About Brandon Young Expertise Wondering if your gay? Have a sex question? Is he gay? How do I tell my parents? Why do I feel this way? How do I start a GSA at my school? Whats the best way to come out of the closet? I can answer all questions based on the gay/lesbian/bi/questioning community! Let me know how I can help you!
Experience I, myself, am a gay teenager who is openly "out of the closet" and have been since I was fourteen years old. I started the Gay-Straight Alliance at my school in 2007 and have served as the Vice President, and currently serving as the Secretary.
Question QUESTION: I was looking at some gay porn one day beacause i wuz curious. i always thought i was straight but now i dont know. eversince then i have used gay masturbation tips and liked them had gay sex dreams and wished they were real. plus i think im in love with this girl at the same time. pleez help
ANSWER: Hey Michael!
In my opinion your just a horny teenager. At the level of your hormones its completly normal to have these urges and desires. In the same sense, I personally believe everyone is a little bisexual. It sounds with you like you could have a sexual experience with a male, but would much rather prefer a relationship with a female. This is your time to experiment and see what works for you. Remember, your still developing and these urges may go away. If not, know its okay to embrace the other side, but like I said, you sound more apt to be with a woman when it comes to a relationship.
So I would say YES and NO to you being "bisexual". Your just a teenager going through crazy hormones. If you dont want to be bisexual, dont act on your thoughts. Especially if your in love with a girl, no cheating! Guy or girl. I personally am the opposite as you. I could only have a relationship with a man, but I could still have sexual things with a female. The actions are in your hands, but you must decide how to live out with thoughts.
Good Luck!
Let me know if you have any further questions!
-Brandon :)
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QUESTION: Ok but wat if I told u that i was 12 and may want to be bi. The girl i told u about, all my feelings r gone 4 her and i think i REALLY like this guy at school. oh and dont say anything like 'u r way 2 young to be in love or even wory if ur bi' no offense though. plus i do have a gay mother. and may want to be bi. plus u sayd to go wit my heart. would it be rong to be bi. and if i do make the decision to be bi how coold i break this to my freind. (the girl i liked) my mom, dad (who hates all things gay) and grandparents who still arent used to my mom being gay.
Answer Hey Again Michael! :)
Well lets see, I started to like boys, or atleast realized it when I was about your age. I completely believe that you are bisexual, because of the fact that you really like this guy at school. You "wanting" to be bi, is great. It shows your open with anything, which is a fantastic human characteristic. But, like I said, being "bi" isnt a decision, its not something you choose. You either are, or your not. Most people do have these urges, but what really makes you "bi" is when you act on it. You may try things with a guy and hate it, or love it. So its something you have to try. Now, you dont have to be in a rush to tell anyone, especially this girl. WHy must she know now? Im not saying your not bi, but I didnt tell ANYONE until I experimented first. When it comes to telling your mom, I think she'll handle it well. I would hold back on telling dad and grandparents though. Talk to your mom about it! Im sure she'll be very supportive. I wish I wouldv'e had gay parents growing up! WOuld of made it a heck of a lot easier :). And there is absolutely nothing wrong with being bisexual. But it is unfair to not be yourself!:)
Again, let me know any questions you have.
-Brandon :)
