AboutTedd Adams Expertise I can answer questions related to gay life in general, but also specifically questions about gay youth, coming out, dealing with family issues, religion and homosexuality, and workplace issues. I have also visited many of the popular gay travel destinations and can give you advice on what is worth seeing and what is not.
Experience I have been a volunteer facilitator for a state-sponsored gay youth support group, where we dealt with all of the issues mentioned above.
Publications Tulsa World, Muskogee Phoenix, Tulsa Family News, About Business Magazine, Contributor to the book "I Can't Believe You Asked That!", by Phillip J. Milano
Education/Credentials Associates degree, Biblical Studies, Kentucky Christian College
Bachelors of Science, John Brown University, Psychology
Masters in Organizational Management, University of Phoenix (Tulsa OK campus).
Question Hello, ive been struggling with this for years now. I think i might be gay, thats the only type of pornography i like watching. But i am romantically attracted strictly to girls, i never have romantic feelings for men, all i want is sex from men. What could these things mean?
Answer Hi Tanner
If you've read any of my previous postings, you'll see that this is not at all uncommon. It's why I don't care much for the terms gay, straight and bi. They simply do not represent the full spectrum of human sexuality.
As with your case, it's entirely possible to have emotional attraction to one gender or the other, and yet have physical attraction to the other. This can, and often does, change over time. Usually, most people will reconcile the discord and will settle into relationship patterns that are right for them. And that's what you should focus on, more so than what to call yourself.
As long as you pursue relationships that are fulfilling for you, why is it so important to fit into some arbitrary category that doesn't really represent who you are? Don't sweat the titles so much, and just focus on relationships with people you are interested in, whether they are male or female.
