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| Subject | Date Asked |
| My relationship | 1/4/2012 |
| Q: my gf and i have been together for almost 2 years. We get along great shes my best friend and iove ... A: I am so sorry to hear about your situation with your girlfriend's family. My advice is that if you ... | |
| trust | 9/30/2011 |
| Q: would like to ask you for some advice on a matter. My boyfriend remains friends with his ex who is ... A: Have you considered the fact that Gareth confided in your boyfriend not to tell anyone their secret? ... | |
| Lesbianism in India | 9/28/2011 |
| Q: First of all my heartiest apology for long e mail but i realy need your help.. I'm from India n ... A: I'm so sorry to hear about your situation. It sounds like she is definitely exploring a brand new ... | |
| Amigo gay | 8/31/2011 |
| Q: Hola, soy un joven de 19 años, bisexual. Tuve una relación sentimental con otro chavo que se llama ... A: Hola Isac, Que bueno que ya sabes la situación con Carlos tiene que ver con su aceptación de él ... | |
| I told her I like her | 8/11/2011 |
| Q: I told my same sex friend that I like/want to date her. I've liked her for about 2 yrs and I ... A: I would recommend giving her some space, even if she is attracted to you. It seems like she might ... | |
| very confused | 7/25/2011 |
| Q: ive been married almost 8 years, have a 4 yr old son and my marriage have been breaking up for a ... A: This is a very difficult situation, and there are no easy answers. Your son will be no more hurt in ... | |
| first time sex | 7/16/2011 |
| Q: I am going to have penetrating sex for the first time. I want to be able to enjoy been penetrated ... A: Assuming you are over 18 years of age, there are several websites that can explain how to prepare ... | |
| Am I bi or gay? | 7/2/2011 |
| Q: I'm 15 and I've just come out to my friends and my main family as bi. They are all excepting of it ... A: Don't worry about labels -- a lot of young people first feel they are bisexual and, with the passing ... | |
| Saber quien soy...ahora o nunca | 5/5/2011 |
| Q: Hola Brandon Es muy difícil preguntar esto, espero que me puedas ayudar. Soy una chica de 26 años y ... A: Hola Alejandra, Creo que lo dificil para nosotros es primero aceptarnos para quienes somos. Aunque ... | |
| Friendly OR Flirty? | 3/4/2011 |
| Q: .. So, I work in this restaurant in WeHo as a server and every Sunday this one group comes in.. A ... A: ) Wow, that's quite an interesting experience. I honestly don't know either. As you say, it's not ... | |
| Asking an intimidating coworker out? | 2/17/2011 |
| Q: I work in a health setting where there are different departments in one building. There is a guy ... A: Someone who is hot and cold like that is just as likely to be receptive to a dinner invitation as he ... | |
| Unaccepting parents who claim to be accepting | 1/21/2011 |
| Q: I am seventeen and I recently came out of the closet a year ago. I am an open lesbian and my mother ... A: Despite the positive images portrayed in the media, unfortunately for many parents they are unable ... | |
| I'm really confused about my sexuallity | 11/25/2010 |
| Q: okay so i'm 15yrs old and im really confused. After i discovered that gay porn turns me on i labeled ... A: I would say two things. First, stay away from the drugs. Being a teenager is confusing enough ... | |
| 20 years old, not out and in a private relationship | 10/20/2010 |
| Q: Ok I don't really know how to start this off so I'm just going to dive right in. I'm a 20 year old ... A: Now is the time for courage. If your boyfriend has been accepted by your group of friends, that's a ... | |
| Could he be gay? | 8/24/2010 |
| Q: I'm a 25 year-old girl. I've known this 26 year-old guy for 15 years now, we were never really close ... A: You may be correct in assuming that your friend may be gay or bi. Unfortunately, only he can answer ... | |
| women's beauty vs men | 8/15/2010 |
| Q: Why are naked women viewed as beautiful and naked men viewed as gross? Lesbians are viewed as sexy, ... A: I think this is an interesting construct that originated in the modern Church. During this time, ... | |
| Gay teens boys experiences | 6/14/2010 |
| Q: I'm a 15 year-old gay boy and I have a friend who i am 99% sure is gay. I want to flirt with him. ... A: As a wise teacher once told our class, "do not have sexual relations until you are both mature ... | |
| Do I entertain a relationship with a gay man? | 6/7/2010 |
| Q: Brandon, I have thoroughly enjoyed your responses and recognize you may have some helpful advice. ... A: which I believe has been the secret way of life for hundreds in this country. You have made many ... | |
| Ref: question | 6/4/2010 |
| Q: Good day As a man currently searching for work, i come across gay men at times. I dont exactly know ... A: One's sexuality is just one part of a man's life. I am assuming you overheard a conversation, or ... | |
| Being gay and being a Christian? | 6/3/2010 |
| Q: I was just wondering, is being gay a sin? It really worries me because I think I might be gay (I am ... A: You are right. You can spend years researching this topic and get a million answers, so no wonder ... | |
| Is my husband gay? | 6/2/2010 |
| Q: I think my husband might be gay. My husband was raised in a very tightly knitted Christian house ... A: You are right to be suspicious, as his attitude towards sex seems very skewed. Honestly, it seems ... | |
| Masturbation | 5/23/2010 |
| Q: I was wondering if you might know whether or not if it's true that gay guys masturbate more than ... A: I am not aware of any scientific studies done on this particular question. I think most people ... | |
| gay/lesbian marriages | 4/16/2010 |
| Q: i was wondering if you could please give me a feedback on how the economy views/ affects gay and ... A: Well, this is a very complex issue, and my best advice is to do some research online to find more ... | |
| Gay, Straight, or Bi...need an answer | 4/6/2010 |
| Q: This is an issue that has been really consuming me for the last four years. I never really felt ... A: During our lives, especially during our teen years, we may experience a wide variety of confusing ... | |
| Sexuality is confusing | 3/20/2010 |
| Q: I'm a 31 year old straight professional woman (not married but hoping to settle down and raise a ... A: I don't think you should worry too much. The fact is many gay men also enjoy watching straight porn ... | |
| am i crushing on my best friend? | 2/28/2010 |
| Q: im 16 years old and a lesbian. my best friend is bisexual. ive known her for about 3 years, and am ... A: My honest opinion... yes, you have a crush on your best friend. It's ok to have crushes...but as in ... | |
| oral sex recieving | 2/15/2010 |
| Q: why cant i resist oral sex,once it started i feel obliged to go all the way ANSWER: Dear Jef, ... A: There is a slight risk of some STD infection through receiving unprotected oral sex, such as herpes, ... | |
| oral sex recieving | 2/12/2010 |
| Q: why cant i resist oral sex,once it started i feel obliged to go all the way A: This question doesn't seem to be a very deep personal issue. Nevertheless, all males, regardless of ... | |
| Relationship's over but he wants to remain friends | 2/5/2010 |
| Q: Good Afternoon Brandon, My other half of many years (18) decided to end our relationship and on a ... A: First of all, my sincerest condolences on the break-up. Eighteen years is quite an accomplishment ... | |
| Am i the other woman? | 1/31/2010 |
| Q: I am in love with my co-worker who has a girlfriend. When my ex and I broke up she was always there ... A: That's a very hard choice to make, and frankly, I really don't know which I would choose if I were ... | |
| Am i the other woman? | 1/31/2010 |
| Q: I am in love with my co-worker who has a girlfriend. When my ex and I broke up she was always there ... A: First of all, let me advise you to err on the side of caution. As I am sure you have considered, an ... | |
| Gay Experience? | 1/6/2010 |
| Q: For as long as I have known, I have been very attracted to girls. I can remember girls being very ... A: If this experience happened only once or twice during adolescence, I think you have nothing to worry ... | |
| My best friend | 1/6/2010 |
| Q: my name is Eric and i think i might be gay but, the problem is that i like LOVE my best friend. ... A: At your age, I think having best friends is much more important than trying to establish romantic ... | |
| is my wife a lesbian? | 1/1/2010 |
| Q: My wife just told me that she is no longer attracted to me, and she think it because she is gay. She ... A: It is normal to feel depressed, anxious, and worried. Breaking up with someone you genuinely love ... | |
| is my wife a lesbian? | 1/1/2010 |
| Q: My wife just told me that she is no longer attracted to me, and she think it because she is gay. She ... A: Obviously, I cannot answer on behalf of your wife. I can only offer speculation and suggestions. ... | |
| is my wife a lesbian? | 1/1/2010 |
| Q: My wife just told me that she is no longer attracted to me, and she think it because she is gay. She ... A: I think it is likely she has held these feelings for quite some time, and finally realized that she ... | |
| ayuda | 11/1/2009 |
| Q: I wanted to know your opinion: I am a 46 years old man living in Venezuela, married with two ... A: First, I will answer your questions, and then I will give you my opinion on the issue as a whole. ... | |
| gay or been gay? | 10/6/2009 |
| Q: Ok, here it is. My boyfriend does his hair more than I do. He straightenes his hair sometimes and ... A: No, some men, depending on the kind of culture or subculture that they were raised in, will use ... | |
| How long should I wait to tell my best friend that I am in love with her? | 10/5/2009 |
| Q: I am a 41 year old female who has 2 grown children and was married once but now divorced and my best ... A: This is always a tough one. Maybe the first thing is to just ask her a personal"Are you gay?" That ... | |
| Working out my sexuality | 10/1/2009 |
| Q: Before you say it, I know: only I can ever decide what to label my sexuality, or if I want to reject ... A: I don't mind answering this question, but be prepared for quite a long answer! In reality, it was a ... | |
| Working out my sexuality | 9/28/2009 |
| Q: Before you say it, I know: only I can ever decide what to label my sexuality, or if I want to reject ... A: Although in this day and age, many kids realize their sexuality during puberty, for many of us, it ... | |
| I'm broken. | 9/28/2009 |
| Q: I'm was a 21 year old, straight girl. I grow up in a very strict, religious and well-respected ... A: Any breakup is a very emotional time, especially if you truly loved that person. However, in this ... | |
| is my husband gay or bi | 9/18/2009 |
| Q: I. have been with my husband for 6 years. When I first me him he was extremely sexual and had a ... A: Unfortunately, the issue of bipolarism is beyond my expertise. I would suggest asking this question ... | |
| my friend found out that I have a crush on him. | 9/13/2009 |
| Q: Hey, I will first give you a brief history of me. I am 16 years old turning 17 next year. I was ... A: Well, coming out is a process, and you shouldn't feel that you have to come out to anyone, including ... | |
| Am I confused or naive??? | 9/11/2009 |
| Q: I am not sure exactly how to go about this so I'll just jump right in. I chose to ask you this ... A: I am so sorry for your situation, and hope I can provide some insight or advice for you. It sounds ... | |
| Escorts and the art of suduction | 9/10/2009 |
| Q: I have a very complicated issue first off and I need to say I have been diagnosed with Bi-polar ... A: This technically falls outside the realm of this category, but I feel this piece of advice could be ... | |
| Gay & Lesbian Relationships | 8/16/2009 |
| Q: Over the years I have heard that in general most gay men are very promiscious whether they are in a ... A: This rumor has been circulating for quite some time. Unfortunately, no in-depth scientific study ... | |
| In lovewith my best friend | 7/31/2009 |
| Q: I live in Honduras, I met this girl, Cynthia she is 18. Im 19. Since december we've been friends, ... A: If you are the same person who wrote me not long ago, and this is the same girl you have a crush on, ... | |
| ♥kasey♥ | 6/16/2009 |
| Q: ok I'm 13 & gay.i'm out to like 7 of my friends.im including kasey.she is one of my best friend.the ... A: Don't worry, you are normal! As you grow through your teenage years, you will find that the urges ... | |
| CONFUSED STRAIGHT LADY!!!!!!! | 6/14/2009 |
| Q: My bestfriend and I used to work at the same company. We did a lot of business travel together. I ... A: I think you have analyzed this situation well, and I would indeed tell her that you are flattered, ... | |
| We both flirted | 6/14/2009 |
| Q: I have been knowing this woman for a year we became friends quickly.I really like her. I bought her ... A: Now, I think, may be the time for honesty. You can tell her how you enjoy her friendship, and maybe ... | |
| just curious on how to approach my brother | 6/4/2009 |
| Q: My little brother who is 18 years old is always on his computer. He has seemed to always be a ... A: A lot of people feel they are tolerant, and then it happens that they discover a member of their own ... | |
| just curious on how to approach my brother | 6/4/2009 |
| Q: My little brother who is 18 years old is always on his computer. He has seemed to always be a ... A: If I can offer one piece of advice at this moment in time, it would be this: leave the situation ... | |
| confused | 6/1/2009 |
| Q: I use to know this girl and when i first saw her i felt very atttracted to her i never had such ... A: and thank you for your question. It is very difficult to know what will happen with this situation. ... | |
| We both flirted | 5/28/2009 |
| Q: I have been knowing this woman for a year we became friends quickly.I really like her. I bought her ... A: I think this is a win-win situation. You can wait for her to make the next move, or you can simply ... | |
| We both flirted | 5/27/2009 |
| Q: I have been knowing this woman for a year we became friends quickly.I really like her. I bought her ... A: I can offer my opinion, and I would say, yes, she does want a relationship with you. But it may ... | |
| lesbians | 5/23/2009 |
| Q: Now that being said me and the girl i work with have formed a bond over the year and are realy ... A: Well, if you are implying she is interested in you in a sexual way, then that would make her a ... | |
| Breakup Blues | 5/20/2009 |
| Q: ok heres the situation... I have been with this woman for 5 years. we just recently broke up. We ... A: This is one of those situations where your mind tells you one thing and your heart tells you ... | |
| Confused!!!! | 5/17/2009 |
| Q: Hey, Recently ive grown really close to 1 of my mates who ive known only a few months since i ... A: Many of us have been in those "infatuated" situations before. To be honest, they usually do not ... | |
| rock bottom | 5/10/2009 |
| Q: i have been with my alcoholic bf for 9 yrs..in the that time he has lied to me..cheated on me, and ... A: The pain of a relationship where one is hooked on alcohol or drugs is very real and difficult. It ... | |
| Fell for my best friend | 5/5/2009 |
| Q: After months, I finally told my best friend that I had a crush on her. I'm female too. Now she is ... A: Workplace crushes can be tricky, as you have discovered. For now, I would let the awkwardness die ... | |
| parent names issue | 5/3/2009 |
| Q: I hope you can help, my partner and i are wanting to start a family but we have issues over what the ... A: Of course, the final decision of this will depend on you and your partner's decision. I, too, am at ... | |
| question | 4/20/2009 |
| Q: I'm a (straight) female, I'm 31 years old, and I used to model part time. I have a lot of gay male ... A: In answer to your questions, I would say that these men are indeed feeling very comfortable with you ... | |
| in love with my straight friend | 4/18/2009 |
| Q: I live in Honduras...as you might know people down here do not accept gay relationships. i met this ... A: I know it can be very tough in Honduras. Thankfully, society is changing, although very slowly. I ... | |
| reaction | 4/12/2009 |
| Q: I'm a 27 year old straight woman. I am attracted to men emotionally and sexually and physically and ... A: Only you can determine your true sexuality which can range from being 100 heterosexual to 100 ... | |
Gay/Lesbian Issues
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Brandon
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Expertise
Sometimes a person feels that he or she cannot accept being gay because of his religion or his culture. I can answer questions related to religion, coming out, and society/culture in either English or Spanish.
Experience
I am a gay Christian who has lived in both the U.S. and Mexico. I was raised Southern Baptist.
Education/Credentials
None in this particular area.
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