| Subject | Date Asked |
|
| Is my boyfriend gay? | 7/31/2008 |
Q: I am 51 years old and my boyfriend is 50. He has been single for the last 20 years except for a ...
A: I apologize for the delay in getting back to you. Work has had me at my wits end and I wanted to be ...
|
| Help | 7/26/2008 |
Q: In my club alot of the cadets knew i was gay but some how it got out and my cadet leader took me ...
A: There is a broad range of expression regarding being gay, just as there is a broad range of ...
|
| rejection and denial | 7/25/2008 |
Q: I have had an emotional affair for 4 yrs with a good friend. She has flirted and stared at me from ...
A: I'm very sorry to hear that this has happened to you. How strange after all that has gone on. ...
|
| i found gay porn on my boyfriends computer | 7/5/2008 |
Q: i was looking something up on my boyfriends computer and a site poped up with transexuals on it i ...
A: Speaking from experience, most men are horndogs and porn is par for the course. The fact that he's ...
|
| makingout with my bff | 6/29/2008 |
Q: I have always been very attracted to boys. but when it came to kissing them, i really wanted to but ...
A: Since you have depression and use cutting as a means of release, do you have a counselor or mental ...
|
| Ex-Girlfriend problems x 2 | 6/19/2008 |
Q: I need to try and sort my life out or i really don't know what i am going to do or where i am going ...
A: The main issue that I see is that your ex ex is not going to affirm anything. She didn't during ...
|
| am i gay if i want ot date a ftm | 6/18/2008 |
Q:
A: It's very hard to answer your question. Orientation goes beyond just attraction and you are at the ...
|
| Can absence of physical attraction change in a relationship | 3/26/2008 |
Q: I am a gay man in my 40s. A few months ago I met a wonderful guy in his late 20s on an Internet ...
A: Morning Ben: Thank you for providing the additional details. I agree with your assessment that the ...
|
| Can absence of physical attraction change in a relationship | 3/24/2008 |
Q: I am a gay man in my 40s. A few months ago I met a wonderful guy in his late 20s on an Internet ...
A: Sorry to hear about your current situation. Let me answer your question, then jump into what I ...
|
| Wanting to get back together with my Ex. | 3/15/2008 |
Q: I am a 23 year old guy that has been dating a 21 year old guy for the past 6 weeks. I am on a hiatus ...
A: LOL, I'm a Virgo as well and . . . um . . . er . . . we are an intense and passionate lot. I think ...
|
| Wanting to get back together with my Ex. | 3/15/2008 |
Q: I am a 23 year old guy that has been dating a 21 year old guy for the past 6 weeks. I am on a hiatus ...
A: I do have an answer for you, but it is an answer to the broader question. The way I see it, ...
|
| gay relationships and love | 2/21/2008 |
Q: my name is charming, and i have a big issue with a boy. I met this boy in a club and he name is ...
A: Based on the information that you provided all I see in the future re: Chris are problems and ...
|
| My Boyfriend | 2/5/2008 |
Q: I am a 41 year old woman who was married to an abusive man for 18 years and finally got the courage ...
A: Congratulations on finally getting out of a bad relationship and having the courage to fall in love. ...
|
| sexless marriage | 1/26/2008 |
Q: we've been married for 6 years....sex was often during first 1-2 years. now it has diminished ...
A: Well if he won't go to counseling, the you have two options. 1. Leave and rebuild your life with ...
|
| Sex. . . | 1/26/2008 |
Q: I am a 21 year old male and have a fiancee (female) and I want to have sexual relationships with a ...
A: It depends on the man. You could post on the internet in one of the gay chatrooms/systems. Or you ...
|
| sexless marriage | 1/26/2008 |
Q: we've been married for 6 years....sex was often during first 1-2 years. now it has diminished ...
A: Your partner is having some serious issues and is in denial about it. Couples counseling or therapy ...
|
| Friend problems | 1/23/2008 |
Q: I have two friends ones a Bi and the other is a lesbian,now that is not the problem the problem is ...
A: You need to nip it in the bud otherwise you will blow. Tell her that you don't appreciate her ...
|
| Gay or not | 1/7/2008 |
Q: Icannot get an erection with my girlfriend but i can when i watch gay porn am1t4pg i Gay
A: Greetings Robert: It takes more than getting hard by watching porm to define yourself as gay. Some ...
|
| Lesbian Relationship | 12/29/2007 |
Q: I am a 23 year old mother and I date a 26 year old woman. After my husband and I split apart I ...
A: I understand your desire for companionship and comfort, but what you have with your current ...
|
| I NEED HELP | 12/28/2007 |
Q: i am in need of serious help, i am a 16 year old male, about 4 years ago i had gay experiences with ...
A: It sounds like the other lad has some firm opinions about who you are and what you should be doing. ...
|
| I think he is skitzophrenic and gay? | 11/27/2007 |
Q: I met a guy on the internet about 3 years ago. I left him due to alcohol abuse and bad temperment. ...
A: You have a very serious situation at home. I'm not so concerned about the possibility of him being ...
|
| She won't talk to me... | 11/22/2007 |
Q: I'm a lesbian I've been dating my girlfriend for 1yr and 5mo. Lately, Shes been getting mad and ...
A: It sounds like you have a complicated situation. Talking on the phone about important things is a ...
|
| Should I tell her how I feel? | 11/6/2007 |
Q: My ex and I have had our fair share of ups and downs.Break ups.And Absolute disasters.Now we are ...
A: From what you've said, the relationship has been on again, off again. Also, now that you are aloof ...
|
| help? | 10/13/2007 |
Q: I am so confused right now, and i honestly do not know what to think or even how to feel. My ...
A: The best thing that you can do is take care of yourself. You can't change or fix things for her. ...
|
| lost fiance and his best friend | 10/12/2007 |
Q: my name is matt, about 7 months ago I ended a 2 year relationship not because i wasnt in love or ...
A: I'm so sorry to hear about your breakup. Given the details that you outlined you were right to get ...
|
| relationships | 10/7/2007 |
Q: I have a great relationship with the woman. We've been going out as friends, we've gotten close and ...
A: Here are some websites with tips: http://www.lesbianhealthinfo.org/your_health/coming_out_tips.html ...
|
| relationships | 10/7/2007 |
Q: I have a great relationship with the woman. We've been going out as friends, we've gotten close and ...
A: It's quite possible that your friend has not said anything because she's afraid to lose your ...
|
| Friend might not be straight | 10/5/2007 |
Q: I am a 26 year old gay man and live with my 22 year old best friend. We are really close and he is ...
A: Heya Mike: Thanks for the detailed background. I agree that you can't ask your friend if he's ...
|
| My Wife, soon to be Ex-wife, is having issues with Living a gay life... | 9/14/2007 |
Q: I am 26 years old and my partner is also 26. We have been friends for over 12 years, have been ...
A: It sounds like your wife is going through a little bit of an identity crisis. It may help to have ...
|
| I think my boyfriend is gay or bi. | 8/30/2007 |
Q: I've been dating this guy for about a year now. Recently I've noticed he has been looking at ...
A: I don't know whether he's gay, bi, or simply curious. Thing is, it sounds the what he's doing ...
|
| attracted to men, but not sexually | 8/20/2007 |
Q: I'm a 60 y.o. man who has always been sexually attracted to women and the idea of sex with men is a ...
A: Based on the information that you provided I suspect that, given the lack of sexual attraction, what ...
|
| some thoughts and clarification please | 8/19/2007 |
Q: ok. I wrote you guys a while ago. I was going through some pretty heavy stuff then. I imagine the ...
A: It sounds like you love women, but there are sexual activities that you enjoy with men. It also ...
|
| confused. | 8/12/2007 |
Q: Alright, I dated boys, but never felt any kind of attraction to them. Although, I've never dated a ...
A: You don't need to take on any labels if you don't want to. At the moment you know that the reality ...
|
| was i wrong to give an ultimatum or stand my ground? | 8/12/2007 |
Q: i had written you before with this topic heading. i thank you for your speedy response. i am moving ...
A: Actually, everything would have been fine if your ex could have kept her pants on and her hands to ...
|
| was i wrong to give an ultimatum or stand my ground? | 8/10/2007 |
Q: i was in a same sex relationship. i am a woman who was dating another woman. i caught her in bed ...
A: While it really doesn't matter what I think, I don't believe that you did the wrong thing. You feel ...
|
| gay | 8/9/2007 |
Q: I am a very happily married man with a great sex life and a very sexy wife. I do not know if I am ...
A: You have a touchy situation. You are happily married and bringing this subject up with your wife ...
|
| I think my husband is gay. | 7/29/2007 |
Q: I have been married for a little more than 5 years to a wonderful man; but I have felt for at least ...
A: The stereotypes mean nothing. What is most important is that there are issues with your sexual ...
|
| The Mother In-law (sorta) | 7/16/2007 |
Q: Ok here is my question, I have been with the same guy for the past 10 months and love him very much, ...
A: Ah man, do I feel for you. Been in a similar situation, but not to the point where you are at. I ...
|
| Fall in love with a gay man... | 7/13/2007 |
Q: I met him 2 weeks ago at the university. He is one of our Professor. We are pretty close to each ...
A: There is really no way to tell unless he discloses. The more pressing problem is that all ...
|
| I dont know | 7/8/2007 |
Q: I am 18 years old.I have had many strange feelings over the last 5 years.I know that i like girls ...
A: I don't think that your feelings are strange. In fact there's a world of men who enjoy what you do. ...
|
| Am I Gay? | 7/6/2007 |
Q: I'm 14 and sort of confused here; I'm not sure about my sexuality. I am sexually attracted to guys, ...
A: You are a typical teenager going through puberty. Your hormones are more than likely kicking into ...
|
| Concerns | 6/23/2007 |
Q: I have been seeing my best friend since January and we really like care so much about each other and ...
A: Greetings Chase: I am assuming that your question is how to stop being sexually active with others ...
|
| I found true happiness but need help making sure I can obtain it! | 6/12/2007 |
Q: Where do I start off? I am a 19 yr old turning 20 next month. I am currently seeing this 20 year old ...
A: Greetings Zuly. The best thing that you can do to make her realize just how much you care about her ...
|
| Try out | 5/29/2007 |
Q: I have been researching the internet and can conclude that I am a bi-curious. I have been ...
A: Getting married when you have this desire, but are unsure of whether you want to act on it, could be ...
|
| Try out | 5/28/2007 |
Q: I have been researching the internet and can conclude that I am a bi-curious. I have been ...
A: You have a rather interesting dilemma. It sounds like you the fantasy is taking up more time than ...
|
| Laws of Consent | 5/25/2007 |
Q: I'm not sure if this is going to be answerable here, but its the only site I've found so far... I'm ...
A: Simon: The actual statute is Virginal Code Ann. § 18.2-63 which states: "If any person carnally ...
|
| Laws of Consent | 5/24/2007 |
Q: I'm not sure if this is going to be answerable here, but its the only site I've found so far... I'm ...
A: Greetings Simon: The laws of consent vary from State to State. Some States, like Washington have ...
|
| This is a tough one..... | 5/11/2007 |
Q: My step-son is a high school student, 18 years old and lives with us part-time. Last week he told ...
A: You aren't being a hypocrite. It's one thing to love your step-son and be accepting of his ...
|
| I broke it off with a guy because he has a sugar daddy | 4/23/2007 |
Q: I am a 37 y.o. gay male who was dating a 28 y.o. gay male. We dated for one month. One morning, I ...
A: Greetings Nation: Well, it doesn't really matter what I think. What is most important is that the ...
|
| Suicide | 4/16/2007 |
Q: How can being gay increase the risk of sucicide
A: There is still a stigma associated with being gay in the world at large. The incidence of suicide ...
|
| What to do about my boyfriend? | 3/25/2007 |
Q: I need advice. I've been dating a guy for four months now; he has issues, says he "doesn't want to ...
A: Greetings: Well, it's good that you are working with a therapist. As for playing hard to get, ...
|
| jealousy | 3/20/2007 |
Q: I have somehow managed to hit a brick wall and feel really silly to feel the way i am and would like ...
A: I can be an incredibly jealous person and it's a hard thing to overcome completely. With time I ...
|
| Affairs | 3/20/2007 |
Q: I have been with my partner for 5 years. 3 Years ago I cheated on her. Regretted it and when she ...
A: I'm so sorry to hear that this has happened to you. The hardest thing to do is to rebuild trust, ...
|
| What to do about my boyfriend? | 3/19/2007 |
Q: I need advice. I've been dating a guy for four months now; he has issues, says he "doesn't want to ...
A: You've asked quite a number of questions in the body of the e-mail. I'm going to hit what look like ...
|
| my partner!! | 3/14/2007 |
Q: my partner is on a chat room thing and talks to gay men... he also is going to a sauna when he tells ...
A: Talking and e-mailing do not = gay regardless of the nature of the chat room. If he's lying about ...
|
| Wanting Seth | 2/20/2007 |
Q: my name is Adam and I am 22 years old and I am gay. I am friends with this guy (lets call him Seth) ...
A: Seth may be in the same predicament as you are. Enjoying the flirtation, thinking about taking it ...
|
| Is my friend gay? | 2/13/2007 |
Q: OK, I'm gay and in high school. I just recently made a new friend. At first he seemed like a ...
A: I don't have a clue whether your friend is gay. Being gay or bi is more than what shows you like to ...
|
| plz help me | 2/5/2007 |
Q: when I am relaxed I am fine and think about girls and everything is as I like it but when Im angry ...
A: Greetings Alex: Thanks for the additional info. Freedom of expression (t-shirt, earrings) doesn't ...
|
| plz help me | 2/3/2007 |
Q: i hate them all so much it scares me and bing gay scared me so ithought it would be better to be ...
A: Greetings Alex: If you have concerns over pedophelia, serial killing, or rape, you definitely ...
|
| plz help me | 2/3/2007 |
Q: when I am relaxed I am fine and think about girls and everything is as I like it but when Im angry ...
A: Heya Alex: I'd need more information to be clearer on advice, like what wierd thoughts are making ...
|
| wife - lesbian | 1/17/2007 |
Q: I am a bit concerned with my wife regarding another woman. She travels for her job and is always ...
A: It could be totally innocent. Women have a tendency to make deep connections with their friends in ...
|
| Is my brother gay? | 1/4/2007 |
Q: It's very clear. What really worried me is that 99% of his movies were men. Only 2 of women. So I ...
A: Got it. I still think that you are good. Experimentation is not uncommon and right now you only ...
|
| Is my brother gay? | 1/4/2007 |
Q: My little brother is 17, almost 18. He has had quite a few behavioural problems in the past, ...
A: Fantasy and reality are two completely different things. You can't tell whether someone is gay or ...
|
| Could my wife be lesbian | 11/25/2006 |
Q: ------------------------------------------- The text above is a follow-up to ... Thank you so much ...
A: Clearly I had a far different picture of what has gone on in your marriage. As much as you care for ...
|
| I need adive fast | 11/23/2006 |
Q: Yes she know's I am a lesbian she is too and she also know that I like her alot. Her cousin told me ...
A: Tiara, This is the best news ever. My advice to you is to stop worrying about whether she feels ...
|
| I need adive fast | 11/22/2006 |
Q: I am a 20 year old lesbian. I have known this female name LaShawn since I was 12 years old and I ...
A: Being in love, having a crush, or being obsessed is not a bad thing unless it prevents you from ...
|
| how do i? | 11/14/2006 |
Q: how do i tell one of my friends that i am a lesbian and that i am going out with one of her sisters ...
A: Unfortunately, you have no control over how your friend reacts to your disclosure. You only have ...
|
| please help | 10/17/2006 |
Q: I'm a 20 year old guy and all my life I've been attracted to girls both physically & sexually but ...
A: Getting butterflies and arousal are typically a signs of attraction, but at your age a stiff wind is ...
|
| I'm so gay | 6/22/2006 |
Q: And to answer your question as to why it hurts so much. I think about the times I questioned her. ...
A: I get what you mean now and can see how the situation has served to feed your insecurities. For ...
|
| I'm so gay | 6/22/2006 |
Q: I have several questions so please don't feel the need to respond back quickly. We will start with ...
A: Been there, done that. Although I can say that I learned from my experiences, the fact remains that ...
|
| Should I stay? | 6/16/2006 |
Q: In response to your questions I came out to my dad, who is my best friend, when I was 19. It was one ...
A: That gives me a clearer picture. I could tell from the first e-mail that you were in pain. It ...
|
| Should I stay? | 6/15/2006 |
Q: I have been in a lesbian relationship with an amazing woman for the last 2 and a half years. We are ...
A: Greetings Charlie: I was touched by your question. I can tell that you love her immensely and that ...
|
| Queer support/fundraising | 6/7/2006 |
Q: We are a near-retirement couple (23 years) who have moved to Fountain City (KNoxville, TN) from ...
A: You've managed to hit an area in which I have absolutely no expertise. Surely MCC must have some ...
|
| Queer support/fundraising | 6/7/2006 |
Q: We are a near-retirement couple (23 years) who have moved to Fountain City (KNoxville, TN) from ...
A: You've managed to hit an area in which I have absolutely no expertise. Surely MCC must have some ...
|
| Work Jealousy | 6/2/2006 |
Q: My girl (S) and I are close to being 2gether for a year. I am worried about this girl (H) that works ...
A: Greetings: I'm not one to second guess what you are seeing and have felt. The fact of the matter ...
|
| can gays be brought back | 5/25/2006 |
Q: i have a friend who is very close to me we both like each other very much.but to our fate we ...
A: Namaste Praneeth: I am sorry to say that I am not aware of any cure for gayness, but that is not to ...
|
| hi it's me again | 5/15/2006 |
Q: well hear me out again, i've got another problem, well some girl was licking my asshole and this ...
A: I can't answer re: the "wierd stuff" coming out of your rear. You may want to seek medical ...
|
| am i gay | 5/15/2006 |
Q: recently i have been thinking about my sexual orientational and have had some things on my mind. My ...
A: A number of straight men like having their prostate gland stimulated by their girlfriend while she ...
|
| What's Going on With My boyfriend?Help! | 4/23/2006 |
Q: My boyfriend and I have been dating for 7 months and now live together.We get along brilliantly on ...
A: Sorry for the delay in the response, but I didn't get your question until today. I don't think that ...
|
| Straight married woman, FTM interest | 2/20/2006 |
Q: I am a married (5 years), straight woman who recently met a pre-op FTM at a professional seminar. ...
A: Greetings: I don't envy your predicament. This sentence says it all: "I don't know if I want to ...
|
| Lost and confused | 12/4/2005 |
Q: I am and 18 year old male from Ashland, Oregon and I really need your help. I'm lost. completely ...
A: I hear your predicament loud and clear and there is no simple solution. I wish that there was. ...
|
| Relationship | 11/7/2005 |
Q: Michael, In your experience with relathionships which seemed better a monogamous one or ...
A: Which form the relationship takes or which is better depends on the people in the relationship. I ...
|
| Relationship | 11/3/2005 |
Q: I'm 24 years old. This guy and myself dated for 9 months we have been living with each other for the ...
A: Every relationship is different. There is no "one" prototype. That being said, among my friends, ...
|
| What shall I do? | 10/30/2005 |
Q: Michael, disaster comes. Look I thought I was into him, but then today when we were going for a 2nd ...
A: Pat: Your situation is very complicated and I cannot tell you what to do. On the one hand you want ...
|
| NEED SOME Quick help | 10/11/2005 |
Q: Ok. I dont want to make this long because i know you have other questions to answer. So i am in this ...
A: First of all, it is normal to develop attachments with someone online. It's easy to share personal ...
|
| When your trying to hook up with someone? | 9/30/2005 |
Q: How do you get someone to like you if they don't? And if your not talking to the person you like and ...
A: Greetings: You've asked a whole host of questions which simply do not have simple answers. I will ...
|
| my wife thinks I'm gay | 9/8/2005 |
Q: To make a long story short: -Wife cheated on me with a good friend -I was more turned on by it than ...
A: I don't think you are gay. You are still attracted to your wife and at this time are in a fantasy ...
|
| nipple | 8/28/2005 |
Q: how i can enlargement my nipple ?
A: There are a variety of options available for men. I'm not sure if they will work on women's nipples ...
|
| Signs of trouble | 8/4/2005 |
Q: I just started a relationship with this great guy three weeks ago. He has already told me that he ...
A: You have a delicate situation, but all is not lost. I did a search on the internet and found the ...
|
| Husband not interested in sex | 7/2/2005 |
Q: Where do I begin, I am 31, married 13 years, 3 kids, house, the usual stuff. On our second date, ...
A: I'm sorry about your situation. Unfortunately, there are no easy answers. The fact of the matter ...
|
| Cheating or not Cheating? | 5/25/2005 |
Q: My partner and I have been together a little shy of two years. I have a few questions I would like ...
A: It's a bit complex. With respect to "once a cheater always a cheater" mmmm . . . depends on the ...
|
| Is it worth it,Big Dilemma | 5/12/2005 |
Q: I am a 21 year old single black female with no children,who has recently broken up with my boyfriend ...
A: Sorry to have been unclear. By financial hanky panky, I meant that once you are living with them ...
|
| Is it worth it,Big Dilemma | 5/6/2005 |
Q: I am a 21 year old single black female with no children,who has recently broken up with my boyfriend ...
A: I apologize for the delay in getting back to you. I did not get your original e-mail and received a ...
|
| i believe im a lesbian but am scared | 4/9/2005 |
Q: I have liked girls ever since i can remember but i always hid it and pretended i liked boys i ...
A: I apologize for not responding sooner, but I did not receive the initial e-mail from you. I just ...
|
| Help I made mistake and hurt the one I love..but how much more should I pay? | 2/25/2005 |
Q: During those two years I DID IT ALL. To see what I liked and what I did not like. ( some called me ...
A: Your question arrived when I was in India and I was not able to answer during my absence. I just ...
|
| VAGINAL TASTE | 12/19/2004 |
Q: ...! This is PAUL again.Am extremely thankful to you for your kind response.....It really helps. ...
A: I think that the easiest way for me to explain this to you is as follows: If you have 10 different ...
|
| VAGINAL TASTE | 12/12/2004 |
Q: ....! My name is PAUL.Am a 23 yr old boy wanting to know more about female sexuality.Let me tell ...
A: I simply don't have the answers to all of your questions. Here's what I do know - hygiene plays a ...
|
| Is it true that the Gay and... | 10/22/2004 |
Q: Is it true that the Gay and Lesbian Pride Parade kicked NAMBLA out (of participation) many years ...
A: I can't answer your question. There is no one Gay & Lesbian Pride Parade. Each city hosts its own ...
|
| adoption by lesbian and homosexual | 8/8/2004 |
Q: my name is keren, I am 24,a Law student. Nowdays I'm doing a compartive research on the subject ...
A: Greetings Keren: I'd recommend that you run a lexis/nexis search to determine the laws of each ...
|
| Relationships | 4/2/2004 |
Q: I have a question about relationships or the problem i am having. I have been going out with this ...
A: You have a rather difficult situation ahead. If you are completely honest that weight is the issue, ...
|
| Mum won't accept that I'm gay | 3/28/2004 |
Q: I am a lesbian and I've been living with my girlfriend for nearly five years. We are very much in ...
A: It sounds like your mum just isn't ready to deal with these things. All you can do is be patient. ...
|
| gay friend | 1/23/2003 |
Q: my friend says that he is gay and well i dont' really know what to do b/c he is always touching me ...
A: The situation is more complicated than it initially seems. Sexual orientation is not as cut and ...
|
| rape | 12/22/2002 |
Q: Michael, I was raped as a 5 year old child by a cousin. I have never lived a gay lifestyle and do ...
A: I am saddened and disturbed by the rape which you mentioned. I'm very sorry that this happened to ...
|
| Is there a male equivalent to the word "lesbian"? | 9/6/2002 |
Q: While "lesbian" is the common one-word term for "gay woman", there doesn't seem to be an ...
A: Actually, not so long ago (mid 80's) the term "gay" referred only to men. The women were always ...
|
| Attraction | 3/22/2002 |
Q: My problem concerns a professor of mine that I have been obsessing over. I am very attracted to her ...
A: I am sorry to hear about your dillema. The fact that you are attracted to someone else does not ...
|
| same-sex marriage | 1/30/2002 |
Q: I'm doing a little research, and was wondering WHERE same-sex marriages were legal. If so, is there ...
A: Nowhere in the US that I am aware of. I know that according to the Hawaii constitution, the state ...
|
| Please Help If you Can!!!!! | 1/7/2002 |
Q: " Hi my name is Steven and i am 24 yrs old and i am Gay... I am just about at my last resort and ...
A: Greetings Steven: You have your entire life ahead of you as 24 is rather young. It's very easy to ...
|
