isn't gay or interested from what you have told me.
Sorry if this isn't what you want to hear, but to cause yourself less upset and pain in the future I personally think it's for the best,
Matt :)
