Expert: Robbie Francis - 9/3/2009

Question
Hi, well, my best friend is a good four years older then me, though age has never been an issue in our relationship before, I recently told her I was bi sexual. Luckily, she accepted that, and was, (still is), willing to support me. Two nights ago she came out to me, telling me she speculated she was a lesbian. I offered her my support, and also admitted to having a crush on her, though that lingered a good eight months back. She admitted the same thing...I'm jazzed to hear she likes me, and that we both feel this deep connection, but I'm afraid that I'm not yet prepared for the attention I'm about to receive. And the last thing I want to do is ruin our amazing friendship! How do I know if I'm ready?

Answer
Talking always works wonders. So talk to her. Tell her its not that your not ready, but your really not ready either. See if she's willing to keep things discrete. I'm sure she'll understand that you need a trial and error period before you make any major life changing decisions.