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| Lesbian / homophobia | 11/4/2009 |
Q: I have been in a relationship for 5 years, and I still am anxious around certain family members and ...
A: Your situation is not unusual, sadly. There is no question that homophobia continues to exist and, ...
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| My husband set up a date...with a man! Does this mean he is gay? | 11/2/2009 |
Q: I appreciate any and all help you can give me. Here is my situation. My husband and I have been ...
A: My heart and prayers go out to you both. This is longer than my replies usually are but I hope the ...
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| Advice me on my sexual issue | 11/2/2009 |
Q: my name is Smith. Can u advise me regarding my sexual issues. i am a gay about 36 yrs of age. had ...
A: Your name (Smith) implies you are a Westerner but your location (India) and that your parents would ...
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| ayuda | 11/1/2009 |
Q: I wanted to know your opinion: I am a 46 years old man living in Venezuela, married with two ...
A: Not knowing her I can't say of course, but my hit is that "she" is probably a man unless she ...
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| Feelings of Guilt and Fear | 10/25/2009 |
Q: For over 10 years I've been in love with one woman. She is in love with me as well. We both ...
A: --- How realistic is it to be in a celibate relationship with someone you are attracted to sexually? ...
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| Feelings of Guilt and Fear | 10/24/2009 |
Q: For over 10 years I've been in love with one woman. She is in love with me as well. We both ...
A: My heart goes out to you both. I have known many people in your situation. I see no easy solutions ...
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| My homosexual orientation vs. shyness | 10/18/2009 |
Q: I'm a gay guy in my mid-20s and I don't think I would mind being in a gay relationship. The problem ...
A: First, your experience is common among gay men. This is one reason it is so important to combat gay ...
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| Counseling | 10/15/2009 |
Q: I have read some of the questions and answers on this website and have found them so helpful. What I ...
A: Therapy can be good for folks. There are several ways to find a qualified LGBT therapist. You might ...
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| man | 10/4/2009 |
Q: my boyfriend likes anal alot and i only see him 2s a week is the a sign that he maybe gay thanks
A: Not necessarily. He enjoys pleasuring you with annal sex and he is still with a female. The anus is ...
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| I like how things are going. | 9/29/2009 |
Q: Im 17, girl. Holds good reputation in school and church. Back in feb, i started to have feelings ...
A: God created somewhere around 10-15% of every species with a homosexual orientation. If you are ...
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| Torn Apart | 9/28/2009 |
Q: I'm was a 21 year old, straight girl. I grow up in a very strict, religious and well-respected ...
A: Sounds like a difficult situation. Basically its your life. Finding a person to love and who loves ...
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| am i bi or gay? | 9/27/2009 |
Q: the other night i was staying the night at one of my friends house.we were up late and we were bored ...
A: At 16 its probably too early to commit yourself to any sexual categories (gay, straight, bi etc). ...
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| help! | 8/31/2009 |
Q: Last night i wrote her an e-mail teling her the way i felt, that i was in love with her. she has not ...
A: There are several different points here. First, God is not against committed same gender ...
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| she doesn't want to feel this way! | 8/28/2009 |
Q: Well, I've known this girl and we act like girlfriends, but we have neve kiss. she's 19 and im 20. ...
A: Whether one is gay, bi or straight dating and finding a partner can be difficult. As the saying ...
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| Sexual freedom in the United States. | 8/15/2009 |
Q: I saw a question that you answered on 3/5/2009 and you told the person about how we've lost most of ...
A: This is a topic that could get pretty heavy. I'll try and keep it light (you can always post ...
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| Gay gene? | 8/15/2009 |
Q: Is it true that there's been a discovery of a gene that determines when a person is born whether the ...
A: Human biology isn't my field but I'll be happy to share my views. According to Web MD there is ...
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| gay husband | 8/6/2009 |
Q: My husband always took of with either rent money or just money out of my purse.He has got hookers he ...
A: Not knowing either of you there's nothing I could really say about this with any certainty. Based ...
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| Was this the way I was born or not, was it how god intended me to be? | 7/11/2009 |
Q: (I wasn't sure who to address this question to since it didn't seem like the topic was listed under ...
A: --- ...but since nobody can ever be sure until we die, I become so scared at the possibility that ...
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| How to meet GLBT Christians | 6/30/2009 |
Q: So over the last few months I've become comfortable with the fact that I can be Christian and ...
A: There are many GLBT Christian ministries where you can connect. There are groups like the Universal ...
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| Confused about my sexuality | 6/17/2009 |
Q: Firstly I want to thank you for doing such a good work and helping so many people with the most ...
A: Namaskar Samit, Thanks for your kind words. Your situation isn't as unusual as it probably seems ...
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| older men | 6/14/2009 |
Q: hey, i'm 19 and new to the gay scene. When i go out clubbing i'm looking for boys my own age but ...
A: My answers usually focus more on spiritual issues as my profile says, but the answer is obvious. ...
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| I'm only 14 | 5/29/2009 |
Q: I'm only 14 years old Im 15 in 3 months and 4 days. The other month me and my best mate who is 16 ...
A: First, in my opinion, you are entirely too young to be sexually active. My advise is to stop having ...
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| Gay? | 5/28/2009 |
Q: Ok, I have always liked girls, and had relationships with them. I have, however, for the last 7-10 ...
A: No worries and no offenses taken. I just found the wording... interesting. You: I just think that ...
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| Gay? | 5/27/2009 |
Q: Ok, I have always liked girls, and had relationships with them. I have, however, for the last 7-10 ...
A: How can a person "not believe in bisexuality?" As a bisexual I find this a most interesting comment. ...
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| Really confused | 5/21/2009 |
Q: Let me just get my situation out there...I have always had giant crushes on boys, like you said as ...
A: There is a biblical truism that goes: As a person thinks so is she/he. People can be and are ...
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| Lesbian | 5/10/2009 |
Q: I am always thinking about being with a women.Am I a lesbian or not,If so how do I tell my love ...
A: You didn't share your age here. My reply would vary a little bit based on that. Into the early to ...
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| Question | 5/10/2009 |
Q: the Lord's peace be with you! I have a couple of questions...first thanks for sharing your thoughts ...
A: You asked: My question...why do you think God would create people do be so attracted to same sex and ...
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| What do these feelings mean? | 5/6/2009 |
Q: I am a 19 year old girl who is in college. I have a boyfriend who i have been involved with for 4+ ...
A: It means that you have allowed yourself to ask the question, nothing more. ANYONE can have feelings. ...
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| Stuck in the middle | 5/5/2009 |
Q: I need some advice with my family and my partner. I came out to my family in high school, and was ...
A: The central issue here is that you, as an adult, have entered into marriage relationship with her. ...
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| Stuck in the middle | 5/5/2009 |
Q: I need some advice with my family and my partner. I came out to my family in high school, and was ...
A: These are tough decisions that only you can decide. Personally I think you have to make a choice. I ...
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| Caring and considerate = overemotional and demanding | 4/24/2009 |
Q: I've been together with my boyfriend for a year now. To lay it all out, he's twice my age and we ...
A: I know this will sound trite, but the truth is, you (both) must simply decide what you (both) want ...
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| in love with friend/gut feelings | 4/24/2009 |
Q: I am a 20 year old female. I have always considered myself straight but I started to fall in love ...
A: You: ...I've always felt that God is ok with it, because He knows we can't control our feelings. ...
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| question | 4/20/2009 |
Q: I'm a (straight) female, I'm 31 years old, and I used to model part time. I have a lot of gay male ...
A: "Gay" and "Straight" are not as clearly defined as most people imagine. It sounds to me like you ...
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| reaction | 4/12/2009 |
Q: I'm a 27 year old straight woman. I am attracted to men emotionally and sexually and physically and ...
A: We as a society have created many false dualities. The truth is more people are naturally bisexual ...
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| gay marriage | 4/4/2009 |
Q: I would like to know what the difference is between gay marriage and civil union in terms of the ...
A: I answer questions as a service. I always do my best so I disabled the ratings option. I appreciate ...
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| gay marriage | 4/4/2009 |
Q: I would like to know what the difference is between gay marriage and civil union in terms of the ...
A: It varies by the state and country. Before a tiny majority of California voters passed Prop 8 we ...
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| bf | 3/5/2009 |
Q: I'm 18 and my bf is 16. I've been with him for a month now and he has said hes ready for sex. I told ...
A: Ah OK James... We've lost most of our freedoms here in the US and must be careful to avoid prison. ...
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| My moms against me being a lesbian | 3/2/2009 |
Q: I have been bi sexual for the last 3 years with out my mother knowing. I recently moved in with her ...
A: I demonstrate on my website that none of the verses in the King James Version or its source ...
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| sexless marriage | 2/22/2009 |
Q: HOW DO I BECOME MORE SEXUAL ATTRACTED TO MY STUD?WE JUST DONT HAVE SEX ANYMORE AND I AM NOT ...
A: First understand that its common for passion to subside with the passage of time. It CAN be a sign ...
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| my friend | 1/26/2009 |
Q: My friend Matthew who is 21 was going out with his bf, Mike, who is 42 for a couple of months. They ...
A: Well, unprotected sex is potentially fatal no matter what ones partners says. He is "lucky" it was ...
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| work | 1/22/2009 |
Q: My husband's new chairperson at work is a lesbian and quite vocal about her feminism and ...
A: Such things are not right but they do occur on all sides. Probably the best he can do is avoid ...
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| Coming Out To My Sister | 12/24/2008 |
Q: I want to come out to my sister Cristina, but I'm afraid of what her reaction will be. I know she ...
A: The best way to come out of the closet varies in every case. At 13 I would not be in too much of a ...
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| am i gay | 12/6/2008 |
Q: i always thought i was straight until i started to masturbate about my male friend. one night when i ...
A: Being gay is about more than a little oral sex. A large percentage of guys, especially between ...
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| Im in love with a lesbian | 11/21/2008 |
Q: Im 24, im male, and straight and i fell in love with a lesbian. I met her like a year ago by some ...
A: That's a tough one. All you can do is talk with her when she is open to it. If you move before she ...
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| lesbian life | 11/20/2008 |
Q: My girl friend gave been going out for 8 months I was 17 when we started to go out but now I'm 18 ...
A: I'm not a lawyer but I would think that if you are both 18 or over you are not breaking any laws. ...
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| Am I really gay? | 11/19/2008 |
Q: Whether I press the send button to this message may be another thing, but at least if I type it ...
A: First, congratulations on writing and sending this. I know how difficult it can be. There is no ...
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| Boyfriend gay porn- so many questions on what to do! | 11/18/2008 |
Q: I have been with my boyfriend for just over a year, and we were good friends for a few years before ...
A: Lots of people enjoy gay porn. Not all are gay but it's certainly an indication that he may be at ...
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| innate or inherited | 11/7/2008 |
Q: 1. Where do you stand on the debate over whether homosexuality is innate or inherited? Why? 2. Also, ...
A: Question 1: In my opinion it varies with the individual. Some people (about 10-15% according to ...
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| What do I do? | 10/28/2008 |
Q: I am not really sure where to start or exactly what my question is but here goes. My fiance is a big ...
A: You: You seem like an intellectual and compassionate guy; I want to thank you for taking your time ...
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| What do I do? | 10/27/2008 |
Q: I am not really sure where to start or exactly what my question is but here goes. My fiance is a big ...
A: People can be very stubborn and SOME men, if wrongly accused of something, will do the thing they ...
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| my son | 10/27/2008 |
Q: My son, Jamie is 21 and I am very accepting of his sexuality. He's never had a proper boyfriend, ...
A: First, its good to hear that you are accepting of Jamie's sexual orientation. He sounds lucky to ...
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| What do I do? | 10/25/2008 |
Q: I am not really sure where to start or exactly what my question is but here goes. My fiance is a big ...
A: Our society enjoys dualism, we think everyone must be either gay or straight. The truth is, most ...
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| Sexual Frustration | 10/25/2008 |
Q: Am 31. have erectile dysfunction for almost 10 years. 2 years back over alcohol, i ventured in ...
A: While I am not a psychologist my inclination is that your difficulties may be psychological in ...
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| Am I a lesbian or am I not? | 10/19/2008 |
Q: I'm 13.I'm a girl.I just turned 13 in the middle of September.I live in the east.I'm in the 8th ...
A: Frankly Corrina, You are too young to concern yourself with this topic. Focus on school and your ...
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| am i gay | 10/12/2008 |
Q: lately i have been looking at gay porn and fantasising about having sex and kissing boys am i gay?
A: Not necessarily. Its perfectly natural to be curious and to check out this sort of thing, especially ...
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| confused | 10/10/2008 |
Q: ok so I'm 16 and since ever i had always had that feeling around girls. When i made this new friend ...
A: Your feelings sound perfectly normal and don't really say anything about your sexual orientation. ...
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| i am so confused | 10/7/2008 |
Q: hey john umm i have this problem where i love women but its weird whenever i am horny or just ...
A: Sounds to me like you are coming into your own. The best I can tell you is that this too will pass. ...
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| My love left me because she thinks shes a lesbian... | 10/7/2008 |
Q: Here is the story: I met my girlfriend about 3 years ago in high school. She was very into me and ...
A: Often these things happen because people assume one is either gay or straight. A large percentage of ...
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| is my husband gay | 10/5/2008 |
Q: my husband likes baseketball and rap and likes me to dress in mens clothes I was slim when we met ...
A: From what you've posted here I see no reason to assume he is. People prefer various fashions and ...
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| Am I gay? | 9/12/2008 |
Q: "Ok, lets get this started. I'm 20 years old, and i've been depressed for a long time, i secluded ...
A: First, there are a lot of inaccurate stereotypes of guys getting hard at the slightest provocation. ...
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| did god give up on me? | 8/30/2008 |
Q: I am seventeen and I never really suspected myself gay, until 6 months back. I started wondering ...
A: First, God has absolutely NOT abandoned you. He is your Father and your eternal well wisher. The ...
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| Christian, Gay/Bi, Confused, Sin? | 8/10/2008 |
Q: I'm a young 15 year old girl and I would like to have some help apart from prayer. I'm a Christian ...
A: First, my advise is to focus on your studies and don't worry about sexuality until you are older. ...
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| children issue with gay partners | 7/30/2008 |
Q: i'm writing on behalf of my fiance with whom is having issue with his 3 children calling his ex's ...
A: This is a sad situation. Sadly in divorce it is usually the kids who are harmed. Both parents and ...
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| my boyfriend told me he may be gay | 7/24/2008 |
Q: So my boyfriend and i were talking tonight and he said he had to tell me something but wasnt sure ...
A: First the question about being gay today and straight yesterday. There is a lot of controversy ...
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| christian parents acceping im a lesbian | 7/2/2008 |
Q: I am a lesbian and have been with my partner for two years but my parents and sister are born again ...
A: The inaccurate belief that the Bible condemns same gender relationships, that Sodom and Gomorrah ...
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| Gay and Orthodox Christian | 6/13/2008 |
Q: My partner and I have been together 12 years, we are each others first. We are a nice honest ...
A: Sad indeed. I am aware of but have no direct association with this group, but they should be source ...
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| Gay and Orthodox Christian | 6/12/2008 |
Q: My partner and I have been together 12 years, we are each others first. We are a nice honest ...
A: Unfortunately the Orthodox Christian denominations (Greek, Russian, etc.) are not inclusive of GLBT ...
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| Gay/lesbian issues | 4/29/2008 |
Q: Why do some people say that god does not want gays to marry? Why is gay marriage such a problem in ...
A: In ancient times it was very important that people reproduce. Children, especially males, were ...
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| Is my husband gay? | 4/22/2008 |
Q: I recently went on my husband's e-mail & found out he was talking to gay men on the internet. I ...
A: I can't tell you if your husband is gay or not. I have no way of knowing. I can tell you however ...
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| is my fiance bi or lesbian | 4/20/2008 |
Q: I need some advice. Please help me i will try to make everything accurate. Me and my fiance have ...
A: I know this can be very difficult/painful for all parties concerned. The fundamental problem is our ...
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| Crush On my best friend | 4/9/2008 |
Q: Hey My names sarah, Im 22 Years old. I have a huge crush on one of my really good friends and since ...
A: We must honor one another's life choices. Remember the old saying: "If you love something let it go ...
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| Age Gap, Gay relationship | 3/12/2008 |
Q: My boyfriend and I are completely in love and have been for two years. I am ready to move forward ...
A: "Wrong" is generally in the eyes of the beholder of course, this isn't my concern here. There are ...
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| "Ask any question" website question... | 1/27/2008 |
Q: John: A few years ago, there was a website where you could go and ask any question about any ...
A: Sounds like WhoQuestion.com. They let answerers win shirts, mousepads etc? I still have a lot of ...
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| What should i do? | 1/26/2008 |
Q: I love her and I want to marry her, but for the longest time I have been interested in men. I know I ...
A: First, it is my experience that most people are innately bisexual, not gay or straight (although ...
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| gay thinking | 12/27/2007 |
Q: . for the past more than 6 months ive been questioning myself about my sexuality ... am i gay ...
A: Questioning one's sexual orientation is perfectly natural, especially during the teen age years. ...
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| caught gf cheating | 12/16/2007 |
Q: I have been in a relationship with my current gf for almost 4 years now. Friday was her birthday ...
A: This is something you must decide for yourself. Couples (GLBT or straight) usually do best when ...
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| my sexual orientation | 10/18/2007 |
Q: i have been struggling with men attractions for a while now. it first started out as gay porn, i was ...
A: I think you are focusing too much on labels. It doesn't really matter what you call yourself does ...
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| Massage | 9/28/2007 |
Q: I was wondering if it was against the law to receive an erotic massage by trained and licensed men. ...
A: I'm afraid I don't know the laws so well and each state is different. I mainly focus on the ...
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| God | 8/19/2007 |
Q: I am a lesbian and a very strong christian. However i do not think that all aspects of the bible are ...
A: The Good News is that homosexuality is not a sin. The biblical teaching on this is exactly as it is ...
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| My Girlfriend Has A Boyfriend | 8/15/2007 |
Q: My Girlfriend and I have been in a realationship for 6 mths now. When we got together, she was a ...
A: Relationships are always complicated, especially in the early phases. Generally speaking ...
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| hi im gay | 8/4/2007 |
Q: hi im gay and i was wondering if you know how big my penis should be im 12 years old thanks plus do ...
A: Your penis should be exactly the size it is right now. Your body is growing and developing. Don't ...
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| thoughts | 8/1/2007 |
Q: and honestly im very stressed out for the past month or more my mind has been taken over by gay ...
A: It is my belief that the most accurate way to consider sexual orientation is as a scale rather than ...
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| could x husband be gay | 7/24/2007 |
Q: I was married for 15 years and have two teenagers. My x had several flings and left us six times. ...
A: My heart goes out to you, your ex and your kids. Unfortunately there is no way I can determine the ...
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| Is my husband bi or gay | 7/13/2007 |
Q: I have been with my husband for ten years. Recently I found a big toy in his car and was shocked. I ...
A: My heart goes out to you. First, what is "normal" depends very much on one's culture and beliefs. ...
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| Is my husband bi or gay | 7/12/2007 |
Q: I have been with my husband for ten years. Recently I found a big toy in his car and was shocked. I ...
A: It doesn't sound like you have any real evidence to me. The toy is not clear evidence. Perhaps he ...
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| extra advise | 4/2/2007 |
Q: I had previously wrote kay about being a confused 25 year male person wondering about my sexuality, ...
A: Each of the "Experts" here are individuals, so I'm not privy to your previous conversations with ...
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| am i gay | 3/31/2007 |
Q: i like watching men's belly buttons. i get erections on seeing them! doe that mean i am gay?
A: What it means to be "gay" is debated. Most people are not 100% gay or straight. Most people can be ...
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| about gays, | 3/30/2007 |
Q: i have erections and massive feelings when i look at men's belly buttons. i just cant help it!!! i ...
A: What it means to be "gay" is debated. Most people are not 100% gay or straight. Most people can be ...
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| Hated for who I am. | 3/29/2007 |
Q: I'm a girl and I'm currently dating another girl, I like her alot and from what I can tell, she ...
A: Part 3 of 3 ============================== Correctly Understanding Leviticus 20:13 and 18:22 A ...
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| please read | 3/26/2007 |
Q: I am not trying to condemn you in your actions but what you are teaching is a misrepresentation of ...
A: The purpose of this service however is for experts in given fields to answer questions. Your ...
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| my husband might be homosexual | 3/21/2007 |
Q: My husband and I are having a lot of problems and we have a roommate who lives with us and has been ...
A: There isn't really anything more I can say to this I don't think. Please don't be offended, it is ...
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| my husband might be homosexual | 3/20/2007 |
Q: My husband and I are having a lot of problems and we have a roommate who lives with us and has been ...
A: I can't really speak to whether or not your husband is gay as I obviously don't know him. For ...
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| coming out to best (religious) friend | 3/3/2007 |
Q: I am a bisexual young woman. I'm really not out. Only my parents and one friend know. I'm ...
A: The good news is that God loves us all. If you are interested, I have a website dealing with the ...
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| my church, me and my sexuality | 1/3/2007 |
Q: Im in church I've given my life to Christ but I've been struggling for my sexuality since i was 13 ...
A: My heart goes out to you, I know how very difficult it can be to come to terms with this issue. ...
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| is my husband gay? | 12/31/2006 |
Q: at the minute, im so hurt and confused i dont know what to do. i have been with my husband 5 years ...
A: My heart goes to you. This must be hard to understand. In this reply I don't intend to justify ...
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| Is my boyfriend gay | 11/28/2006 |
Q: I've been with my boyfriend for over a year,and some small things he does makes me wonder if he ...
A: First, I applaud your desire to help him determine his sexual orientation. This is often a difficult ...
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| gay adoption and the catholic church | 11/22/2006 |
Q: do you think that gay adoption is going against the holy bible? wouldn't god rather have liked us to ...
A: For something to be against the Bible it must either violate the Scriptures or violate the ...
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| Heartbroken | 8/29/2006 |
Q: here it goes, My girlfriend and I have been dating for 5 months and she saw her ex boyfriend at the ...
A: Relationships can certainly be very difficult and confusing at times. My thought is that it would be ...
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| It is not a lie--homosexuality is wrong. | 8/2/2006 |
Q: By biblical standards, wouldn't the word you defined "morally weak" include homosexual acts? And ...
A: You asked: "By biblical standards, wouldn't the word you defined "morally weak" include homosexual ...
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| It is not a lie--homosexuality is wrong. | 8/1/2006 |
Q: If you know so much about the bible, then you would know that 1 Corinthians 6:9-11 says ,"What! Do ...
A: Your post would shoot me down if it was biblically correct. Here's the facts of the matter however: ...
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