Expert: Jessica - 5/25/2007

Question
QUESTION: I think I talked to u about the fisrt time this happend but it happend again so hopfully u can help me Ok,I'm a 19 year old female and along time ago I felt something towards a women
but I was drink. The other night I was drink and i felt some thing towards a
women it was like an emotional feeling and I knew that the feeling was going to be gone once I'm soble casue it happend to me before but this time it was worst like stronger and more like a crush then the first time .

this is confusion,why did I have those false feelings  towards the same sex when drunk?
I wasnt overly drink either time i think I was just buzed or litte bit
past the beging of a  buzz.The frist time this happend I might of had 3 drinks
of vaka and cola which all together equalled 9 shots of vaka.the a last time it
happend  I had 4 or 5 smurn off(vaka mixed drink i think)it comes in a bottle
any way I might of felt the affact of drinking  not only in my head but may be
also in my arms the fisrt time and may be the last time butbut I don't really rememeber,don't take me the wrong way I
remember every thing but that."

OOk,I'm a 19 year old female and along time ago I felt something towards a women
but I was drink. The other night I was drink and i felt some thing towards a
women it was like a crush I guess But I dont know anyway I knew that the feeling
would be gone after I'm soble again and I was wright the feel was gone. I find
this confusion,why am I having false feelins towards towards the same sex when
drink I wasnt overly drink either time i think I was just buzed or litte bit
past the beging of a  buzz.The frist time this happend I might of had 3 drinks
of vaka and cola which all together equalled 9 shots of vaka.the a last time it
happend  I had 4 or 5 smurn off(vaka mixed drink i think)it comes in a bottle
any way I might of felt the affact of drinking  not only in my head but may be
also in my arms but I don't really rememeber,don't take me the wrong way I
remember every thing but that."

P.s the last women i felt some thing emotionally towards wasnt the same women as the first time it happend.
P.s 2 ur not the only one I ask this to and  your not going to be the a last cause I would like to get lots of opinions (answers)for this.


ANSWER: Hello prettygirl19,

Thank you for your question.

Yeah, I do remember your situation.

Other than feeling emotionally attracted to girls when you are drunk, do you feel that way when you aren't drunk?

Are you emotionally or sexually attracted to girls when you are not drunk? Do you tend to look at girls more than looking at guys?  

I also remember you saying that you want to be bisexual. You can if that is the lifestyle you want to live. Getting intimate with girls.

The attraction towards guys and girls doesn't have to be equal for you to be bisexual. It could be 80% boys and 20% girls.

I really hope that you will get this issue of yours solved. Please feel free to write back anytime.

All the best,

Jessica

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QUESTION: No I don't feel that way when soble.I'm not sure if I'm sexual attracted to girls,but I have never crushed on a girl.I want  to be the type of bisexual  that  crushes on both sexs ,I don't want  to be the type that likes to sleep with both but only crushes on guys. so can u help me figure out why i felt emotionally to wards a women when drunk and why it happend twice. keep in mind the last women i felt it to wards is not the same women as the frist time it happned.
ANSWER: Hello prettygirl19,

Nice to hear from you again.

You have to find out whether you are sexually attracted to girls. Do you like girls in a sexual way?

There could be a deeper root to this issue you have. Is there anyone around you who loves you and cares for you? Has your mom ever showed love to you?

Please write back.

Take care,

Jessica

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QUESTION: I don't know if I like girls in a sexual way. yea my parents loves me and they have been there for me when I needed them to be.if your thinking that I want to crush on both sexes because I don't feel loved at home or some thing then your wrong . so please if your going to help me please believe that I just simplying wish I could crush on both sexs, I guess I'm jealous of bisexual people. when I go out in public and I see women I some times thinks to my self I wish I was bi or I want to be bi and it makes me sad but I think I can execpt being straight its just that the way I felt drink has confused me.
ANSWER: Hello prettygirl19,

Are you sexually or emotionally attracted to girls when you are not drunk?

You felt that way towards girls when you were drunk maybe because it is bothering you too much. That is just a possibility. I am not sure.

Is there any guy whom you are attracted to? Maybe you just want to find a partner? Do you have friends to spend time with? Or most are you alone by yourself most of the time?  

But first find out whether you are sexually or emotionally attracted to girls when you aren't drinking.

Take care,

Jessica

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QUESTION: I don't have any friends. How can I find out if I'm emoticonally attracted  to women without dating one because I don't have my lincens or my learners? should I talk to women at the straight bar that I goes to  and see if I crush on one?
ANSWER: Hello prettygirl19,

Nice to hear from you again.

So I see, you do not have any friends. Well, you should find some friends. Because you probably felt jealous when you see other girls having boyfriends or friends. Stuffs like that.

I thought you said that you were emotionally connected to two girls in the bar on different occasions when you were drunk?

Well, you could just hang out in a bar. Then find out whether you are attracted to any girl or guy.

I really hope that you get this solved. Good luck and write back anytime.

Take care,

Jessica

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QUESTION: I was drunk and felt some thing emotcionallly towards 2 different women at two differnt times, wheres the comfusion? I just wanted to see if I could feel some thing emotionally towards a women when I'm soble because the way I felt drunk might not mean any thing so thats why I wanted to know should i talk to women and see if I crush on one.
ANSWER: Hello prettygirl19,

Yes, then you should do what you plan in mind.

Good luck on this.

Take care,

Jessica

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QUESTION: I will but I have a  question you see I think I have  gotten turned on by women some time back it  was a tingle like a  quick feeling(1second) between my legs, . so is this  sexual attraction ,the tingle from checking out women or wouild I need to be sexual with a women inoder to know.I have also got the feeling when checking out guys .
P.s 1. I saw an answer on yahoo answer about a girl who knew she liked girls even though she didnt experinces yet and I think she ment sexually because she also said that she had sex with guys and that she likes them alot.
P.s I might of ask u about the tingle thing before
but u said u dont know about the tingles i got in high school and that its probley just the hornmons but I didnt say it happend in high school and it seems like u didnt know that its a turn on feeling, I guess  not evey women knows about the tingle. anyway I thought about 2 of ur questions and  deside to ask u about my tingles which i ask at the beginig  and i explain it.
also I need some advice I plains on having my last drunk tomorrow night so how can I get the courge to walk up to a girls table near the pool table without feeling stupit.i use to some times stand near the pool table with a bottle in my hand but I'm going to stop drinking so I cant just stand near the pool table with no drink in my hand with out looking stupit ,can I?.I don't play pool cause I'm a fraid  I will fool up,should i play pool and not worry about fouling up.


ANSWER: Hello there,

You had the tingling feeling between your legs because you were turned on by a woman? I would say that any other girl would be turned on by another woman if that woman did something to turn her on. But the thing is attraction. Were you attracted to her sexually? Did you like her body? Because having intimacy with another girl doesn't make you gay. It's emotions or attraction.

Well, why not just hold a drink in your hand and stand near the pool table? Better than playing pool when you don't even know how to play. But if you want, you could play pool too. Just try your best. Maybe they won't laugh at you.

Good luck and take care,

Jessica

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QUESTION: If I'm really sexual attracted to women then whats the chances of it turning into  a crush? do bi women who like guys more crush on them  more often or is it  stronger when it happends?
ANSWER: Hello Prettygirl19,

Nice to hear from you again.

I would say that the crush would be just natural. Sometimes people have a crush on someone without reason. They look at the person and it just comes down on it's own.

Sorry, I don't understand your second question. Could you rephrase it again?

Write back anytime.

Take care,

Jessica

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QUESTION: some bisexual women likes guys more then women but do that mean they crush on guys more often then women or do it mean there crushes on guys are stronger then there crushes on women?
ANSWER: Hello there again Prettygirl19,

Nice to hear from you once more.

Well, I would say that it can be both cases. The bisexual woman can be attracted more to handsome guys than having stronger crushes on guys and women. It's vice versa.

But when you say stronger crush, you mean to the point of emotional connection? It is the same as heterosexual relationships. How the couple maintain their relationship. Then they will fall in love. Or it would be how sexually attractive the opposite party is.

I hope I've helped you again. Write back anytime.

Take care,

Jessica

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QUESTION: I dont undertstand a biseuxal women  can be attracted more to handsome guys then stronger crushes on guys do that mean that the bi women could crush more on guys then girls?

ANSWER: Hello again Prettygirl19,

Yeah, when you say a stronger crush, you mean feelings more emotionally connected, right?

If so, then it would be how one maintain their relationship to fall in love with one another. Unless it is love at first sight.

Take care,

Jessica

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QUESTION: This is long but please do ur best to help me . I had 2 dreams ,in one dream a women got between my legs and her butt rubed agaisnt my vagina and it felt good and in another dream i pressed a womens foot back and fort agaisnt my vagina and it felt good and she got afended and also in that dream i was feeling pleaseure and I stoped it casue i was afraid that i would walk up ,I'm not sure if this was a lucid dream becasue I don't remeber if i was able to  control the dream,I dont think i could.why did those dreams feel good ,do it mean any thing about my sexuality? I   was at a females house lets call her V and I gotten tingles(a  physical feeling , turn on) from looking at her butt, but i didnt get a tingle every time i looked at her butt  and I'm prety sure shes sexual attracted to women because of some thing her boyfriend said at the bar last night. anyway i was thinking about the ideal of her be sexual with  or giving  oral to her very good female friend lets call her S  and I felt jealous it was like of course why wouldnt she want to be sexual with her shes skinny and I'm not. but as far as i know her good female friend could be straight.why did i get tingles from checking out that women? why did  I get jealous when of the ideal of her being  sexual with her good friend S when i only got tingles from checking out V If i looked at S's butt more then once or twice or some thing may be I would of gotten a tingle cause i think some times it takes a few times looking for me to get a tingle. It seems like I only get tingles from looking at a girls butt if I like her clothes or atlest her shirt i guess. dose  this mean any thing about my sexuality? if I had a sexual dream of a  women stranger  and it felt good and I woke up when the feeling of peasure high(about to oragasm i guess) would this mean I'm sexual attracted to women? if I had sexual dream of a women that i met some where or if i had a sexual dream of my new female friend and it felt good and i woke up about to oragasm would that mean I'm sexual attracted  to her?I never had this kind of dream about a women i met at the bar or my female friend. i might of had this kind of dream about a stranger (the kind where i felt pleasure and i wake up when about to oragam)are u good at knowning what dreams mean in regards to sexuality? cause if u do i will till u about  my dreams that invold women.alot of them are seuxal so i will not till all of them just the ones i really want help in knowning the meaning , I will talk about the non sexual ones.

Answer
Hello again Prettygirl19,

Thank you for your question.

It's fine, I received longer questions before.

You can interpret your dreams at this website: www.dreammoods.com.

You were jealous of V giving oral to S and not you probably because inside of you, you want to have oral with V. Then she didn't give oral to you thus you were jealous.

Are you sure that you get the tingling feeling because you like what the girl is wearing? Not because of how hot she is? Are you sexually attracted to girls? Do you find two girls being sexual with each other sick?

I hope that the wesbite helped you. Feel free to write back anytime.

Take care,

Jessica