Gay/Lesbian/Bi Teens/friend or more?


Cathy, I don't even know where to begin. Well to start, I have a friend (17) and we have been friends for like three years, but we became best friends over the summer. Over the summer he told my friend amd I he was gay and we said okay. But October came and he really stared flirting with me and always saying, ill be your boyfriend one day and he'd cuddle and all that. A couple days later, we admitted our feelings and all. Then I began to question, do I actually like him? Well the next day he told me he didn't want to hurt me.  I accepted it. But then it bothered me. Its been like two months and I think about him everyday. My only thought is he Never had a relationship with a nice girl like me. And I'm not just saying that cause it's me, a lot of my friends say it to. I just want to know how does that happen? He still flirts here and there but over all it erks me. Thanks for reading :)

Hi there,

He told you he was gay. Don't get hurt. He could just being really close to you or just flirting for fun.
If you really want to be sure just ask him. What feelings did he admit to you? How doesnt he want to hurt you?
Just ask him about what he feels about you, it seems like you like him, since you think about him all the time.
Maybe he is confused, perhaps thats why he never had a relationship with a nice girl like you.

I hope it works out for the best, feel free to write to me.


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