AboutTedd Adams Expertise I can answer questions related to gay life in general, but also specifically questions about gay youth, coming out, dealing with family issues, religion and homosexuality, and workplace issues. I have also visited many of the popular gay travel destinations and can give you advice on what is worth seeing and what is not.
Experience I have been a volunteer facilitator for a state-sponsored gay youth support group, where we dealt with all of the issues mentioned above.
Publications Tulsa World, Muskogee Phoenix, Tulsa Family News, About Business Magazine, Contributor to the book "I Can't Believe You Asked That!", by Phillip J. Milano
Education/Credentials Associates degree, Biblical Studies, Kentucky Christian College
Bachelors of Science, John Brown University, Psychology
Masters in Organizational Management, University of Phoenix (Tulsa OK campus).
Question Hi. How are you? My names Alec and I'm 15.I am pretty sure that i am gay but I'm having problems determining. Mainly i am having problems with more sexual matters. Like there isn't sexual attraction to women at all and i know that for a fact (friends have changed in front of me and nothing happened) and there is some with men but the problem is is that i don't know if it's enough to prove it. Like i will get aroused but like not as frequently as i had expected with hormones and all changeling. Also is it bad that i feel awkward with pda with other men??
Answer Hi Alec
It sounds to me like you're expecting your body to tell you what your sexual orientation is rather than letting your mind reveal it naturally. We are all attracted to other people. Sometimes that's men, sometimes women, and sometimes both. Stop worrying so much about produces physical arousal, as that can be a lousy determinant, and focus more on the mental cues of attraction.
Who do you enjoy looking at more? Who do you enjoy talking with? Who are you excited to see or talk to when you encounter them at school or in a store? Who are the characters you're more drawn to in movies and TV shows? These are all better indicators of your true sexual orientation.
