Expert: Brandon Young - 7/4/2009

Question
I'm 14. I'm sure that I am a lesbian but have a big problem.

My friend was outed brutally by the homophobic idiot jerk class clown. I recently discovered that I have an enormous crush on her. She is bisexual, but in love with a guy that all of my friends know will never date her. I really want to tell her my feeling, I have somewhat come out to her and my lesbian friend, but she is so blinded by this guy.

Do I have to come out to everyone first? For the sake of my sanity, what should I do?

Answer
Hey Kimiko! :)

First, make sure you are READY to come out.
Coming out is a process which can only be successful and good for you if you are completely sure your ready. So, NO you dont have to come out to everyone first, unless YOU ARE ready to. :)

Next, I suggest telling her, but not fully. Just be like " you know if you werent in love with "Bobby Jo" I could totally go lesbian for you" and then if shes like "WTF" you can be like "hah. just kidding."
If she takes it great, well who knows? :)

Let me know if you have any other questions!
Hope this has helped ;)

BRANDON :D