AboutTedd Adams Expertise I can answer questions related to gay life in general, but also specifically questions about gay youth, coming out, dealing with family issues, religion and homosexuality, and workplace issues. I have also visited many of the popular gay travel destinations and can give you advice on what is worth seeing and what is not.
Experience I have been a volunteer facilitator for a state-sponsored gay youth support group, where we dealt with all of the issues mentioned above.
Publications Tulsa World, Muskogee Phoenix, Tulsa Family News, About Business Magazine, Contributor to the book "I Can't Believe You Asked That!", by Phillip J. Milano
Education/Credentials Associates degree, Biblical Studies, Kentucky Christian College
Bachelors of Science, John Brown University, Psychology
Masters in Organizational Management, University of Phoenix (Tulsa OK campus).
Expert: Tedd Adams Date: 5/10/2008 Subject: i dont know if im gay or not
Question hey my name is Jordan and 17 and i have been thinking i might be gay or bisexual.i have been thinking this for the last 8 or 9 years.i am so confused because i look at guys sometimes in that way but i look at chicks as well i am so confused please help me
Answer Jordan
The trick is to not try so hard to label yourself one thing or another. If you've read any of my other posts on this board, you'll see that I really don't care much for those three distinct categories (gay, straight, bi) because they have little to do with the realities of human sexuality, which is far more complex than that.
The fact is, many of us experience some degree of attraction to both sexes, and maybe to a greater or lesser degree over our lifetimes. To make matters even more complex, you can be more physically attracted to one or the other, while at the same time being emotionally more inclined to the opposite.
So my advice for people in your situation is always to just express your feelings in whatever type of relationships feel the most fulfilling for you, without over-thinking the how you define those feelings.
