| Subject | Date Asked |
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| signs of a gay or bi husband | 11/7/2009 |
Q: My husband and I been married for three years. When we first got together my husband was totally ...
A: The fact that your husband has handsome features that remind you of women, is inclined to ...
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| Advice me please | 11/2/2009 |
Q: my name is Smith. i have heard that ur concern provides counselling and advise regarding sexual ...
A: I'm sure that there are counseling services available, but it would depend on where you live or ...
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| Male cousin or girlfriend? | 10/22/2009 |
Q: I have always been attracted to guys, thats a fact, I don't know if this has anything to do but i ...
A: There is too much risk on a variety of levels to proceed. As you mentioned, if you happen to be ...
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| Am i really a lesbian?How do i find a partner in Nigeria? | 10/15/2009 |
Q: I've had feelings for women since puberty,i'm 27 now.I dream of being with a woman when i'm alone ...
A: Perhaps you just haven't met the right woman or it could be that your attraction is simply a ...
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| age gap problem or is it. | 10/6/2009 |
Q: heya, well basically im 16 years old, and im a lesbian. ive known since a very young age. However, i ...
A: A two year difference is nothing to worry about. My partner is 9 years older than I am. I know a ...
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| Sexually confused | 10/2/2009 |
Q: lately I have had a bunch of gay guys hit on me. I have always dated women and never even looked or ...
A: Sorry to hear about the confusion. Here's my take on it. Fantasy and reality are two completely ...
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| Help me please!!!!?? | 10/1/2009 |
Q: this is gonna be long but honest so please dont mind, i use to be the type of kid when i was 16 to ...
A: The statement that you "tried the whole sober thing" leads me to believe that you aren't presently ...
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| Help me please!!!!?? | 9/30/2009 |
Q: this is gonna be long but honest so please dont mind, i use to be the type of kid when i was 16 to ...
A: Hey Thomas: You aren't gay because you had a little trouble getting an erection once. Yes, I say ...
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| crisis gender pull | 9/29/2009 |
Q: I'm a confused about why I've a cosmic pull otwards other women. I've always felt some women are hot ...
A: Seems that you have a bit of a predicament. What I remember the most about transitioning from ...
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| Torn | 9/28/2009 |
Q: I'm was a 21 year old, straight girl. I grow up in a very strict, religious and well-respected ...
A: Given the history that you have provided regarding prior relationships, I would strongly encourage ...
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| So confused. | 9/23/2009 |
Q: Well I'm an 17 year old lesbian...and im going through an awkward stage. I cant figure out how to ...
A: I have no clue what a stud type lesbian is. You also managed to pick the wrong person for dress or ...
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| Fantasy or a real life want | 9/21/2009 |
Q: I am a female (straight who enjoys sex with men) but I watch male on male gay porn and am greatly ...
A: I know a number of women who think that male on male porn is hot, hot, hot. It seems that you do ...
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| Help! I love my gay best friend! | 8/30/2009 |
Q: I am in a bit of pickle, I romantically love my Best friend who is a gay man. I'm sure you have ...
A: Yes, this issue has come up before, but there is no easy fix. Unfortunately, only time and distance ...
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| connfuusseed! | 8/22/2009 |
Q: I am so confused. I thought I was completely heterosexual, until about a year and a half ago. I ...
A: The only way to get your mind off guys is (1) just let things be and (2) worry about the fact that ...
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| confused bi-sexual | 8/6/2009 |
Q: I have been with my husband for almost 12 years. We have been together since I was 15 he was 14. I ...
A: I apologize for the delay. Just received your query. Your husband is titillated by watching the ...
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| Is my husband gay or bisexual? | 7/29/2009 |
Q: This is rather embaressing for me because I have never sought out professional help for this before. ...
A: I can tell that you're at the breaking point. I definitely think that you should seek therapy to ...
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| Is my husband bi-sexual? | 7/20/2009 |
Q: The other night while my husband was out I noticed he left his computer on. Being very curious I ...
A: Your husband is having a good time pretending to be someone he's not. As you said, he's not meeting ...
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| Confused about sexuality | 7/20/2009 |
Q: I guess I'm looking for some kind of general advice. My situation is a bit complicated, but I will ...
A: No apology necessary. In fact, every piece of information that you provided was clear, concise, and ...
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| married bi man | 7/10/2009 |
Q: i am a 26 yr old married man. me and my wife have been married for about a year and a half. i told ...
A: Your ex is convinced that you would have left her, so she left first in order not to be hurt. You ...
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| guilty | 7/5/2009 |
Q: She has recently made sexual advances towards me stating she is staight but is attracted to me.Iam ...
A: I apologize for the delay in getting back to you. I never received the first email. There are ...
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| Who am I? | 6/17/2009 |
Q: For almost two years now, I've been confused about my sexuality. It started when I became friends ...
A: Lesbians aren't gross despite what your gay guy friend says. He's into different parts after all. ...
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| Ashey<333 | 6/16/2009 |
Q: Ok I'm joanna i'm 13 & gay. I really like this girl ashley I only meet her 2 times but I talk to ...
A: I'm pretty sure that you wrote to me the other day and I answered this question already. Your ...
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| hi | 6/16/2009 |
Q: can you please tell me about lesbian clubs in new jersey.thank you
A: I am not familiar with any of the lesbian clubs in New Jersey. I ran a google search and found the ...
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| ♥kc girl♥ | 6/16/2009 |
Q: ok I'm 13 & gay.i'm out to like 7 of my friends.im including kasey.she is one of my best friend.the ...
A: I have no clue whether Kasey likes you in the way that you like her. The urges are normal for your ...
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| fed up | 6/10/2009 |
Q: It seems really hard for me to find anyone nowadays, and the only girls I've been involved with had ...
A: Meeting quality people can be affected by where you are searching. If it's the pubs or the GLBT ...
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| Relationship & Friends | 6/10/2009 |
Q: I'm new to the experiences of the Bisexual/Gay world. I don't title myself as a lesbian nor do I ...
A: If you are going to be in a quad, you need to learn to communicate or the whole thing is going to ...
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| in love with straight friend | 6/9/2009 |
Q: My best friend is straight, funny, and beautiful. I came out to her and she seemed ok with it... not ...
A: She's more than likely shocked by the revelation and what it could mean. If she's straight then she ...
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| Inlove with him . but unsure if he's gay | 6/7/2009 |
Q: hopefully you can help me, cause im in such a dilema basically im inlove with this guy i met at ...
A: It sounds like he could be, but again. There's is no positive proof, so you are running a risk. ...
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| Inlove with him . but unsure if he's gay | 6/6/2009 |
Q: hopefully you can help me, cause im in such a dilema basically im inlove with this guy i met at ...
A: Greeting Ian: My best advice is to continue to enjoy his company. Not all gay men are feminine or ...
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| Lesbian issues | 6/5/2009 |
Q: I have a daughter who is 27. She has not had a lesbian experience. Now she tells me she is in love ...
A: I'm not sure that women just have flings, but your daughter is young and anything can happen. I ...
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| Relationship & Friends | 6/3/2009 |
Q: I'm new to the experiences of the Bisexual/Gay world. I don't title myself as a lesbian nor do I ...
A: You can't force your emotions to change. Clearly, you feel left out or ignored during the ...
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| My boyfriend has severe self-esteem issues, what do I do? | 6/3/2009 |
Q: Its going on to one year of being with my boyfriend. We have been through a lot together. Just ...
A: I am very sorry to hear that your partner is having these issues. These are serious problems that ...
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| my 3 year relationship | 6/2/2009 |
Q: I hope you can help me. Ok I've been with my gf for almost 3 years now. When we met I had long hair ...
A: Unfortunately, the amount of sex in a relationship seems to decline in relation to the amount of ...
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| i dont understand | 5/23/2009 |
Q: Ok this is hard for me to explain i have never done this before. here it is I am a divorced 35yr old ...
A: You mention relationships with women, so I suspect that you are either straight (if you identify as ...
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| I am so monumentally confused | 5/18/2009 |
Q: I am struggling with some strange problems that I'm honestly not really sure how to articulate here. ...
A: It doesn't sound like you are gay. It sounds like you might be transgendered to me, but I ...
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| me being gay and my mother | 5/18/2009 |
Q: I am currently still married to a man. Trying to move toward divorce to be with my girlfriend. My ...
A: Your mom was probably born in the early to mid 1950s. It was a different era. Her expectations re: ...
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| I am so monumentally confused | 5/15/2009 |
Q: I am struggling with some strange problems that I'm honestly not really sure how to articulate here. ...
A: I can't quite tell from your question why it is that you feel like a woman in private. Wanting to ...
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| sexuality | 5/15/2009 |
Q: I'm a 29 year old male in a relationship with my best friend and love of my life. She knows I like ...
A: There's a huge difference between sex and love. In the best of cases you find both within the same ...
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| sexual attraction | 5/13/2009 |
Q: My question is I am so curious about being with another guy but I am too shy and worried I don't ...
A: I understand your curiosity, but you should give a great deal of thought as to how this could or ...
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| just dont know wat to think | 5/13/2009 |
Q: well been wiv my girlfriend nearly two yrs now lesbian relationship.it feels like shes a jekyl n ...
A: You clearly aren't happy in the relationship, but trying desperately to change it or hoping for the ...
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| Confused, Lost, Angry, Hurting | 5/11/2009 |
Q: I am a 29 year old woman. I have been married for 2 1/2 years, to a great guy who treats me right. I ...
A: Connections of the type that you described escape explanation. They just happen. It doesn't feel ...
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| help please | 5/11/2009 |
Q: I'm an 18 year-old male who has always identified as straight, but have now realised that I am ...
A: You have expressed one isolated instance of attraction. It didn't go anywhere from a sexual ...
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| What is this guy's intention? | 5/11/2009 |
Q: There is this guy who lives near me and works at a local bookstore. I thought he's attractive but ...
A: You are getting mixed messages from this guy and as hard as he is for you to read him in person, ...
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| confused... | 5/4/2009 |
Q: I've been a little confused about my sexuality for a while. I've only been in relationships with ...
A: It could be that the guys that you have been with were just not that talented, but I suspect that if ...
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| Is she a lesbian or just overly friendly? | 4/21/2009 |
Q: I'm 27 years old and I have become friends with an 18 yr old girl at work. She has always been nice ...
A: It's hard for me to tell what's going on. So far the behavior that you described is not sexual in ...
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| Relationships..... | 4/2/2009 |
Q: I need serious help!! I am a lesbian and I am in love with a married women, Her partner and her have ...
A: The way you have described your current situation, it's appears that she has no intention of leaving ...
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| making it work | 3/28/2009 |
Q: site. I tend to use too many words, but I'll try to get to the point. I found this place while ...
A: I apologize for the delay, but I never received your original message. Just got notified by the ...
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| fantasy | 3/23/2009 |
Q: We are sexually active and our sex is very satisfying. But ive had this weird fantasy for a while & ...
A: I think that fantasy is part of a healthy sexual relationship. The important thing is that it be ...
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| i am a lesbian in love with a married woman | 3/22/2009 |
Q: i am 38 going to church and i don't feel wrong for being a lesbian but then i find my self in love ...
A: I don't know why she's acting that way. Maybe she feels neglected by her husband and you make her ...
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| i am a lesbian in love with a married woman | 3/21/2009 |
Q: i am 38 going to church and i don't feel wrong for being a lesbian but then i find my self in love ...
A: Good to hear that you don't feel from for being who you are and that you are respecting someone's ...
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| Help Me Please...In need of advice | 3/8/2009 |
Q: I have been involved in a relationship with a woman for almost 1 year and a half. We love each other ...
A: I'm sorry to hear about your situation. It sounds like you have a really good handle on the ...
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| i think i may be a lesbian | 3/5/2009 |
Q: I WAS IN A RELATIONSHIP WITH MY BOYFRIEND FOR TWO YEARS, I JUST ENDED IT BECAUSE IT WAS ABUSIVE, SO ...
A: My greater concern is your pattern of abusive relationships. These types of things can occur in ...
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| am i a lesbian? | 3/3/2009 |
Q: i'm a 14 year old girl and i have a question about whether i could be a lesbian. first of all, i'm ...
A: The fact that you think that penises are gross or ugly does not make you a lesbian. Another clue is ...
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| what do I do? | 2/23/2009 |
Q: I have been seeing this woman for a year. She has changed towards me in the last few months. We ...
A: It's difficult to predict human behaviour. I suggest that you just be yourself. Don't make ...
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| Sex has nothing to do with love? | 2/22/2009 |
Q: I fell in love with a woman 6 months ago. I was the one who initiated the relationship. According to ...
A: the additional information certainly helps. As for me and my partner, not a health issue. Not ...
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| relationship advice | 2/13/2009 |
Q: Alright.. this is kind of awkward for me since I’m not the kind of person to ask for advice. I met ...
A: Good Morning Evan: I apologize for not having responded sooner, but did not receive notification of ...
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| shocking news from dad | 2/11/2009 |
Q: Just last night me and my dad were on a walk when we got home he told me something I had never ...
A: Hang in there. It was a big deal for your Dad to come out to you. The fact that he married a woman ...
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| 9 Year Gay Marriage - Adultry | 2/9/2009 |
Q: This is hard for me to write as I just found out that my husband of 9 years has cheated on me. A ...
A: Adultry during a monogamous relationship is always hurtful. The thing is, if he wasn't interested ...
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| My cousin, My Love!!! | 1/29/2009 |
Q: I'm a male 30 years old, I dont know how it sounds to the one reading it, but i'm gonna tell the ...
A: Your cousin is distancing himself because he does not know how to act around you given the ...
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| Me and my boyfriend | 1/26/2009 |
Q: I'm Jason, a 19-year-old gay guy, and a friend of mine recommended this site. I hope you can offer ...
A: If you are only 5 months into the relationship, he forgot your birthday and doesn't want to have ...
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| teen issues | 1/25/2009 |
Q: I am having issues with my life, I am 17 years old male and many of my friends think that i am gay. ...
A: There is nothing more challenging that your teen years in High School. It's a fishbowl that runs on ...
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| girlfriend saying she is confused | 1/23/2009 |
Q: I have been dating my girlfriend for almost three years now. And all of a sudden she is saying that ...
A: Just continue to be yourself. If you have concerns talk to her about it. For example "It seems to ...
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| girlfriend saying she is confused | 1/22/2009 |
Q: I have been dating my girlfriend for almost three years now. And all of a sudden she is saying that ...
A: 3 years is a good stint of time. You'd have picked up on something not being quite right before ...
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| Gay Rights1 | 1/19/2009 |
Q: I found your intelligence on the topic to be very down to earth. I am currently a freshman writing a ...
A: I'm not so sure what you mean by government interference, but I will do my best to provide my ...
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| Am I Bisexual? | 1/10/2009 |
Q: I'm a 13 year old girl and I have a question about whether I'm bisexual or not. First of all, I like ...
A: One experience doesn't make you bisexual. Being adventurous and having an open mind about sex ...
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| Help me i cant stand this anymore | 1/2/2009 |
Q: A few years ago my friend persuaded me to mess around a bit i felt realy asshamed streigh away and ...
A: There really is nothing that I can do to help you directly. I think that the best thing for you to ...
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| lost | 12/17/2008 |
Q: I have been involved with my girlfriend since jan of 2007. When we started out it was shaky but it ...
A: All that you can do is to talk to her about how you feel. It appears to me that part of the problem ...
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| friend or lover?...how can you tell for sure if you are gay? | 12/9/2008 |
Q: Hey.I am 22 years old, and I am very confused. I feel strange to dealing with this questions at this ...
A: Only you can answer that question. However, given the information that you have provided, I ...
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| still not sure | 12/7/2008 |
Q: i wrote before about me and my friend getting drunk and having oral sex. while i dont want to be gay ...
A: Fantasizing and giving yourself anal stimulation while masturbating does not make you gay. If you ...
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| Why would a straight woman flirt with a lesbian | 12/4/2008 |
Q: I am in love with an older woman who comes into the cafe where I work. She is friendly to everyone, ...
A: It's very hard to tell how people will react when the chips are down, but she does seem to be ...
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| Im soo confussed | 11/26/2008 |
Q: Hey I'm 14 and super confused... eversince i split with my boyfriend of 11 months i keep thinking ...
A: I wouldn't worry about what you are going through. It's common for someone of your age who's ...
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| separated.... | 11/23/2008 |
Q: My wife and I recently separated. It started over me not telling her something and how i was so ...
A: I have no clue why she's going back and forth. There is nothing more that I can tell you or provide ...
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| separated.... | 11/23/2008 |
Q: My wife and I recently separated. It started over me not telling her something and how i was so ...
A: If she didn't love you she wouldn't be spending time with you and/or staying over. That being said, ...
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| gay and single and sick of it | 11/22/2008 |
Q: I recently read a similar post about this, I'm also 21 and gay and have never dated, never kissed a ...
A: Relationships take time and patience. Speed dating would have been a good way to meet a lot of ...
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| separated.... | 11/22/2008 |
Q: My wife and I recently separated. It started over me not telling her something and how i was so ...
A: I'm not sure what normal is. I know people who have been able to maintain long distance ...
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| Am I a lesbian or am I not? | 11/16/2008 |
Q: I'm 13.I'm a girl.I feel that I'm overeffactuated with breasts.I searched on the internet about ...
A: I think you are a normal 13 year old. Raging hormones. Nothing you have said leads me to believe ...
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| Am I a lesbian or am I not? | 11/15/2008 |
Q: I'm 13.I'm a girl.I feel that I'm overeffactuated with breasts.I searched on the internet about ...
A: The lack of paragraphs and the stream of consciousness questions made your communication difficult ...
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| fiance ex wife is gay and aggressive | 11/13/2008 |
Q: I am engaged to a man who was married for 16 years to a gay woman. She came out, cheated on him, ...
A: First and foremost, you need to take care of you. My concern is that (1) he's not listening to you, ...
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| Could I be a lesbian? | 10/24/2008 |
Q: I'm 13.I'm a girl.I know that you guys won't respond to anyone under 18 or 19 but I really need ...
A: Take a moment to consider that what has you entirely freaked out are nothing more than thoughts at ...
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| i am so cinfused | 10/8/2008 |
Q: hey Michael umm i have this problem where i love women but its weird whenever i am horny or just ...
A: I know lesbians who watch nothing, but gay male porn, yet they aren't into men. Conclusion, fantasy ...
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| how to approach to a friend on whom u have doubt he may be gay | 10/7/2008 |
Q: AM HARSH AM 18/M I HAVE A VERY GOOD FREIND NAMED SUNNY I AM VERY CLOSE TO HIM WHEN EVER WE R SITTING ...
A: Greetings Harsh: You need to be very careful and think through all of the possible things that can ...
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| I crossed the line | 9/28/2008 |
Q: First I want to say I am SOOOOOOOOO ASHAMED at what I am about to tell you. Here goes. My ex ...
A: What's done is done. Beating yourself up over it is not making things any better. I believe that ...
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| Is my boyfriend gay? | 7/31/2008 |
Q: I am 51 years old and my boyfriend is 50. He has been single for the last 20 years except for a ...
A: I apologize for the delay in getting back to you. Work has had me at my wits end and I wanted to be ...
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| Help | 7/26/2008 |
Q: In my club alot of the cadets knew i was gay but some how it got out and my cadet leader took me ...
A: There is a broad range of expression regarding being gay, just as there is a broad range of ...
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| rejection and denial | 7/25/2008 |
Q: I have had an emotional affair for 4 yrs with a good friend. She has flirted and stared at me from ...
A: I'm very sorry to hear that this has happened to you. How strange after all that has gone on. ...
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| i found gay porn on my boyfriends computer | 7/5/2008 |
Q: i was looking something up on my boyfriends computer and a site poped up with transexuals on it i ...
A: Speaking from experience, most men are horndogs and porn is par for the course. The fact that he's ...
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| makingout with my bff | 6/29/2008 |
Q: I have always been very attracted to boys. but when it came to kissing them, i really wanted to but ...
A: Since you have depression and use cutting as a means of release, do you have a counselor or mental ...
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| Ex-Girlfriend problems x 2 | 6/19/2008 |
Q: I need to try and sort my life out or i really don't know what i am going to do or where i am going ...
A: The main issue that I see is that your ex ex is not going to affirm anything. She didn't during ...
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| am i gay if i want ot date a ftm | 6/18/2008 |
Q:
A: It's very hard to answer your question. Orientation goes beyond just attraction and you are at the ...
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| Can absence of physical attraction change in a relationship | 3/26/2008 |
Q: I am a gay man in my 40s. A few months ago I met a wonderful guy in his late 20s on an Internet ...
A: Morning Ben: Thank you for providing the additional details. I agree with your assessment that the ...
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| Can absence of physical attraction change in a relationship | 3/24/2008 |
Q: I am a gay man in my 40s. A few months ago I met a wonderful guy in his late 20s on an Internet ...
A: Sorry to hear about your current situation. Let me answer your question, then jump into what I ...
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| Wanting to get back together with my Ex. | 3/15/2008 |
Q: I am a 23 year old guy that has been dating a 21 year old guy for the past 6 weeks. I am on a hiatus ...
A: LOL, I'm a Virgo as well and . . . um . . . er . . . we are an intense and passionate lot. I think ...
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| Wanting to get back together with my Ex. | 3/15/2008 |
Q: I am a 23 year old guy that has been dating a 21 year old guy for the past 6 weeks. I am on a hiatus ...
A: I do have an answer for you, but it is an answer to the broader question. The way I see it, ...
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| gay relationships and love | 2/21/2008 |
Q: my name is charming, and i have a big issue with a boy. I met this boy in a club and he name is ...
A: Based on the information that you provided all I see in the future re: Chris are problems and ...
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| My Boyfriend | 2/5/2008 |
Q: I am a 41 year old woman who was married to an abusive man for 18 years and finally got the courage ...
A: Congratulations on finally getting out of a bad relationship and having the courage to fall in love. ...
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| sexless marriage | 1/26/2008 |
Q: we've been married for 6 years....sex was often during first 1-2 years. now it has diminished ...
A: Well if he won't go to counseling, the you have two options. 1. Leave and rebuild your life with ...
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| Sex. . . | 1/26/2008 |
Q: I am a 21 year old male and have a fiancee (female) and I want to have sexual relationships with a ...
A: It depends on the man. You could post on the internet in one of the gay chatrooms/systems. Or you ...
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| sexless marriage | 1/26/2008 |
Q: we've been married for 6 years....sex was often during first 1-2 years. now it has diminished ...
A: Your partner is having some serious issues and is in denial about it. Couples counseling or therapy ...
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| Friend problems | 1/23/2008 |
Q: I have two friends ones a Bi and the other is a lesbian,now that is not the problem the problem is ...
A: You need to nip it in the bud otherwise you will blow. Tell her that you don't appreciate her ...
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| Gay or not | 1/7/2008 |
Q: Icannot get an erection with my girlfriend but i can when i watch gay porn am1t4pg i Gay
A: Greetings Robert: It takes more than getting hard by watching porm to define yourself as gay. Some ...
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| Lesbian Relationship | 12/29/2007 |
Q: I am a 23 year old mother and I date a 26 year old woman. After my husband and I split apart I ...
A: I understand your desire for companionship and comfort, but what you have with your current ...
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| I NEED HELP | 12/28/2007 |
Q: i am in need of serious help, i am a 16 year old male, about 4 years ago i had gay experiences with ...
A: It sounds like the other lad has some firm opinions about who you are and what you should be doing. ...
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| I think he is skitzophrenic and gay? | 11/27/2007 |
Q: I met a guy on the internet about 3 years ago. I left him due to alcohol abuse and bad temperment. ...
A: You have a very serious situation at home. I'm not so concerned about the possibility of him being ...
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| She won't talk to me... | 11/22/2007 |
Q: I'm a lesbian I've been dating my girlfriend for 1yr and 5mo. Lately, Shes been getting mad and ...
A: It sounds like you have a complicated situation. Talking on the phone about important things is a ...
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| Should I tell her how I feel? | 11/6/2007 |
Q: My ex and I have had our fair share of ups and downs.Break ups.And Absolute disasters.Now we are ...
A: From what you've said, the relationship has been on again, off again. Also, now that you are aloof ...
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| help? | 10/13/2007 |
Q: I am so confused right now, and i honestly do not know what to think or even how to feel. My ...
A: The best thing that you can do is take care of yourself. You can't change or fix things for her. ...
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| lost fiance and his best friend | 10/12/2007 |
Q: my name is matt, about 7 months ago I ended a 2 year relationship not because i wasnt in love or ...
A: I'm so sorry to hear about your breakup. Given the details that you outlined you were right to get ...
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| relationships | 10/7/2007 |
Q: I have a great relationship with the woman. We've been going out as friends, we've gotten close and ...
A: Here are some websites with tips: http://www.lesbianhealthinfo.org/your_health/coming_out_tips.html ...
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| relationships | 10/7/2007 |
Q: I have a great relationship with the woman. We've been going out as friends, we've gotten close and ...
A: It's quite possible that your friend has not said anything because she's afraid to lose your ...
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| Friend might not be straight | 10/5/2007 |
Q: I am a 26 year old gay man and live with my 22 year old best friend. We are really close and he is ...
A: Heya Mike: Thanks for the detailed background. I agree that you can't ask your friend if he's ...
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| My Wife, soon to be Ex-wife, is having issues with Living a gay life... | 9/14/2007 |
Q: I am 26 years old and my partner is also 26. We have been friends for over 12 years, have been ...
A: It sounds like your wife is going through a little bit of an identity crisis. It may help to have ...
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| I think my boyfriend is gay or bi. | 8/30/2007 |
Q: I've been dating this guy for about a year now. Recently I've noticed he has been looking at ...
A: I don't know whether he's gay, bi, or simply curious. Thing is, it sounds the what he's doing ...
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| attracted to men, but not sexually | 8/20/2007 |
Q: I'm a 60 y.o. man who has always been sexually attracted to women and the idea of sex with men is a ...
A: Based on the information that you provided I suspect that, given the lack of sexual attraction, what ...
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| some thoughts and clarification please | 8/19/2007 |
Q: ok. I wrote you guys a while ago. I was going through some pretty heavy stuff then. I imagine the ...
A: It sounds like you love women, but there are sexual activities that you enjoy with men. It also ...
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| confused. | 8/12/2007 |
Q: Alright, I dated boys, but never felt any kind of attraction to them. Although, I've never dated a ...
A: You don't need to take on any labels if you don't want to. At the moment you know that the reality ...
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| was i wrong to give an ultimatum or stand my ground? | 8/12/2007 |
Q: i had written you before with this topic heading. i thank you for your speedy response. i am moving ...
A: Actually, everything would have been fine if your ex could have kept her pants on and her hands to ...
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| was i wrong to give an ultimatum or stand my ground? | 8/10/2007 |
Q: i was in a same sex relationship. i am a woman who was dating another woman. i caught her in bed ...
A: While it really doesn't matter what I think, I don't believe that you did the wrong thing. You feel ...
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| gay | 8/9/2007 |
Q: I am a very happily married man with a great sex life and a very sexy wife. I do not know if I am ...
A: You have a touchy situation. You are happily married and bringing this subject up with your wife ...
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| I think my husband is gay. | 7/29/2007 |
Q: I have been married for a little more than 5 years to a wonderful man; but I have felt for at least ...
A: The stereotypes mean nothing. What is most important is that there are issues with your sexual ...
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| The Mother In-law (sorta) | 7/16/2007 |
Q: Ok here is my question, I have been with the same guy for the past 10 months and love him very much, ...
A: Ah man, do I feel for you. Been in a similar situation, but not to the point where you are at. I ...
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| Fall in love with a gay man... | 7/13/2007 |
Q: I met him 2 weeks ago at the university. He is one of our Professor. We are pretty close to each ...
A: There is really no way to tell unless he discloses. The more pressing problem is that all ...
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| I dont know | 7/8/2007 |
Q: I am 18 years old.I have had many strange feelings over the last 5 years.I know that i like girls ...
A: I don't think that your feelings are strange. In fact there's a world of men who enjoy what you do. ...
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| Am I Gay? | 7/6/2007 |
Q: I'm 14 and sort of confused here; I'm not sure about my sexuality. I am sexually attracted to guys, ...
A: You are a typical teenager going through puberty. Your hormones are more than likely kicking into ...
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| Concerns | 6/23/2007 |
Q: I have been seeing my best friend since January and we really like care so much about each other and ...
A: Greetings Chase: I am assuming that your question is how to stop being sexually active with others ...
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| I found true happiness but need help making sure I can obtain it! | 6/12/2007 |
Q: Where do I start off? I am a 19 yr old turning 20 next month. I am currently seeing this 20 year old ...
A: Greetings Zuly. The best thing that you can do to make her realize just how much you care about her ...
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| Try out | 5/29/2007 |
Q: I have been researching the internet and can conclude that I am a bi-curious. I have been ...
A: Getting married when you have this desire, but are unsure of whether you want to act on it, could be ...
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| Try out | 5/28/2007 |
Q: I have been researching the internet and can conclude that I am a bi-curious. I have been ...
A: You have a rather interesting dilemma. It sounds like you the fantasy is taking up more time than ...
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| Laws of Consent | 5/25/2007 |
Q: I'm not sure if this is going to be answerable here, but its the only site I've found so far... I'm ...
A: Simon: The actual statute is Virginal Code Ann. § 18.2-63 which states: "If any person carnally ...
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| Laws of Consent | 5/24/2007 |
Q: I'm not sure if this is going to be answerable here, but its the only site I've found so far... I'm ...
A: Greetings Simon: The laws of consent vary from State to State. Some States, like Washington have ...
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| This is a tough one..... | 5/11/2007 |
Q: My step-son is a high school student, 18 years old and lives with us part-time. Last week he told ...
A: You aren't being a hypocrite. It's one thing to love your step-son and be accepting of his ...
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| I broke it off with a guy because he has a sugar daddy | 4/23/2007 |
Q: I am a 37 y.o. gay male who was dating a 28 y.o. gay male. We dated for one month. One morning, I ...
A: Greetings Nation: Well, it doesn't really matter what I think. What is most important is that the ...
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| Suicide | 4/16/2007 |
Q: How can being gay increase the risk of sucicide
A: There is still a stigma associated with being gay in the world at large. The incidence of suicide ...
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| What to do about my boyfriend? | 3/25/2007 |
Q: I need advice. I've been dating a guy for four months now; he has issues, says he "doesn't want to ...
A: Greetings: Well, it's good that you are working with a therapist. As for playing hard to get, ...
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| jealousy | 3/20/2007 |
Q: I have somehow managed to hit a brick wall and feel really silly to feel the way i am and would like ...
A: I can be an incredibly jealous person and it's a hard thing to overcome completely. With time I ...
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| Affairs | 3/20/2007 |
Q: I have been with my partner for 5 years. 3 Years ago I cheated on her. Regretted it and when she ...
A: I'm so sorry to hear that this has happened to you. The hardest thing to do is to rebuild trust, ...
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| What to do about my boyfriend? | 3/19/2007 |
Q: I need advice. I've been dating a guy for four months now; he has issues, says he "doesn't want to ...
A: You've asked quite a number of questions in the body of the e-mail. I'm going to hit what look like ...
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| my partner!! | 3/14/2007 |
Q: my partner is on a chat room thing and talks to gay men... he also is going to a sauna when he tells ...
A: Talking and e-mailing do not = gay regardless of the nature of the chat room. If he's lying about ...
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| Wanting Seth | 2/20/2007 |
Q: my name is Adam and I am 22 years old and I am gay. I am friends with this guy (lets call him Seth) ...
A: Seth may be in the same predicament as you are. Enjoying the flirtation, thinking about taking it ...
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| Is my friend gay? | 2/13/2007 |
Q: OK, I'm gay and in high school. I just recently made a new friend. At first he seemed like a ...
A: I don't have a clue whether your friend is gay. Being gay or bi is more than what shows you like to ...
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| plz help me | 2/5/2007 |
Q: when I am relaxed I am fine and think about girls and everything is as I like it but when Im angry ...
A: Greetings Alex: Thanks for the additional info. Freedom of expression (t-shirt, earrings) doesn't ...
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| plz help me | 2/3/2007 |
Q: i hate them all so much it scares me and bing gay scared me so ithought it would be better to be ...
A: Greetings Alex: If you have concerns over pedophelia, serial killing, or rape, you definitely ...
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| plz help me | 2/3/2007 |
Q: when I am relaxed I am fine and think about girls and everything is as I like it but when Im angry ...
A: Heya Alex: I'd need more information to be clearer on advice, like what wierd thoughts are making ...
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| wife - lesbian | 1/17/2007 |
Q: I am a bit concerned with my wife regarding another woman. She travels for her job and is always ...
A: It could be totally innocent. Women have a tendency to make deep connections with their friends in ...
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| Is my brother gay? | 1/4/2007 |
Q: It's very clear. What really worried me is that 99% of his movies were men. Only 2 of women. So I ...
A: Got it. I still think that you are good. Experimentation is not uncommon and right now you only ...
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| Is my brother gay? | 1/4/2007 |
Q: My little brother is 17, almost 18. He has had quite a few behavioural problems in the past, ...
A: Fantasy and reality are two completely different things. You can't tell whether someone is gay or ...
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| Could my wife be lesbian | 11/25/2006 |
Q: ------------------------------------------- The text above is a follow-up to ... Thank you so much ...
A: Clearly I had a far different picture of what has gone on in your marriage. As much as you care for ...
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| I need adive fast | 11/23/2006 |
Q: Yes she know's I am a lesbian she is too and she also know that I like her alot. Her cousin told me ...
A: Tiara, This is the best news ever. My advice to you is to stop worrying about whether she feels ...
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| I need adive fast | 11/22/2006 |
Q: I am a 20 year old lesbian. I have known this female name LaShawn since I was 12 years old and I ...
A: Being in love, having a crush, or being obsessed is not a bad thing unless it prevents you from ...
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| how do i? | 11/14/2006 |
Q: how do i tell one of my friends that i am a lesbian and that i am going out with one of her sisters ...
A: Unfortunately, you have no control over how your friend reacts to your disclosure. You only have ...
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| please help | 10/17/2006 |
Q: I'm a 20 year old guy and all my life I've been attracted to girls both physically & sexually but ...
A: Getting butterflies and arousal are typically a signs of attraction, but at your age a stiff wind is ...
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| I'm so gay | 6/22/2006 |
Q: And to answer your question as to why it hurts so much. I think about the times I questioned her. ...
A: I get what you mean now and can see how the situation has served to feed your insecurities. For ...
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| I'm so gay | 6/22/2006 |
Q: I have several questions so please don't feel the need to respond back quickly. We will start with ...
A: Been there, done that. Although I can say that I learned from my experiences, the fact remains that ...
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| Should I stay? | 6/16/2006 |
Q: In response to your questions I came out to my dad, who is my best friend, when I was 19. It was one ...
A: That gives me a clearer picture. I could tell from the first e-mail that you were in pain. It ...
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| Should I stay? | 6/15/2006 |
Q: I have been in a lesbian relationship with an amazing woman for the last 2 and a half years. We are ...
A: Greetings Charlie: I was touched by your question. I can tell that you love her immensely and that ...
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| Queer support/fundraising | 6/7/2006 |
Q: We are a near-retirement couple (23 years) who have moved to Fountain City (KNoxville, TN) from ...
A: You've managed to hit an area in which I have absolutely no expertise. Surely MCC must have some ...
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| Queer support/fundraising | 6/7/2006 |
Q: We are a near-retirement couple (23 years) who have moved to Fountain City (KNoxville, TN) from ...
A: You've managed to hit an area in which I have absolutely no expertise. Surely MCC must have some ...
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| Work Jealousy | 6/2/2006 |
Q: My girl (S) and I are close to being 2gether for a year. I am worried about this girl (H) that works ...
A: Greetings: I'm not one to second guess what you are seeing and have felt. The fact of the matter ...
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| can gays be brought back | 5/25/2006 |
Q: i have a friend who is very close to me we both like each other very much.but to our fate we ...
A: Namaste Praneeth: I am sorry to say that I am not aware of any cure for gayness, but that is not to ...
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| hi it's me again | 5/15/2006 |
Q: well hear me out again, i've got another problem, well some girl was licking my asshole and this ...
A: I can't answer re: the "wierd stuff" coming out of your rear. You may want to seek medical ...
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| am i gay | 5/15/2006 |
Q: recently i have been thinking about my sexual orientational and have had some things on my mind. My ...
A: A number of straight men like having their prostate gland stimulated by their girlfriend while she ...
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| What's Going on With My boyfriend?Help! | 4/23/2006 |
Q: My boyfriend and I have been dating for 7 months and now live together.We get along brilliantly on ...
A: Sorry for the delay in the response, but I didn't get your question until today. I don't think that ...
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| Straight married woman, FTM interest | 2/20/2006 |
Q: I am a married (5 years), straight woman who recently met a pre-op FTM at a professional seminar. ...
A: Greetings: I don't envy your predicament. This sentence says it all: "I don't know if I want to ...
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| Lost and confused | 12/4/2005 |
Q: I am and 18 year old male from Ashland, Oregon and I really need your help. I'm lost. completely ...
A: I hear your predicament loud and clear and there is no simple solution. I wish that there was. ...
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| Relationship | 11/7/2005 |
Q: Michael, In your experience with relathionships which seemed better a monogamous one or ...
A: Which form the relationship takes or which is better depends on the people in the relationship. I ...
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| Relationship | 11/3/2005 |
Q: I'm 24 years old. This guy and myself dated for 9 months we have been living with each other for the ...
A: Every relationship is different. There is no "one" prototype. That being said, among my friends, ...
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| What shall I do? | 10/30/2005 |
Q: Michael, disaster comes. Look I thought I was into him, but then today when we were going for a 2nd ...
A: Pat: Your situation is very complicated and I cannot tell you what to do. On the one hand you want ...
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| NEED SOME Quick help | 10/11/2005 |
Q: Ok. I dont want to make this long because i know you have other questions to answer. So i am in this ...
A: First of all, it is normal to develop attachments with someone online. It's easy to share personal ...
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| When your trying to hook up with someone? | 9/30/2005 |
Q: How do you get someone to like you if they don't? And if your not talking to the person you like and ...
A: Greetings: You've asked a whole host of questions which simply do not have simple answers. I will ...
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| my wife thinks I'm gay | 9/8/2005 |
Q: To make a long story short: -Wife cheated on me with a good friend -I was more turned on by it than ...
A: I don't think you are gay. You are still attracted to your wife and at this time are in a fantasy ...
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| nipple | 8/28/2005 |
Q: how i can enlargement my nipple ?
A: There are a variety of options available for men. I'm not sure if they will work on women's nipples ...
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| Signs of trouble | 8/4/2005 |
Q: I just started a relationship with this great guy three weeks ago. He has already told me that he ...
A: You have a delicate situation, but all is not lost. I did a search on the internet and found the ...
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| Husband not interested in sex | 7/2/2005 |
Q: Where do I begin, I am 31, married 13 years, 3 kids, house, the usual stuff. On our second date, ...
A: I'm sorry about your situation. Unfortunately, there are no easy answers. The fact of the matter ...
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| Cheating or not Cheating? | 5/25/2005 |
Q: My partner and I have been together a little shy of two years. I have a few questions I would like ...
A: It's a bit complex. With respect to "once a cheater always a cheater" mmmm . . . depends on the ...
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| Is it worth it,Big Dilemma | 5/12/2005 |
Q: I am a 21 year old single black female with no children,who has recently broken up with my boyfriend ...
A: Sorry to have been unclear. By financial hanky panky, I meant that once you are living with them ...
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| Is it worth it,Big Dilemma | 5/6/2005 |
Q: I am a 21 year old single black female with no children,who has recently broken up with my boyfriend ...
A: I apologize for the delay in getting back to you. I did not get your original e-mail and received a ...
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| i believe im a lesbian but am scared | 4/9/2005 |
Q: I have liked girls ever since i can remember but i always hid it and pretended i liked boys i ...
A: I apologize for not responding sooner, but I did not receive the initial e-mail from you. I just ...
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| Help I made mistake and hurt the one I love..but how much more should I pay? | 2/25/2005 |
Q: During those two years I DID IT ALL. To see what I liked and what I did not like. ( some called me ...
A: Your question arrived when I was in India and I was not able to answer during my absence. I just ...
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| VAGINAL TASTE | 12/19/2004 |
Q: ...! This is PAUL again.Am extremely thankful to you for your kind response.....It really helps. ...
A: I think that the easiest way for me to explain this to you is as follows: If you have 10 different ...
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| VAGINAL TASTE | 12/12/2004 |
Q: ....! My name is PAUL.Am a 23 yr old boy wanting to know more about female sexuality.Let me tell ...
A: I simply don't have the answers to all of your questions. Here's what I do know - hygiene plays a ...
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| Is it true that the Gay and... | 10/22/2004 |
Q: Is it true that the Gay and Lesbian Pride Parade kicked NAMBLA out (of participation) many years ...
A: I can't answer your question. There is no one Gay & Lesbian Pride Parade. Each city hosts its own ...
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| adoption by lesbian and homosexual | 8/8/2004 |
Q: my name is keren, I am 24,a Law student. Nowdays I'm doing a compartive research on the subject ...
A: Greetings Keren: I'd recommend that you run a lexis/nexis search to determine the laws of each ...
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| Relationships | 4/2/2004 |
Q: I have a question about relationships or the problem i am having. I have been going out with this ...
A: You have a rather difficult situation ahead. If you are completely honest that weight is the issue, ...
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| Mum won't accept that I'm gay | 3/28/2004 |
Q: I am a lesbian and I've been living with my girlfriend for nearly five years. We are very much in ...
A: It sounds like your mum just isn't ready to deal with these things. All you can do is be patient. ...
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| gay friend | 1/23/2003 |
Q: my friend says that he is gay and well i dont' really know what to do b/c he is always touching me ...
A: The situation is more complicated than it initially seems. Sexual orientation is not as cut and ...
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| rape | 12/22/2002 |
Q: Michael, I was raped as a 5 year old child by a cousin. I have never lived a gay lifestyle and do ...
A: I am saddened and disturbed by the rape which you mentioned. I'm very sorry that this happened to ...
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| Is there a male equivalent to the word "lesbian"? | 9/6/2002 |
Q: While "lesbian" is the common one-word term for "gay woman", there doesn't seem to be an ...
A: Actually, not so long ago (mid 80's) the term "gay" referred only to men. The women were always ...
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| Attraction | 3/22/2002 |
Q: My problem concerns a professor of mine that I have been obsessing over. I am very attracted to her ...
A: I am sorry to hear about your dillema. The fact that you are attracted to someone else does not ...
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| same-sex marriage | 1/30/2002 |
Q: I'm doing a little research, and was wondering WHERE same-sex marriages were legal. If so, is there ...
A: Nowhere in the US that I am aware of. I know that according to the Hawaii constitution, the state ...
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| Please Help If you Can!!!!! | 1/7/2002 |
Q: " Hi my name is Steven and i am 24 yrs old and i am Gay... I am just about at my last resort and ...
A: Greetings Steven: You have your entire life ahead of you as 24 is rather young. It's very easy to ...
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