Expert: Betty - 8/23/2007

Question
hi im a 16 year old who is confused ive always considered myself straight but for the past few years or so ive found myself having feelings for girls and not just guys. i work in a fast food restuarant and me and the other gurls joke around about stealing each other from boyfriends or watever and i think sometimes thats confusing even more. a couple of  the gurls at work are bi-sexual to. i also have lesbian friends. i find myself wanting relationships with guys but i also find myself wanting relationships with gurls.i think being attracted to gurls is making me think im bi but im not sure so if u can help even a lil with this i would really appreciate it.

Answer
Hello Lina :) Thank you for your question and I hope this helps!

Alright, let's start off like this, you said that you are having feelings for girls?  Are you attracted to them, sexually as well?  Most people define sexuality in terms of sex, naturally.  If you don't know the answer to that, and it's okay if you don't, ask yourself this: could you picture yourself dating and maybe having a life with a girl?

I'm assuming that your attraction in guys isn't really the problem and that you're sure of that, correct me if I'm wrong though :)

You could be bi-curious.  What makes the difference is time mostly likely.  You said that you've been feeling this for the past few years, so I would wager on bisexual.

I hope this has helped you, and if you want to ask me any other questions, please feel free to do so :)

Betty