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Bi Teens - Worried for a Friend in Denial

Expert: Aaron - 11/5/2009

Question
I know this might sound cliche but I'm asking a question about a friend of mine.

To give you some background. My best friend 'Guy' and I have been friends since middle school (we haven't been teens for a while).

Recently, from another friend, I learned that 'Guy' has been hanging out in places that are notorious for being a gay pick up place. In high school, I did have suspicions of him leaning that way and told him then that I was fine with it if he was. At the time, he vehemently denied it and went on a homophobic rant.

When I confronted him about the news, he at first denied it and went on another homophobic rant. We both later apologized (my live-in niece is bi and he offended her) and forgave each other. Later, I unexpectedly caught him. When I confronted him about the lie, he spouted some BS about how he wasn't gay because he was the 'top' in all his encounters. He also rattled off a scary number when I asked about the number of times that these encounters happen and he stated that he never practiced safe sex because and I quote, "only faggots need to worry about that" stuff and that he wasn't one. He also spouted that guys that give him a bj are gay not him for accepting it.

I'm aware that there really could be nothing that I can do but 'Guy' is m best friend and it really hurts me to see him acting this way. Contrary to what you might think, he usually doesn't act this way. He usually is very cautious and responsible about everything which makes this whole thing a real shocker to me. It just seems that homosexuality is one of his 'hot' buttons.

I just really need some advice. Not only is he harming himself, he's harming others by his callous attitude. And personally I'm at my wits end with worry for him and those he spends the night with.

Please help me,
Lacy

Answer
Hi Lacy, this seems like a very tough situation and maybe there is a cause for it? I don't know...but anyway;

What I think you should do is simply tell your friend that their attitude/behaviour is worrying you and others and is slightly offending you.

You could also try telling them that you want to know if there is anything worrying them or if there is something wrong...tell them that you don't care what it is...you'll always be there to help because your their friend! That's what friends are for :)

If you still can't sort the situation out then maybe it is best to try and continue telling them that you are worrying about them and continue asking what the problem is or whatever until they finally crack :)

I hope this helps, and if you have any more questions please do feel free to ask!

Aaron :D

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