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Expert: Cynthia - 11/2/2009
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I have recently come out as bi to 3 friends. 2 girls 1 guy. I have a friend and lets say her name is joanne. joanne is my best friend in the entire world and I am scared that she will stop being my friend if she finds out. Before I tell each one of my friends I ask them that if one of their friends was gay/bi/les what they would do. The 3 people I have told said they wouldn't care, so I told them. But Joanne I asked her and she said she would be creeped out and not really hang out with them anymore! I am so nervous to tell but I REALLY want to! How do I tell her Cynthia? I am 11 going on 12 and I NEED to get this out of my system. Also I want to tell my ex-boyfriend who is a homophobe. How do I tell him, and how do I deal with it?
Answer
Hi Laurie :)
Well the best way is to be forthright and just be honest with them. Just tell them that your bi, if the care about you enough I'm sure they'll be able to understand, it might take them a long to full accept who you are but then you get that load off your chest that you seem to be carrying. Or maybe try to ease your best friend on the idea, like watch a show or a movie with gay people in it or literature. Maybe she'll be more accepting of the circumstances if she's exposed to it more.
Neither one of them might not take it so well, so it might hurt if they reject you, but one thing you got to think of if they can't accept that part of you then are they truly a good friend? You just got to talk to them and get them to understand, its the best way.
I hope that helps :)
Cynthia
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