Expert: Jessica - 6/14/2007

Question
QUESTION: Every time some one tells me were i see myself in the future i see me with a loving  guy but i have this other idea to the side were i have a wife and a baby boy and i cant figure out which one i want. Im with a girl right now but i don't feel like i love her and im always finding boys hot could you help?

ANSWER: Hello Dustin,

Thank you for your question.

Gay is one who is sexually or romantically/emotionally attracted to boys,

Bisexual is one who is sexually or romantically/emotionally attracted to both girls and boys. The attraction doesn't have to be equal. It could be 80% boys and 20% girls.

I wouldn't advice you to rush into determining your sexuality. Give yourself some more time to explore further.  

I wish you luck on this and hope that I've helped you. Please feel free to write back anytime.

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QUESTION: um its Dustin um when i do find out what i im if it be bi or goy or whatever how would i come out about it? I tryed to one time and it all kinda just exsploded in my face and bean scared to even talk about it with any body after that.
ANSWER: Hello Dustin,

Nice to hear from you again.

Come out only when you are ready to.

You can find out whether people are homophobic by asking them some questions and by observing them too. Do they have or would they want to make friends with people who are gay? Do they watch movies or read books that include gay relationships? Have you ever heard them say that gays are sick people? In general, what's their attitude towards the gay community?

A good example of an indirect question would be asking the person what he/she thinks of Ellen Degeneres being a lesbian. You do know who Ellen DeGeneres is, right?

If you are intending on coming out to your parents, and find out that they are homophobic, you might want to wait until you are older and can support yourself financially and then come out. That is what some people do. Because their parents might kick them out of the house and thus they will have to look for their own shelter. Live on the streets or turn to a friend's or relative's house.

If your parents are religious, I can help you with that. Or have you ever been sexually abused/molested before? Have you ever had any past encounters?

Write back anytime.

Take care,

Jessica

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QUESTION: yes i know who she is i love her show its funny ^^ and cool =p but i tryed to one time and went to talk and lies pored out ... she tells me if im gay or whatever happens she wont care but i look in to her eyes and just know she dosent want me to be gay or whatever and shes always saying she cant wait for grandkids i told one friend and she just said whatever and kinda moved on kinda maid me feal better =p
ANSWER: Hello again Dustin,

Nice to hear form you once more.

Well, is your mother always by your side and supporting you? Your mother or all mothers would not want their kids to be gay. They would of course feel hurt and sad and wish that you aren't gay. But true friends or family would accept you and love you for who you are.

If they do not, are you ready to stand on your own and face up to whatever remarks they may say to you?

I wish you luck once again. Do write back anytime.

Take care,

Jessica

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QUESTION: hehe i think this may be my last one i tryed to tell here and she started to laugh and so i just walked off to my room =l maybe i just wont ever tell here

Answer
Hey there,

You can write back as many times as you want. But up to five, I will be maxed out and you can write back the next day. Not a problem. I would like to help you.

So, you mean you called your mom to your room and she just started laughing for no reason? Well, try to tell your mother that Ellen DeGeneres is a lesbian. Ask her what she thinks of it. Since you said that she loves to watch her show.

Jessica