AboutTedd Adams Expertise I can answer questions related to gay life in general, but also specifically questions about gay youth, coming out, dealing with family issues, religion and homosexuality, and workplace issues. I have also visited many of the popular gay travel destinations and can give you advice on what is worth seeing and what is not.
Experience I have been a volunteer facilitator for a state-sponsored gay youth support group, where we dealt with all of the issues mentioned above.
Publications Tulsa World, Muskogee Phoenix, Tulsa Family News, About Business Magazine, Contributor to the book "I Can't Believe You Asked That!", by Phillip J. Milano
Education/Credentials Associates degree, Biblical Studies, Kentucky Christian College
Bachelors of Science, John Brown University, Psychology
Masters in Organizational Management, University of Phoenix (Tulsa OK campus).
Question ok so i have been obsessed with this one guy since i moved here and i always thought that he might lean toward the other side (gay side) cuz all his friends admit that he could get any girl he wanted yet he never makes a move. so all this time i had had some hope that maybe we could get together and now one of my best girl friends slipped him the toungue and she did it in front of me. I WAS DESTROYED! so my question is what can i do to deal with it? cuz every time i see him now the only thing i can think is how much it sucks that i cant even tell him how i feel (cuz i havent told anyone)"
Answer Tobi
The reality is that there is NOTHING you can do about the way other people act, or how they feel! You can only choose how you react to their actions. And right now, it sounds like you're not reacting very well.
If you ever hope to acheive peace of mind, you've got to learn to change this. Just accept it as the way life goes sometimes, and then move on. This will allow you to focus your energy on people who may be interested in return.
Now, if you want to improve the chances of someone returning your interest, that's where you have to decided whether or not it's worth the risk of telling people your persuassion. It makes you more vulnerable, but it also opens new opportunities. But there again, that is your choice to make.
