AboutRobbie Francis Expertise I CAN answer (and any that are similar): why do my parents hate me? Why can't my parents accept me? Is it wrong being gay? Will my parents ever accept me? Why do I feel so alone and alienated? Is being gay a sin? How can/do I come out? When do I come out? I CAN NOT answer: why am I gay?
Experience I am gay and have come out. I have been depressed and suicidal in the past, but I am much better now. I have helped friends who are gay.
Organizations Outdoor Odyssey (a mentoring program for special needs children), SLC (Students for Life Choices)
Education/Credentials In high school, so I can relate to most teens.
Question Hi, well, my best friend is a good four years older then me, though age has never been an issue in our relationship before, I recently told her I was bi sexual. Luckily, she accepted that, and was, (still is), willing to support me. Two nights ago she came out to me, telling me she speculated she was a lesbian. I offered her my support, and also admitted to having a crush on her, though that lingered a good eight months back. She admitted the same thing...I'm jazzed to hear she likes me, and that we both feel this deep connection, but I'm afraid that I'm not yet prepared for the attention I'm about to receive. And the last thing I want to do is ruin our amazing friendship! How do I know if I'm ready?
Answer Talking always works wonders. So talk to her. Tell her its not that your not ready, but your really not ready either. See if she's willing to keep things discrete. I'm sure she'll understand that you need a trial and error period before you make any major life changing decisions.