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| Subject | Date Asked | Expert |
| Bisexuality | 2/5/2012 | Adriaan Pretorius |
| Q: Greetings ! Hoping all is well. Perhaps you can help me out. I am a highly closeted BI Male aged ... A: One's sexuality is no one business, that's the short answer. Straight people don't go around ... | ||
| preventing a breakup | 1/29/2012 | Adriaan Pretorius |
| Q: my name is Alvin. I have been tgt with my boyfriend for 9 months now and things arent getting ... A: The short answer is this: you cannoy force someone to be in a relationship. If he wants out, you ... | ||
| preventing a breakup | 1/29/2012 | Ben |
| Q: my name is Alvin. I have been tgt with my boyfriend for 9 months now and things arent getting ... A: You say your boyfriend told you he wanted to break up with you once before and you refused, and now, ... | ||
| preventing a breakup | 1/29/2012 | Tedd Adams |
| Q: my name is Alvin. I have been tgt with my boyfriend for 9 months now and things arent getting ... A: 9 months is just about the time when a lot of relationships start feeling the strain that you're ... | ||
| confused? | 1/27/2012 | Gary |
| Q: I'm a gay man, always been attracted to men and dated men only. No attraction or feelings for women. ... A: Derek, Men tend to be very visual when it comes to what turns them on. It could just be that in ... | ||
| Confused | 1/18/2012 | Kade Williams |
| Q: My girlfriend and I have been together for 6 months. Recently we have been fighting for about a ... A: Sorry I took so long in responding Rayven, I went through my own break up. I know they hurt. Well ... | ||
| How can I tell if my co-worker is gay? | 1/16/2012 | Tedd Adams |
| Q: Recently several of my co-workers relocated from Seattle to Boston. One of my new co-workers who ... A: Sorry it's taken so long to get back to you. The simple reason is that it's hard to give you any ... | ||
| My ex is horrible... | 1/10/2012 | Kade Williams |
| Q: Here is my little problem. I have been dating this guy for about a year and we just broke up. I ... A: I know how you feel trust me, Well, what can I say but rumors are a fact of life. You can't escape ... | ||
| about the love | 1/10/2012 | Gary |
| Q: sir,i am loving a women for so many days but i am a gay is it advisable to continue???? And she is ... A: Aditya, With limited information is is difficult to answer your question in any length but you may ... | ||
| help | 1/9/2012 | Ben |
| Q: Ok so I ve been living with these two brothers for 4 years. One is straight and one is gay. They ... A: There are a number of reasons your room mate might not have reciprocated your feelings. He may be ... | ||
| Distance - armor or misunderstanding? | 12/29/2011 | Tedd Adams |
| Q: 3months ago I met a guy who had come over to visit my city but lives a 1-hr flight from me. We spent ... A: It sure sounds to me like he is wrestling with his own feelings. That is, he has strong feelings of ... | ||
| Is this the real me.? | 12/27/2011 | Tedd Adams |
| Q: So... I'm a male, that's 17 and I've been confused lately about my sexual orientation. I'm not sure ... A: First of all, to put it bluntly... it really doesn't matter what you WANT to be. You are what you ... | ||
| "gay piercings" | 12/25/2011 | Gary |
| Q: So im a 14year old girl and i want a bar(industrial) piercing ony left ear is that a sign for other ... A: Spencer, I'm sorry for the delay in answering your question. As for your piercing I don't think ... | ||
| Straight woman/gay man issue? | 12/23/2011 | Adriaan Pretorius |
| Q: I define my orientation as straight, potentially bi, but way more into men than women, and very much ... A: I know the term fag hag sounds quite derogatory, but it's actually just a nice rhyming term, and ... | ||
| Nose fetish? | 12/20/2011 | Tedd Adams |
| Q: Since I'm gay I noticed something that started when I was in 4th grade and has stayed w/ me ever ... A: Well, the short answer is no, but people have all sorts of fetishes for all sorts of things. Others ... | ||
| different pleasure | 12/18/2011 | Adriaan Pretorius |
| Q: I am 35 single, male 1,70 cm 90kg. I have dated 03 women but I never fell in love with any girl. I ... A: In sexual intercourse many things get triggered and happen, it's quite a complex process, but one of ... | ||
| question | 12/4/2011 | Gary |
| Q: I am gay and I am not attracted towards women. I am from India and many people conside a gay being a ... A: Sanath, There are very many Indian gay men that I have counseled and they are now living very ... | ||
| shemales | 12/3/2011 | Gary |
| Q: one of my fantasys is to fuck a shemale. and suck on her cock. does this make me gay. A: Chad, It may mean you are gay or maybe you just have a fetish about this. You need to ask ... | ||
| is it time to come out? | 11/27/2011 | Gary |
| Q: i am 18 and gay i still haven't come out. i think my reason for this is because: A) sexuality is ... A: Santiago, No you are not being nieve. You should only come out when you are ready to come out. When ... | ||
| could he be bi-curious | 11/23/2011 | Gary |
| Q: Im Jerron im sure you get this a lot hey! But anyway let me get to the main reason why i seek help ... A: Jerron, It sure sounds like there is some connection between the two of you. If you are gay and he ... | ||
| gender in employment | 11/20/2011 | Tedd Adams |
| Q: i'm not sure if you can answer this question, but here goes. In a previous life (30) years ago i was ... A: This is complete nonsense. I would advise your friend that he should scrutinize his sources of ... | ||
| They think I'm a girl | 11/18/2011 | Adriaan Pretorius |
| Q: I'm 16 and gay. I love to dress like a girl and wear make-up and nail polish. I have grown out my ... A: Hey there Luca We are sometimes forced to live in a certain kind of way, because that is what the ... | ||
| homosexual tendency | 11/15/2011 | Gary |
| Q: I am male, 35, weigh 90 kg and I am 1,70 meter-tall. When I was a boy I used to dream that I would ... A: Bruno, I don't think your attraction to heavy set men has anything to do with you suffering from ... | ||
| Ask | 11/4/2011 | Tedd Adams |
| Q: My son is 21 years of age. He has lived out of the country for the past 4 years and has not had any ... A: What you're describing is almost certainly herpes. The clustered liquid-filled warts are entitely ... | ||
| I have gay crush on my best friend and want to get over it | 10/31/2011 | Gary |
| Q: My name is Brad and I have been having a problem with relationships for a little while now. I am 20 ... A: I know this is probably not the answer you want but my advice would be to be honest with him. If he ... | ||
| I'm gay, or am I? | 10/27/2011 | Adriaan Pretorius |
| Q: I'm turning 27 next week. I am gay, or at least I think I'm.. I'm in a relationship that is a ... A: You tend to isolate yourself a lot, from what I can get from your letter and this isolation has ... | ||
| Finding me? | 10/24/2011 | Adriaan Pretorius |
| Q: I've been concerned about my sexuality for a long time now. I'm 26 and I don't have a girl friend ... A: Hey there John Being gay is not different from being straight. You like someone, you fall in love, ... | ||
| Confusion from Best Friend! | 10/18/2011 | Adriaan Pretorius |
| Q: I'm 19 and gay. Now my dilemma that I face deals with my Best's friend's true feelings. We met last ... A: Hey there Matt! Let me give you a tip first, stop running so fast! You're skipping some steps ... | ||
| Long distance relationship, trouble? | 10/17/2011 | Adriaan Pretorius |
| Q: I'm a 25, and recently came out as gay, even do I've been dealing with the feeling for the last 8 ... A: Let me be blunt here. Long distance relationships don't exist. The only time a long distance ... | ||
| Gay Relationships/ Where to turn to | 10/12/2011 | Tedd Adams |
| Q: Here my problem and it's a little complicated: There is this guy that I have known for quite some ... A: I would definitely agree with your assessment, not only based on the facts you've written, but also ... | ||
| Homosexual feelings | 10/11/2011 | Gary |
| Q: I am a 45 year old male, married and father of 2 adult sons. Since my early teens I have had ... A: The answer to your question is quite easy. You are gay. Many gay men get married and have children ... | ||
| help | 10/7/2011 | Adriaan Pretorius |
| Q: I have to ask these questions to you please. 1) Is it fair and okay for my boyfriend to have ... A: Hey there There are of course many things to consider, but the short answers to your questions are, ... | ||
| help | 10/7/2011 | Tedd Adams |
| Q: I have to ask these questions to you please. 1) Is it fair and okay for my boyfriend to have ... A: The answer to both questions is the same... it depends on what you and your boyfriend agree to. If ... | ||
| My Relationships always fail. | 10/5/2011 | Tedd Adams |
| Q: I'm a gay 56 year old gay male, I have had a few relationships in my life, and I've been gay that I ... A: Sorry to be so blunt, but Darrin is playing you and you're letting him. I know this is hard to see, ... | ||
| HOCD???? | 10/4/2011 | Tedd Adams |
| Q: I am looking for some help with "H" OCD if it even exists. I am currently taking zoloft, which ... A: First, what you are describing definitely SOUNDS like OCD. I say SOUNDS like because although I have ... | ||
| finding relationships | 10/2/2011 | Tedd Adams |
| Q: I have a problem forming relationships all through school I had no close friends only a few ... A: You're right about one thing... there has got to be a reason why you're not getting second dates. ... | ||
| Help-Trust | 9/30/2011 | Gary |
| Q: would like to ask you for some advice on a matter. My boyfriend remains friends with his ex who is ... A: As long as your boyfriend is not sleeping with his ex I don't suppose it really matters what his ex ... | ||
| Help-Trust | 9/30/2011 | Tedd Adams |
| Q: would like to ask you for some advice on a matter. My boyfriend remains friends with his ex who is ... A: I would not construe the worst from this, as you are doing. It sounds to me like a miscommunication. ... | ||
| I know I'm not straight | 9/24/2011 | Tedd Adams |
| Q: I'm a 26 years old man living in Marietta GA. Not only me,but also my parents have always found ... A: You know, that is the hardest of all types of relationships to ignite. There is a simple reason for ... | ||
| Husband has feelings for my dad, I feel sick | 9/22/2011 | Gary |
| Q: Last night I was shocked by my husband's revelation. He said "Sit down. We need to talk, it's ... A: I think counseling is for sure a good idea and I am a big advocate of it. There can be several ... | ||
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Tedd Adams
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Expertise
I can answer questions related to gay life in general, but also specifically questions about gay youth, coming out, dealing with family issues, religion and homosexuality, and workplace issues. I have also visited many of the popular gay travel destinations and can give you advice on what is worth seeing and what is not.
AVISO: También, puedo responder a preguntas en español.
Experience
I have been a volunteer facilitator for a state-sponsored gay youth support group, where we dealt with all of the issues mentioned above. I have also been active in the local chapter of PFLAG.
Organizations
Human Rights Campaign
Oklahomans for Equality
Parents, Friends and Families of Lesbians and Gays (PFLAG)
Publications
Tulsa World, Muskogee Phoenix, Tulsa Family News, About Business Magazine, Contributor to the book "I Can't Believe You Asked That!", by Phillip J. Milano
Education/Credentials
Associates degree, Biblical Studies, Kentucky Christian College
Bachelors of Science, John Brown University, Psychology
Masters in Organizational Management, University of Phoenix (Tulsa OK campus).
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