About Tedd Adams Expertise I can answer questions related to gay life in general, but also specifically questions about gay youth, coming out, dealing with family issues, religion and homosexuality, and workplace issues. I have also visited many of the popular gay travel destinations and can give you advice on what is worth seeing and what is not.
Experience I have been a volunteer facilitator for a state-sponsored gay youth support group, where we dealt with all of the issues mentioned above.
Publications Tulsa World, Muskogee Phoenix, Tulsa Family News, About Business Magazine, Contributor to the book "I Can't Believe You Asked That!", by Phillip J. Milano
Education/Credentials Associates degree, Biblical Studies, Kentucky Christian College
Bachelors of Science, John Brown University, Psychology
Masters in Organizational Management, University of Phoenix (Tulsa OK campus).
Question HELLO EXPERTS ONE I JUST WANTED TO SAY I AM A FAN I LOVE YOUR ADVICE I HOPE YOU HAVE A BOOK COMING OUT!
ok my question is this, i have a friend that is my world we are best friends, we spend alot of time together, 5 or 6 days a week and call each other like 3 or 4 times a day. we go shopping all that together. i think that he is bi and i wanted to know if he likes me or if he is bi period. because these have changed between us. ill give you the signs and hopefully i would love it if you could tell me if what you think..
me and him are real tight one im over his house alot as he is over mine for long periods of time sometimes till the next day.
2. we always making gay jokes and playing with each other as far as the gay thing.
3. one time i was playing around going into my apartment and i was taking to long so he smacked my butt and told me "hurry up" this happened several times.
4.i do music and all of my recording he loves and stands by it. he has it in his car ipod computer phone and even made it his ringtone!
5. one time we were smoking(you know what) and i was talking about my shirts that i like. he comment out the blue "you like men?" i thought he was trying to catch me off guard so i of course said no...but i said it with hesitance. then i made a comment about his penis size stating that girls arent going to like him because he has a small penis. he replied "no i got on big one, y you tryna find out"? then began to laugh.
6. I was lying donw onetime and he wanted to get me up to leave for this party. i didnt want to get up so he grabbed my chest(ima big guy so i have man boob lol) not once but 3 times and on the third time he grabbed my nipple TWISTED IT AND PULLED FORLIKE 3 SECS i laughed and so did he, as we werer leaving i was just standing in front of the door he came from behind and put his hand softly on my rear and left it there for 3 sec. and said you can go
(now at this point he doesnt know about me)
7. we are alays catching eye contact for long periods of time and then he looks aways.
(i know these signs might be flags but i wanna be sure.)
8. we were in the car oneday and he gave me money he owed me. he looked at me and in a wendy williams voice(gay) he said" you got some place where you wanna place that?" i said yeah in the same voice i leaned over slowly and put the cash on his chest and slid it down to his crouch slowly, and he watched me do it and said ew!! and starting laughing.
9. he lied about having children
THE LAST ONE.
10. well oneday i was jsut al worked up about it and decided to tell him that i was bi. i called him and told him that i was bi and he siad it was cool but that he isnt bi. iwas so confused...so i called a my best friend and my brother and a co-worker they said they got the same vibe from him, and i didnt even tell the co-worker that it was him iwas talking about he knew exactly who iwas talking about(we all work together our co-worker is gay) then iasked him to come over... after i told that iwas bi and he did. and he said he was fine with but kept asking me if i was sure and if i ever did anything with a guy.
2days later its me and my best friend which is a girl who is bi 2 was laying on my couch and he came over and sat with us on the couch... he wanted to show me some pics and i placed my head on his arm and layed there and he didnt say a word...NOW THIS WAS AFTER HE LEARNED I WAS BI...AND HE KNOW THAT MY BEST FRIEND IS BI 2. SO IS HE GAY ADN Y WOULD HE TELL ME HE WASNT BI OR GAY. I THINK HE IS WHAT DO YOU THINK.
Answer Hey Bryce
thank you for the compliment. I am indeed considering writing a book. I certainly have more material thani ever imagined.
From what you've described, it sounds to me more like you friend just has a playful personality and is completely comfortable with your sexuality, but is not interested in men himself. He feels comfortable with you and values your frienship and your bisexuality is insignificant to him as far as your relationship goes.
If he were interested, knowing that you are in fact bi, he would have made his interest far more apparent.
Sorry that's probably not what you want to hear, but. That is how I see it.
