Gay/Lesbian Issues/Top or Bottom?


Could you explain me please.. what determinates a man to be either top or bottom?
Thank you...


Thank you for your question. Firstly, there are varying definitions of being a top or a bottom. For some people it means what position you prefer (top being the perpetrator and the bottom being the receptive partner) or it can mean who is more dominant and who is more submissive.

There are some theories why one prefers to be a top or bottom. Some people its simply because it feels better. Some people enjoy penetration rather being penetrated and vice versa. What position you prefer is not connected necessarily to gender expression as there are those who express themselves more feminine and prefer to top and there are masculine men who prefer to bottom.

Another theory is has to do with feeling more vulnerable. When one is a bottom, some say that you feel vulnerable which requires trust in yourself and with your partner. Others don't want to feel that kind of vulnerability and so they prefer to top.

Lastly, there are theories about sexual orientation. In some cultures, being a top does not equate to being a gay person.

So as you can see there many theories why one is a top or bottom, or even versatile (enjoy topping and being a bottom).

Hope that information helps.

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Dr. Reece Malone

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I can answer questions on sexual orientation, gender identity, gay, lesbian, bisexual, transgender and transsexual sexuality (youth and adult), coming out and disclosure, transgender and gender-non conformity including transition process, how to support a partner of someone GLBT, sexuality and faith/spirituality/religion, safer sex and harm reduction, comprehensive sexuality education, and questions from service providers working with LGBT individuals and families.


I'm currently a full time sexuality educator and facilitator specializing in sexual orientation and gender identity. I hold the positions of the Education Program Coordinator at the Rainbow Resource Centre (supporting LGBTTQ individuals, families and allies) as well as clinical sexologist at Four Rivers Medical Clinic in Winnipeg, Manitoba, Canada. My roles include: sexuality education, counseling/therapy, media spokesperson and consultant. I have sat on several non-profit sexuality organizations as well as been a consultant to the World Health Organization/Pan American Health Organization as well as the Public Health Agency of Canada. For more information visit:

American Association of Sexuality Educators Counselors and Therapists, The Society for the Scientific Study of Sexuality, The American College of Sexologists, The Canadian AIDS Information Treatment Exchange, The Canadian Professional Association for Transgender Health, The Sexual Health Educator's Network (Manitoba), The International Society for Sexual Medicine.

Malone, R. (2010). "ShoutOut Against Homophobia, Biphobia, Transphobia and Heterosexism." Rainbow Resource Centre. Winnipeg, Canada. Malone, R. et al (2010). "Your Questions Answered. Gender Identity in Schools." Public Health Agency of Canada. Ottawa, Canada.

Undergradate degree in sociology - specialized focus on human sexuality Masters of Public Health (Sexology) Doctorate of Human Sexuality

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