AboutJim Swanson Expertise I have often helped gays in their challenge to understand what it means to come out and how best to start down that road. I have and also helped gays to reconcile the often difficult struggle of being gay and being a Christian. I now understand one of God's truths more clearly: Our pain is not wasted when we can reach around and comfort another coming along behind us on the same path.
Experience I too had to deal with these issues when I finally accepted who I was and started down my own path to come out. It is difficult to imagine now how much I have changed and how much I have learned as I traveled this most curious journey. For many years, I have hosted a website to address this issue and to help others.
Expert: Jim Swanson Date: 7/6/2008 Subject: .... the fuck???????/
Question hi ,
i was just wondering, see i'm a boy and have recently "DISCOVERED" my orientation, and i am in love with one of my friends. ever since i first met him i have had a crush on him and i was wondering if he was gay. he has a "girlfriend" but he wasnt the one that went on the look for her, she thought that HE was hot and that's y they hooked up. i have he always smiles whenever he is next to me and when ever he sees me he always speaks in english to me because i moved from new york to latin america and i know how to speak fluent spanish. and i always joke around him and so far i have kissed him on the cheek like 3-4 times and he doesnt seem to mind or react weird, whereas some other friends whom i have done it to all say , WOW U"RE GAY, and i play it off like if it was a joke. so what do u think?
Answer Hi Tobi,
Like you, your friend may still be struggling with his sexuality like you have been in the past. There is no way for me to tell if your friend is gay but I believe you are in a better position to figure that out. If you really need to know, I suggest that you start to talk about it with your friend. However, if it was me, I would just enjoy the friendship and closeness that you share and not worry about titles. There is nothing quite as good as a really close friend that you can share everything with.
