About Brandon Young Expertise Wondering if your gay? Have a sex question? Is he gay? How do I tell my parents? Why do I feel this way? How do I start a GSA at my school? Whats the best way to come out of the closet? I can answer all questions based on the gay/lesbian/bi/questioning community! Let me know how I can help you!
Experience I, myself, am a gay teenager who is openly "out of the closet" and have been since I was fourteen years old. I started the Gay-Straight Alliance at my school in 2007 and have served as the Vice President, and currently serving as the Secretary.
Question QUESTION: I was looking at some gay porn one day beacause i wuz curious. i always thought i was straight but now i dont know. eversince then i have used gay masturbation tips and liked them had gay sex dreams and wished they were real. plus i think im in love with this girl at the same time. pleez help
ANSWER: Hey Michael!
In my opinion your just a horny teenager. At the level of your hormones its completly normal to have these urges and desires. In the same sense, I personally believe everyone is a little bisexual. It sounds with you like you could have a sexual experience with a male, but would much rather prefer a relationship with a female. This is your time to experiment and see what works for you. Remember, your still developing and these urges may go away. If not, know its okay to embrace the other side, but like I said, you sound more apt to be with a woman when it comes to a relationship.
So I would say YES and NO to you being "bisexual". Your just a teenager going through crazy hormones. If you dont want to be bisexual, dont act on your thoughts. Especially if your in love with a girl, no cheating! Guy or girl. I personally am the opposite as you. I could only have a relationship with a man, but I could still have sexual things with a female. The actions are in your hands, but you must decide how to live out with thoughts.
Good Luck!
Let me know if you have any further questions!
-Brandon :)
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QUESTION: Ok but wat if I told u that i was 12 and may want to be bi. The girl i told u about, all my feelings r gone 4 her and i think i REALLY like this guy at school. oh and dont say anything like 'u r way 2 young to be in love or even wory if ur bi' no offense though. plus i do have a gay mother. and may want to be bi. plus u sayd to go wit my heart. would it be rong to be bi. and if i do make the decision to be bi how coold i break this to my freind. (the girl i liked) my mom, dad (who hates all things gay) and grandparents who still arent used to my mom being gay.
ANSWER: Hey Again Michael! :)
Well lets see, I started to like boys, or atleast realized it when I was about your age. I completely believe that you are bisexual, because of the fact that you really like this guy at school. You "wanting" to be bi, is great. It shows your open with anything, which is a fantastic human characteristic. But, like I said, being "bi" isnt a decision, its not something you choose. You either are, or your not. Most people do have these urges, but what really makes you "bi" is when you act on it. You may try things with a guy and hate it, or love it. So its something you have to try. Now, you dont have to be in a rush to tell anyone, especially this girl. WHy must she know now? Im not saying your not bi, but I didnt tell ANYONE until I experimented first. When it comes to telling your mom, I think she'll handle it well. I would hold back on telling dad and grandparents though. Talk to your mom about it! Im sure she'll be very supportive. I wish I wouldv'e had gay parents growing up! WOuld of made it a heck of a lot easier :). And there is absolutely nothing wrong with being bisexual. But it is unfair to not be yourself!:)
Again, let me know any questions you have.
-Brandon :)
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QUESTION: Srry 4 all the questions. I need to know every little detail though. First of all the girl is my bffl and we promised to tell eachother evryrhing. second how do i break it to my mom. its not easy to say Hey mom guess wat im bi isnt that great. Plus i just found out my dad new. my bro told him and now he hates ME. wat could i do to make loosen up on the idea since already nos.
p.s. youve been sooooo much help and thanx for answering the qs ive bombarded u wit :))
Answer Hey Again Michael! :)
No problem bro, thats what I'm here for.
Well, if this girl is your BFFL, wouldnt she be cool with that fact that your bi? Its weird, because I dated this girl in middle school and when I told I was gay (the summer before highschool) she freaking loved it, and now were bffaeaeae! :) Do you know how she feels about gays/bis already.
Well dang, how did your bro find out? But since he already knows I would leave it alone for a while. Maybe wait till he asks you. When my first found out, he was pretty much furiated. I dont think your dad hates you, but as my dad explained it to me it makes a father feel like a failure. Because that dad is supposed to raise the boy up straight. But as we know, people dont become gay or bi, we're born that way! :) Also with your dad, it may be hard because maybe he thinks your mom turned you bi, which we know isnt the case, but you need to put yourself in his shoes too.
Now with telling mom. Sit her down, open up with "Mom, theres really been something on my heart Ive wanted to tell you, Its been eating away at me for a while, because I really need your support"
