About Brandon Young Expertise Wondering if your gay? Have a sex question? Is he gay? How do I tell my parents? Why do I feel this way? How do I start a GSA at my school? Whats the best way to come out of the closet? I can answer all questions based on the gay/lesbian/bi/questioning community! Let me know how I can help you!
Experience I, myself, am a gay teenager who is openly "out of the closet" and have been since I was fourteen years old. I started the Gay-Straight Alliance at my school in 2007 and have served as the Vice President, and currently serving as the Secretary.
Question Hello, my name is Ethan and I am a bisexual sixteen year old. I have recently decided that I am going to come out of the closet to one of my two best friends (males)(and only one, at least for the time being), my question is which one do i want to come out to. The first one's name is "peter", Peter and I have been best friends since elementary school (I used to think that he is gay, but I don't anymore). Recently, I have developed a huge crush on him... The other one's name is "David", we have been friends a very long time too, the problem is that he is mildly homophobic. I would feel wrong coming out to Peter without telling him that i also like him, but i am not sure i should come out to David. While it is not directly relevant to the main question, there is another thing bothering me, and that is I do not fit in with the GLBT community at all, I play varsity football and wrestling, I don't really care for the arts, I have no effeminate characteristics (that i can think of)... In general I simply do not want to be associated with "these people" (sorry if that sounds offensive). Thank you for taking the time to read my rambling post and any advice you can offer would be greatly appreciated.
Answer Hey Ethan!
I talked to my boyfriend about your questions!
Im very much the artsy gay, love theatre and chours, lol.
He though is a wrestler and a swimmer with no homosexual characteritics either!
I would say to come out first to Peter. Now you dont have to tell him you have a crush on him. What's cool with this situation though, is once you tell Peter, you will have the courage to tell David too, with Peter by your side.
You dont have to be artsy and feminine to be gay or bi.
Its a sexual term, not a lifestyle. Lifestyles and sexuality in my opinion are completly seperated topics.
Hope this has helped you.
Let me know if you have any other questions!
Best of Luck!
