About Tedd Adams Expertise I can answer questions related to gay life in general, but also specifically questions about gay youth, coming out, dealing with family issues, religion and homosexuality, and workplace issues. I have also visited many of the popular gay travel destinations and can give you advice on what is worth seeing and what is not.
Experience I have been a volunteer facilitator for a state-sponsored gay youth support group, where we dealt with all of the issues mentioned above.
Publications Tulsa World, Muskogee Phoenix, Tulsa Family News, About Business Magazine, Contributor to the book "I Can't Believe You Asked That!", by Phillip J. Milano
Education/Credentials Associates degree, Biblical Studies, Kentucky Christian College
Bachelors of Science, John Brown University, Psychology
Masters in Organizational Management, University of Phoenix (Tulsa OK campus).
Question I actually had a few questions all of which are serious questions. My first question is more to do with opinion. Do most homosexuals care if a heterosexual uses the term "gay" to refer to something that is more or less weak in premise, or of an unmasculine nature? Also do most homosexual men enjoy anal sex? I've been put under the impression that most gay guys don't even like anal sex, but society kind of likes to make jokes about that being their main sexual outlet. And lastly I myself am heterosexual. I was a psychology major and have learned that there is very compelling evidence to suggest that homosexuality is either a choice or biological. Do most homosexuals consider it strictly biological? I've learned of identical twin research in which one twin was hetero and the other was gay. That leads me to believe that it is more so a choice, but perhaps more an adaptive choice made at a very young age that changes most other facets of ones life? What do you think? And for the record I support gay marriage either way because I think everyone should be happy.
Answer Hi James
Since you have so many questions, I will answer them in order, with each numbered so as to keep things clear.
1) If you're talking about calling a gay person "gay", then no, I think that is the preferred term for most (as opposed to the more clinical or politically-charged "homosexual"). But if you're talking about the annoying and ubiquitous "That's so gay", then yes, it's something that most of us find annoying at least and offensive at worst.
2) I can't speak for "most" gay men, but those that I know generally do practice anal sex, though certainly not all.
3) I think the vast majority of gay people will tell you that it is simply a matter of who you are attracted to, and there's no choice in the matter. It is biological.
4) Interestingly enough, I am an identical twin myself. I think the only choice in the situation you're describing is that one twin chooses to deny his true sexual orientation for social expediency or to fulfill expectations. The twin who lives openly gay is the one who is being faithful to his true nature.
