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| Subject | Date Asked |
| I thought I was gay, but now I have other problems...? | 1/17/2012 |
| Q: Okay, well, I'm 18, and I'm a senior in high school. During my sophomore year, I came out to ... A: it could be a lot things with lewis. he could be a virgin, he could respect you and not want to just ... | |
| whats happening.. | 12/15/2011 |
| Q: hey, can i get your help? well, im quite young (im only fourteen) and ive started noticing girls. ... A: its normal to have some sexual interest in the same sex. i dont know if i would recommend ... | |
| Confused? | 12/4/2011 |
| Q: can you give me advice on how to really figure out what i exactly am? I've noticed girls allot more ... A: im assuming your young. its ok and normal to have thoughts about the same sex. i usually tell people ... | |
| What can I do about this? | 9/30/2011 |
| Q: My name is Kyel. I'm a 16(almost 17)-year-old, bisexual, boy. I've been bisexual for about three ... A: i dont think its shallow at all. but i also think you should make sure you tell anyone your in a ... | |
| Girlfriend Issues | 9/29/2011 |
| Q: I'm a bisexual female and I have been sexually involved with a female officially for three months, ... A: i dont know how old you are but im assuming your young. we all need to date and learn from it and ... | |
| Is there a problem? | 9/28/2011 |
| Q: I have sort of an embarrassing problem. I'm bisexual and I have been dating my girlfriend for about ... A: i would normally tell you to try and pleasure yourself to orgasm but it sounds like you have already ... | |
| Girlfriend Issues | 9/26/2011 |
| Q: I'm a bisexual female and I have been sexually involved with a female officially for three months, ... A: dating is all about finding out what you like and dont like. i would let her know that you love her ... | |
| Confused | 9/10/2011 |
| Q: Hey there, A friend from school recently broke up with her girlfriend. We have been talking and have ... A: its normal to have these kind of feelings when your young. your not the only one. i dont know how ... | |
| Bi ? | 7/13/2011 |
| Q: So Lately I Have Been Wondering If I'm Bi Or Just Like Bi Curious . I Check Out Girls Allot And ... A: well its hard to say. a lot of girls and boys have sexual thoughts about the same sex. it doesnt ... | |
| Can anybody find me...somebody to love? | 7/12/2011 |
| Q: I'm a 15 year old lesbian living in Wisconsin and I'm finding it difficult to find other 15 year old ... A: being lesbian at your age can be difficult. just realize that you dont NEED somebody in your life. ... | |
| Lesbian sex? | 7/11/2011 |
| Q: hey sandi im 16, and i have a girlfriend that has been next to me for about a year. she has ... A: using toys is fun and exciting but not necessary. just explore each others bodies. use your hands, ... | |
| Bi or Gay | 5/22/2011 |
| Q: Hey, i am 17 years old girl. i right now i identify as Bisexual But i feel i am moving more to ... A: i dont think being in a long distance relationship with someone is a good way to judge if your bi or ... | |
| Bi or Gay | 5/14/2011 |
| Q: Hey, i am 17 years old girl. i right now i identify as Bisexual But i feel i am moving more to ... A: why do you think your bi or lesbian? have you ever been with another girl sexually or in a ... | |
| 16 year old bisexual? | 4/27/2011 |
| Q: I'll try to make this as short as I can. So I just recently turned 16 and I'm almost certain I'm ... A: i think you might be bi. i also think your still young and are experimenting with your sexual ... | |
| best new friend. | 4/19/2011 |
| Q: First of all my english is kinda bad hope someone can understand me :( ..Well I'm 19,I've never have ... A: i wouldnt make the first move on her if you think she might not be bi or lesbian. it sounds like she ... | |
| What am i? | 4/15/2011 |
| Q: My name is Rockell Im 15 and have this thing on my mind and i dont know what to do. Well im having ... A: its ok and normal to have sexual thoughts about the same sex. it doesnt always mean you are bi or ... | |
| How can i tell this girl i like her? | 3/20/2011 |
| Q: Ive had this major crush on this girl since the beginning of my high school career. Ive known for a ... A: take it slow and maybe try to bring up the subject of being bi. maybe ask her if she has ever ... | |
| My Bisexual Crush | 3/14/2011 |
| Q: I have a crush on my friend Katrina. Last summer she asked me if I was bisexual, and I said yes. She ... A: yeah it sounds like she likes you. it also sounds like she might be afraid to pursue anything with ... | |
| major crush on my friend not sure what to do | 3/3/2011 |
| Q: well i am 13 going on 14 and im bi. all of my friends know and theyre cool with it. i hav had a ... A: it sounds like she might to do some experimenting with you. i would ask her next time she says about ... | |
| How do i forget her? | 2/15/2011 |
| Q: Hey:D My names Louise and i'm 15 I'm bi . recently i had my first relationship with a girl 2 year ... A: you need to do things to occupy your mind. things like hanging out with friends, or going out with ... | |
| ive heard stories of this before and i might end up goin there soon | 1/29/2011 |
| Q: Well I guess I will start with the fact that im bisexual and a girl. I am closeted (except for two ... A: hey rabbit! nice name :) lol i think asking her to be your gf is a great idea. how do u think she ... | |
| awkward teen | 1/23/2011 |
| Q: i'm 15 and its really hard for me to talk to girls, i trip and can't talk. i step on there shoes and ... A: ummm...can you stand back a bit when your talking to a girl? lol. im not sure why your stepping on ... | |
| How should the take it? When should I tell them? | 1/14/2011 |
| Q: I have recently came to terms with my sexual orientation and I have told one person and she is ... A: do you feel you need to tell anyone else right now? maybe you should just wait and see how things go ... | |
| ive heard stories of this before and i might end up goin there soon | 1/10/2011 |
| Q: Well I guess I will start with the fact that im bisexual and a girl. I am closeted (except for two ... A: as far as coming out to your friends, thats completely up to you. i know some people can be cruel ... | |
| Frustrated with everything | 12/9/2010 |
| Q: So I am 18 years old i have not yet graduated and as of recently( past two years) I have discovered ... A: a simple search can find lots of places online to meet all kinds of people. i would be very careful ... | |
| Shy or just not interested | 12/6/2010 |
| Q: I’m a girl and I’m attracted to girls, I’ve never been with a girl yet but they effect me in ways ... A: she knows how you feel about her so now the ball is in her court. i would continue to talk to her ... | |
| Hellppp!!! | 12/4/2010 |
| Q: Okay, I'm bi and all, and I have a crush on my best friend. I'm afraid to talk to her about it, ... A: a good friend is one who will accept you for who you are. i wouldn't tell her you have a crush on ... | |
| My feelings | 10/13/2010 |
| Q: In the past month or so I have come to terms with my sexuality. I'm a bisexual. Any time I tell ... A: first off i would not put yourself in the "bi" category just yet. you havent been with a guy ... | |
| Confusion | 8/30/2010 |
| Q: I am so confused!! The fact of the matter is that I have been so for a really long time but have ... A: i think you should find out if you are bi or not. what you dont want to happen is you get older and ... | |
| I think I'm bi? | 7/1/2010 |
| Q: i'm a 13 year old girl. I know a few things for certain. I know I am very mature for my age and have ... A: i understand you think you have the mind of an 18 yr old but the fact is that your 13. and when your ... | |
| does she like me? | 6/14/2010 |
| Q: hey, i am a lesbian and i have strong feelings towards a girl in my school. we have been dating for ... A: i see a couple of problems here. first, she is lying to her bf and thats not right. second, she is ... | |
| Confused? | 5/24/2010 |
| Q: Okay, I'm 16 and recently well not recently it's been a while now that I've been questioning my ... A: your young and its really ok to have sexual feelings towards both guys and girls. i would let it ... | |
| help plz | 5/20/2010 |
| Q: kay i'm a girl and i'm so confused and don't know whether or not to continue/have a relationship ... A: it doesnt matter how old you are :) you should only do what you feel comfortable doing. i wouldnt ... | |
| i dunno my orientation/what to do | 5/18/2010 |
| Q: kay i'm a girl and i'm so confused and don't know whether or not to continue/have a relationship ... A: its perfectly ok to like both guys and girls. maybe your still just experimenting with girls and ... | |
| Concerned Friend | 5/15/2010 |
| Q: Hey, I'm 16 and my friend's 19. I'm concerned about a friend who recently declared himself bisexual. ... A: i think your right to be concerned and i think you did the right thing to try and talk to him. but ... | |
| How to eat my GF out. | 5/13/2010 |
| Q: Ok despite the name im a girl, I just don't wanna give my name on the net, just in-case my GF comes ... A: first, i think you should talk to your gf about how you feel. let her know you have never done this ... | |
| Bisexual | 5/8/2010 |
| Q: Hey, i am a guy and i have been having feelings for guys and girls at the same time. I have told at ... A: i dont know how old you are but i wouldnt really recommend going online. it can be a scary place ... | |
| In love but don't want to be. | 5/7/2010 |
| Q: I like my friend. I've liked her for months. I guess you can say I've been rejected in a nice way ... A: i would try and talk to her again. let her know you just want to be friends and thats it. try to ... | |
| Extremely confused | 4/19/2010 |
| Q: So i have always been a tomboy, growing up and everything but since starting high school i have ... A: i think being bi sexual is a real thing. i also think you could just be curious about the same sex ... | |
| Hey | 4/12/2010 |
| Q: Hey I'm a 15 yr old bi male my question is. Well I've only had sex with a man once be 4 and I want ... A: i think the best way is by friends or by word of mouth. im sure there are rumors of who might be gay ... | |
| cant tell if im bi . . . . | 3/25/2010 |
| Q: "okayy , so im 15 and resently i have been noticing myself being attracted to the female body . . . ... A: your young and i wouldnt worry about being bi or not. its ok and normal to have sexual thoughts ... | |
| is my friend bi!? | 2/24/2010 |
| Q: hey well this is my first time doing this chat room questioning thing, but i thought it wouldn't ... A: sounds like maybe she might still be bi. i would have a private conversation with her about it. let ... | |
| Bi guy | 2/5/2010 |
| Q: Hi I'm a 7th grade girl and I'm deeply in love with a guy that's bi and I'm serusly in love with him ... A: you dont love him because you havent even dated him! :) take it slow and control your feelings. ... | |
| Help with friend | 1/31/2010 |
| Q: Your question was Hi, i'm a 17 year old male and gay. I've recently come out to a very good friend ... A: since he is a good friend and you can tell him anything, i would talk to him about this. let him ... | |
| experimenting with friends | 1/25/2010 |
| Q: Hey wat up sandi ive asked u a few questions in the past and uve really helped me so i got one more ... A: yeah i know its hard because you dont want things to be weird. take it slow and let him make most of ... | |
| experimenting with friends | 1/19/2010 |
| Q: Hey wat up sandi ive asked u a few questions in the past and uve really helped me so i got one more ... A: :) next time your watching porn together (guys really that?) and he says that he would try ... | |
| Confused | 1/10/2010 |
| Q: ) I need your help. Im so confused about my sexuality. I would like to tell you about why im ... A: yes its normal to have sexual thoughts about the same sex and fantasize about it. dont worry about ... | |
| bisexuality | 12/20/2009 |
| Q: Okay then I'm male and almost 15, back when I was 13 I began to notice both guys and girls. I told ... A: your young and its normal and ok to have sexual thoughts about the same sex. most guys and girls ... | |
| Confused about my feelings .. | 12/19/2009 |
| Q: I'm a girl and I've known I was "different" from everyone else for as long as I can remember. I knew ... A: your going to fall in and out of love more times before you finally settle down with someone. your ... | |
| ? how do i find a bf | 11/24/2009 |
| Q: im 13 and i know for a fact i am gay and my friends and parents know and they are supportive. i want ... A: your 13 and i wouldnt worry about finding someone so much. concentrate on school and friends; a bf ... | |
| i need tips | 10/27/2009 |
| Q: But i was wondering ive never had a girlfriend or a boyfriend so if im going to experiment i got to ... A: there is no special way to tell if someone might be bi or gay unless they really act like it. one to ... | |
| bisexual or bicurious? | 10/26/2009 |
| Q: I’m 17 and was wondering if you could answer the question of whether I’m bisexual or not. I’ve only ... A: my opinion on this whole bi or bicurious is this...i always tell people to experiment with their ... | |
| don't quite know | 10/22/2009 |
| Q: I have never done this before and so I am just going to say it I don't know if am lesbian, ... A: i wouldnt tell anyone about it. if you think your friend will keep it to herself then thats fine but ... | |
| don't quite know | 10/21/2009 |
| Q: I have never done this before and so I am just going to say it I don't know if am lesbian, ... A: your young and i wouldnt worry about whether or not your lesbian or bi. have you dated guys or had ... | |
| Do i like her? | 10/13/2009 |
| Q: I was wondering if you could help me with something, you see im a bisexal teen and i cant tell if i ... A: have you been in a relationship with a girl before? if not then my suggestion would be to try it out ... | |
| I am a girl heavily attracted to boys, and have fallen for a girl's personality, what AM I? | 10/6/2009 |
| Q: I've recently entered into a relationship with one of my closest friends, who is also a girl. ... A: how old are you? if your young and i assume you are, its ok and normal to have confusion like this. ... | |
| bisexual | 10/4/2009 |
| Q: I'm confused really... it's a day by day type thing. one day i know I'm bi and the next i deny it. i ... A: how old r u? have you had any experiences with both guys and girls to know for sure your bi or ... | |
| That girl confuses me a lot. | 9/26/2009 |
| Q: I don't only have a question but a few ones, well, just read and you will all understand. (: (I'm ... A: all of this could mean you are gay or bi. but also maybe you just havent found the right guy you ... | |
| lost | 9/11/2009 |
| Q: so i met this girl about a year ago and i never knew what it was but i was immediately attracted to ... A: i dont know the extent of your relationship but you were kissing and stuff so it sounds like you ... | |
| Help | 9/9/2009 |
| Q: Hey, im really inlove with my best friend and i have been for a long time. Im pretty sure she doesnt ... A: how do you know she doesnt feel the same way? have you said anything to her to make her think you ... | |
| I think I might be bisexual........ | 8/27/2009 |
| Q: I'm 16 and a bit confused. Well I am attracted to boys. But a few months ago some friends were round ... A: i wouldnt lablel yourself just yet. your young and i think you need to experience more in life ... | |
| i think im bi | 8/22/2009 |
| Q: i was at a party. I drank a little but i was not drunk. There was this bi girl there and she is my ... A: it doesnt mean your bi. wether your kissing another girl or another guy i dont think your bf would ... | |
| Does she likes me or not? Im confussed | 8/20/2009 |
| Q: This may take a few minutes to explain so bare with me. I met this woman a year ago at my cousins ... A: i think you should just keep things as friends for now. you could begin a conversation about whether ... | |
| my sexuality | 8/17/2009 |
| Q: i dated this guy for a month last year, and everytime he kissed me, i didnt feel anything. i thought ... A: i think you should experiment with your sexuality and see what you like and dont like. go out with a ... | |
| I just don't know | 8/15/2009 |
| Q: I'm Kim, a 14 year old girl who has a really big problem. I am attracted to guys, but I really ... A: since your only 14 and probably are not sure your bi until you actually have a relationship with a ... | |
| I'm bi and I dont know how to come out | 8/14/2009 |
| Q: I'm 15 years old and im bi. I am meeting my best friend for lunch tomorrow with the intention of ... A: well if you feel you really need to tell him then i would just tell him you "think" you might be bi. ... | |
| help please | 8/12/2009 |
| Q: HEYY.. ok so im 16 im bi and ive had some girlfriends and boyfriends but im havin some problems. i ... A: being young and bi can be a problem sometimes, i know. i would not worry so much about having to ... | |
| relationship | 8/10/2009 |
| Q: My girlfriend wants to have sex but i don't because i don't like my body. A: i guess your partner likes your body right? look, you need to be comfortable with yourself and if ... | |
| when masturbating | 7/13/2009 |
| Q: i am a 14 year old boy, and whenever i masturbate, i think of mens/boys penis'. but i like girls, ... A: no it doesnt. boys and girls sometimes have sexual thoughts about the sex. its ok and naturual. i ... | |
| Advice! | 6/27/2009 |
| Q: . Well here’s the deal! Im a 20 years old girl.. so I’ve always dated boys but sometimes I felt a ... A: its normal and ok to have sexual thoughts about the same sex. it doesnt mean you are bi or gay. it ... | |
| still need help | 6/26/2009 |
| Q: 17 (male) when my cousin, 16 (male) comes to visit we masturbate together. Just for fun. Is it ... A: if your masterbating together then i wouldnt think it could be to hard to just say something like ... | |
| not sure | 6/25/2009 |
| Q: I am attracted to girls. I am attracted to guys also but only sexually, meaning I do not think they ... A: its normal to have sexual thoughts about the same sex. it doesnt mean you are bi or gay in my ... | |
| Relationship advice | 6/24/2009 |
| Q: My girlfriend just came out to me that she has lesbian feelings for one of our close friends. I'm in ... A: i dont think your wrong if you want to split with her. threesomes can be fun and all but there is ... | |
| Relationship advice | 6/23/2009 |
| Q: My girlfriend just came out to me that she has lesbian feelings for one of our close friends. I'm in ... A: what would you do if she came to you and said she wanted to date other people? in my opinion its the ... | |
| NEED VIRGINITY HELP | 6/21/2009 |
| Q: hey my name is tobi i am about to turn 18 and i am about to have my first sexual encounter with a ... A: make sure he wears a condemn. lube is helpful because you wont always be wet. it might hurt a bit ... | |
| I think im Bi-Curious | 6/20/2009 |
| Q: Ok, so I've been thinking ablot lately, and I came to the conclusions that i I might be bi-curious. ... A: its not bad and ok to have sexual thoughts about the same sex. when your young is a good time to ... | |
| Bisexual or Lesbian? | 6/16/2009 |
| Q: I've been bisexual since I was very young, since second grade. I have always liked girls since I ... A: sounds like maybe you are. do you think you could eventually settle down with a women and get ... | |
| curious but definetly not bi | 6/6/2009 |
| Q: Hey what up sandi. heres the deal i definitely love girls like so much but i have a hard time ... A: its ok and normal to have sexual thoughts about the same sex when your young. i would experiemnt ... | |
| Any chance that she likes me | 6/4/2009 |
| Q: I believe im bi or at least just curious and i have this big crush on this girl who works in my ... A: well its hard to say. she might just be a nice person. i would try to become better friends with her ... | |
| Soo does she like me or is she just playing games? | 5/30/2009 |
| Q: So this girl I have a mega huge crush on her so much that im in love with her. She is also a really ... A: how do you think she would react if you joking said something like "hey want to make out with me?". ... | |
| Question about getting tested | 5/28/2009 |
| Q: I recently gave my friend a blowjob without a condom (yes, stupid I know). He gets tested every ... A: well im not a doctor so i cant say for sure but i think the chances of getting aids from a bj is ... | |
| there's this guy... | 5/15/2009 |
| Q: I'm Paul, I'm 17 and I'm a junior and I'm bi. so recently, I've been hanging with a group of old ... A: i wouldnt say anything to him about you being bi or liking im kinda of stuff. why not try and hang ... | |
| is the girl i'm interested in interested in me the same way? | 5/13/2009 |
| Q: hey i think i'm bi. as in, i'd look at guys who look good but i'm really not interested in them. i'm ... A: gf say i love you to each all the time. i wouldnt take that or the touching that she likes you like ... | |
| Could he be bi/gay? | 5/12/2009 |
| Q: Well, I like this guy, Lets call him Jim(not real name)and we used to be good friends. Like we'd ... A: i think you should try to get the friendship back the way it was first. then maybe find a good time ... | |
| How do I ask? | 5/4/2009 |
| Q: Ok I am having trouble finding out if I'm bi, gay, or straight,but I can't stop thinking about one ... A: i think you should ask your friend if she is bi when its just the two of you. i think you can tell ... | |
| I don't understand her.... | 4/26/2009 |
| Q: Okay so I'm 14, I'm bi, and I'm also open about it. My friends and family all know and were all ... A: she needs to except who she is and not worry about what others think. all you can do and let her ... | |
| erm confused :( | 4/23/2009 |
| Q: erm im like 16 and iv been out wid alot of girls.(unforchanatly they dump me in like a week hahaha) ... A: sorry to hear that. people can be rude and it isnt right for others to say things about you. i would ... | |
| Does she like me? | 4/22/2009 |
| Q: I'm a bisexual girl, and I have a crush on this really nice, cool, pretty girl named Claire. Every ... A: i think a good start is to tell her you are bi. i wouldnt tell her just yet that you like her. let ... | |
| I Fancie Girls, but not lesbian sex? | 4/21/2009 |
| Q: Im a 14 year old girl and I'm really confused, the only person i can ever imagine myself with is my ... A: hard to say. its usually the opposite for people, they usually want to have sex with someone of the ... | |
| erm confused :( | 4/20/2009 |
| Q: erm im like 16 and iv been out wid alot of girls.(unforchanatly they dump me in like a week hahaha) ... A: its ok and normal to have sexual thoughts and desires about the same sex when your young. dont worry ... | |
| 14 bi girl | 4/19/2009 |
| Q: "im a 14 year old girl and im bi.theres a girl on my soccer team i only see once a week and every ... A: no it doesnt mean she likes you but it could. i wouldnt take those signs as her liking you just yet. ... | |
| me(bi) and my boyfriend (not cool) | 4/16/2009 |
| Q: im only 12 years old, and my friends tell me that im too young to insist on my sexual orientation, ... A: nothing. if he doesnt respect you or like you for who you are then dump him. you could leave him for ... | |
| I'm in love with one of my best friends. | 4/15/2009 |
| Q: I'm 16. I'm bi and I seriously think that I'm in love with one of my best friends. Every single ... A: does she know your bi? i assume she does. when your alone with her maybe try and make a small move. ... | |
| im inlove with my best friend | 4/6/2009 |
| Q: Hey, im a 14 year old girl and im completly inlove with my best friend kayla. I know this isnt just ... A: how you do think she would react if you told her? would you still be friends with her? your in a ... | |
| am i gay | 4/5/2009 |
| Q: ok im 13 and i was with my friend and we were watching a movie and two girls got on top of each ... A: i doubt your gay. maybe bi but you could just be bi curious. your young and its normal to have ... | |
| Confused | 3/26/2009 |
| Q: well, ive been attracted to boys and girls. but recently ive fallen in love with the most amazing ... A: could be that your just bi :) some people are sexualy attracted to the same sex and just want to, ... | |
| chat rooms ect.. | 3/25/2009 |
| Q: Hey Sandi, I was wondering if you knew of any good and safe teen chat sites where I could talk to ... A: no i do not know of any safe teen chat rooms. you just never know who you are talking to. the best ... | |
| confuse bout me | 3/12/2009 |
| Q: im a 16years old. um... well my life is pretty f*** up. first of all somehow i knew i was bisexual ... A: sorry to here your parents are like that. i know i would never do anything like that to my kid if ... | |
| i think im bisexual | 3/11/2009 |
| Q: im 16 years old and a girl i have always bin physically attracted to men and boys since i can ... A: its normal to have sexual thoughts about the same sex when your young. it doesnt always mean your bi ... | |
| am i a lesbian? | 3/3/2009 |
| Q: i'm a 14 year old girl and i have a question about whether i could be a lesbian. first of all, i'm ... A: i dont think it means you are lesbian. some girls just dont like the thought of having oral sex. if ... | |
| conflicted | 2/27/2009 |
| Q: hey sand I'm really confused to the point where im like almost frightened at the possibility that i ... A: i think you need to take the subject very slowly with your friend. casually bring it and ask your ... | |
| HELP! | 2/22/2009 |
| Q: Help i'm preaty sure I'm bi and I want a guy from school and I don't know how to meet people i'm 14 ... A: meet people by doing what you would normally do if it were a girl. just hang out with guys and ... | |
| am i bi | 2/21/2009 |
| Q: For a while i have been semi attracted to other girls. However i am madly in love with a guy. I ... A: your probbaly just bi curious. if its just a sexual thing right now then dont worry about it. go out ... | |
| should I tell her how I feel? | 2/19/2009 |
| Q: (it may be helpful to read my other question) Freshman year, I fell in love with a girl named ... A: it sounds like your friend is just bi curious and probably would not want a relationship with a ... | |
| well i slept with her... | 2/18/2009 |
| Q: I'm 15. girl. bi...i had sex with a girl i have loved for over a year, but she has only loved me a ... A: you should probably talk to her and let her know you are sorry for being clingy and then back off a ... | |
| i think im a lezbian? | 2/1/2009 |
| Q: right so i am 14 years old and i was staying over at my best friends house like a week ago we always ... A: no it doesnt have to mean your gay. maybe your just curious about the same sex. maybe you just ... | |
| Sexuality confusion | 1/29/2009 |
| Q: the previous sentence. Thanks for using our service! Your question was "Dear Matt, Sorry my other ... A: well its probably just that your curious. but i like to tell people to experiment with their ... | |
| Dating | 1/27/2009 |
| Q: Me and my girlfriend broke up a couple months ago because i cheated on her. we are best friends now ... A: time, time, time :) hopefully she will eventually understand you are different now, but you have to ... | |
| I'm very confused | 1/24/2009 |
| Q: Hey Sandi, I'm 16 and have a boyfriend, I'm not atall attracted to girls. I have known my best ... A: sounds like you may just be bi curious about girls. do you think you could have a "loving, ... | |
| Mixed Reactions | 1/21/2009 |
| Q: I'm definately bi and recently went to a friends house for a sleepover. This friend of mine is most ... A: i think your idea is ok. the fact that you told him dont mind doing gay stuff is a huge opener and i ... | |
| comming out | 1/20/2009 |
| Q: . im a bisexual 14 year-old and a few of my close close friends know..... but i dont know how to ... A: i guess the best way is to just do it. find a good time when you know either your parents are in a ... | |
| dont know | 1/16/2009 |
| Q: Oregon and will ok here it gose i want to know if im fully on gay or just bI. Cause i love being ... A: its ok and normal to have "sexual" thoughts about the same sex when your young. i wouldnt worry to ... | |
| confused | 1/12/2009 |
| Q: I was not exactly sure how legit this website is, but I thought I would try it out. I am 19 years ... A: i think if its just a curious thing then it would be more of a sexual attraction, just to see whats ... | |
| acceptance from myself | 1/5/2009 |
| Q: Well, not even a week ago I told my nuclear family that I'm bisexual and it went really well. On of ... A: your a smart girl and very open minded. i wish there were more people like you in this world. yes ... | |
| A Long & Confusing Crush/Love | 12/22/2008 |
| Q: So here it is as it lies. I'm 16, a bisexual?/gay male and I've had a crush on an old friend of ... A: i dont think you should go up to him and profess your love for him, that would be bad. i think its ... | |
| Advice | 12/18/2008 |
| Q: I'm 14 and bisexual. I've had a little trouble from people at school, but I can deal with stupid ... A: you sound like a very smart 14 year old! :) it can be tuff when you have parents that do not agree ... | |
| Im confused. | 12/17/2008 |
| Q: Ok well ive had a couple realtionships with girls some serious some not but my big thing is for ... A: i dont think you should tell anyone in your family and probably not even friends at this point. you ... | |
| Reading the signs? | 12/11/2008 |
| Q: Hey, I came out to my best friend that I am bisexual, and she is very understanding, (in fact, she ... A: yes it can be tuff to figure out who is gay or bi or straight. you could let a few people know you ... | |
| im kind of confused | 12/7/2008 |
| Q: ok well heres the thing, im a 14 year old male and since 4th grade ive been having sexuall thoughts ... A: i think you should experiment as much as you can now. if your friend said he doesnt care then i ... | |
| Bi | 11/24/2008 |
| Q: My names Alex (Im a boy) im pretty sure im bisexual well anyways im with this girl but at the same ... A: i dont think you should tell anyone until your sure who you are and know that your family and ... | |
| Am I over reacting because of how I'm being treated? | 11/23/2008 |
| Q: my name is Chris and I'm 15 years old. It's been a bit over a month now since I'ce told my friends ... A: your right and i would not consider them your friends. your friends should respect your privacy. ... | |
| Mixed signals from girls are confusing me | 11/22/2008 |
| Q: I am a 15 year old lesbian and there is a girl (I will call her H) at school who I really really ... A: i wonder if someone doesnt want someone else to know they might be bi or lesbian. i would try and ... | |
| sexuality | 11/21/2008 |
| Q: hi just thought i should ask u this question lately i lost all desire for women and became turned on ... A: it good but it could also just be a phase your going through. i always tell people to experiment ... | |
| i just feel confused. | 10/31/2008 |
| Q: ok...well i know im attracted to girls, but im not sure about calling myself bisexual/lesbian. my ... A: i think thats a great start and i think you should start to hang out with her more if you can. it ... | |
| i just feel confused. | 10/28/2008 |
| Q: ok...well i know im attracted to girls, but im not sure about calling myself bisexual/lesbian. my ... A: i think you could go up to her and start talking to her. just a casual hi to start. see if you can ... | |
| im confused for him | 10/15/2008 |
| Q: omg. have i got a story for you. OK so not to long ago i went on a trip to mexico and met this guy ... A: i think he is probably really confused "and scared" about everything that happened and his feelings ... | |
| i think one of my friends might be gay. | 10/13/2008 |
| Q: i think one of my friends might be gay. i always see him checking out other guys and hunging thim. ... A: i think you should let your friend decide for himself if he is gay or not. its not up to you to let ... | |
| my best friend and I | 10/2/2008 |
| Q: We've been best friends for almost two years now. We started our sexual relationship our senior year ... A: i think you need to start pulling back from her. you are very sexualy attarcted to her so it sounds ... | |
| Confused | 9/28/2008 |
| Q: Hey, I've been confused for a long time now. Im a 17 year old senior in high school that has been ... A: i think experimenting with your sexulity is a good thing. start talking to this guy. let him know ... | |
| just confused about bisexuality | 9/27/2008 |
| Q: well I've liked my childhood friend for about seven years,and he was a guy.Well,7 years later,I was ... A: i think your just bi-curious and maybe are in "lust" for this girl. its ok and normal to have sexual ... | |
| really confused! | 9/20/2008 |
| Q: Ok, well i have a major problem. for the longest ive had this feeling that i like girls. the thing ... A: how old are you? i cant believe how some parents can act to their kids. im sorry your dad does not ... | |
| what is wrong with me??? | 9/10/2008 |
| Q: i'm 13/14 (age) and im a little confused about my sexuality. i like guys n my heart starts poundin ... A: its normal to have sexual thoughts about the same sex. it doesnt mean you are bi or gay. im glad you ... | |
| omg not again!!!! | 9/9/2008 |
| Q: i have had so many crazy love experiences so much that i call may self the love guro and i help ... A: do you know if she is bi or gay? maybe just start by talking as friends with her. thats a great way ... | |
| I'm bi and I don't know what to do with my girlfriend | 8/25/2008 |
| Q: My girlfriend is virtually perfect to me. I can't imagine life without her. I've had girlfriends ... A: maybe its time to breakup with your gf? if you really think you are bi or gay and want to be with ... | |
| Is it illegal? | 8/22/2008 |
| Q: I know that straight sex is illegal before your 16, but is lesbian? I am 12 and I want to have sex ... A: im not an attorney so i dont know what is illegal and was is not. if having sex with a guy at 16 is ... | |
| bisexuality | 8/20/2008 |
| Q: and then my other friend told me that she's bisexual when she saw her hugged me cause she told me ... A: sounds like maybe she has some bi-curious thoughts. maybe find a time when its just the two of you ... | |
| Masturbating | 8/12/2008 |
| Q: First i would like to ask if there are any household objects that i can use for anal masturbation. ... A: hmmm. i would be careful using anything other then a small dildo or vibrator for anal masterbation. ... | |
| datin a guy but i have feelings for a girl | 8/4/2008 |
| Q: ok im datin this really great guy but,this girl i've known sense i was 7yrs old i am attracted to ... A: its normal to have sexual thoughts about the same sex. i think its good to experiment with those ... | |
| whats your opion | 6/28/2008 |
| Q: im Bi and i have a good friend that the last year ive been turned on by him. hes the only one i feel ... A: i dont know, he could be bi or he could just like you as a friend and thats it. its hard to say. ... | |
| gay admirer | 6/19/2008 |
| Q: I just graduated from high school and I just broke up with my girlfriend. After which I went to the ... A: make it very clear to him one more time that you are not wanting a relationship with a guy. if he ... | |
| dreams and reality | 6/12/2008 |
| Q: I have been having this dream where this girl in my hockey team is feeling me and then the scene ... A: no not at all. its normal to have sexual thoughts about the same sex. most girls and guys do at some ... | |
| bi curious | 6/10/2008 |
| Q: well for a long time i would get fantasys about having a guy fuck me. so when my parents went out of ... A: to me being bi means you could fall in love and have an emotional relationship with someone of the ... | |
| I have issues with myself being bi..or maybe even a lesbian? | 6/4/2008 |
| Q: I'm 12 and I've been depressed for almost a year now, because I think I possibly could be bisexual ... A: its normal for young girls and boys to have sexual thoughts about the same sex. i dont think it ... | |
| Am i really bisexual? | 5/29/2008 |
| Q: okay so its been a while now and i think im bisexual i mean i've made out wit about 3 girls ; my ... A: do you think you could fall in love with a girl and be emotional with one? or is it just a sexual ... | |
| i think i like my best firend... | 5/27/2008 |
| Q: ok so heres the thing, im 16 and i have a boyfriend but i think i might like my best friend. (shes a ... A: what did she say when you told her you liked a girl? im just curious how she feels about girls. its ... | |
| HELP! | 5/26/2008 |
| Q: Hey, I'm having a really hard time trying to sort out things. First of all, I'm 16 and attracted to ... A: its ok and normal to have sexual thoughts about the same sex. i believe experimenting with these ... | |
| confusion | 5/18/2008 |
| Q: well im not sure what i like. i think guys and girls are hot. but i have never thought that about ... A: do you think you could be in a loving emotional relationship with a guy? or is just a sexual thing? ... | |
| telling parents | 5/16/2008 |
| Q: ok, ive been bi since i was 8, im 17 now. ive been wanting to tell my parents for a while now, its ... A: at 17 i think you probbaly know if your bi or not. telling your parents is a very hard thing to do. ... | |
| Remaining Friends | 5/14/2008 |
| Q: Around two months ago, my friend and I broke off a fling we had going that last around 4 months. He ... A: yes, i think you should give him his space. let him know you understand his feelings and you dont ... | |
| I've got a big crush on my best friend can you help? | 5/13/2008 |
| Q: I'm a fifteen year old girl and bi. For the past couple of months I've been having feelings for my ... A: i dont know how she would react to you telling her you like her. thats something only you could ... | |
| help! | 5/11/2008 |
| Q: I'm a straight guy, I think. I have waited 18 years for a girl that I can finally have sex with. ... A: its possible he might have the same thoughts. i would bring up the subject with him and say ... | |
| Please Help Me | 5/9/2008 |
| Q: Hey Sandi. I'm a seventeen year old male. I am in love with a real close friend of mine. I think and ... A: look, thinking about killing yourself, drinking a lot, and doing drugs is not the way to "get over" ... | |
| Can you tell who else might like girls | 5/7/2008 |
| Q: I'm 15 I'm pretty much gay and have been all my life. I find it really hard to find anyone like me, ... A: no not really. at 15 it is hard to find someone who is gay without relaly knowing for sure. you can ... | |
| not sure what to do... | 5/4/2008 |
| Q: Ok, my name is shelby. I am 14 and I'm bi. I've already told my friends, and my family. My friends ... A: being bi is not usually something you just start and stop doing. if your unsure whether you are bi ... | |
| How should I.........??? | 4/27/2008 |
| Q: I mean she doesn't really know, but should I just like tell her do you wanna make love? or something ... A: if your unsure if she is gay or bi or straight then dont just go up to her and ask to have sex. it ... | |
| am I /bi-curious/straight | 4/23/2008 |
| Q: mkaa so latley[last 6 months or so] I've been thinking/day dreaming about phisical kinds about guys ... A: if your friend has said he thinks he is bi then i think you should approach him when its just the ... | |
| sooooo confused | 4/14/2008 |
| Q: okay, so i really liked this girl. and she's known about me liking her for a while, and for ... A: i think you should find a time to talk with her alone. call her or talk in person. tell her your ... | |
| gay | 4/13/2008 |
| Q: i think im gay cause theres this guy that is so hot and i dont no wat to do. do u? A: picture yourself falling in love with this guy. kissing him, holding hands, basically all the stuff ... | |
| I'm totally in love with my "straight" friend | 4/12/2008 |
| Q: So, i'm 14 and just a few weeks ago i meet this girl. i totally fell in love with her. i couldn't ... A: i think if your pretty sure she is not bi then i wouldnt tell her you like her. that would really ... | |
| i think i should be a lesbian but?? | 4/11/2008 |
| Q: mail me on rana_haza3@yahoo.com A: the moaning you heard was probably not because of pain but because it felt good. you dont just ... | |
| mixed feelings | 4/10/2008 |
| Q: ) well theres this girl im trying to date but im in a dilemma...shes not single, shes dating this ... A: i think you need to pull back a bit from her. let her know you like her and cant continue to talk ... | |
| question about bi-curiousity | 4/9/2008 |
| Q: okay, im 19. and i am romantically, sexually, emotionally and spirtually attracted to men only. I ... A: i think you are spot on. yes i think you are probably bi-curious and thats it. your friends that ... | |
| i think im Bisexual but im not sure | 4/6/2008 |
| Q: Im only 13 i know its young but im confitent in asking you so here it is... im not sure if im bi or ... A: its normal to have sexual thoughts about the same sex. it doesnt always mean you are bi. i belive ... | |
| ahhhhh | 4/3/2008 |
| Q: hey well im a 16/female n ive been in love with one of my friends for like over a year. im closeted ... A: i think you should let her know you are sorry for making her feel umcomfortable but it was her that ... | |
| our relationship... | 4/2/2008 |
| Q: i'm a 15 yr old girl who's been in a relationship for about 7 months now with my girlfriend. She's ... A: wow...sounds like her uncle is not a very nice guy. if she is 18 is there anyway she can move out? ... | |
| ineed help | 3/30/2008 |
| Q: ive had feelings towards this kid nolan, every time i talk to him i start to sweat and/or ingnore. i ... A: i think you should not say anythin to your friends yet. maybe try "dating" a guy first and see how ... | |
| help pleasee! | 3/29/2008 |
| Q: im Sarah=] I'm 16 years old and have known i was gay for about a year now. I'm tottaly at terms with ... A: finding a gf is not the problem I dont think. how are you going to go out with your friends if they ... | |
| My son | 3/25/2008 |
| Q: I talked with him over the phone today and he says that he does not want to talk about it. Should I ... A: i think you should let your son know you are glad he told you and that you love him no matter what. ... | |
| Too Many Feelings. | 3/9/2008 |
| Q: I am an eighteen year old female. When it comes to sexuality, I know for a fact that I am Bisexual. ... A: if you are unsure if she is bi or not then i wouldnt say anything yet. try and find out if she has ... | |
| what should i do | 3/2/2008 |
| Q: Hey, im 16 female im in love with this girl whos one of my close friends, we go to the same school ... A: i think you should try and find a time when its just the two of you and bring up the subject of ... | |
| Bisexual | 2/29/2008 |
| Q: I am bisexual; I only enjoy making out with girls and nothing more. I like boys also, more than just ... A: you could ask her if she has ever thought about having sex with another girl. see how she reacts. if ... | |
| I don't know wht to do | 2/13/2008 |
| Q: Ok i am bi i know tht for sure i am going out with a chick Jessica and she thinks that i am going ... A: all you can do is tell her the truth. its up to her to believe you or not. you cant make her believe ... | |
| bi | 2/7/2008 |
| Q: i am bi. and i just got outta a relationship wit my first gf. and i wanna look for another girl. how ... A: well i dont think you really do unless the other person says they are or you just ask. if you put ... | |
| Coming Out! | 2/5/2008 |
| Q: Im a sophmore in College and in my junior year of High school i met this girl and we had a thing ... A: i think i would give it some time first before you tell your mom. you are who you are and hopefully ... | |
| Possible Lesbian? Finding girls... | 2/4/2008 |
| Q: Im a 16 year old bi girl. Ive known I was bi for a few years now and recently came out to family, ... A: your at an age right now where your sexuality can be confusing. my advise would be to go out there, ... | |
| help! | 1/21/2008 |
| Q: braah help me out, I'm STRIAGHT but i'm dreaming abot girls...a while ago i kissed a girl and i ... A: i dont think you need to tell your friends. more then likely you are just going through a phase ... | |
| best friend | 1/18/2008 |
| Q: ok so i just started a new high school last yr (as a freshman) and now im a sophomore. its a ... A: you need to be who you are and not worry about the "christian" thing. i know its hard when family ... | |
| Help! Mah. | 1/17/2008 |
| Q: I've known for a long time that I wasn't straight. I came to the conclusion about a year ago that I ... A: i dont think you need to label yourself at all. everyone has different likes and dislikes and their ... | |
| Me coming out | 1/12/2008 |
| Q: Im a 14 year old student. I have alot of friends. Some of them are gay and bi. They proably wouldnt ... A: telling your non gay or bi friends that you are can be very hard sometimes. its a good test to see ... | |
| Help!! | 1/4/2008 |
| Q: Iv had this friend for about 5 years we met in high school and we really understand each other. We ... A: if she is not into girls then i think you might just have to leave it alone. you could say something ... | |
| Help!! | 1/3/2008 |
| Q: Iv had this friend for about 5 years we met in high school and we really understand each other. We ... A: its ok and normal to have sexual thoughts about the same sex. you could be bi or even gay or it ... | |
| Questioning | 12/9/2007 |
| Q: Hey Sandi, I'm 14, but I'm just having some thoughts. I've always found guys attractive & will of ... A: its ok and normal to have sexual thoughts about the same sex. it doesnt mean you are bi or gay. im a ... | |
| a guy i like | 12/3/2007 |
| Q: ok...so there this guy and he's my best friend and i like him a lot...he's 15 and, im 14 and im ... A: does he know your bi? thats a good start to see if he is or not. when your alone with him i would ... | |
| I'm Bisexual and I really like my friend. | 12/1/2007 |
| Q: Well I found out I was bi since I was little. I've always been attracted to guys. It's just now it's ... A: does he know you are bi? maybe you could find a time when its just the two of you and ask him if he ... | |
| How do i find? | 11/28/2007 |
| Q: Hey Sandi, well i am a 15 year old bisexual girl and i really want to have a relationship with a ... A: sorry i dont know of any sites that are for people under 18. i would not recommend you do that ... | |
| hi | 11/16/2007 |
| Q: im 12 and i thought i was bi when i was 11. but i forgot about it for a little bit. when i started 6 ... A: i think your to young to know for sure if your bi or even gay. dont worry about it right now. just ... | |
| Being Bisexual | 11/13/2007 |
| Q: I'm nearly 16 years old and am not really sure about my sexuality but recently I have had really ... A: i wouldnt tell her unless you think you she is bi or gay. its normal to have those thoughts about ... | |
| Doe's he like me? | 11/11/2007 |
| Q: So anyway I've got this friend which i met a year ago hanging out with my one of my "Girl" Friends ... A: sounds like he might kinda like you i dont know. maybe you should find a good time when its just teh ... | |
| I dunno..... | 11/10/2007 |
| Q: Recently I have started wondering if I liked this one girl in my class- we've been friends for ... A: its ok to question your sexuality when your young. its also ok to have fellings towards the same ... | |
| am i bi??? | 11/7/2007 |
| Q: a few days ago my best guy friend and I kissed-it was my first one.At school everything was ok, but ... A: it could very well be a phase. its normal to have sexual thoughts about the same sex when your ... | |
| coming out? | 10/26/2007 |
| Q: well, i'm bisexual, and the only people that know are my exgf, our gay friend, and our best friend. ... A: you really have to know your friends before coming out to them. some will be fine with it and others ... | |
| Gay flirting | 10/21/2007 |
| Q: I am 15 and gay. i go to the gym at least 3 times a week and see tons of hot guys. I want ... A: im not i can help with this question. im not familier with how to get a guy to have sex with you in ... | |
| 1) Gay guy? 2)No hope? | 10/20/2007 |
| Q: Alright, my name is Mailie, and I'm bi...And I have a crush on a boy and one a girl. I'm a little ... A: i dont know if either one is gay or bi. i cant tell just by what you have told me. if your good ... | |
| Not sure if straight or bi | 10/17/2007 |
| Q: I'm a 15 year old guy. I like girls, I had a girlfriend but we broke up just a while back. Anyways ... A: well i dont think i would "hit" on him. play it cool and maybe start a conversation about whether or ... | |
| Not sure if straight or bi | 10/12/2007 |
| Q: I'm a 15 year old guy. I like girls, I had a girlfriend but we broke up just a while back. Anyways ... A: its normal to have sexual thoughts about the same sex when your young. i also think its good to ... | |
| how od i get over this fetish? | 10/7/2007 |
| Q: ok, ive heard form a few places on the internet that usually its straight men who enjoy shemale ... A: first its normal to have sexual thoughts about the same sex. it doesnt mean you are gay or bi. ... | |
| curiosit bout sex. orientation | 9/11/2007 |
| Q: i haven't really crushed on any guys or felt attracted to them ina ny sort of way for the past 5yrs ... A: its ok for boys and girls to have sexual thoughts about the same sex when there young. it doesnt ... | |
| Curious | 9/9/2007 |
| Q: Im Daysha I am 16yrs old and a girl. I am kinda like some of the other people on her I like guys but ... A: i dont believe you have to "pick a side" right now. your young and i think its ok to experiment. in ... | |
| All this so confusing....>.< | 8/27/2007 |
| Q: Well, there's actually a bunch of questions. First of all... - I'm bi and I've been going out with ... A: well i hope your mom wouldnt "shoot" you for being bi. i think the time and situation has to be ... | |
| How Do I Find Girls? | 8/23/2007 |
| Q: I'm a 15 year old girl attending a small private school. There seem to be about 2 gay guys, but ... A: other then trying to bring the conversation up with a girl and trying to find out in an around about ... | |
| bi curiosity | 8/19/2007 |
| Q: In the past I have been attracted to girls sometimes sexually and other times not. i have also done ... A: it can just be a phase or it could be more. i think its normal to have sexual thoughts about the ... | |
| strange feeling inside | 8/18/2007 |
| Q: I have weird feelings inside. I have a strange fetish for hentai and I dont know how it started or ... A: being curious about stuff like that is normal. having sexual thoughts about the same sex is ok too. ... | |
| iam want to know... | 8/16/2007 |
| Q: ok, iam a gay male and iam happy with who iam, i identify and look at my self as a 100% homosexual, ... A: it sounds like you pretty much know who you are and thats great. just remember that we change a lot ... | |
| Just wondering | 8/13/2007 |
| Q: Im 23,married and confused. I met an 18 yr old guy who has a girlfriend. He's a skater guy and alot ... A: now that your married i would have to say NO! :) i talk to a lot of girls and guys my age and the ... | |
| Am I bi? i can't tell. | 8/11/2007 |
| Q: Well Sandi, I have a huge problem! I've been straight my whole life but no, I'm wondering if that is ... A: it could just be a phase. sometimes when your young you have sexual thoughts about the same sex. if ... | |
| Best friends forever | 8/6/2007 |
| Q: I'm a sixteen year old girl, and I've gone through the dating game more than I would have liked. ... A: i think its great that you have found someone like your bf that you can have an intimate and ... | |
| bi | 8/5/2007 |
| Q: ok im bi and i told my really close friend,she took it ok and all she was kool wit hit but i found ... A: i think you should just tell them its none of their business and thats a personal question to ask. ... | |
| Bisexual Teen Coming Out | 8/2/2007 |
| Q: I'm hoping you can answer my question. I'm a 12-year-old bisexual girl. I've known about my ... A: personally i think you should wait till your a little older to tell them. at 12 i think you might ... | |
| I'm straight or BI | 7/30/2007 |
| Q: i'm 18 and have a girl friend that i really care about, but a few months ago my close male friend ... A: i think your just curious. its normal to have sexual thoughts about the same sex. it doesnt mean you ... | |
| am i bi? | 7/27/2007 |
| Q: hey sandi, i just recently met an openly bisexual girl and we are really close friends and for a ... A: could be but its normal to have sexual thoughts about the same sex. you could just be curious. i ... | |
| hi | 7/24/2007 |
| Q: i have been bi for a long time and i want to tell my family but it is hard. when you think i should ... A: if your close to them and you think it will help you to tell them then yes i think you should talk ... | |
| i think im BI | 7/23/2007 |
| Q: so im 14. and im into guuys and girls i mean like i have no problem thinking other girls are hott ... A: its normal to have "sexual" thoughts about the same sex sometimes. it doesnt always mean you are bi ... | |
| hi i have another question | 6/29/2007 |
| Q: I'm 13 and I'm pretty sure I'm bi. i was just wondering what i should be careful of. everyone knows ... A: sexual diseases can be transmitted by more then just normal vagina sex with a guy. you can get ... | |
| bi? | 6/24/2007 |
| Q: my names mica and I'm 13. for the past year i've found it extremely attractive to fantasize about ... A: its normal to have sexual thoughts about the same sex when you are young. if you think you could ... | |
| i cant tell if im bi or lesbian and its killing me | 6/13/2007 |
| Q: i cant tell if im bi or lesbian and i don't know what to do about it please give me some helpful ... A: how old are you? when your young you sometimes have sexual thoughts about the same sex but that ... | |
| i don't know what i want anymore | 6/7/2007 |
| Q: heya I am really confused on what I want. i really like this girl and she may like me too (that ... A: it could be a phase. it could be that you are bi. whatever it might be i would not "worry" about it. ... | |
| weird experince felt towards some one of the same sex | 6/6/2007 |
| Q: I'm a 19 year old women and i was hanging around with my old female friend sunday night and the ... A: it could just be a "lust" or "infatuation" thing. kinda like you might have towards a guy too. it ... | |
| Finding a girl. | 5/30/2007 |
| Q: I'm bi, and I've recently come out to only two VERY close friends. I really want to find a ... A: lexie, i am sorry you find my knowledge lacking but i do not have a magical wand to give you to ... | |
| im confussed!! :( | 5/24/2007 |
| Q: . i don't know whether I'm a lesbian, straight or bi i like girls and if i see a pretty girl i think ... A: its normal to be confused at a young age and have sexual thoughts about the same sex. i belive its ... | |
| how to eat someone out | 5/22/2007 |
| Q: hey, im 16 and ive been "eatin out" alot but ive never given. so i have this new girl friend well we ... A: lets use the term "oral sex". it sounds much better. i think you should be open and honest with your ... | |
| being scared of.... | 5/17/2007 |
| Q: I've been bisexual all my life I'm pretty sure. I'm engaged now to a guy so I can't really do ... A: i dont understand. are you scared of oral sex with a girl? part of being bi or gay is being ... | |
| bisexual or lesbian | 4/21/2007 |
| Q: I'm 20. i think im attractted to both sex. the first time i kiss with a girl is a couple months ... A: its normal to have sexual thoughts about the same sex when your young. i think its good that you are ... | |
| how to tell... | 4/18/2007 |
| Q: Im an18 year old female and recenlty i came out to my friends that i think im bi because i am very ... A: i dont know of any special sign or saying to know for sure if someone is bi. i guess its more of ... | |
| this guy i have a crush on | 4/14/2007 |
| Q: Ok well I'm Bi, and well i don't know how to say this but I'm going to try to make it as easy as ... A: the word "Crush" is imporant here. you have not even talked to this guy or met him but you like him? ... | |
| MASTERBATION enemy or freind | 4/10/2007 |
| Q: Deer sandy i think masterbation is sick (men) cuase cum gets everywhere and im a frid it smells and ... A: well, masterbation is not for everyone. personally i love it and i think it relieves some tension ... | |
| HELP! LOL | 4/1/2007 |
| Q: MY NAME IS LD-J, AND I'M 15 YEARS OLD. I HAVEN'T DONE ANYTHING LIKE THIS BEFORE, SO I'M AFRAID YOU ... A: no online sites are completely safe. i would try myspace.com or craigslist.com or yahoo personals. ... | |
| HELP | 3/29/2007 |
| Q: ever since i was a freshman i have thought i was bi because i have had boyfriends and i am attracted ... A: i believe in finding who you are when you are young and not waiting till your older. you should be ... | |
| I think I'm gay; but I'm not sure at times | 3/26/2007 |
| Q: Hey Sandi. How to put this...I'm a seventeen-year-old guy who is VERY unsure about what he wants. ... A: if you want to talk more here is my email: sandimodel@excite.com i think experimenting is a good ... | |
| Could my 7 year old son be gay? | 3/23/2007 |
| Q: I have got a son who is almost seven now, and since he was about the age of 2, I have noticed he is ... A: well i dont have much experience with knowing how 7 year olds think but my first thought is to make ... | |
| I think my best friend and I are in love with each other | 3/17/2007 |
| Q: I am 19 and I have known my best friend for six years. We have always been close, but I never ... A: i dont know if its love or just "infatuation". but there is just one way to find out. ask her how ... | |
| comming out of the damn closet | 3/16/2007 |
| Q: ok..im 15 and im really,really scared to freak out my mom. shes been a christian for...alot of ... A: what do you think she would do if you told her? would she kick you out of the house at 15? or would ... | |
| My friend | 3/7/2007 |
| Q: Hey, I'm 14, I realized I was bisexual a few months ago when I began to have feelings for one of my ... A: it sounds like maybe he is confused about his feelings. he may just want the sex but does not want ... | |
| How To Date a Bi-Sexual | 2/13/2007 |
| Q: okay there is this girl who is bi and is currently in a relationship with a girl a a guy. The guy ... A: You can try and ask her out sure. The rebound is when the girl is upset about a guy breaking up with ... | |
| my ex | 1/31/2007 |
| Q: im in 8th grade and im bi.ok let me just start from the beggining.....i sorta had this relationship ... A: if she doesnt want to be in a relationship with you then there is really nothing you can do. ... | |
| Gay And Wanna Have Kids | 1/23/2007 |
| Q: Hey Sandi Whenever I think about my orientation I get strange feelings. Sometimes I feel great ... A: just because you are bi or gay doesnt mean you cant have kids. there are plenty of gay people that ... | |
| Can you help me please? | 12/20/2006 |
| Q: I've got guy friends that I like, I've got a girlfriend, my whole family is strictly Christian, and ... A: i dont think you mentioned your age, how old are you? first off let me say this. you can be whatever ... | |
| Bi | 12/8/2006 |
| Q: I am bi, I know this since I like girls... but I also like guys... I just get so nervous when am ... A: you could be or you could just be curious. its normal for young girls and guys to have sexual ... | |
| help me | 10/26/2006 |
| Q: im not sure if im a lesbian. i catch myself watching porn and looking at my friends chest.. but then ... A: its normal to have sexual thoughts when your young about the same sex. it doesnt mean you are bi or ... | |
| help | 10/18/2006 |
| Q: i am a 13 year old girl i dont seam to find boys at all atractive or anything but there is this girl ... A: you need to take it slow with her and try to find out if she is into girls before you ask her out. ... | |
| confusion | 10/17/2006 |
| Q: hey, my names katie i think i might be lesbian because i've been thinking about this girl , day and ... A: you could be but it doesnt have to mean you are gay just because you like a girl in a sexual way. ... | |
| Depression and suicide. Please help | 10/14/2006 |
| Q: I am 18 years old teenage boy and i am gay. i have a very horrible time now :( i am depressed, ... A: i know its easy for me to say but you have to ignore the stupid ignorant kids at school. if your 18 ... | |
| theres a girl i know... | 10/11/2006 |
| Q: Hey, I am a girl 14 years old and i have recently discovered i am possible bi. Over the years there ... A: your in a touch spot. i understand you dont want to ruin your friendship with her. if she is telling ... | |
| how do i tell my parenst and family | 10/7/2006 |
| Q: ..............i have only told one person and that was last night i felt so relived when i told her ... A: i dont know how old you are but how do you really know you are bi or gay? i would hold off on ... | |
| i think im gay but i don t want to be | 10/2/2006 |
| Q: i am 16 now and about 2 years ago a kid that live 2 doors down offered to toss me off and i said yes ... A: its normal to have sexual thoughts about the same sex when your young. it doesnt mean you are gay or ... | |
| help on whether im bi or not | 10/1/2006 |
| Q: um just today i came to the fact that i might be a lesbian or bi, when i thought a woman i work with ... A: its normal to have sexual thoughts about the same sex when your young. i dont believe it means you ... | |
| I think i'm in love with a friend. | 9/27/2006 |
| Q: Hey Since half way though year 10 at school i have felt sexualy attracted to my friend Ben, and now ... A: you could definently be going through a phase. i think its normal to have sexual thoughts about the ... | |
| do you think i am bi? | 9/25/2006 |
| Q: i am a 15 year old girl and i am emotionally attracted to girls. for example when i am around one of ... A: its normal to be "sexually" attracted to the same sex when you are young. but the fact that you are ... | |
| I can't tell if i'm a lesbian or not | 9/14/2006 |
| Q: my name is Maddie and i'm a senior, Well basically i have always known i was attracted to girls, ... A: it sounds to me like you are probably bi. the fact that you want to and like to have an "emotional" ... | |
| would i be gay or bi | 9/13/2006 |
| Q: ok my name is angela and i have a bad history .. when i was 5 i think i was raped by my cousin and i ... A: its normal to have sexual thoughts about the same sex when your young. i think its good to ... | |
| Am I Bi? | 9/3/2006 |
| Q: I masturabate over Lesbian, straight, and gay pornogrphy. I am physically attracted to girls and I ... A: its normal to have sexual thoughts about the same sex when your young. i think its good to ... | |
| aaaaaaaaaaa | 8/28/2006 |
| Q: Hey, Im mike and im 15 my prob is that I like this guy that’s 17 hes goes to my church and ... A: he could be just sexually curious about guys. its hard to say unless you get him to talk about it. ... | |
| need help quick | 8/15/2006 |
| Q: he does all this gay stuff and were allways at each others houses but i just don't know and its ... A: if you dont how he feels about you then you have to take this very carefully. you dont want him to ... | |
| how do i tell him? | 7/30/2006 |
| Q: okay i just got back together w/ my boyfriend but since we broke up i have told my friends and ... A: sounds like he may find out from someone else if you told a lot if people. its much better coming ... | |
| I dunno | 7/28/2006 |
| Q: I dunno if I am bi or just a lesbian... I mean I have talked about it with my friend but shes only ... A: its normal to have sexual thoughts about the same sex at a young age. i think its also good to ... | |
| im bi and dont know how to tell my mom | 7/20/2006 |
| Q: ok, i know im bi-sexual and im completeley comfortable with my sexuality,i just dont know how to ... A: tell her just how you feel. she may try and tell you its not right or it will pass. let her talk and ... | |
| help me | 7/16/2006 |
| Q: hey sandi my question is that i had sex with boy he sucked my dick without condom is that there any ... A: any sexual contact without a condom could transmit std's. did you get any of his cum in your mouth? ... | |
| how to ask a guy to date | 7/14/2006 |
| Q: im bi and this guy i like alot and i mean alot is gay and i want to have a relationship with him but ... A: you could get to know him as a friend first and see if anything happens. that way if he likes you he ... | |
| how to know if my boyfriend is gay? | 7/13/2006 |
| Q: well ive been dating by bf for the past 9months and ive been thinking hes gay,ive kind of had the ... A: well he could be gay for sure but i dont want to label him without really knowing him. if he is not ... | |
| Can I go back | 6/18/2006 |
| Q: I used to be gay phobic. I was effeminite a little but i feel sexually I was 100% hetrosexual. ... A: you are what you are. but you are young and its normal to have sexual thoughts about the same sex. i ... | |
| Bi but unsure | 6/16/2006 |
| Q: I'm 17 years old and I'm unsure of what I am. I refer myself as bi since I am attracted to guys and ... A: there is a differnece with being sexually attracted to guys and having an emotional relationship ... | |
| 18 and Bi in the south | 6/15/2006 |
| Q: I am 17, and will be 18 next month. I have know for years that I am bi but ahve only come to terms ... A: i think the most important thing is to just be open and honest with them. tell them this is just who ... | |
| am i gay | 6/14/2006 |
| Q: well i dont think im gay up until this year i never though i was then i jus sarted hinkin aout it ... A: its normal to have sexual thoughts about that same sex when your young. it doesnt mean you are gay ... | |
| How Do I ... | 6/11/2006 |
| Q: Okie here it is, Im 22 married for 2 years been with my husband since 17... i have always found ... A: cheating is cheating whether its with another girl or a guy. i would recommend you dont do anything ... | |
| totally lost | 6/9/2006 |
| Q: Im really confused to if im bi or not.i've always liked boys, but had a hunch that i liked girls by ... A: you could be but not likely. its normal to have sexual thoughts about the same sex at a young age. ... | |
| I like a male friend but i don't know if he's gay | 6/7/2006 |
| Q: Hey I like this guy at my school were friends but not so close and i like him. But i don't know if ... A: its a touching situtation to be in. you dont want to ruin your frienship by asking him. maybe you ... | |
| i need help | 5/26/2006 |
| Q: A: are you bi or gay? do you know if she is? how old are you? some questions for you..... if you are ... | |
| i dont no if im bi or gay | 5/22/2006 |
| Q: and i look at girls buts and ya you no im talking about but i did more thin to a boy wen i was 9 now ... A: its normal to have sexual thoughts about guys when your young. it doesnt mean you are bi or gay. it ... | |
| Help | 4/24/2006 |
| Q: iv just turned 15 and iv come out about being Bi to some of my closest friends, i have no idea how 2 ... A: i dont know of any chat sites but i would say dont advertise it to everyone. unfortunently there are ... | |
| a guy | 4/20/2006 |
| Q: {they dont look identical tho its weard} and one of them i have a cruch on. one is like popular and ... A: i dont think its "very" lickley he is bi or gay. i dont know of any research that says because they ... | |
| I don't kno what I should do | 3/15/2006 |
| Q: I have been going with my girlfriend for about 2 monthes n I kno what we have is real n I kno she ... A: i think your gf should tell her parents how she feels about you. its important that she is honest ... | |
| Need some help | 3/13/2006 |
| Q: Im a 16 yr old bi teen and i need to know how to get some guys, cos i like being with guys more than ... A: i dont know about the getting into bars if your underage unless you can get an id that says your ... | |
| I'm a little helpless!! | 3/8/2006 |
| Q: Well i'm a nice 17 year old guy and i've always known that I had feeling for other guys. Well I ... A: i would say he is probably interested in you. maybe you should start flirting back and see what ... | |
| My poor poor girlfriend | 3/6/2006 |
| Q: I'm 15 and Bi, and I prefer guys, I think... I have been best friends with Kayla for a year and ... A: i think if you really believe you dont love her as a girlfriend then you should breakup as soon as ... | |
| Bisexuality - Am I? | 2/26/2006 |
| Q: I'm a teenager, most obvious by asking you on a subject of Teen Bisexuality. My friends and I ... A: i wouldnt worry about whether or not you are bi or gay. experiement now and dont worry about it. ... | |
| best friends... | 2/22/2006 |
| Q: im mikayla, im 13 and bi. ive been best friends with this girl for three years, and i started liking ... A: i think you should make it clear to her that you like her as friends. if she told you she is ... | |
| Help?! | 2/11/2006 |
| Q: Hey... I'm Tricia, and I'm nearly 16. I don't know exactly what's going on... All I know is that ... A: its really normal to have sexual feelings towards the same sex when you are young. not everyone does ... | |
| Boyfrends and Coming out | 2/8/2006 |
| Q: Ive been bi for quite some time, and it just recently ive came out to alot of people, except my ... A: i guess it depends if your friends or family would be weird about it if you told them. also, for ... | |
| How do I tell my parents?? | 1/23/2006 |
| Q: Sandi. I am a 14 year old female and I'm openly bi... well, atleast to my friends. But I can't tell ... A: well i would hold off on telling them anything about binding your chest. if they dont already go off ... | |
| Confusion about my orientation | 1/19/2006 |
| Q: I'm a little confused about orientation right now. I'm a boy and I'm only 13 years old. I think I ... A: its normal for boys and girls to have sexual thoughts towards the same sex. it doesnt mean you are ... | |
| well........ | 1/6/2006 |
| Q: ima hard core guy that the girls all like, but just recently a GUY cought my attention, i dont know ... A: i think its shity to act mean to him when your friends are around. maybe you need different friends. ... | |
| bi confussion. | 1/3/2006 |
| Q: Here is my situation. I am 18 and a guy. I have experimented and thought about being Bi for the past ... A: i think you need to experiment with both guys and girls to see what you like. im assuming you are a ... | |
| I can't make friends. | 12/22/2005 |
| Q: My name is Leah and I'm 14 years old. I can't make any friends because everyone knows that I'm gay. ... A: if they cant be your friend for whoever you are then screw them. i wouldnt even call your best ... | |
| Bi-Sexuality | 12/18/2005 |
| Q: It kinda started with yaoi which is boy on boy stuff with anime (japanese animation). I just found ... A: its normal to have sexual thoughts about the same sex. i think you should continue to experiemnt ... | |
| experimenting | 12/11/2005 |
| Q: I am a 16 year old girl. My friend and I are both confused about our sexuality so we've decided to ... A: talk about it first. just let it happen when the time is right. it could tonight or next month. take ... | |
| Lost and confused | 12/4/2005 |
| Q: I am and 18 year old male from Ashland, Oregon and I really need your help. I'm lost. completely ... A: i think you need to be open with your gf. you definently dont want to cheat on her. she will ... | |
| Confused and Alone | 11/30/2005 |
| Q: I'm seventeen. I'm...confused. I think that I've had feelings for girls. A few crushes, not many, ... A: i think you need to stop being hung up on the "am i gay or not thing" your young and should be going ... | |
| Is my friend Bi? I feel attracted to him | 11/21/2005 |
| Q: I am a 14 year old male and i think i am Bi and i have this friend. I have known him for about 3 ... A: thats a hard one. he could just be joking with you and all. its normal for boys and girls to have ... | |
| dear sandi, im a 15 year old... | 11/19/2005 |
| Q: im a 15 year old lesbian, how can i find a girlfriend? school isnt working A: dont try so hard and one will come to you. you could try online but just be careful who you meet. ... | |
| Loneliness and isolation.... | 11/12/2005 |
| Q: Hey, Im sophie and im nearly 16 years old. I have known i was bisexual for a few years now. Last ... A: i think your too lonely and find one person you think you like and then you say your in love. it ... | |
| Do internet relationships work? | 11/3/2005 |
| Q: I am experiencing something that I have not ever really experienced. I have had trouble making and ... A: i would be very carefull with who you meet online. they may not be who they say they are. take it ... | |
| I'm getting mixed messages from a friend... | 10/22/2005 |
| Q: I've known this lad for about a year now, and in the last month or so he has started to act really ... A: let him make the move if he wants to. are you bi or gay? would you want him to make a move on you? ... | |
| Suspence! | 10/17/2005 |
| Q: okay, since I have came out to the public most of the people have accepted it. Well the ones that I ... A: talk to her and let her know how you feel. if she is a true friend then she will understand and stop ... | |
| Suspence! | 10/16/2005 |
| Q: Okay, Well Im a 16 year old female. I have just recently came out to my parents and well everyone. I ... A: i would wait for a bit. maybe a few months. maybe you two are not on the same page in your life ... | |
| Im confused? | 9/6/2005 |
| Q: my name is meg i would really like to know if im bi or not. I mean i find both boys ang girls ... A: its normal to have a crush or have sexual thouoghts about the same sex. i think since you are young ... | |
| help | 8/31/2005 |
| Q: Sandi, i have a question for you. i'm Bi. and i have a crush on my best friend. but i know that shes ... A: just remember its a crush. i would not say anything to your friend at this point. that could hurt ... | |
| being bi | 8/21/2005 |
| Q: I'm a 19-yr-old guy--thanks for taking the time to read this. When I'm out I'm always checking ... A: its possible that you will not always have these feelings towards guys. its normal to have sexual ... | |
| How to support my gay son | 7/2/2005 |
| Q: .. I have come across your site/link... I am a mom of a 15 yr old son who at first thought he was bi ... A: just help to support him and be there for him if he wants to talk. i dont think you should "help" ... | |
| am i just going through a phase? | 6/20/2005 |
| Q: Hey I am 14 and I am wondering about if I am bi or lesbian or just going through a phase. see, in ... A: its normal to have feelings towards the same sex. it doesnt mean you are bi or gay. usually girls ... | |
| how do i tell | 6/1/2005 |
| Q: A: do you think you could "fall in love" with some one of the same sex? i think thats the main question ... | |
| bisexuality | 5/20/2005 |
| Q: hey, I am a bi 13 year old who does not fit the stereotype of a bi dude at all. I play football, ... A: tell your mom how you feel about her. gather your feelings and think about what u want to say to her ... | |
| am i bi? | 5/12/2005 |
| Q: im so confused......i don't know if im bi of not. i keep having these thoughts about other girls and ... A: you could be bi but i wouldnt worry about it right now. how old r u? its very normal for young girls ... | |
| Im confused. | 10/28/2004 |
| Q: Hey there please help me! Im 16. I have had many relationships in the past with girls and have had ... A: Ben, Its normal for young guys and girls to have an interest in the same sex. I dont think it means ... | |
| how do i know | 10/21/2004 |
| Q: I am really attracted to guys i love guys and sex too but sometimes i fantasize about sex and other ... A: Jackie, If you think you could ever have a "relationship" with a girl then I would say maybve you ... | |
| Confused!!! | 9/9/2004 |
| Q: I had a sexual experience with one of my girl mates wen i 13 n thought it to be jus an experiment, i ... A: Hey Lorny, Its normal to have sexual feelings towards the same sex at your age. It doesnt mean you ... | |
| ...i think im bi.. | 9/8/2004 |
| Q: hey sandi whats up? i sorta have a problem, see: well first off i luv gurls they are very beautiful ... A: Its normal to be sexually attracted to the same sex at a young age. It doesnt mean you are bi or ... | |
| i just came out and i'm 14 | 8/31/2004 |
| Q: Hey i'm 14 yrs own. i've been wondering if i was bi for i while i knew that i liked boys but then i ... A: I think you are definently to young to know if you are bi or gay. Experiement and have fun at your ... | |
| bisexual issue | 8/25/2004 |
| Q: I am a 23 year old bisexual female. Not a teen as you can see, but it was the only category I could ... A: My advice would be to let your girlfriend handle it. You've already told him before that she has no ... | |
| bi | 8/5/2004 |
| Q: i was wondering what is a bi-teen. because i know there is a gay and a straight but what is a ... A: In my opinion a bi person is someone who can have an emotional relationship with the either sex. If ... | |
| Gay ? | 6/19/2004 |
| Q: 1.What is the difference between Gay n Lesbian? 2. How can u help if I am straight ? 3. Which of the ... A: Sometimes people use the term gay for "men" and lesbian for "girls". There really is no difference. ... | |
| bi | 5/5/2004 |
| Q: Sandi I'm thinking of having sex with my older sister, she said it was ok, I'm 13 she's 18 and I was ... A: Hey Andy, I'm not sure why you asked this under the "bi" section. Are you male or female? As far ... | |
| my boyfriend is bi | 4/11/2004 |
| Q: ok! well i'm not bi, or les but my boyfriend is . i dunno if u can help me or not but its wroth a ... A: Your boyfriend is just wanting to experiment a little. He may be bi or gay but just doesnt know it ... | |
| my bisexuality/sexuality conflict | 4/9/2004 |
| Q: your answer really helped me, but I dont know is it healthy to supress urges to find guys sexually ... A: Brandon, If you think you may be with another guy while with your girlfriend then I would break up ... | |
| my bisexuality/sexuality conflict | 4/8/2004 |
| Q: I am 19 and in college. I have always been with girls ( meaning having girlfriends, but also ... A: I'm glad to hear that you have experimented with guys before. I think its good when you are young to ... | |
| bi? | 4/4/2004 |
| Q: i am begaining to wonder if i am bi or bi-curious. I have started having fantasys about making out ... A: Its normal for us to have sexual thoughts about the same sex. It doesnt mean you are bi but just ... | |
| gy | 2/12/2004 |
| Q: I once asked you if I was normal since i had started some time ago noticing things about other boys ... A: In my opinion gay is when you start liking another boy emotionally. Like falling in love with him. ... | |
| Am I lesbian? | 7/3/2003 |
| Q: Lately I've been looking at girls who would look good to guys in a way I never used to and I've been ... A: No, your not a lesbian. Just because you find girls attractive doesn't mean anything at this point. ... | |
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